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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As title says,I'm nervous about meeting a couple.

I'm not worried about feeling inadequate, just don't know how to come across messaging a couple.

Am I the only person that feel or felt like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, however you are verified by a couple so I guess you have met and you have messaged etc.

Hence , whats the problem? Start flapping when you have something to get excited about would be my opinion

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Finding the people that youre comfortable meeting is important. There are those who we are not that matched with, in all kinds of ways, and temperament etc is one of them. Message away, it puts no one under obligation to meet, until you all feel right about it. Some others make us feel great, others less so. Being nervous works for all parties, single or in relationships, so meeting at the right time and only those you are right for is important. If you dont get over this, go to parties and clubs and socialise, so you meet couples with less pressure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, however you are verified by a couple so I guess you have met and you have messaged etc.

Hence , whats the problem? Start flapping when you have something to get excited about would be my opinion "

Probably best not to guess certain things in future,can get you in trouble. I met only the female.

If thats your opinion,keep it to yourself.

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

I am always nervous when meeting a new couple...

I think its quite natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Anticipation and excitement are normal, as is, I suppose a little nervousness but if you've chatted with them prior to a meet so all groundrules and expectations are agreed, then there should be no reason not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be, whatever you talk about, talk to both of them, not just the female, have a laugh with them both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked for an.opinion.

I gave mine. Life would be very simple if we only received answers we wanted to hear....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You asked for an.opinion.

I gave mine. Life would be very simple if we only received answers we wanted to hear...."

Well you keep your opinion,it has little relevance to this thread.

I'd accept you're "no" if you justified it with more input, instead you tried to belittle me.

Just rememberer...... you reap what you sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a chill pill way over the top replies.

If you react so quickly to a forum reply I'd be nervous of meeting you !

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

People are never the only ones although we are all unique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You asked for an.opinion.

I gave mine. Life would be very simple if we only received answers we wanted to hear....

Well you keep your opinion,it has little relevance to this thread.

I'd accept you're "no" if you justified it with more input, instead you tried to belittle me.

Just rememberer...... you reap what you sow."

Happens on here all the time sweetie - just ignore them and use the block button x

I know exactly how you feel ! I travel the uk visiting clubs and doing reviews with no fear - but when I was meeting ( currently in relationship ) I would never have the courage to go to a couples home on my own - cant quite rationalise the fear ( maybe cause Im not bi ! Lol )

I guess its a question of finding the right couple - who have good verifications and said to be friendly etc - then bite the bullet and go for it ! X Once you do something once - the second time is never so bad ! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You asked for an.opinion.

I gave mine. Life would be very simple if we only received answers we wanted to hear....

Well you keep your opinion,it has little relevance to this thread.

I'd accept you're "no" if you justified it with more input, instead you tried to belittle me.

Just rememberer...... you reap what you sow."

Blimey!!!! Someone's overly sensitive.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes, slightly nervous as it's a new thing. I'm sure I'll cope when it comes down to it though. I usually do.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I'm gonna have to take the plunge.....There is one couple I really fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As title says,I'm nervous about meeting a couple.

I'm not worried about feeling inadequate, just don't know how to come across messaging a couple.

Am I the only person that feel or felt like this?"

Meet for a drink first and meet an experienced couple and let them know you are a bit nervous. Oh and don't get cold feet you wont get a 2nd chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf are you on? I backed an opinion with some thoughts on the matter if you cant handle that maybe you need to sit back and calm yourself down. And less of the veiled threats if you dont mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And on reassessing your original post. No you are not the only one this happens to. We have all been in the same boat. I hope all goes well for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a chill pill way over the top replies.

If you react so quickly to a forum reply I'd be nervous of meeting you !"

Agreed, it's confusing too.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Nothing to worry about bro!

With the males there is a certain initial fathoming out who is alpha and so forth. I always find the best way is to stand on his bed and piss on it. If he bites you then he thinks he is alpha.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Nothing to worry about bro!

With the males there is a certain initial fathoming out who is alpha and so forth. I always find the best way is to stand on his bed and piss on it. If he bites you then he thinks he is alpha."

Although if he bites you on the bum, he's beta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nervous! Yes that's the fear of the unknown. It's adrenaline flowing and the whole reason I'm involved with this site. Isn't it why we all are? Don't you want to push your boundaries and be daring.

Remember how you felt before your first kiss? Or how you felt just before you had sex for the first time.

Go with it, embrace it and make your life richer. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps, but please be careful and ALWAYS trust your instincts x

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Some people have balls and a nothing to lose attitude.

Which I find is great, they feel very confident in themselves.

This one chap who we spoke to had this attitude and he ended up with 3 shags at xtasia.

Which I thought was damned impressive, he never got to his fourth which was my wife but fair play for trying and asking

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