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By *antoplay1976 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chico

When you friend someone do you message them first or just send a friend request? What is your reaction when someone sends you a friend request without messaging first? Just wondering how others deal with it. Usually I delete the request. Does that make me a bitch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope we ignore them, our friends list contains people we have met and people we are planning to meet, we send a message with a pic of us to make first contact and would only send a friend request when it looks like it may go somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you friend someone do you message them first or just send a friend request? What is your reaction when someone sends you a friend request without messaging first? Just wondering how others deal with it. Usually I delete the request. Does that make me a bitch? "

Nope...

Makes you Amirkin...

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg


"When you friend someone do you message them first or just send a friend request? What is your reaction when someone sends you a friend request without messaging first? Just wondering how others deal with it. Usually I delete the request. Does that make me a bitch? "

We do exactly the same. We consider friends to be exactly that, and we reserve it for high potential meets or someone we have at least established compatibility with. We erase any that are sent otherwise, usually just to see more pics.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My profile says my friends list is for friends. That's people I have met, or chat to a lot, or want to meet. It says if I don't know you, I probably won't add you.

So, surprisingly, my stance tends to be, if I don't know them, I probably won't add them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sometimes accept random friend invites if the person has had the manners to ask me first. I don't care if they want to perve my pics, have no intention of meeting and not talk to me again - however, they get deleted after a while.

If I get a friend request with no prior message, I ignore it and don't accept or decline it so they can't ask me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you friend someone do you message them first or just send a friend request? What is your reaction when someone sends you a friend request without messaging first? Just wondering how others deal with it. Usually I delete the request. Does that make me a bitch? "

I find it rude that they don't message me first then I get abuse saying I have a bad attitude and I'm the last person they want to meet. So why send one in the first place? no wonder I have a bad attitude

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

*sends steve a random friends request to test the claim*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send them a message first asking if I can send a friends add. it is only good manners to after all.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"*sends steve a random friends request to test the claim*"

He ignored me!!! The rotter!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always send them a message first asking if I can send a friends add. it is only good manners to after all. "

People would want a conversational first rather than I message asking if you can send a friend request, well in my opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accept friend requests to people I've chatted to and delete if we haven't chatted for a good while.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"*sends steve a random friends request to test the claim*

He ignored me!!! The rotter!!!

"

Block him!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find random friends invites very rude. It says not to send them on my profile. Depending on my mood I have been known to message asking if it was a mistake!

You don't call strangers friends do you so a conversation first is only polite!

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Do what you think is right!

we all do things different.

I prefer the wink first

Love the do you think im a bitch quote

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Do what you think is right!

we all do things different.

I prefer the wink first

Love the does that make me a bitch quote

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By *antoplay1976 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chico

;)

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By *antoplay1976 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chico


"I find random friends invites very rude. It says not to send them on my profile. Depending on my mood I have been known to message asking if it was a mistake!

You don't call strangers friends do you so a conversation first is only polite! "

Yes! That is my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always send them a message first asking if I can send a friends add. it is only good manners to after all.

People would want a conversational first rather than I message asking if you can send a friend request, well in my opinion anyway"

yes I know that.

and yes I did not say I talk to them first, so I can see the misunderstanding.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"My profile says my friends list is for friends. That's people I have met, or chat to a lot, or want to meet. It says if I don't know you, I probably won't add you.

So, surprisingly, my stance tends to be, if I don't know them, I probably won't add them. "

Same here! I get messages saying hi can I add you as a friend?? I think people are confused by the meaning of friend, they just wanna look at friends gallery haha!! My profile says that too, doesn't stop them trying mind you!! X

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"My profile says my friends list is for friends. That's people I have met, or chat to a lot, or want to meet. It says if I don't know you, I probably won't add you.

So, surprisingly, my stance tends to be, if I don't know them, I probably won't add them.

Same here! I get messages saying hi can I add you as a friend?? I think people are confused by the meaning of friend, they just wanna look at friends gallery haha!! My profile says that too, doesn't stop them trying mind you!! X"

I still get the random ones too, but they can't say they weren't told

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've only got a couple of friends only pics and one is my face, so I don't know why they bother!

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