FabSwingers.com forum: Chances: How Many Are You Willing To Give

By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

I am sure we've all gone through time's, where we have given a chance to someone, only for it to be thrown back in our faces.

So, how many chances do you give to people, depending on the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes way too many

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I gave someone a chance he was just using me so I will be wary from now on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the circumstances but normally 2

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

2 chances....I use the Goldfinger aphorism...'once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times is enemy action'....unless it's my fuckbuddy and she can have about 378 chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 strikes and you're out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave someone way too many and I'm the one who got hurt the most in the end. Onwards and upwards though. Lesson learnt and confidence to be built again

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

2 at most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2..First they get a chance to admit i was right then the second i give them 45 seconds head start before i set my Dogs on them

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

none . x X X

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

On here - one.

In real life - it depends on the person and situation. If it were a serious matter maybe more than one - if they were lucky and I was feeling well-disposed.

If I was seriously pissed off by someone - no chance at all!

I may give the benefit of the doubt once or twice but beyond that there would have to be some extremely extenuating circumstances.

My attitude is that if you need to apologise to me more than once for something then you don't really mean it, as, if you did, you would not have repeated it. And I hate platitudes - if you apologise - mean it or don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 at most x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 strikes and you're out!"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends, largely on the intention behind someones errors. If they cant be bothered, then neither can I with them, so possibly just one chance. Serious wrongs the same usually. Minor things, a couple of times. Fab, it is usually one chance too. Too many pricks and thoughtless people out there, but also lots of golden spirits who deserve my time.

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

We went to a pub to meet a couple sat there over an hour no show one or two couples were in the pub and a few fellas we sat checked our phone again no calls no txts .so we drank up and left the pub we hadnt got a mile when the phone went. This guy part of a couple had been sat on a bar stool for over an hour never said a word to us in the pub. Said his wife was running late would we come back to the pub ..... That was there one and only chance and he or they blew it xxxx ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure we've all gone through time's, where we have given a chance to someone, only for it to be thrown back in our faces.

So, how many chances do you give to people, depending on the circumstances."

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends get two chances cos we can all slip up

Paul has had hundreds and I have hundreds too lol

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

sometimes I'm sure I give way too many chances.. on the flip side, its good to see how much rope some people need to hang themselves

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

On here usually one.

Otherwise usually two.

There are exceptions though and a few cases in which I've given far more chances than I should have.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I am sure we've all gone through time's, where we have given a chance to someone, only for it to be thrown back in our faces.

So, how many chances do you give to people, depending on the circumstances.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins."

You're going to wear out the copy and paste options on your computer/'phone/internet device.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two.

I'm not perfect myself so there just might be an occasion when I would like to be given a second chance. But I'd never expect a third one.. ..nor will I offer one....no matter what the circumstances.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

As many as it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 strikes and you're out!"

Use the same rule myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure we've all gone through time's, where we have given a chance to someone, only for it to be thrown back in our faces.

So, how many chances do you give to people, depending on the circumstances.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins.

You're going to wear out the copy and paste options on your computer/'phone/internet device.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It depends. I don't have a fixed rule about this but people know when they have had their last chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than they deserve usually. I'm giving someone another chance tomorrow. I have said it's his last chance but I know if he messes me around I will give him another and another

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"More than they deserve usually. I'm giving someone another chance tomorrow. I have said it's his last chance but I know if he messes me around I will give him another and another "

Why would he change his behaviour if you reward him for bad behaviour? If he knows it's not his last chance he has no incentive to stick to the plan.

If I got to the point of telling someone that it was their last chance then it's their last chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person.

Some only get one while others will get a thousand.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hold on! Hold on! Hold on!

Can I have this put in context pls.

Are we talking meets from here or actual friends that are valued and worth supporting ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Depends on the person.

Some only get one while others will get a thousand.

I haven't got time for a thousand. Can I do mine all in one week pls ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hold on! Hold on! Hold on!

Can I have this put in context pls.

Are we talking meets from here or actual friends that are valued and worth supporting ?"

I think some are reading it as just here. My answer applies to people here, friends and family. It depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 and that's it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends. I don't have a fixed rule about this but people know when they have had their last chance.

this

but to be fair I'm normally the one that needs to be given a chance, not the other way round!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"2 at most."

Can I use 1 of them then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often nine, sometimes one, exceptionally two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops meant often NONE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"none . x X X"

here here. NONE!

Once a cheater always.....the beaver never changes its fur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children there is no limit anyone else 3 and that's the limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the person.

Some only get one while others will get a thousand.

I haven't got time for a thousand. Can I do mine all in one week pls ?"

You are already on your last one...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hold on! Hold on! Hold on!

Can I have this put in context pls.

Are we talking meets from here or actual friends that are valued and worth supporting ?"

I thought it meant meets off here....outside of fab, I don't have a rule, just go with the flow. One friend let's me down almost always by always ALWAYS being late so now I simply make the time to meet 2 hours before I ever intended so I also turn up 'late' too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending what's been done, I can be soft.

Genuine piss takers trying to pull one over me, have to do one, zero tolorance

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances normally 2 unless they suddenly show a verification for the night they have let us down . If they think we going to be 2nd choice in case they get a better offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave far to many but you live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance. I expect the same even though I will try for more I will fully respect not being given any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to work from the principal.... "how many chances would I like the person to give me"

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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

"My children there is no limit anyone else 3 and that's the limit

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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

"I tend to work from the principal.... "how many chances would I like the person to give me""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than they deserve usually. I'm giving someone another chance tomorrow. I have said it's his last chance but I know if he messes me around I will give him another and another

Why would he change his behaviour if you reward him for bad behaviour? If he knows it's not his last chance he has no incentive to stick to the plan.

If I got to the point of telling someone that it was their last chance then it's their last chance.

I didn't tell him it was his last chance. We've met lots of times. His problem is letting me know if he isn't free when he has asked to see me. I'm patient and understanding and he was my first lover after my husband so he has a special place in my heart. He made me feel good about myself

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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

"More than they deserve usually. I'm giving someone another chance tomorrow. I have said it's his last chance but I know if he messes me around I will give him another and another

Why would he change his behaviour if you reward him for bad behaviour? If he knows it's not his last chance he has no incentive to stick to the plan.

If I got to the point of telling someone that it was their last chance then it's their last chance.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I am sure we've all gone through time's, where we have given a chance to someone, only for it to be thrown back in our faces.

So, how many chances do you give to people, depending on the circumstances."
Depends on the circumstances and how believeable and genuine the context is. I am quite forgiving, possibly too forgiving but I am not a mug, when I do I CHOOSE to forgive if this makes sense.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"3 strikes and you're out!

absolutely

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Strangers get 1 do over.

People in my life get the bonus extra.

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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

"Strangers get 1 do over.

People in my life get the bonus extra."

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

as many as it takes shit happens .

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