FabSwingers.com forum: How come being young as a disadvantage when wanting to meet women

By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I just think it's the difference in age gap that makes people unsure. Because they think of immaturity and cockiness, any ideas to better betray myself to other people on here thanks.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

It's been said before that anyone of around 37 or over could have a child your age and they wouldn't want to play with people their kids age. The same way I wouldn't want to play with anyone my parents age for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's been said before that anyone of around 37 or over could have a child your age and they wouldn't want to play with people their kids age. The same way I wouldn't want to play with anyone my parents age for example. "

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks but I think that in some cases they want a man not a boy even though I'm nearly 20 and the fact some women have such high standards that many people can't live up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot will depend on how mature the guy is. In my opinion in some cases age really does make a difference in terms of experience (not just sexual) and attitude.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I just think it's the difference in age gap that makes people unsure. Because they think of immaturity and cockiness, any ideas to better betray myself to other people on here thanks.

some people dont fancy playing with people young enough to be their sons or daughers... just as others wouldn't fancy playing with people old enough to be mum or dad....

and people always find a way to complain about the things that exclude them..

you could have replace the word "young" in the thread title with any of the following...

"old"

"black"

"white"

"asian"

"bi"

"straight"

"tall"

"short"

"married"....

and a million other words... and the answer will be exactly the same...

Preference.......

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Some will see a young age as lack of experience and whilst some people like this, others dont want to be teachers - I am not saying you are in experienced, it just what a young age can be perceived as.

Also, with a young age, a lot of people will asking themselves why you arent out each weekend 'on the pull' rather than frequenting a swinging site? What is it you are looking for, that you cant get through a normal social life?

Perhaps make this clear on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've spoken about this and gilly she would never fuck a fella of your age mainly because she has a son older than you and it would not feel right

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I totally agree but with what you've just read would you say I was mature without a meet

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

The reason I don't go "on the pull" is I hate that sort of lifestyle and that I don't drink I don't find it appealing to go out and shagged anything that moves like to build a common ground on what we both like if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have you assumed that age is the limiting factor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet older men, a man in his early 20's recently chased for a meet only to go awol and not contact me to make plans.

It just confirmed that it's best to stick to men with experience who aren't as likely to chicken out or just enjoy the thrill of the chase.

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Cause it's guys like that, that ruin it for us genuine younger lads who want to meet get some swinging experience but can't get the opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet older men, a man in his early 20's recently chased for a meet only to go awol and not contact me to make plans.

It just confirmed that it's best to stick to men with experience who aren't as likely to chicken out or just enjoy the thrill of the chase."

How do you know it was because of his age that he did this? It's a bit like saying I met a black guy with a big cock so they all have one....and we all know how that debate ends up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cause it's guys like that, that ruin it for us genuine younger lads who want to meet get some swinging experience but can't get the opportunity "

No they don't. Most of us take each guy as individuals. The only person that can ruin it for you is you.

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I just think that most in my area it is that but could be wrong hopefully I am.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Cause it's guys like that, that ruin it for us genuine younger lads who want to meet get some swinging experience but can't get the opportunity "

thats a kop out..... sorry, but it is!

others ruin it for me, I am blameless, its all those nasty pastys fault!!!

you dictate your own fortune... the site gives you the tools to make it work... get out to clubs, socials, and SHOW you are different to everyone else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet older men, a man in his early 20's recently chased for a meet only to go awol and not contact me to make plans.

It just confirmed that it's best to stick to men with experience who aren't as likely to chicken out or just enjoy the thrill of the chase.

How do you know it was because of his age that he did this? It's a bit like saying I met a black guy with a big cock so they all have one....and we all know how that debate ends up"

Because while vanilla dating the same thing happened a few times and another bad experience, not that I have to justify or go into detail with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

age is only a concern with meeting women that arent interested in younger men.

there are plenty on here, and in the real world, that would like to meet a lad your age, but there are plenty more that arent interested.

you say you dont like going out on the pull, well im sorry, but this is just the same as that.

what makes you think that going out and meeting people in a pub/club is any different to on here?

you can still take as long as you like until taking them to bed. no one forces you to shag your way around your local area.

you asked if someone would think you mature without knowing you, then on this and this only, i would say no, you are still rather immature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im 30 (male) and had a fantasy of being with an older woman for a long time. since joining on here few years ago,have still had no luck cos of my age and i look young. but tbh id rather look young than an old fart from 25+ lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet older men, a man in his early 20's recently chased for a meet only to go awol and not contact me to make plans.

It just confirmed that it's best to stick to men with experience who aren't as likely to chicken out or just enjoy the thrill of the chase.

How do you know it was because of his age that he did this? It's a bit like saying I met a black guy with a big cock so they all have one....and we all know how that debate ends up

Because while vanilla dating the same thing happened a few times and another bad experience, not that I have to justify or go into detail with you."

I wasn't asking you to go into detail or justify anything, just how you knew it was age related!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I avoid anyone that states "Looks not important" on profile....

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

you could have replace the word "young" in the thread title with any of the following...

"old"

"black"

"white"

"asian"

"bi"

"straight"

"tall"

"short"

"married"....

and a million other words... and the answer will be exactly the same...

Preference.......

Very wise words.

This is why I picture Fabio sat cross legged like a Master of Zen when he is logged in.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

Just going from what I've seen posted on here since I joined guys would love a younger lady.

I like younger guys but there's young and there's too young. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have met a few nice young men, but my last experience has put me off them.

because he wasnt what i thought he was, he was acting very immature so i have set my filters to block younger men.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

" this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

You may want to reconsider....

There is a huge social side to swinging, the sooner people realise that, the less they may complain about not getting any meets

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

nice cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks

You may want to reconsider....

There is a huge social side to swinging, the sooner people realise that, the less they may complain about not getting any meets

you may wana join POF or AFF

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Picture this .....

A group of adults meet. They are not allowed to tell each other details such as :- names, ages, school grades ffs , occupations etc...

It's a social with a sexual flavour if wanted...it's a free and easy adult night.

If you are what someone is looking for

( body, personality , demeanour , humour hygiene ) they'll make a play for you or accept your come ons.

If not... they won't.

Most younger swingers come across as inexperienced because ......duh duhhhh duhhhhhhhhh They ARE.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

And this is where your problem lies!!

A lot of social events occur on here, wether it be a social drink to see if you like someone. A big organised social at a pub or club, even birthday parties and the like. Swinging has a huge social scene. Granted not everyone does the social thing but there's not many that will put a meet request up and have someone knocking their door for a fuck ten minutes later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have met a few nice young men, but my last experience has put me off them.

because he wasnt what i thought he was, he was acting very immature so i have set my filters to block younger men.

thats fair enough b ut not everyone acts immature. which i think does put younger guys off meeting older woman. BUT as said before,alot of older guys love getting with younger girls. just not vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

Don't sweat it. Ageing is inevitable and good things come to those who wait

I've seen a fair few older ladies looking for toyboys and wotnot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wait until you get to the other end of the age range when people think over 55's shouldn't be having sex. I'm 61 horny as ever and still very active

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

I personally (Mr. P) wouldn't meet a woman that young. Whereas I can find younger women attractive I find it hard to think of them as sexy. Thirty is probably the age where I start thinking of them as sexy. Although we did turn down a meet from a thirty two year old as she did look particularly young.

Maybe having a teenage daughter has influenced my thinking, but there isn't a queue of young girls at my door so it really isn't that great a problem.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

Leonard, I'll tell you what I realise. I realise that you don't like pubs or clubs and use the reason of 'not drinking' to stay out of them.

I realise that pubs sell soft drinks. My Islamic pal drinks , I drink coffee or water SOMETIMES, another pal only EVER drinks soda ( cos she's always skint and drives )

We still socialise.... cos we CAN....we know how to boogy ( nearly laughed then )

I realise that you probably thought that women on here would leap at your baby bones and you wouldn't have to make any effort.. ( lessons are everywhere )

As Mickey Flannagan says.... Go in Cold..... ask them and if they are not into you you can always call them lesbians.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks but I think that in some cases they want a man not a boy even though I'm nearly 20 and the fact some women have such high standards that many people can't live up to "

Actually there are quite a few men on here who do meet up to my high standards!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Damn..... if they are NOT into you you can always call them lesbians.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

Maybe having a teenage daughter has influenced my thinking, but there isn't a queue of young girls at my door so it really isn't that great a problem. "

Oh come now! I can't believe the queue doesn't fair snake way on down the High St.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you ask if you can get a 'lucky bag' once you finish to take home, may be a barrier.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

the last half of this post isn't going to endear those people who may be inclined to help you... it is showing a fair amount of immaturity...

I dont drink alcohol when i am out (non-alcoholic cider and non alcoholic beer for me!) meeting people socially for a lot of people is part of the swinging process.......

it may not be for you... and that is fair enough, but if you are going to close of avenues to meeting people before they even open...

then maybe age isn't the reason you have issues... it is the reason you fixated on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

well, neither do i, but i still sit in pubs and chat to people we meet.

and i think this is where you expectations are a little awry.

we always meet for a social drink before doing anything with anyone.

if you think this is a jump straight into bed after a couple of messages, then you are wrong, and THAT my friend, would be just like the very thing you say you try to avoid in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

young women mature earlier than young men.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"if you ask if you can get a 'lucky bag' once you finish to take home, may be a barrier....."

What ! This 'lucky bag' might have sex with someone but NO way are they taking me home !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think it's the difference in age gap that makes people unsure. Because they think of immaturity and cockiness, any ideas to better betray myself to other people on here thanks.

some people dont fancy playing with people young enough to be their sons or daughers... just as others wouldn't fancy playing with people old enough to be mum or dad....

and people always find a way to complain about the things that exclude them..

you could have replace the word "young" in the thread title with any of the following...

"old"

"black"

"white"

"asian"

"bi"

"straight"

"tall"

"short"

"married"....

and a million other words... and the answer will be exactly the same...

Preference.......

"Brummie" (I'll get me cowt")

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

Maybe having a teenage daughter has influenced my thinking, but there isn't a queue of young girls at my door so it really isn't that great a problem. "

thats our problem,we do look young. but cant be helped,we are who we are. but as i say,id rather look young than old for my age lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bro, listen. I'm 23 and I know exactly how you feel. I've haas an account on this site for about three years and I've had one meet and three replies in that time. Don't beat yourself up over you're age because older women don't necessarily want to meet guys of our age, and don't be all "I'm a nice guy who wants to find a common ground" because honestly, it'll get you nowhere here man.

Just keep messaging women who you think would be interested. And be active on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because alot of the women have kids your age

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And don't forget....

NONE of you are ugly. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

I know that MrR wouldn't meet with a 21 year old girl, his daughter is that age, this is why we have a lower age limit on our profile (which is set in stone). Whilst we would maybe go a couple of years over our upper age limit that has a ceiling too as I wouldn't want to play with anyone closer to my dad's age than mine!

The best message we had was from a couple (M42/F26) who told us that age doesn't mean anything if the person is mature. When I pointed put that the fem was close to our children's age they replied saying that they'd get in touch in a couple of years! Didn't bother telling them that our age range will change each year!

S xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the age thing just put women off younger men, or would older guys turn their noses up at a virile young 21 old girl?

S xx"

maybe it is a parent thing, then, as V has said she wouldnt entertain doing anything that could be a friend of her kids, whereas i really dont care, as long a sits legal and they have agood attitude, dont come over as a brat, i dont see age as a barrier, personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe it is a parent thing, then, as V has said she wouldnt entertain doing anything that could be a friend of her kids, whereas i really dont care, as long a sits legal and they have agood attitude, dont come over as a brat, i dont see age as a barrier, personally."

I should think it is to be honest.

S xx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Young guys are really not for me, I did meet a few when I first started playing but I found that I was more comfortable with guys my own age, plus I have children age 22 and 18, I can`t do it I just can`t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

I don't drink but I still go to pubs and clubs both vanilla and swinging ones

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By *eonard21 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I appreciate what everyone's saying and for the advice but d*unk people and the whole thing doesn't entertain me that's one of the reasons I don't drink the issues people have once d*unk or tipsy puts me of them all together the problems it causes and the problem with people my age they wanna go from sober to leg less as quick as possible sorry if no one understands

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've been with enough younger men to know I prefer older men. It's that simple.

Besides, if my "standards" encompassed everyone, how on Earth would I decide who to meet?

I don't want to meet every person on the site for the sake of "fairness". And many of those people wouldn't want to meet me anyway. I don't consider that unreasonable.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I appreciate what everyone's saying and for the advice but d*unk people and the whole thing doesn't entertain me that's one of the reasons I don't drink the issues people have once d*unk or tipsy puts me of them all together the problems it causes and the problem with people my age they wanna go from sober to leg less as quick as possible sorry if no one understands "

You're questioning people's perception of young people but you're not willing to look at your own perception of clubs, even if it would help you get what you want?

Have you been to a swingers' club? They're not usually about getting d*unk.

It's up to you where you go and what you try, of course. However, if you aren't getting what you want here, complaining about it won't change anything but trying another approach might.

It's your call, just as who a person chooses to meet is theirs.

I'm pretty sure you wouldn't meet anyone who doesn't appeal to you for whatever reason, so you have to accept everyone else has the same right.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable fucking a guy closer to my daughters age than mine. Nor a guy old enough to be my dad.

Plus I think a lot of young guys on here don't fully understand the concept of what swinging really is. In fact I'm sure some of the older guys don't either.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Yes but you have to realise pubs and clubs are not for me as I stated I don't drink and this site is designed for meeting people not for social drinks "

Please point me to where it states on this site that it is for meeting people and not for anything social?

Besides, you've already said you prefer getting to know someone based on shared interests rather than shagging anyone and everyone. That requires some social interaction, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And its a rarity that successful guys on here, rarely post about not getting a meet. They make the effort and make friends re socials and get on with it .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable fucking a guy closer to my daughters age than mine. Nor a guy old enough to be my dad.

Plus I think a lot of young guys on here don't fully understand the concept of what swinging really is. In fact I'm sure some of the older guys don't either.

I'm not sure I understand what it really is either. I'm just here for uncomplicated, good sex and some entertaining interaction with other people.

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