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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Variety is the spice of life

If you can't mix things up now and again then it would get stale

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

How can we advise you...we have so little to go on...

Do share some more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He is very dominant and we used to be very naughty.

However recently we have really enjoyed kissing and more vanilla stuff.

The other night I asked him to tell me his dirtiest fantasies. We set to work on doing some of them.

Afterwards I think he felt strange and missed the nice side

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

Maybe you need an extra...

So you can be naughty with...

And then he can give you all the niceness as a reward later

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He used to be really interested in sharing but doesn't seem that eager anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with kink then cuddles n kisses works well for me .. Dont put pressure on yourself just enjoy the whole experience. Variety is the spice of life like one fabster said. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to him about it. Only he Knows the answer. Maybe it was all done in the first stages for excitement but now he feels comfortable and happy with the Two of you and feels no need to put on a show

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with kink then cuddles n kisses works well for me .. Dont put pressure on yourself just enjoy the whole experience. Variety is the spice of life like one fabster said. Enjoy "

He seems more interested in cuddles than kink now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Talk to him about it. Only he Knows the answer. Maybe it was all done in the first stages for excitement but now he feels comfortable and happy with the Two of you and feels no need to put on a show"

I have. Don't think he realised he would enjoy the nice side so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?"

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as. "

I am a bit concerned he may feel that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as. "

this was my first thought as I read this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy him, it is lovely, and if you both want a relationship " go for it" good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this"

Uh oh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm.....talk to him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Erm.....talk to him?"

I have. Think he is confused too or not wanting to say what he thinks. There is something he isn't saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this

Uh oh! "

And do you still have the boyfriend mentioned in your profile? If so, you have a major problem on your hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this

Uh oh!

And do you still have the boyfriend mentioned in your profile? If so, you have a major problem on your hands "

Yes I do. So do I just stop everything with the fb?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this

Uh oh!

And do you still have the boyfriend mentioned in your profile? If so, you have a major problem on your hands

Yes I do. So do I just stop everything with the fb?"

Without a doubt. It sounds like he's wanting more, and if you want to stay with your boyfriend, then it's probably best you don't get yourself into a situation where you might end up on your own! That's my opinion anyway, but of course you should make your own mind up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this

Uh oh!

And do you still have the boyfriend mentioned in your profile? If so, you have a major problem on your hands

Yes I do. So do I just stop everything with the fb?

Without a doubt. It sounds like he's wanting more, and if you want to stay with your boyfriend, then it's probably best you don't get yourself into a situation where you might end up on your own! That's my opinion anyway, but of course you should make your own mind up "

Not sure I will stay with the bf but not ready to consider a replacement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't see the boyfriend bit, this could get a bit messy.

You need to talk to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't see the boyfriend bit, this could get a bit messy.

You need to talk to him."

I have tried x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I enjoy it so much though. Not sure I want to stop

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more. "

He used to like the idea of dogging more but now he seems more keen on just us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more. "

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol"

But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is feeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is feeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it. "

Not telling the bf anything as he has no clue and it will stay that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't mean about this I meant if you don't want to be with him then he needs to know that. Think once you have sorted out in your head what it is you want without worrying about what your bf or fb want then it will be lot easier to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very nice fuck buddy who I have had some very fun times with. It started off as very dirty encounters. The other night we were in a very naughty mood and did some things. ..afterwards we both agreed it felt strange as recently we seem to have fallen into a pattern of vanilla but very enjoyable sex. Any advice?

Is it crossing over into a relationship and no longer the fuck buddy it started as.

this was my first thought as I read this"
yes my thoughts too xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't mean about this I meant if you don't want to be with him then he needs to know that. Think once you have sorted out in your head what it is you want without worrying about what your bf or fb want then it will be lot easier to face. "

I need to figure that out first

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is feeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it.

Not telling the bf anything as he has no clue and it will stay that way"

Ouch!

Have you considered that if the FB is getting attached HE may decide to tell the BF?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is feeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it.

Not telling the bf anything as he has no clue and it will stay that way

Ouch!

Have you considered that if the FB is getting attached HE may decide to tell the BF?"

They don't know each other or have any way of contact

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is feeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it.

Not telling the bf anything as he has no clue and it will stay that way

Ouch!

Have you considered that if the FB is getting attached HE may decide to tell the BF?

They don't know each other or have any way of contact"

Are you sure? Does your FB know your BF exists? Does he know where you live? Has he ever been alone with your phone?

If he is getting attached and is the type then just because you have not told him does not mean he has not gone out of his way to find out... There are cases of stalkers doing stuff like that all over the place, in fact it is so common a law was made to attempt to control it.

Now I do not want to alarm you but if your FB is becoming attached you need to act either to return your relationship to what it was or maybe end it as you are not going to split with your BF that much is obvious.

Sorry to put it in such stark terms but I think you already know this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask him if he would like to see you being fucked by another guy...,if he says yes then it's all variety and the 'vanilla' bit is just nice soft lovely sex...if he says no, then maybe you could consider the whole situation an talk to him some more.

Not sure I want to learn the truth now lol

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But its gonna get a whole lot of messy if you don't.

If I was in your situation the first person I would speak to was the boyfriend! He will be the one hurt most in it all especially if it was decided to end. Then I'd worry about the fuck buddy. If he can't say what he is fqeeling and wanting you need to lead the conversation and say you think this has happened and how u want to deal with it.

Not telling the bf anything as he has no clue and it will stay that way

Ouch!

Have you considered that if the FB is getting attached HE may decide to tell the BF?

They don't know each other or have any way of contact

Are you sure? Does your FB know your BF exists? Does he know where you live? Has he ever been alone with your phone?

If he is getting attached and is the type then just because you have not told him does not mean he has not gone out of his way to find out... There are cases of stalkers doing stuff like that all over the place, in fact it is so common a law was made to attempt to control it.

Now I do not want to alarm you but if your FB is becoming attached you need to act either to return your relationship to what it was or maybe end it as you are not going to split with your BF that much is obvious.

Sorry to put it in such stark terms but I think you already know this."

No he has no idea where I live as I always drive to his. I also leave my phone etc in the car. We are not friends on Facebook or anything. So really no way he could find the bf

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