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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

be honest.

do you message couples thinking it will be the female half responding, and then change when realise it isnt, or do you message the same way no matter who you discover is on the other end?

i message the same as i dont flirt ,so whoever gets messages, whether male or female, just gets the usual random bollocks lol, but i find that when guys, mainly, find out its H they stop flirting, or being suggestive, and even stop messaging lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There's one couple that message me and I never have a fucking clue which I'm speaking too. You know who you are lol

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I can usually tell by the style of writing whether it is a woman or a man "speaking" but I always address both and would expect, on our couple profile, to be addressed as both even though we take turns in answering mail off there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i write a message to a couple i try to word t to both of them,, however most of the time im lead by the avatar.. if its of the woman then generally think its the lady.

if im floating about in the forums and are familiar with the username i'll try and suss it out first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i message a couple then i address them both and i am neutral in my writing style i know it sounds to good and all that however its the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm hoping most of the single blokes that message us expect Donna to answer, if not all ill say is my are is going to be sore by what they put on the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just send a message the same I never assume anything and am alway respectful doesn't get me anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can usually tell by the style of writing whether it is a woman or a man "speaking"... "

How? The male says 'show me your tits' and the female says 'show me your shoes'?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I can usually tell by the style of writing whether it is a woman or a man "speaking"...

How? The male says 'show me your tits' and the female says 'show me your shoes'? "
Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I address both...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can usually tell by the style of writing whether it is a woman or a man "speaking"...

How? The male says 'show me your tits' and the female says 'show me your shoes'? Spot on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can usually tell by the style of writing whether it is a woman or a man "speaking"...

How? The male says 'show me your tits' and the female says 'show me your shoes'? "

which ones i have a good few pairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get annoyed when people assume they are messaging me (fem) especially when we get the usual want to fuck, great its etc as a first message! I normally reply to those messages as if I was him and swiftly find they have deleted the messages. Highly amusing when they don't cotton on and continue to try to be rude

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I never mail couples, only reply to them and mostly I know who it is. However, if I didn't know, I would treat it as both of them. I imaging it's pretty annoying when people assume they are automatically talking to the female.

Saying that, in some ways I can understand mistakes being made as a lot of couples just use the female in their avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's you most of the time H lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always address my first message to the couple. As I'm interested in meeting both of them then that's only right

Once I've had a reply then I'll respond depending on who replied to me, M, F or MF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never mail couples, only reply to them and mostly I know who it is. However, if I didn't know, I would treat it as both of them. I imaging it's pretty annoying when people assume they are automatically talking to the female.

Saying that, in some ways I can understand mistakes being made as a lot of couples just use the female in their avatar. "

It's not just the avatar but the whole photo album

However do you find that of the couples who use the forum it's mainly the female half ? Or a 50:50 split and so on ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I address them as a couple. saves an arguement Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know it's you most of the time H lol x"

yeah, cuz she hasnt a sense of humour lol, joking.

a lot of people do realise its me chatting and messaging, not because im rude or anything, i just dont respond to their flirtatious advances lol

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"I never mail couples, only reply to them and mostly I know who it is. However, if I didn't know, I would treat it as both of them. I imaging it's pretty annoying when people assume they are automatically talking to the female.

Saying that, in some ways I can understand mistakes being made as a lot of couples just use the female in their avatar.

It's not just the avatar but the whole photo album

However do you find that of the couples who use the forum it's mainly the female half ? Or a 50:50 split and so on ... "

Out of the ones I know in the forum it's mainly female, but I know very few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages relating to the forums are normally aimed at me ( Lucy ) but that's because 95% of you know that it's me that's posting...

Messages non forum related are addressed to us both,

I'm not sure if I am guilty of aiming my messages to the female or the male!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I try to message to include both, and I don't change my style if it's the guy. I usually know from regulars who I'm likely to chat to but try to include the other half too on occasion. I imagine my messages get read by both anyway.

I flirt with both on occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We address both. We always assume they are both reading and replying together. We always sign mail from both of us unless it was a specific question to one of us.

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