FabSwingers.com forum: Self confidence.

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Do you have yours or have you lost it?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've got oodles.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Steadily getting mine back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It comes and goes...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I believe I have self confidence and am self aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines just done a runner

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By *ornieandhotCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Mines lacking a bit at mo

But giving myself a kick up the bum

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I've got oodles.

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Too much or just enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few months on fab soon sees it running away

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"A few months on fab soon sees it running away

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Yes but you work at Sidney uni

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None before Fab, in debt during ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have much since my split with my wife four years ago, but trying to work on it and learn to love and believe in myself again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines gone AWOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m always told I don't have enough but since joining fab I'm slowly getting more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mines gone AWOL

you look for mine and I'll look for yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very slowly

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By *eterpan6b1Couple
over a year ago

Hedon

never had any !!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few months on fab soon sees it running away

Yes but you work at Sidney uni

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only part time

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By *lay it CurvyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Taken a knock recently, hopefully getting it back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mines gone AWOL

you look for mine and I'll look for yours"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is, i think, just an illusion....the real thing did a runner and took my self esteem with ut...but the bastard left my self loathing behind to face the music.....grrrrrr (

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Mine comes and goes too.

It also depends on the environment and what sort of confidence you mean. I'm absolutely confident in some ways and much less so in others.

I'm more accepting of myself than I have been in the past. I know where I want to be though, and I am confident I can get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the outside....I'm confident enough to take on the world.....on the inside...no where near that

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

It's in my pocket boss!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

im fairly confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has gone. but maybe found someone to build it up again

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Mine has gone. but maybe found someone to build it up again "
Is it up to someone else though?

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

Since I've met P I have more self confidence than I've had in years but it's still up and down.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't lack confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fairly confident I think.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

buried deep and only appears in emergencies. x x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the situation .... I can be incredibly confident at times...... but I do have moments where I'm eaten up with insecurities.... like most people I imagine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine comes and goes, I hide behind a smile most of the time but then I can find mine at the oddest of moments x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the outside....I'm confident enough to take on the world.....on the inside...no where near that

Ditto!! This exactly!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I believe I have self confidence and am self aware

I think you're confident too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the outside....I'm confident enough to take on the world.....on the inside...no where near that

same here. I'm always being told I've got lots of confidence, but I'm like a swan..... graceful on the surface but underneath I'm paddling for my life

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I had loads till someone I met knocked it its coming back very slowly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence has varied in different settings. However in the last three months mine has become less variable and overall it has increased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got mine although someone tried to take it last week,they can get knotted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wise man taught me that confidence comes from within, not from others. For every one person who will build you up and make you feel good there is another who will knock you down.

You only have to read the threads on here recently to see how many people are adversely affected by other people's opinions of them.

To be confident you have to believe in and care about yourself. Confidence like being sexy is a state of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the outside....I'm confident enough to take on the world.....on the inside...no where near that

same here. I'm always being told I've got lots of confidence, but I'm like a swan..... graceful on the surface but underneath I'm paddling for my life

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

all intact thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A wise man taught me that confidence comes from within, not from others. For every one person who will build you up and make you feel good there is another who will knock you down.

You only have to read the threads on here recently to see how many people are adversely affected by other people's opinions of them.

To be confident you have to believe in and care about yourself. Confidence like being sexy is a state of mind.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Depend on the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine has gone. but maybe found someone to build it up again Is it up to someone else though? "

No.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've got too much

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I've got too much

You can rub some off on me at Xtasia

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Got it... And intend keeping it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got lots of it and intend on keeping it xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost mine a few years ago and still looking for it...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"A wise man taught me that confidence comes from within, not from others. For every one person who will build you up and make you feel good there is another who will knock you down.

You only have to read the threads on here recently to see how many people are adversely affected by other people's opinions of them.

To be confident you have to believe in and care about yourself. Confidence like being sexy is a state of mind.

agree 100% i was taught also, if somone makes you feel inferia, its because you allow them that power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone on here knock my confidence a couple of weeks ago so working on it

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"A wise man taught me that confidence comes from within, not from others. For every one person who will build you up and make you feel good there is another who will knock you down.

You only have to read the threads on here recently to see how many people are adversely affected by other people's opinions of them.

To be confident you have to believe in and care about yourself. Confidence like being sexy is a state of mind.

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well said

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

Your last photo is not unlikable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine comes and goes too.

It also depends on the environment and what sort of confidence you mean. I'm absolutely confident in some ways and much less so in others.

I'm more accepting of myself than I have been in the past. I know where I want to be though, and I am confident I can get there."

I agree with these sentiments. The context of the environment in question has much to do with my answer to this. In a couple of weeks time I will be performing in an AmDram production and am sufficiently confident about doing so. In other aspects of my life at the moment my confidence is subterranean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

Your last photo is not unlikable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

Your last photo is not unlikable

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:D I know, looks bigger than it is though! I don't just want a nice cock though, that doesn't pull the ladies!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

I've got plenty to go round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A wise man taught me that confidence comes from within, not from others. For every one person who will build you up and make you feel good there is another who will knock you down.

You only have to read the threads on here recently to see how many people are adversely affected by other people's opinions of them.

To be confident you have to believe in and care about yourself. Confidence like being sexy is a state of mind.

agree 100% i was taught also, if somone makes you feel inferia, its because you allow them that power

also very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

I've got plenty to go round

Don't see why ya have to post it when ya down the road either yer could just chuck it

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

I've got plenty to go round

Don't see why ya have to post it when ya down the road either yer could just chuck it

I'll see what I can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

I've got plenty to go round

Don't see why ya have to post it when ya down the road either yer could just chuck it

I'll see what I can do

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

My self-confidence chugs along nicely. When it's feeling poorly I can usually fake it until it feels better.

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By *ornieandhotCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

Your last photo is not unlikable

:D I know, looks bigger than it is though! I don't just want a nice cock though, that doesn't pull the ladies! "

Nice bum too

D x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I've got too much

Chuck some over ere then ducky, I have none

I'll post you some

Oi, I asked first!!!

I am not going to Xtasia

I've got plenty to go round

Don't see why ya have to post it when ya down the road either yer could just chuck it

Carrier pigeon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self confidence what's that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all intact thanks

but what about your self confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a wallflower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went at 12 and never came back.

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By *ornieandhotCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I'm a wallflower

Awe

D x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"all intact thanks

but what about your self confidence?

Oozes from every pore......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Inherently Shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had bags of confidence before my latest split and at the moment it's all gone. Sadly I let a man get to me this time. Won't be doing the emotion thing again in a hurry! I'll get my mojo back soon enough I hope..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

I think i have just enough, not to much to come across as arrogant and not to little to be a wallflower ..a balanced amount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm suppose I'm quietly confident. An ambivert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you mean. Do I like myself? Yes. Am I confident? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Do I have my head up my own arse? Heck no! I love to take the piss out of myself, doesn't mean I hate myself though. I just like to laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nah

find myself quite ugly and unlikable

Your last photo is not unlikable

:D I know, looks bigger than it is though! I don't just want a nice cock though, that doesn't pull the ladies!

Nice bum too

D x "

aww thanks, your a very sexy looking couple! she has a great figure! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all intact thanks

but what about your self confidence?

Oozes from every pore......

ohh...is that what it is.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the right amount

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

never had much,but im working on it....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Mines just done a runner"

hold my hand and we`ll look for it together

I have enough confidence to get by with

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

comes and goes......

overall thought, lot more confident than when i started

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

used to have it in abbundance when younger, got a bit cocky..

life as it does reigned that in..

now..?

yep, suppose so..

think as one gets to a certain age, depending on the individual one tends to think you know what fuck it, this is me..

some ladies when they do so tend to become more sexy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

I've got loads when I'm with Lee.without him it goes awol

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

I've got loads when I'm with Lee.without him it goes awol "
I don't consider that SELF confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends on what i am doing

public speaking presentations etc - no problem

swinging meet - i doubt myself all the time

dinner date - no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too confident for my own good at times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

Im getting better the older I get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident enough not let anyone talk me down. If they do that means they have a lack of confidence somewhere deep in them and they use that kind of attitude to compensate it or hide it. If someone try to pull your confidence down they have a problem not you. Everybody is special in some way and no one is superior to another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too confident for my own good at times!

confidence can be a attractive trait in a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do gaining more confidence if I'm honest :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive got lots of it and intend on keeping it xx

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I could do gaining more confidence if I'm honest :-/ "
I think in some areas most of us could.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've got just enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years I've gained self confidence. I'm fairly happy with my appearance & challenge myself by doing things that in the past would have worried me like presentations, public speaking & performing in productions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too confident for my own good at times!

confidence can be a attractive trait in a woman "

Confidence is attractive in anyone, male or female, IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too confident for my own good at times!

confidence can be a attractive trait in a woman

Confidence is attractive in anyone, male or female, IMHO.

very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am confident enough not let anyone talk me down. If they do that means they have a lack of confidence somewhere deep in them and they use that kind of attitude to compensate it or hide it. If someone try to pull your confidence down they have a problem not you. Everybody is special in some way and no one is superior to another. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have enough to get me to be where I want to be and to keep me there.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's good to keep a distinction between self confidence and self-esteem. Each can influence the other, but they're as separate as anything can be, in the world of wonders, our minds.

My confidence is good, and I appreciate feeling unsure sometimes, as it's good feedback. I like to push boundaries, including my own, and also to have a life of adventure, as it keeps me fresh, bright and dynamic rather than stuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have enough to be very comfortable with it and had it since about 15. I always wonder though with some who say they have it but when you chat its really lacking for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your self confidence is dependent on other people then it has very little to do with self.

If you're looking outside for it then you've already given up on having it inside.

The insecure who look to others for security, lose that 'security' when said others leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

Not got as much as I used to .. Hopefully it will return soon

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"If your self confidence is dependent on other people then it has very little to do with self.

If you're looking outside for it then you've already given up on having it inside.

The insecure who look to others for security, lose that 'security' when said others leave. "

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By *oundthebendMan
over a year ago

wales

I'm not as confident as what I should be but I also like it because sometimes to much confidence can come across as arrogance and No one likes arrogance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have loads but not so much these days. Think this site hasnt helped me as there are quite a few people on here that seam to take joy in bashing others confidence. Hopefully will get it back one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have loads but not so much these days. Think this site hasnt helped me as there are quite a few people on here that seam to take joy in bashing others confidence. Hopefully will get it back one day

Hear hear!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel exactly the same

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

Feel exactly the same"
me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your self confidence is dependent on other people then it has very little to do with self.

If you're looking outside for it then you've already given up on having it inside.

The insecure who look to others for security, lose that 'security' when said others leave. "

(thumb

This is so evident just from reading some of the posts on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in some ways im confident, some ways not, if im having a bad day, havnt got much at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"in some ways im confident, some ways not, if im having a bad day, havnt got much at all.

I think that goes for most people having a bad day can dent your confidence a lot. I am fairly confident but the OH has masses of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost all mine when a women i was dating took it away a year ago long story

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I lost it when the wife said she wanted to split. I am the over the marriage, but my confidence is shot.

Hence why I don't message people, I still can't cope with rejection, (non response is rejection in my eyes as well.)

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Do you have yours or have you lost it?

still have mine and always will have.

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over a year ago

I have been told I exude "supreme confidence"... Not sure I agree though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incredibly confident, but not cocky, I just know my mind x

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