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Perfect? Really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I read both the perfect man and perfect woman threads. It made for some interesting reading!

My thoughts out of all of this is how much of this is driven by media and social influence and how much is driven by what we actually want?

Also, is fair to seek "perfection" when we maybe far from perfection ourselves?

Thoughts people!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has potential to be someone's perfect partner. Apart from me obviously. sob sob!

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

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+2

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By *ophiasChoiceWoman
over a year ago

ystrad mynach


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

+2 "

+3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never have the perfect man or woman . What is perfect for one would not be for another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think theres a difference between looking for perfection and seeking someone perfect for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"think theres a difference between looking for perfection and seeking someone perfect for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us."

That's just one part of my question.

The other is what your idea of perfection is driven by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

teenage girls and boys will probably be more influenced by the medias visual of perfection

like it or not it`ll have influenced us all at some point

but the media isnt the only influence in peoples lives

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

That's just one part of my question.

The other is what your idea of perfection is driven by. "

For me its driven by my experience of past and current relationships, by my age I think its appropriate that I know what I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read both the perfect man and perfect woman threads. It made for some interesting reading!

My thoughts out of all of this is how much of this is driven by media and social influence and how much is driven by what we actually want?

Also, is fair to seek "perfection" when we maybe far from perfection ourselves?

Thoughts people!

"
perfection for me, is not for someone else.

i dont look for physical perfection, as it does not exist.

the perfect partner is someone that is prepared to compromise as much as you are to enable your particular relationship to work.

physicality and looks only count at the start of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there were such a thing people would be boring.

That said, it amuses me that people use it as an insult on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will never have the perfect man or woman . What is perfect for one would not be for another "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

+2 "

+3

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If there were such a thing people would be boring.

That said, it amuses me that people use it as an insult on here."

An insult? I don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres nothing wrong with seeking perfection, we are all free to make our own choices in life.

Saying that Nette is very lucky because she has found perfection in me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

+2

+3 "

Just a thought...

Even though we're only expressing it, aren't we still looking for some if not most of the traits that would make someone perfect? Similar to having preferences here on Fabs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobodies perfect, but if ever I see a woman I want badly enough, but consider her above my station, then I'm the kind of guy who will seek to improve so as to raise my game, to the point I might get a shot at her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there were such a thing people would be boring.

That said, it amuses me that people use it as an insult on here.

An insult? I don't understand. "

Often in discussions where somebody becomes defensive about looks/weight/spelling/lifestyle etc. etc. - then throw in the 'We can't all be perfect' slur.

It's intended as an insult but is usually a smokescreen for insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

That's just one part of my question.

The other is what your idea of perfection is driven by.

For me its driven by my experience of past and current relationships, by my age I think its appropriate that I know what I like"

You might think so but I (m) can honestly say that my tastes have changed throughout my 30's. or maybe my tastes are the same and its just my expectations that have changed!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"We didn't say we were seeking it, just expressed what was perfect to us.

That's just one part of my question.

The other is what your idea of perfection is driven by.

For me its driven by my experience of past and current relationships, by my age I think its appropriate that I know what I like

You might think so but I (m) can honestly say that my tastes have changed throughout my 30's. or maybe my tastes are the same and its just my expectations that have changed! "

That's what I was saying really, when you've been around a while and experienced life with different people, you come to know what you'd really like from someone. That's not to say you can get it though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If there were such a thing people would be boring.

That said, it amuses me that people use it as an insult on here.

An insult? I don't understand.

Often in discussions where somebody becomes defensive about looks/weight/spelling/lifestyle etc. etc. - then throw in the 'We can't all be perfect' slur.

It's intended as an insult but is usually a smokescreen for insecurities."

Oh right!

Does that stem from what people like or what we think people like?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I read both the perfect man and perfect woman threads. It made for some interesting reading!

My thoughts out of all of this is how much of this is driven by media and social influence and how much is driven by what we actually want?

Also, is fair to seek "perfection" when we maybe far from perfection ourselves?

Thoughts people!

"

As others have said, I don't seek perfection - but the characteristics in my idea of it are certainly what I know **I** respond to most.

So, no, not about media/society at all for me.

And one very strong aspect could engage me and 'trump' all the others! Well, almost all anyway......

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Its better to aim for perfection and miss, than aim for imperfection and hit it.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

My idea of perfection isnt influenced by anything or anyone, its what I like, what I respond to, what I find attractive.

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