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A meet does not guarantee sex!

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich

Hello Guys and Girls!!

Hope u are all enjoying yourselves and keeping clean and safe like I am xxx

I am posting this from notification from a friend of a bad meet experience and from a previous bad experience I had myself when I first joined fabs more than a year ago xx

Remember that just because someone says yes to meeting you does not mean that they have to have sexual contact with you. A meet is exactly that, a meet.

Luckily here in the UK we have that wonderful thing called law and that gives us all the right to say no at any time.

Do not feel that just because you said yes to meeting someone that this makes you obliged to put out on that meet even if the person/people you meet are forceful.

If u feel like u are being forced against your own will to get into sexual acts then just dial that famous number 999 and report it.

To avoid situations like this, make sure you are using fabswingers facilities to hide certain parts of your profile to selected groups of people, thoroughly check their profile, interests and feedback and try to build a rapport with people before meeting them.

Make sure that you never jeopardise your safety xxx

If u suspect anyone then send a message to admin on fabswingers.

But more importantly have fun!!!!

Happy swinging!! xxxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

An important thing to remember. I've never been pressurised into having sex. Pestered though, and I ended up telling him to sling his hook. But people not as nasty as me might have given in, and that's not the way to go.

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"An important thing to remember. I've never been pressurised into having sex. Pestered though, and I ended up telling him to sling his hook. But people not as nasty as me might have given in, and that's not the way to go."

Well said xxx I was nasty and tried to get him to sling his hook but unfortunately he was much stronger than I so I had to involve authorities. At first it put me off of swinging, but a good friend on here helped me realise that there's always one who lets it down for everyone. And I soon learned to adjust my filters and check everyone thoroughly before agreeing a meet. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great point. I' ve been to a couple of meets where the.chats been fine but the frisson of horniness just hasnt been there. For one or both.parties.

Have gone home with no fuss and no problems

Doesnt help though when someone says.shes curvy but is actually size of a small bungalow.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very good point raised OP. To anyone who thinks a meet guarantees a shag - think again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a problem in wider society and not one that has been created by Fabswingers.

You would hope that common sense and abiding by the law of the land would be defaults for all.

Sadly that is not the case.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Wish you had said this sooner. I could have avoided having an arse like a yawning donkey.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Wish you had said this sooner. I could have avoided having an arse like a yawning donkey. "

Ryan and his amazing echoing arse...

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Wish you had said this sooner. I could have avoided having an arse like a yawning donkey. "

I thought I heard something strange when your reply appeared lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a women carry on with me becouse i wouldnt drop everything and go play at 7 in the evening we met before and played im in leeds she was in newcastle 200 mile round trip when i looked again im blocked

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We've done socials and never played we've done party's and never played. But been lucky on just planned meets. Where all have been happy to play. We're not bothered if we don't play we just play together when we get home. Definitely don't try to pressure any one. But very sure it must be uncomfortable for those in that situation and some times scary and there is plenty of weirdos out there. So good advice op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wish you had said this sooner. I could have avoided having an arse like a yawning donkey.

I thought I heard something strange when your reply appeared lol "

Eeyaw-lways sounds like that!

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg


"Yes very good point raised OP. To anyone who thinks a meet guarantees a shag - think again. "

So true. Something we emphasize to all potential meets. Some people on here don't seem to get that though.

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich

I always seem to receive messages from guys saying "so when we gonna fuck?"

when I reply that I have never said that I have agreed that they can fuck me, they reply "we are on a fucking site".

Correction! - we are on a swinging site but that does not mean that it is a ticket granting all members to fuck us!!

seriously guys/girls if u send messages to people like the ones I receive then grow up and choose your words carefully. I'll be very surprised if you get any positive responses if you do send these kind of msgs.

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By *uppy ConquerorMan
over a year ago

dundee


"Wish you had said this sooner. I could have avoided having an arse like a yawning donkey.

I thought I heard something strange when your reply appeared lol

Eeyaw-lways sounds like that! "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what????

no sex... fuck that.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Pester power is one of the reasons my first meets are in a busy coffee shop - it's easier to ditch someone there.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"An important thing to remember. I've never been pressurised into having sex. Pestered though, and I ended up telling him to sling his hook. But people not as nasty as me might have given in, and that's not the way to go.

Well said xxx I was nasty and tried to get him to sling his hook but unfortunately he was much stronger than I so I had to involve authorities. At first it put me off of swinging, but a good friend on here helped me realise that there's always one who lets it down for everyone. And I soon learned to adjust my filters and check everyone thoroughly before agreeing a meet. x"

If you are single always let someone know where you are going, text a friend when you have met the person & safe.

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Pester power is one of the reasons my first meets are in a busy coffee shop - it's easier to ditch someone there. "

A good tip xxx I usually try to get a friend to drive me to meeting place so Im not on my own xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet planned the other night, swapping messages all day and when i made it plain i wanted to meet in a local pub he stopped talking to me.

Its silly, chances are if we had got on then it would have been back to mine, but a lot of guys just wont meet socially first. One guy even said that i was confused, it was a sex site, not a dating site.

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I had a meet planned the other night, swapping messages all day and when i made it plain i wanted to meet in a local pub he stopped talking to me.

Its silly, chances are if we had got on then it would have been back to mine, but a lot of guys just wont meet socially first. One guy even said that i was confused, it was a sex site, not a dating site. "

poor guy obviously has issues and needs to learn to respect wishes of meeting publicly first to ensure safety. His loss! x

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I had a meet planned the other night, swapping messages all day and when i made it plain i wanted to meet in a local pub he stopped talking to me.

Its silly, chances are if we had got on then it would have been back to mine, but a lot of guys just wont meet socially first. One guy even said that i was confused, it was a sex site, not a dating site. "

So; just so I'm absolutely clear on this....

You arranged to meet a man who didn't want to go to the pub?

I think you had a narrow escape, he sounds like a wrong'un.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a meet planned the other night, swapping messages all day and when i made it plain i wanted to meet in a local pub he stopped talking to me.

Its silly, chances are if we had got on then it would have been back to mine, but a lot of guys just wont meet socially first. One guy even said that i was confused, it was a sex site, not a dating site.

So; just so I'm absolutely clear on this....

You arranged to meet a man who didn't want to go to the pub?

I think you had a narrow escape, he sounds like a wrong'un. "

That is a very good point!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"An important thing to remember. I've never been pressurised into having sex. Pestered though, and I ended up telling him to sling his hook. But people not as nasty as me might have given in, and that's not the way to go."

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"what????

no sex... fuck that."

Be a gentleman...

Wait until they have gone, then fuck that!!!

Whatever that is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always see a first meet as a social, anything more is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no expectation but lots of hope

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I have no expectation but lots of hope "

well with a body like yours there is definitely hope xx lol

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

As our profile states not really looking for single guys but agreed on a meet in a pub last week just for a meal a bd drinks and we quoted "no sex just social" he was happy with that and had a pleasant evening. We met the same guy last night for some fun, neither of us could accommodate but he was happy to sort a hotel, think we were filling in for a cancelation to be honest and he had already paid for the hotel but had a great couple of hours.

But that's the thing. Social first and if there is not a click then that is where the night stops definitely no taking one for the team like some we have met do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And a meet (social or more hands on) doesn't mean we are now dating and I have to reply to your texts within 30 seconds....

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs


"And a meet (social or more hands on) doesn't mean we are now dating and I have to reply to your texts within 30 seconds.... "

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By * Aria - Caprice OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I had a women carry on with me becouse i wouldnt drop everything and go play at 7 in the evening we met before and played im in leeds she was in newcastle 200 mile round trip when i looked again im blocked "

maybe she didnt enjoy the meet. But she should have had the decency to let you know xx I had a meet a few weeks ago but the guy obviously had never heard of soap or deodorant so I told him that I did not want to play with him and explained why too before I hit the block button xx

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