FabSwingers.com forum: Confident or not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"

Yes - and no. But it's taken a few years experience to get that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lacks confidence in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no confidence here, much more relaxed in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an all round confident person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little of both i think , depends on where and who with i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me? Think im the same.. if you think im a twat on here your not gonna like me in person thats for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence behind the keyboard but face to face I think I'm different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends.

in real life i tend to stand back until comfortable with my surroundings and the company im in

if im at home, and its a party we are holding, then i will make the conversation and be the life and soul.

its all about comfort.

last weekend we went to xtasias and i probably spoke to 2 people, and only in passing.

next time, i will probably be a lot more extrovert

V on the other hand, would talk a glass eye to sleep lol

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"A little of both i think , depends on where and who with i suppose

this ^^^^ sums it up for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No confidence whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More confident on here as I get nervous and occasionally stutter in person, worse thing you can do is type the wrong thing and have to dig yourself out of it. In Person it is worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is 1 of the keys to having a fulfilled life, head up be proud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever "

And this site makes it worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved."

This

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

All Rounders here. After fucking in a room full of strangers watching - well its impossable to be shy any more.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse"

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I see a smile on the face of the person I'm meeting I'm ok. If not I just think they don't like me and that's when I lack confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?"

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?"

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quiet when i first meet somewhen but if they are nice i am less shy, usually forget my shyness when im having sex.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved."
were ok untill the fun begins then shit our selves pmsl

Unfortunately can hamper some of the fun due to nerves on my behalf. Still getting used to the fact of having sex with other sexies

dan x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x"

insults for what?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x"

You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

insults for what?"

My pictures, my body my looks,,

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved. were ok untill the fun begins then shit our selves pmsl

Unfortunately can hamper some of the fun due to nerves on my behalf. Still getting used to the fact of having sex with other sexies

dan x"

Never goes down well huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am....am I??....oh I don't know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"

No struggle for me I enjoy engaging people one to one or talking to a large group of people when doing presentations. I like the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful. "

As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

insults for what?

My pictures, my body my looks,, "
Really

...I am surprised. Is it from men, women or both?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful.

As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence "

That is very true

unfortunately, it will never change. There will always be people of that nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful.

As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence

That is very true

unfortunately, it will never change. There will always be people of that nature. "

Hhmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say a little kak handed at messaging, as I say what is in my head.

Gary is better at it I think, I have more confidence face to face I think, will have a laugh easier chat, more down to earth, both of us.

The messaging some people may think what's she on about lol, but that can go for all anyway, you cannot see people laughing ect, only so many " Lols " you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence levels are pretty much the same on here as in real life,we're all just people and nothing to be scared or intimidated of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No confidence whatsoever

And this site makes it worse

Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?

Me personally, I get lots of insults x

insults for what?

My pictures, my body my looks,, "

well apart from your huge cock i cant see why, but meh, these are the people that are probably looking for something they will never get in real life anyway, so as hard as it probably is, i would just brush it off and carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lack confidence but I really push myself so it doesn't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My confidence levels are pretty much the same on here as in real life,we're all just people and nothing to be scared or intimidated of

They always say picture the room nakes when talking to people if you feel uncomfortable but better not do that here or you will be too visually stimulated

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Confident in all aspects of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first meet someone nerves do get better of me and I come out with some very random stuff that shouldn't lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm pretty confident on here as well as in the flesh. Nothing overbearing, just a bit of belief in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved."

This

I'm not the most confident person on here. For example, i wouldn't be able to message someone and ask if they want to meet outright. I may hint and leave it up to them to get back to me..

..in person, it takes me a while to warm up to the company. Not sure if everyone shares the same humour as me - that's usually a problem. Plus my accent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lack confidence all round but I'm very slowly learning to over come that

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By *istress v in yorksCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire

Confident on here and in the outside world, I can give talks to masses of people, teach courses no problem. But put me in a party and it's my idea of hell, never know what I'm supposed to do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost all my confidence and never mail anyone on here asking for a meet anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

extremely nervous with no confidence in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very confident on here chatting but not so much in the flesh . About 10 mins into a meet I start to get my confidence back and I'm ok xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin these days. I do feel nervous meeting new people but that soon subsides as we get talking. I don't take feedback or comments personally most of the time, as it tells me more about the other person than giving me information that necessarily updates my view of myself. So I'd say I'm quietly confident these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never notice confidence, until you need it.

I don't understand what being confident on this website means? I certainly wouldn't draw confidence from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good for you to feel out of your comfort zone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's good for you to feel out of your comfort zone."

How else do we learn and stretch ourselves?

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By *ndy85!Man
over a year ago

near you

I lack confidence on here, im not the best starting conversation, a little nervous on the way to the meet but as soon as im in front (or behind

) of the person the real me comes out. .... cheeky fun confident.

I always have been crap at putting things on paper so to speak ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's good for you to feel out of your comfort zone.

How else do we learn and stretch ourselves? "

Yoga

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty confident all round... Had a few knocks on here but I'm a nice guy and confident in myself and my abilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More vibrant and chatty in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's good for you to feel out of your comfort zone.

How else do we learn and stretch ourselves?

Yoga

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Yep Yoga is outside my comfort zone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More vibrant and chatty in real life

The jury is out on that one

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Oh yes. I'm not someone who struggles with self esteem or self image.

In fact I think some people find it disconcerting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been told I am a very confident man (hopefully not conceited or arrogant )

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"

I tend to be fairly reserved and reticent in messages. Have no problems stripping off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More vibrant and chatty in real life

The jury is out on that one

You so cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm the same on here as I am in real life x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.

This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed themselves off the list of possibles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More so. Especially when I know my meet has turned up, is genuine and there are no muggers in the wardrobe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally lack self confidence whether it be me or Kerri who is out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confident and cheeky Littlebird on here and in the flesh

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm confident in my work, I'm quite confident in myself in real life, on here? Take everything with a pinch of salt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.

So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...

At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too confident for my own good at times!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.

So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...

At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence."

Most of them won't even make eye contact.

If they do then I will assess their facial expression and then make an approach if they don't do so first. But I do prefer them to approach me. And for all I have an interesting reputation on here I'm very approachable in person.

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By *ndy85!Man
over a year ago

near you

"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.

This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed

Most of them won't even make eye contact.

If I came across you I a club I would have to come and speak to you then workout if its worth me making the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.

So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...

At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence.

Most of them won't even make eye contact.

I wasn't knocking the approach - I use it too

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

im not as confident in real life as I used to be

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