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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

if an ex got back in touch with you after a few years and wanted to try again ..and the real reason you split up with them was they bored you sexually.You try the subtle way saying you not interested but they not getting the hint ...would you be honest and tell them ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but i would make sure i was on the Vineger stroke and gripping her hips tight when i told her, always makes for an interesting ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'd make sure I would give them a definite NO and not a hint! If you weren't honest and told him the reason why at the time, why tell him now AFTER you've split up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why go back you already split for a reason no need to bring back old memories..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subtle? Ermm straight out with it, and why wait years to tell them.

It's a no for me that one lol

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never go Back keep on moving forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never go Back keep on moving forward"

I'm the same I believe you can't go back! You have to go forward. And if the relationship was stormy then bad memories surface!.........Not good and yes I know from experience

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wouldn't get back with a man who bored me sexually. In fact I have broken up with men who have done so. However, if he's spent the break getting sexual tips and practice I would have another go, just to make sure.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

When someone waits a few years to try and give it another go they tend to be looking for an easy option whilst other options are thin on the ground.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"When someone waits a few years to try and give it another go they tend to be looking for an easy option whilst other options are thin on the ground."

My ex has been in touch recently after years of not speaking. I'm polite to him but nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

he moved into my street with mutual friends .. and has told them quite a few times hes thinking of seeing if i will get back with him ...he got told im still the same person i was and his reply was surely she will have calmed down in the bedroom ...i laughed when my mate told me

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yeah, I would say it respectfully and tactfully.

'oi, your knob never hit the mark'

better to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight out with it..... have you learned not to just lie there? Lol....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"he moved into my street with mutual friends .. and has told them quite a few times hes thinking of seeing if i will get back with him ...he got told im still the same person i was and his reply was surely she will have calmed down in the bedroom ...i laughed when my mate told me "

Since he doesn't appear to be communicating his feelings to you directly you don't need to worry about telling him anything. Communication doesn't seem to have been a massive feature of the relationship at any point if he still isn't aware that you were bored.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

If everything else was fine in the relationship, and he actually speaks to you directly, a simple; I'm happy for us to be good/ close friends but we didn't work as a couple (hence why we split up) should do it.

I can never see the point in saying things just to be hurtful. If he pushes for reasons why you didn't work, then being incompatible sexually sounds less harsh than you bore me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things in life I never go back to

A job and an ex, if they didn't work the first go it's not going to change the second, plus there is history to contend with as well.

It's always a polite no from me, no need to be mean though it could shatter someones confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in moving forward and not looking back. When it's over it's over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never go Back keep on moving forward"

Going back never works .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone waits a few years to try and give it another go they tend to be looking for an easy option whilst other options are thin on the ground.

My ex has been in touch recently after years of not speaking. I'm polite to him but nothing more. "

I am polite to ll my exes, there was something there once, no need to be weird and stalkerish just because they are an ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if an ex got back in touch with you after a few years and wanted to try again ..and the real reason you split up with them was they bored you sexually.You try the subtle way saying you not interested but they not getting the hint ...would you be honest and tell them ???"

I'm sure there were other reasons for them to become an ex? Honesty and communication would have been good if the only reason there an ex was the sex. I think you owe it to them to let them know so they can improve for possibly their new partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if an ex got back in touch with you after a few years and wanted to try again ..and the real reason you split up with them was they bored you sexually.You try the subtle way saying you not interested but they not getting the hint ...would you be honest and tell them ???"

There are 2 sides to every story, raking up the past is never a good idea, the time to have sorted this out, was before you broke up. The past cant be repaired, so stop looking for excuses, and don't look for excuses why you failed, learn, let go and move on.

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over a year ago

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"if an ex got back in touch with you after a few years and wanted to try again ..and the real reason you split up with them was they bored you sexually.You try the subtle way saying you not interested but they not getting the hint ...would you be honest and tell them ???"

Yes, I used 'I've moved on sexually and enjoy different things now' before.

Although it wasn't exactly an 'ex' per se'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"if an ex got back in touch with you after a few years and wanted to try again ..and the real reason you split up with them was they bored you sexually.You try the subtle way saying you not interested but they not getting the hint ...would you be honest and tell them ???"

No I see no good reason to make someone feel bad about themselves with that information. Just say straight out that no you do not want to get back together, you don't have to give a reason, even if pushed for one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, never a problem for me to be honest, some would say too honest borderline being brutal!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we just talked and me been a lady over 40 ...with 5 kids and divorced...and putting on weight since i was 19 ....should settle for what i can get so he got told in no uncertain terms i can do alot better than him ...didnt even mention how i felt at 18 about him .... but told him if all i had to look forwars to was a relationship with him id carry on as i am

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