FabSwingers.com forum: advice for a date!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi everyone, as well as been on here as a pass time I am also looking to date again. There is a vanilla lady I'm really getting on with, we are meeting this weekend for a date! we are yet to decide on the time, we will certainly mest for a few hour in the evening but we are thinking of making it all afternoon as we are getting on so well.

I don't want to mess up and would like to give her a good time, I haven't been on many dates before and I'd love ideas of things we can do please! it will be in the York area too if that helps.

thanks!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Bowling

Ghost walk

Cinema

Betty's tea room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bowling

Ghost walk

Cinema

Betty's tea room

Diamonds, you don't rate the Minster? We're gonna be going in April and heard its astonishing!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Bowling

Ghost walk

Cinema

Betty's tea room

Diamonds, you don't rate the Minster? We're gonna be going in April and heard its astonishing!

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I don't think it is worth the money to be honest.. But it looks nice from the outside

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

Just don't ask her if she has a bi friend that might wanna join you.......

Other than that have fun!! Dating is great fun, I was notching up 2/3 a week on pof, just be yourself, take her d somewhere fun and always keep the conversation going and ask her loads about herself,

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and the museum and jorvik centre, both good I prefer the museum

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By *stwo80Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"Bowling

Ghost walk

Cinema

Betty's tea room

Diamonds, you don't rate the Minster? We're gonna be going in April and heard its astonishing!

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. Its just a church, that you have to pay to look in !!!!

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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Betty's then a ghost walk. Hopefully she will get scared on it and cling on to you

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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Just a church? If size is important, don't forget to tell her that its the largest gothic cathedral in northern Europe. And don't forget that the walk round the walls is scenic and free.

I can also recommend Mannions on Blake Street for coffee or lunch. The grub is as good as Betty's but you don't usually have to wait as long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the York Dungeon and see if she is scared and grabs you tight and won't let go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

some really good idea here everyone thanks, looking forward to more. I was always unsure about museums in case it bores them, but glad others have mentioned it. I like the idea of doing something like a walk, museum dungeons etc as it breaks the ice and your not just looking at each other across a table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about i drive you about in my taxi all day and you can show her all the lovely sights

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How about i drive you about in my taxi all day and you can show her all the lovely sights

haha, wish I could afford a taxi :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about i drive you about in my taxi all day and you can show her all the lovely sights

haha, wish I could afford a taxi :p"

It would be free as long as i got to watch lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you do the jorvik Centre book in advance so you don't have to queue. You can even walk past and if there's a queue note the number off the door and call and book a timed ticket.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How about i drive you about in my taxi all day and you can show her all the lovely sights

haha, wish I could afford a taxi :p

It would be free as long as i got to watch lol

haha that would be fine, I'd love a meet in the back of a taxi if I stay single so could be arranged if we can find a lady ha.

however this is a date! and I may be off the market.... I hope anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you do the jorvik Centre book in advance so you don't have to queue. You can even walk past and if there's a queue note the number off the door and call and book a timed ticket. "

Great advice thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oooh also people, I am really liking this lady, I struggle in communication skills when I don't know them too well.

I'd like to keep her interested so she is really excited about Saturday, so any convo tips and suggestion of things to ask would be great!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

There's also the fudge place on petergate. They make it in front of you and most women like sweeties.

For food or drinks try the house of the trembling madness or the evil eye lounge both on stonegate. If you go to the evil eye try to get one of the big bed/sofas upstairs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's also the fudge place on petergate. They make it in front of you and most women like sweeties.

For food or drinks try the house of the trembling madness or the evil eye lounge both on stonegate. If you go to the evil eye try to get one of the big bed/sofas upstairs. "

Thanks, never been to them they look great though! I didn't know they did food! Do you think a lady would be fine with the bed sofa things? She wouldn't feel too close or anything? Do they do food upstairs too, or are they to lounge after/before eating?

I am hopeless at dating ha! Only been on a few, then was in a relationship for 6yr and have spent a few alone since

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"There's also the fudge place on petergate. They make it in front of you and most women like sweeties.

For food or drinks try the house of the trembling madness or the evil eye lounge both on stonegate. If you go to the evil eye try to get one of the big bed/sofas upstairs.

I am hopeless at dating ha! Only been on a few, then was in a relationship for 6yr and have spent a few alone since"

You don't have to sit on her lap you know! And if it's going well you should be able to judge if it would suit her. It's a bit shabby but the food and the cocktails are good. The service might be a bit slow upstairs though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's also the fudge place on petergate. They make it in front of you and most women like sweeties.

For food or drinks try the house of the trembling madness or the evil eye lounge both on stonegate. If you go to the evil eye try to get one of the big bed/sofas upstairs.

I am hopeless at dating ha! Only been on a few, then was in a relationship for 6yr and have spent a few alone since

I know, we talking now and she was telling me she'd like kisses ha! So we'll be fine

Would you say house of the trembling madness was better then?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

why dont you ask her what she would like to do .. if you listen . be interested in her and enjoy her company whatever you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her condoms and say am always thinking of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity as she is vanilla will you tell her about fab and continue with it if not its not good for any relationships starting off with deceit.

Am in now way criticising or judging far from it but i may be old school honest and openess is crucial.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The York Chocolate Story is good. You can share a chocolate fondue in the cafe before you go on the tour and see how chocolate is made/make your own. Ladies love choc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The York Chocolate Story is good. You can share a chocolate fondue in the cafe before you go on the tour and see how chocolate is made/make your own. Ladies love choc

Great idea!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity as she is vanilla will you tell her about fab and continue with it if not its not good for any relationships starting off with deceit.

Am in now way criticising or judging far from it but i may be old school honest and openess is crucial."

If we progress into a relationship I will no longer be on here, I am very respectful and never cheat. I am old fashioned too. When we talk about our sexual history I will be honest and sa I have tried this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming she isn't actually from York or she will already have done these but here goes:

A walk around the walls is good.

The Shambles.

Loads of great pubs.

Betty's but you might have to queue.

Walk down the river but might be a bit muddy this time of year.

Sightseeing bus.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Would you say house of the trembling madness was better then?"

Evil Eye is better. The food and beer at Trembling Madness is eyewateringly expensive.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Your confidence has grown over the years Dan and that is good to see.

Enjoy your date.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you say house of the trembling madness was better then?

Evil Eye is better. The food and beer at Trembling Madness is eyewateringly expensive."

ahhh thanks! Evil eye it is!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your confidence has grown over the years Dan and that is good to see.

Enjoy your date.

Thanks, how do you know this though? I am curious.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Your confidence has grown over the years Dan and that is good to see.

Enjoy your date.

Thanks, how do you know this though? I am curious."

I remember you first posting about confidence issues, your body and sexuality.

You post with more confidence and it is great you potentially have met someone.

That is fantastic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your confidence has grown over the years Dan and that is good to see.

Enjoy your date.

Thanks, how do you know this though? I am curious.

I remember you first posting about confidence issues, your body and sexuality.

You post with more confidence and it is great you potentially have met someone.

That is fantastic

Thanks, I have grown a lot which is great. I still have some issues, but certain trauma's at an early age affect you a lot. There is still some things that are very hard for me, I do struggle to understand social situations, their true feelings and motives. sometimes kinda feels like I'm underwater trying t listen as strange as it's sounds, this is what I am battling with to try change, I just don't no how.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her what she may like to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask her what she may like to do?

she hinted at me showing her around York, and she said she'll show me around where she lives next

.... I've just thought there that implies it will be more tha n the one date

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm getting excited but very nervous too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

why not hide it until you've had a few dates instead of deleting after just one?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week "

glad it went well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why not hide it until you've had a few dates instead of deleting after just one?"

we will be having more by the end of the week, so I was waiting for a bit. But yeah, I'd hide it first go plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week "

Nice one

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week "

glad it went well..

I would hide the profile, don't be too hasty.

good luck though to many more great dates with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week "

glad it went well for you and hope it works out x

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Get buying those hats people!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf???

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf??? "
over seven years, jay still hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why don't you ask him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My date went great today, we were together 3-9

we kissed a few times too and we're meeting again tomorrow :D

I'm no longer available to meet on here, and the profile will soon be disappearing over the next week "

How exciting...so pleased for you both xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a box of milk tray and sit smiling

Nette

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf??? "

When she changes her Facebook profile to "in a relationship"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

why don't you ask him"
I just rang him up and made him ask me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why don't you ask himI just rang him up and made him ask me

go you! :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf??? "

Firstly, I am delighted to hear that you had such a lovely time and I hope today is equally wonderful! The only advice I would offer, is take your time and enjoy the courtship. I know thats an old fashioned word nowadays but I am an old fashioned girl and believe in romance. I think the time to enter an 'exclusive relationship' will be when you both feel ready. It should be natural, not forced or pressured. You will both know when it feels right. There is no right or wrong time....good luck!!! And keep us posted on your lovely new romance!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf??? "

When you're happy to start a couples profile on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf???

When you're happy to start a couples profile on here."

she's a vanilla sadly.... maybe I can slowly introduce her to the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why don't you ask himI just rang him up and made him ask me

I assume the smiley faces mean yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf??? "

Take it slowly but I'm glad things are going well. I like a happy ending

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

why don't you ask himI just rang him up and made him ask me

I assume the smiley faces mean yes!

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lol after seven years together hope so.,did say I wanted a fuck of diamond ring now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why don't you ask himI just rang him up and made him ask me

I assume the smiley faces mean yes!

lol after seven years together hope so.,did say I wanted a fuck of diamond ring now

Ha ha nice one! Another happy ending

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we have been talking for some time, the date yesterday went great and lasted 6 hours

we are meeting again today, I think it will go great. I was wondering, if today goes well too, when is it acceptable to asks if they want to be officially bf and gf???

Take it slowly but I'm glad things are going well. I like a happy ending

aww thanks, she is different to most I have dated a long while ago. she is genuine and intelligent, very career driven etc like me which I really like about her, she is making the effort too in the past I've had to make all arrangements etc I did yesterday, but today she has said she will sort everything

I think she is pretty, but most of all her personality really attracts me

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Can I be nosey and ask which activities you decided on doing yesterday?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you can, in the end we decided to make it up as we go along, however I had many suggested options in my head already

we ended up going for a coffee first, then we moved on and went to a quiet pub for a drink, we got on great had a good laugh. next thing we knew the hours had flown by! after I asked if she needs to get back or shall I take her somewhere else, she wanted somewhere else... so I took her to evil eye

and got cocktails she was amazed at the skill they had making them and was impressed.... Oo and she offered to pay for this round! and wouldn't let me, another first for me when dating someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take her to the Star in the City it's supposed to be very good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well we was having a good time and I asked how would you feel if I called you my gf, she said she would like that, so I told her I would call her my gf from now on

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