FabSwingers.com forum: Punishment for no-show time-wasters.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can anyone think of anything, within the rules of Fabswingers, that can be done to remove the cancer of timewasters who agree to meet, keep saying they are going to be there and then fail to show without warning or excuse.

Answer with care please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say remove there accounts and block there IP address you must be able to do that surely with today's technology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet me at the top of the Eiffel tower tomorrow at 17:00 GMT and ill tell Ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing that can be done. Other than look at what you can do different to avoid them

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

They should be flayed and then tarred & feathered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say remove there accounts and block there IP address you must be able to do that surely with today's technology. "

Most IPs are dynamic.

And no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pick the right people "

Are you suggesting a "hit man"? bit drastic but hey ho.......

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

OP, is that meet up for a social first or was it a meet to potentially play..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They should be flayed and then tarred & feathered."

YES! and drawn and quartered - but you cannot get the horses these dars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is proving you arranged it and they didnt show if we had a name n shame page it could end up people just being malicious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, is that meet up for a social first or was it a meet to potentially play..?"

Play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone think of anything, within the rules of Fabswingers, that can be done to remove the cancer of timewasters who agree to meet, keep saying they are going to be there and then fail to show without warning or excuse.

Answer with care please.

This is a sex site, it is not sunday school, It is up to you to select your dates with care, no one but you is responsible for timewasting.

It is a site for displaying people, with the forums you have a chance to get to know what people write.

If you want someone to hold your hand through the selection process, it aint going to happen.

Meets are about risk, safety, health, danger, fun, no one but you can be responsible for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem is proving you arranged it and they didnt show if we had a name n shame page it could end up people just being malicious"

If they message on here

1. I really want to come.

2. I will be there and thanks!!

3. See you tomorrow

4. cannot wait!! wow I am horny!!

5. see you soon....

and then no show, no explanation nothing. well one would have their messages as proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem is proving you arranged it and they didnt show if we had a name n shame page it could end up people just being malicious

If they message on here

1. I really want to come.

2. I will be there and thanks!!

3. See you tomorrow

4. cannot wait!! wow I am horny!!

5. see you soon....

and then no show, no explanation nothing. well one would have their messages as proof.

The messages you just mentioned would tell me you were chatting to a wanker..

so I would know he had no intention of meeting, he has full balls and just wants safe sex, behind his keyboard. whilst wife is downstairs watching east enders.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"OP, is that meet up for a social first or was it a meet to potentially play..?

Play"

had you met them socially first..?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

A sound thrashing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is also no way to prove they didn't cancel by other means. Ie via phone.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Answer with care please.

I dunno... possibly pick better....

a smidge of cynicism.. mixed with a dose of basic common sense seems to go a long long way...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet me at the top of the Eiffel tower tomorrow at 17:00 GMT and ill tell Ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Answer with care please.

This is a sex site, it is not sunday school, It is up to you to select your dates with care, no one but you is responsible for timewasting.

It is a site for displaying people, with the forums you have a chance to get to know what people write.

If you want someone to hold your hand through the selection process, it aint going to happen.

Meets are about risk, safety, health, danger, fun, no one but you can be responsible for that.

1. How are we responsible? Did not answer the question.

2. Sadly not everyone is in the forums. Would that answer the question if they were?

3. Ingrata stercora

4. Did not address the question.

Thanks for your fascinating comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've arranged to meet people I'd guess you have their number and email address.... There are lots of ways to extract revenge with those bits of information.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meet me at the top of the Eiffel tower tomorrow at 17:00 GMT and ill tell Ya

How will we know it is you? Would it be better if we come round your home earlier and go to the Tower with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Answer with care please.

I dunno... possibly pick better....

a smidge of cynicism.. mixed with a dose of basic common sense seems to go a long long way........... "

I understand all about pick better but that, with respect, does not answer the question that was asked.

These people exist. Most members have suffered at some stage. Is there anything that can be done about removing them? If we can find a reasonable and reliable way then perhaps the moderators may consider it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is also no way to prove they didn't cancel by other means. i.e. via phone. "

I understand that there could be vindictive few who would "forget" a legitimate cancellation.

What we are seeking is a solution to those who agree to come up to the last minute and them no show without cancelling. It is just ill mannered. If they were buying your car. You were going to teach them to play guitar or something and they went out before you got there then you would be rightfully annoyed.

It is ill-mannered - do we want that in here? Does a love of sex mean rudeness and ill manners are an acceptable part of peoples behaviour?

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

Maybe they didn't show cause another hitman got to them first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they didn't show cause another hitman got to them first?

You are just trying to cheer me up. and succeeding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should be given a stiff birching xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Problem is proving you arranged it and they didnt show if we had a name n shame page it could end up people just being malicious

If they message on here

1. I really want to come.

2. I will be there and thanks!!

3. See you tomorrow

4. cannot wait!! wow I am horny!!

5. see you soon....

and then no show, no explanation nothing. well one would have their messages as proof.

The messages you just mentioned would tell me you were chatting to a wanker..

so I would know he had no intention of meeting, he has full balls and just wants safe sex, behind his keyboard. whilst wife is downstairs watching east enders."

Hardly need to be a member of Mensa to work that out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about just being adult about it and move on ....not many of us get everything we want in life all the time, here is no different....it's gonna happen. I know it's a pain in the bum but why let it eat you up? Find someone else and enjoy twice as much

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If you've arranged to meet people I'd guess you have their number and email address.... There are lots of ways pto extract revenge with those bits of information. "

Jesus! It's a meet for sex. They didn't show up, they didn't piss in their gas tank! Get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there should be some sort of reporting system. If you are a no show and get reported you get a warning if it happens twice you are on probation and if it happens three time you are removed from the site and blocked from rejoining and if you get caught rejoining you get named and shamed by admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin give you a red cross instead of a green tick lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a very nasty man on this site who pestered me and when I wouldn't agree to a meet he was very rude..I could have pretended to meet him but didn't...xx

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"I think there should be some sort of reporting system. If you are a no show and get reported you get a warning if it happens twice you are on probation and if it happens three time you are removed from the site and blocked from rejoining and if you get caught rejoining you get named and shamed by admin. "

And what happens if I happened to have a grudge against you for whatever reason? I submit a report to admin, and then I go bitch with my mates about it and they too put in a report about you.

3 unsubstantiated reports because you have pissed me off about something (probably something stupid knowing me!) and your profile is deleted and you can't get on the site .....

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

And just how do you propose to police that? How exactly do you prove they are a no-show? What if they don't show but have an excuse? Who determines how good that excuse is?

Really not going to work is it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a frustrating part of life on here but it happens. Admin can only police what happens on the site and have no control over what happens off it. I always meet local people and always socially first for several reasons but if they decide to no show I just finish my drink while pestering some poor bloke at the bar and go home!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 2 no shows both with contact day before by mobile texting, saying they were still meeting. both noshows. one sort of had a valid reason other one well no comment both were verified for meeting up. Everyone's time is precious but it's not easy to tell who is a timewaster and who isn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem is proving you arranged it and they didnt show if we had a name n shame page it could end up people just being malicious

If they message on here

1. I really want to come.

2. I will be there and thanks!!

3. See you tomorrow

4. cannot wait!! wow I am horny!!

5. see you soon....

and then no show, no explanation nothing. well one would have their messages as proof.

The messages you just mentioned would tell me you were chatting to a wanker..

so I would know he had no intention of meeting, he has full balls and just wants safe sex, behind his keyboard. whilst wife is downstairs watching east enders.

Hardly need to be a member of Mensa to work that out!"

Sorry, wrong assumption. I made those up. But good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what happens if I happened to have a grudge against you for whatever reason? I submit a report to admin, and then I go bitch with my mates about it and they too put in a report about you.

3 unsubstantiated reports because you have pissed me off about something (probably something stupid knowing me!) and your profile is deleted and you can't get on the site ....."

exactly! You can't punish people for a no show, this is an adult site for goodness sake!

Please Admin, can you tell Legs off as she didn't show up for a meet last night. Naughty girl!

I've been on and off here for nearly four years and I've never had a no show. I've only had one last minute cancellation but as I'd not left the house there was no harm done. I wouldn't even call that time wasting but we're all different.

A bit of common sense goes a long way on Fab. Phone chat, social meet then if it all goes ok, have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a timewaster to be successful all they require is someone who allows their horn to rule their head sufficiently to let common sense and a simple 'rulebook' approach to interacting virtually with total strangers go out the window in the pursuit of an orgasm not induced by their own hand.

And as it seems there's plenty of people (singles AND couples) of that mindset - the timewasters will continue.

If you don't allow yourself to fall prey - there's no time to be wasted!

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I rarely meet I admit and it does annoy me when something has been arranged and it is still my precious time be it social or more!

On each occasion I have been stood up I have reported the male account holder to Admin and I presume the account gets blocked and they are issued some warning or time length...

These instances have ALL been when the guy has picked time and date

There is no way to eradicate it completely but by doing nothing - even if it is reporting to Admin - it can never even start to improve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important."

Ah! Tripodus! You are correct but the question is - can we do anything to stop it?

If I suggested to you that people get cancer and die, frustrating but what the heck. You may be slighty peeved? Is there a solution to time-wasters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important.

Ah! Tripodus! You are correct but the question is - can we do anything to stop it?

If I suggested to you that people get cancer and die, frustrating but what the heck. You may be slighty peeved? Is there a solution to time-wasters?"

Quite how you can use cancer as a comparison against a no show is beyond me

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"How about just being adult about it and move on ....not many of us get everything we want in life all the time, here is no different....it's gonna happen. I know it's a pain in the bum but why let it eat you up? Find someone else and enjoy twice as much

Your logic and common sense has no place on the forums.

BURN THEM!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your logic and common sense has no place on the forums.

BURN THEM!!"

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important.

Ah! Tripodus! You are correct but the question is - can we do anything to stop it?

If I suggested to you that people get cancer and die, frustrating but what the heck. You may be slighty peeved? Is there a solution to time-wasters?"

A little extreme I would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I've never had a no show but I can imagine its a pain but I really can't see how you could stop it ....as things like name and shame could never work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important.

Ah! Tripodus! You are correct but the question is - can we do anything to stop it?

If I suggested to you that people get cancer and die, frustrating but what the heck. You may be slighty peeved? Is there a solution to time-wasters?

A little extreme I would say "

next time iam driving past a cancer hospice ill nip in and give them the good news ,,could be worse you know, you could have a no show off fabswingers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just accept its part of fab frustrating yes but not majorly important.

Ah! Tripodus! You are correct but the question is - can we do anything to stop it?

If I suggested to you that people get cancer and die, frustrating but what the heck. You may be slighty peeved? Is there a solution to time-wasters?

Quite how you can use cancer as a comparison against a no show is beyond me

I meant no offence to suffers of cancer. Purely, if a problem exists just to shrug and say it is part of life rather than do anything is giving in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say remove there accounts and block there IP address you must be able to do that surely with today's technology.

Most IPs are dynamic.

And no. "

What does that mean, most IP's are dynamic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant no offence to suffers of cancer. Purely, if a problem exists just to shrug and say it is part of life rather than do anything is giving in."

There is plenty you can do. Take responsibility for your own selection criteria rather than expect the site too.

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

"I would say remove there accounts and block there IP address you must be able to do that surely with today's technology.

Most IPs are dynamic.

And no.

What does that mean, most IP's are dynamic?"

They change. i.e your IP will be different each time you log on to FAB, therefore blocking an IP would be less than useless.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"I think there should be some sort of reporting system. "

There is, click on the report button on a profile and report from there

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