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"Thanks to those that have messaged privately.. Most have been great.. the rest ... I'd keep taking your hrt... Jealousy is not a good thing on here " Cant believe you've had not so nice message on a serious subject like this. Some people on here are just beyond belief!! Hope it all works out for you x | |||
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"I don't have personal experience but my friend had a hysterectomy when she was 40. Took her I would say a year to feel 'right' again and her weight increased substantially during that time too. however she now feels & looks amazing thanks to WW diet and says she has no regrets about having it done. Good luck x" The weight is harder to shift, I won't deny it (I am the fattest I have ever been) but I am healthier than I have ever been before. I would say it was about 6 months for me before I felt healed. | |||
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"Thanks to those that have messaged privately.. Most have been great.. the rest ... I'd keep taking your hrt... Jealousy is not a good thing on here Cant believe you've had not so nice message on a serious subject like this. Some people on here are just beyond belief!! Hope it all works out for you x" Apparently all my veries equal why I need one lol... Funny as my gynae issues started before I even had sex... But mostly I've had lovely helpful ones. I'm going to try pushing.. it's just if I need a hysterectomy maybe that's my better option... But I remember my mum convalessing for months....and I am a full time mum and carer... Hence my reluctance.. Has anyone been sterilized by the keyhole method..? As my research suggests you dont need a general anesthetic for that | |||
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"Thanks.... I hate to ask but has any bigger ladies been successful as my weight is the 2nd reason they used.. but I feel it was maybe the big one and used my status to not make me feel as bad. Been told I need to be within s healthy bmi. " They will say that for all surgery involving a general. I was (and continue to be) overweight but was still given the surgery. My hysterectomy was keyhole. It took hours and I had two days in hospital. You will need help for 3 months but all being well you will have more energy after the op. | |||
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"Can't afford to go private or I would have. Thanks to those that have given me such advice.. really can't see how I could consider a hysterectomy now even if needed as I can't be helpless for that long... So need to push for the less intrusive option x" Sadly the NHS can't afford it too as they are struggling to sanction operations for people with terminal illnesses too. | |||
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"Thanks to those that have messaged privately.. Most have been great.. the rest ... I'd keep taking your hrt... Jealousy is not a good thing on here " Hope you get sorted and ignore the haters. Some people just need a hobby;well a different one x | |||
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"Thanks to those that have messaged privately.. Most have been great.. the rest ... I'd keep taking your hrt... Jealousy is not a good thing on here Cant believe you've had not so nice message on a serious subject like this. Some people on here are just beyond belief!! Hope it all works out for you x Apparently all my veries equal why I need one lol... Funny as my gynae issues started before I even had sex... But mostly I've had lovely helpful ones. I'm going to try pushing.. it's just if I need a hysterectomy maybe that's my better option... But I remember my mum convalessing for months....and I am a full time mum and carer... Hence my reluctance.. Has anyone been sterilized by the keyhole method..? As my research suggests you dont need a general anesthetic for that" Honey I am totally with you on this. I had a baby at 21, my 2nd child at 23. I was sterilised at 25 due to gynea problems. This was done keyhole through my naval & had no problems. However I then had to have hysterectomy at the age of 29 again due to gynea problems. Mine was done vaginally so no big scar across the belly & recovery was about 5 weeks. My sex life was fine after a few months, I had the cervix removed too. This does not affect the sensation or feelings I enjoy through sexual play. Push for what you want & at 40 why would you want more children when you already have 6. Good luck, happy to chat privately if you want to know more. Xx | |||
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"I want my doctor to refer me for sterilisation... I've been refered twice... Both times refused... Apparently I dont fit the criteria.. however I have been told that I can't have hormonal contraceptives for Much longer... And I can't have a coil... So can't see why they won't consider me.. Te refusal reasons have been that I'm single and may meet a new partner and want kids.. And my weight.. I am nearly 40 now and with 6 kids you would think it would be easy... Is it just a case of wait till I'm older or do I need to keep pushing... Also as I have suffered with some huge gynae issues maybe a hysterectomy instead?I know it's major surgery and I worry I may not feel a complete woman but could anyone tell me how sex after it was.. I've read some horror stories... And worry if I opt for that it could kill my sex drive.. Thank you and sorry for those that hate posts like this. " I was sterilised three weeks after my 31st birthday and I weighed 130kg. My doctor didn't try and talk me out of it probably because the operation was being done at the same time as my cesarean: my third in four years. They did ask me if I was sure when they wheeled me in as I'd to daughters, my son had died and I was expecting another girl. Didn't affect my sex life, liberating knowing my husband couldn't knock me up any more, although it bothered him...could be because I didn't tell him I was going to be sterilised. | |||
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"Thanks.... I hate to ask but has any bigger ladies been successful as my weight is the 2nd reason they used.. but I feel it was maybe the big one and used my status to not make me feel as bad. Been told I need to be within s healthy bmi. " They say that. Funny, couple years ago I wanted a hysterectomy but was told I needed to lose five stones first to make it safe: fine. In the next breath I was offered a gastric bypass. I asked if there was a special anaesthetic mix used in bariatric surgery. She said no. The consultant wasn't impressed when I asked for the anaesthetist who would carry out the bypass to administer while I undergo the hysterectomy. Seemed a reasonable request to me! | |||
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"Thanks to those that have messaged privately.. Most have been great.. the rest ... I'd keep taking your hrt... Jealousy is not a good thing on here Cant believe you've had not so nice message on a serious subject like this. Some people on here are just beyond belief!! Hope it all works out for you x Apparently all my veries equal why I need one lol... Funny as my gynae issues started before I even had sex... But mostly I've had lovely helpful ones. I'm going to try pushing.. it's just if I need a hysterectomy maybe that's my better option... But I remember my mum convalessing for months....and I am a full time mum and carer... Hence my reluctance.. Has anyone been sterilized by the keyhole method..? As my research suggests you dont need a general anesthetic for that" I got sterilised keyhole method and they do give you general anaesthetic but in and iut the same day. I was 31 when I had mine done and only 2 kids and single. I don't get why they won't let you so keep pushing for it. I did however have some miscarriages and I didn't want to go through that trauma again. Both to my body and emotionally. I was insistant and very adamant to the surgeon that I knew what I was doing. Maybe say you are willing to do a psychological assessment first as that is what I did | |||
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"How about tubal ligation (having your tubes tied)? I had that done when I was 38, and never looked back. It was done by keyhole, it left a tiny scar, under full anaesthetic, and I went home the next day. Just a bit sore for a few days - that was all. No other untoward symptoms or after effects. " They don't do that anymore they just clamp the tubes now. | |||
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"I think at nearly 40 and with 6 children its an appalling reason not to sterilise you because you're single and may meet someone else Its so simple for a man to get a vasectomy! " it isnt you know. our id had to wait until he was 30 and had got 2 kids before they would let him. he had been asking since he was 18 to have one because he just never wanted kids | |||
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"Thanks.... I hate to ask but has any bigger ladies been successful as my weight is the 2nd reason they used.. but I feel it was maybe the big one and used my status to not make me feel as bad. Been told I need to be within s healthy bmi. They say that. Funny, couple years ago I wanted a hysterectomy but was told I needed to lose five stones first to make it safe: fine. In the next breath I was offered a gastric bypass. I asked if there was a special anaesthetic mix used in bariatric surgery. She said no. The consultant wasn't impressed when I asked for the anaesthetist who would carry out the bypass to administer while I undergo the hysterectomy. Seemed a reasonable request to me! " Very good point!!!!!! | |||
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