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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd always been friendly with a (female) work mate, and earlier today when I was taking a phone call, she walked passed me and stroked my face as she did so. I didn't take this as a romantic gesture as she's married with children, but it got me wondering about what that sort of non-sexual physical contact means, at least to a woman?

Do you have to find someone physically attractive in order to initiate it? Is it just a simple gesture of friendliness (like adjusting someone's tie), is it a sign of trust, is it less acceptable for a man to put his hands on a woman in such fashion, and how come you almost never see guys doing the same to one another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did u have something on your cheek ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did u have something on your cheek ? "

Only stubble

And as far as I'm aware the hand dryers in the ladies were working perfectly well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound like trouble to me... Thats not normal.office behaviour...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people know what the boundaries are, sounds like she's deliberately pushing them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

For that not to be sexual there would have to be a LOT of affection there, a touch to the face is pretty intimate IMO. I have good friends I dance with a lot, and go blues dancing with, which is very close and sensuous. We are very comfortable touching in all kinds of ways - but would rarely if ever touch the face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For that not to be sexual there would have to be a LOT of affection there, a touch to the face is pretty intimate IMO. I have good friends I dance with a lot, and go blues dancing with, which is very close and sensuous. We are very comfortable touching in all kinds of ways - but would rarely if ever touch the face."

Still sounds very individual though, I mean you get plenty of couples on here saying they're pretty liberal when it comes to sex on their meets, but consider kissing out of bounds.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"For that not to be sexual there would have to be a LOT of affection there, a touch to the face is pretty intimate IMO. I have good friends I dance with a lot, and go blues dancing with, which is very close and sensuous. We are very comfortable touching in all kinds of ways - but would rarely if ever touch the face.

Still sounds very individual though, I mean you get plenty of couples on here saying they're pretty liberal when it comes to sex on their meets, but consider kissing out of bounds."

But that is an entirely different scenario anyway! Face touching is way up the 'scale of intimacy' in normal body language eg 8/10 or 12 in most cases, and after hand to hand, hand to shoulder, hand to waist touching, normally reserved for lovers, family, or girls best friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to put touching if face as affection though not hitting on someone unless its done while kissing

Ive had a few people touch my check of stroke my head and its had nothing to do with sex at all

If even done it to brush dirt off my a friends cheek. context means a lot. And girls tend to touch more in a non sexual way than guys do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive had a few people touch my check of stroke my head and its had nothing to do with sex at all

If even done it to brush dirt off my a friends cheek. context means a lot. And girls tend to touch more in a non sexual way than guys do"

Thankyou Kitty, that's pretty much the impression I had at the time, I didn't see it as a sexual gesture, just a sweeter version of 'I like you' x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I think if it was sexual you would of known, I think you can tell the difference to someone being affectionate to someone touching you in an overtly sexual way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few people touch my check of stroke my head and its had nothing to do with sex at all

If even done it to brush dirt off my a friends cheek. context means a lot. And girls tend to touch more in a non sexual way than guys do

Thankyou Kitty, that's pretty much the impression I had at the time, I didn't see it as a sexual gesture, just a sweeter version of 'I like you' x"

We can always experiment and try out different touches all in the name of science and see which ones you find sexual x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound like trouble to me... Thats not normal.office behaviour..."

Definitely trouble. Steer well clear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy tried to mug me a couple of years ago. He ran up behind me and hit me with a brick, I managed to stay on my feet but it didn't deter him demanding my wallet, watch and phone. I touched his face a couple of times. I don't think he saw it as an intimate act....

The lesson there potential Muggers is don't use a brick. Finding the right balance between just pissing someone off or killing them is quite difficult.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"I'd always been friendly with a (female) work mate, and earlier today when I was taking a phone call, she walked passed me and stroked my face as she did so. I didn't take this as a romantic gesture as she's married with children, but it got me wondering about what that sort of non-sexual physical contact means, at least to a woman?

Do you have to find someone physically attractive in order to initiate it? Is it just a simple gesture of friendliness (like adjusting someone's tie), is it a sign of trust, is it less acceptable for a man to put his hands on a woman in such fashion, and how come you almost never see guys doing the same to one another?"

Is she older than you? It could be a sign of affection that a woman can feel for a younger man which is almost maternal. There are only 3 men in my life whose faces I would touch, my Dad, my boyfriend and my best friend.

If I was flirting with someone I would think that extreme flirting. For me face touching is done with affection rather than for sexual reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like trouble tbh, and it also sounds like you don't want to hear opions that says it is.

If there was dirty on your then I can see why a friend might do it, but a general stroking randomly seems a bit too intimate. She might not have meant it in a sexual way, but it doesn't have to be to start trouble. Ie touching or caressing someone arm isn't sexual but can mean deeper feeling than just friends

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Try it the other way Round and see how fast you find yourself in HR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a lovely gestur, yes at the top of the scale, but to feel that is acceptable shows a very sincere friend. Maybe if she wasn't married it would be a completely different scenario. Accept it as really nice, don't read into it. To be honest, I think that would have made my day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd always been friendly with a (female) work mate, and earlier today when I was taking a phone call, she walked passed me and stroked my face as she did so. I didn't take this as a romantic gesture as she's married with children, but it got me wondering about what that sort of non-sexual physical contact means, at least to a woman?

Do you have to find someone physically attractive in order to initiate it? Is it just a simple gesture of friendliness (like adjusting someone's tie), is it a sign of trust, is it less acceptable for a man to put his hands on a woman in such fashion, and how come you almost never see guys doing the same to one another?

Is she older than you? It could be a sign of affection that a woman can feel for a younger man which is almost maternal. There are only 3 men in my life whose faces I would touch, my Dad, my boyfriend and my best friend.

If I was flirting with someone I would think that extreme flirting. For me face touching is done with affection rather than for sexual reasons."

She's only a couple of years older than me. She has been going through rather a rough patch emotionally lately, and I've been able to talk and listen, letting her get a few things off her chest, really I think that's what inspired the face touching.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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She's only a couple of years older than me. She has been going through rather a rough patch emotionally lately, and I've been able to talk and listen, letting her get a few things off her chest, really I think that's what inspired the face touching."

Yes, as I originally said if she's feeling a lot of warmth/affection for you it could be non-sexual. Sometimes people can forget themselves and do something 'as if you were a member of their family' without thinking. Someone on here said 'Drive safely - love you' after our first night together - I assumed it was just a habitual family/affectionate thing to say for him. But face touching is a very intimate act nonetheless and crosses a boundary which it may not be wise to cross in many circumstances, so I would just be aware of that.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Sound like trouble to me... Thats not normal.office behaviour..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But face touching is a very intimate act nonetheless and crosses a boundary which it may not be wise to cross in many circumstances, so I would just be aware of that."

I know, its easy to carried away sometimes when it comes to sharing affections with people, but on this occasion I felt I could simply enjoy it as a positive gesture that she valued my friendship x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like nothing more than a friend touching your face to me. Then again I'm an emotional cripple and have been known to misread these things. I honestly wouldn't read to much into it...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i really wouldmt read too much into ..im a touchy person and if i had done it to you it would mean ' hey up chuck' ..rather than i want to get into your pants !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I would never make a physical contact other than a slap on the shoulder/arm/hand, or a tap on the shoulder etc... with a gent that is purely platonic, no matter how well I know him.

A hug would only occur when saying goodbye after a social evening out.

To me personally, a touch/brush on the face/cheek is far to intimate to be without any sexy undertone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i touch his face when we kiss and during sex - probably the occasional other time too as we are very close - wouldnt do it to anybody out of that situation and probably only to another fem as thats more tender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... far "too" intimate I meant.

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