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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I accept cookies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I accept cookies "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't sit well with me. It's supposed to be free fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "

a decision only you can make.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I accepted some chocolate animals at a first meet. Does that make me a bad person?

I don't get offered or given gifts from people I meet unless we have crossed into the more than a special friend realm.

Where are you with your friend?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I once got bought chocolate hobnobs but only cos he wanted a dunk lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested."

JUST SAY NO

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

JUST SAY NO "
EXFUCKINGACTLY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

JUST SAY NO EXFUCKINGACTLY "

I listened Fem I really did. Never touched the shit. Good girl me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are friends and you usually get gifts off friends, then dont see a problem.

but as said, if she is buying you, or you feel like she is, then it wouldnt sit right at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested."

Who is Zammo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

Who is Zammo? "

Grange Hill?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "

Me and my fb swap gifts but then we have known each other over two years and are genuine friends. It depends on the 'relationship'. If it is more a casual thing then I would think it strange.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i would back off if someone wanted to start exchanging gifts as i see this site as a completely dispasionate trade off for sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship"

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""

Then you need to be honest and tell her how it makes you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "

It depends on how you feel about her, how much emotion is involved and 1001 other things. It may upset her though to refuse but it sounds like it might not sit well with you to accept I would think long and hard about it.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""

Yeah I think she's seeing things very differently to you. Time for a talk I think.

Me personally wouldn't want to accept gifts although I did get some flowers last Christmas from a long term buddy but that was just something small.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

Who is Zammo?

Grange Hill?"

I was pretending to be too young to remember. I know who he is really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say no.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i always think its getting too complicated when you agree to meet someone who is married on the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always think its getting too complicated when you agree to meet someone who is married on the first place "

Couples on here that meet single guys.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It is not payment for fun, it is just part of the generous nature that some have. Refuse or accept as you see fit. If pushed, donate to charity or re-gift out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""

This is a conversation that should be had with your friend. Nothing we say is going to tell you her motives behind the gifts or her your feelings about them, every relationship needs communication and boundaries...the latter only clear and established to both by the former.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fwb and I swapped gifts at Christmas and our birthdays but ive known him nearly a year now and we are friends but from a meet I see as just fun, no I would feel uneasy unless it was something funny that maybe you have both talked about and laughed about .. And will use on your meet . But if you feel uneasy then tell her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.

Who is Zammo?

Grange Hill?

I was pretending to be too young to remember. I know who he is really. "

Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken edible gifts to 3 meets, and recently been given a box of chocs but did try to refuse the

them politely but he insisted

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "

Does her husband know? If not I'd decline and end contact as this has the potential of getting messy.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i always think its getting too complicated when you agree to meet someone who is married on the first place "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I accept cookies "

So does my computer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it is meet related then yes. Like beers or sexy pants or toys. but not ear Phones :-\

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it is meet related then yes. Like beers or sexy pants or toys. but not ear Phones :-\"

She might be a screamer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it is meet related then yes. Like beers or sexy pants or toys. but not ear Phones :-\

She might be a screamer. "

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Sounds as if she sees the 'relationship' as being more than you do. Time for a wee chat I think, 'cards on the table' time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always think its getting too complicated when you agree to meet someone who is married on the first place "

I'm married, try not to meet married men but they seem to gravitate towards me. My complications are trying to get out and get some. I don't want gifts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think I already knew the answer time to let her down gently . "Been fun but no future"

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