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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A guy I met in Real Life a year ago wants to meet up again. I've put a cakey 2 stone on since the last time I saw him.

Should I tell him? Or should I just meet him and watch his face go

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Meet him. Let him have his cake and eat it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I don't tell Real Life people that I have gained weight, I only do that with meets on here. Just meet if you want to meet him and enjoy yourself.

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

If you've met before, it's your fabulous personality he wants to meet again, as well as your gorgeous self! Don't say a word, but definitely meet him!

Updates please

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell him

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

"

Not noticing your new hair-do is world away from not noticing 2 stone in weight gain.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

Not noticing your new hair-do is world away from not noticing 2 stone in weight gain. "
but its a year since he saw her so might think he just imagined her smaller

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you've met before, it's your fabulous personality he wants to meet again, as well as your gorgeous self! Don't say a word, but definitely meet him!

Updates please "

Aww bless you!

He only wants to meet up because he's having no luck elsewhere. Haven't heard from him since last spring.

It amuses me greatly that he thinks I'd be up for it. Might wear my ugliest cardi and invite him round.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You are you and your personality is a far bigger selling point than anything else. Meet him and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

Not noticing your new hair-do is world away from not noticing 2 stone in weight gain. but its a year since he saw her so might think he just imagined her smaller

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I like your thinking.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

Not noticing your new hair-do is world away from not noticing 2 stone in weight gain. but its a year since he saw her so might think he just imagined her smaller

"

That is funny. I always get asked if I have lost weight (by men and women) as people remember me fatter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might have lost all his hair and gained weight too, so what ! Meet him you might have a right giggle talking about how you have both changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you've met before, it's your fabulous personality he wants to meet again, as well as your gorgeous self! Don't say a word, but definitely meet him!

Updates please

Aww bless you!

He only wants to meet up because he's having no luck elsewhere. Haven't heard from him since last spring.

It amuses me greatly that he thinks I'd be up for it. Might wear my ugliest cardi and invite him round. "

Cracks me up when they crawl out from the woodwork again... I never keep an ex's number when it's done but never ceases to amaze me the random texts I get 6 months later. Move on, there's always better around the corner xx

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast


"If you've met before, it's your fabulous personality he wants to meet again, as well as your gorgeous self! Don't say a word, but definitely meet him!

Updates please

Aww bless you!

He only wants to meet up because he's having no luck elsewhere. Haven't heard from him since last spring.

It amuses me greatly that he thinks I'd be up for it. Might wear my ugliest cardi and invite him round. "

Haha! Don't do that! The last time I was deliberately disinterested and offish with a man, it was like a red rag to a bull - think he saw me as a challenge after that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I would say ........ you're still you just more curvy and you hope he likes it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it and have fun! If he is worth the effort of meeting he will be a decent enough bloke to be interested in u for being u!

Then sit on his face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never go backwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might not notice,guys don't notice things like women

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Bi guys do... well this one does. Ask my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say go for it. What have either of you got to lose? And good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blame the government and tell him it's inflation

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it. Do it. Do it.

...and tell us how it went.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be yourself and enjoy the time. A little bit of effort in appearance wouldn't go amiss. I'm sure that would be more noticeable than extra weight. I'd think most men would be more relaxed with a 'happy' woman .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go for it and have fun! If he is worth the effort of meeting he will be a decent enough bloke to be interested in u for being u!

Then sit on his face "

Lol yeah sit on his face and see if he realises the weight difference since last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy I met in Real Life a year ago wants to meet up again. I've put a cakey 2 stone on since the last time I saw him.

Should I tell him? Or should I just meet him and watch his face go

"

it is only two stone so it does not matter at all to me. But no harm in giving him a head up first then if he run off you know he not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If an old friend I hadn't seen in a while asked me to meet, I wouldn't tell them i was bigger, smaller, blonder etc. I don't need to explain anything to anyone.

Granted I wouldn't be meeting men for romance, but my _iew would be the same . If the person is interested they will ask for another date, if they don't well that's it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If an old friend I hadn't seen in a while asked me to meet, I wouldn't tell them i was bigger, smaller, blonder etc. I don't need to explain anything to anyone.

Granted I wouldn't be meeting men for romance, but my _iew would be the same . If the person is interested they will ask for another date, if they don't well that's it "

It's definitely not romance. Just a fumble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would forewarn him in advance about changes in appearance.

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Tell him that you've joined an amateur dramatics group and had to put weight on for a role you were playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts seem to be at odds with everyone else

This is for me personally.. I'd tell them. In fact I have a long distance friend I've just reconnected with who is full of the joys because he's lost weight and he looks amazing. I didn't send a pic back but explained I'd probably put his weight loss back on me !!

Dunno .. I think it saves the immediate look of "wow you've changed". If you've met before and he knows what you looked like then, isn't it better to say "hey I'm a bit ****%%}~~ " different now.

I'd personally feel nervous turning up looking different and not fore warning but that might just be me and my insecurities.

Either way OP good luck and I'm sure you'll have a blast x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

swap face pics and see if he says anything he may have changed too

good luck whatever you decide

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