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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na never works long term that's just my opinion lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Rihanna says no.

The bitch!

A

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Tried that. Ended in tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if both parties work at the communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in most things to do with relationships, what works for some, doesn't for others. I believe, if it's meant to be, it will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Long distance relacionship (in the same country) can & do work...i'ts the resulting marriage that can often fail lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can do yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR "

This one is the UK and Canada

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR "

I suppose that's a matter of opinion but you try walking from Leicester to Manchester, its a fair old distance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got out what you put in. If you get to see the person then it works. If you never get to see the person, then what's the point?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Long distance relacionship (in the same country) can & do work...i'ts the resulting marriage that can often fail lol"

Snap!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."

bleedin hope so.

we have been in one for just coming up to 3 1/2 years now.

still mad about each other

still live in different countires

doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "

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By *rincessKinkyWoman
over a year ago

Basildon

I think they can very much work. I have just started a secondary relationship with someone who lives about 2hrs away by car.

I believe, as others have said, if you put the effort into communication and making time for each other it can work.

As long as you are both happy then distance is only a small hurdle.

Skype is a god send in these situations!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well another country A no no iv had a long distance relationship lasted 2 years we seen each other every other weekend i had no problems we even talked about living together and was 250 miles apart

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

This one is the UK and Canada "

So was mine

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."

It didn't work for me and he lived in Wilmslow! Every Friday travelling to Wilmslow, returning late Sunday meant other relationships suffered and my pockets got a beating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine did, met first hubbie, in Ibiza when I was 18, I was a yorkie, he was a scouser. I moved to Liverpool after we commuted for approx a year, we where married for 19 yrs. it worked for us, back then. Although now, I do wish I'd holidayed elsewhere! Twonk!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My ex husband was a yank stationed in Germany i ended up flying to Germany every other weekend we got married however split up 3 years later....They can work but it has to be both parties putting in the effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

This one is the UK and Canada

So was mine "

What happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

This one is the UK and Canada

So was mine

What happened "

I'm guessing their passports expired!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 4 year long distance relationship when at Uni. So they can work. It all went pear shaped when he moved closer !!!!!!

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

This one is the UK and Canada

So was mine

What happened

I'm guessing their passports expired!... "

I went self employed just before I was due to visit her so couldn't go, she thought I was stringing her along which I wasn't and was reluctant to come over here. All went pear shaped. Had been talking about 4 years.

Too long really but its too far to just pop over for the weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

bleedin hope so.

we have been in one for just coming up to 11 years now.

still mad about each other

still live 70 odd miles apart "most of the time"

doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR

This one is the UK and Canada

So was mine

What happened

I'm guessing their passports expired!...

I went self employed just before I was due to visit her so couldn't go, she thought I was stringing her along which I wasn't and was reluctant to come over here. All went pear shaped. Had been talking about 4 years.

Too long really but its too far to just pop over for the weekend. "

Really sorry to hear that. Hopefully your happy now though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

bleedin hope so.

we have been in one for just coming up to 11 years now.

still mad about each other

still live 70 odd miles apart "most of the time"

doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon

"

was trying to find the post you quoted lol

its mine rewrote lol d'oh!

she lives in Ireland, me in th eUK.

we fly every other week, spend summer holidays together in whichever country.

we would probably kill each other if we lived together lol

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I think they can work especially with todays technology.... Ive had ltr while in the army and living in Turkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "

Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.

Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "

good luck both x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."

Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.

Like all statistics, of course some will work.

What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.

The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.

Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "

Soppy bugger! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.

Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been.

Soppy bugger! Xx"

Yes but this isn't new news!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.

Like all statistics, of course some will work.

What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.

The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home."

The sex was bloody fantastic when we were on the same soil . Ironically when he did live in England, I didn't consider the 270 mile round trip an LDR.

In those that don't work, I'd bet you'll find one put more effort in than the other. Such as my situation. I could sit here and justify it, but it changes nothing.

I would avoid an LDR outside of England in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.

Like all statistics, of course some will work.

What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.

The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home.

The sex was bloody fantastic when we were on the same soil . Ironically when he did live in England, I didn't consider the 270 mile round trip an LDR.

In those that don't work, I'd bet you'll find one put more effort in than the other. Such as my situation. I could sit here and justify it, but it changes nothing.

I would avoid an LDR outside of England in the future."

with you on that one.

knowing how hard it can be now, i would never do this for anyone else.

not in a million years.

they live down the road, or they can feck off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some work some dont mines is glasgow and london we managed 8 yrs so far and still going strong

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.

Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "

Aaah, sounds lovely, a bit like mine except he's a 15 minute drive away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it and would never consider it, especially not different countries, just think there are plenty of hot guys in this country, well somewhere anyway lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.

Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.

Like all statistics, of course some will work.

What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.

The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home."

I know what you mean. I have a friend who looks like a black Pavarotti. His ideal woman is about 5ft, size 6-8, 30-35, no children, no lurking ex-boyfriend, black/mixed race, no weaves/extensions/wigs false nails/lashes, employed, own home and live north of the Thames.

This woman doesn't exist but it's easier for him to say he hasn't found "the one" than chance being knocked back. Rather sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. We managed to make it work and 18 years later we are still together.

Not easy though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought I maybe could but not to be xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "

Thats sooooo cute xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. We managed to make it work and 18 years later we are still together.

Not easy though. "

Your worth it I am 100% sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've literally just finished one 2 weeks before Xmas. The distance was not the problem, she just went tonto on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i dont they do. I had one for a couple years and in the end we just drifted apart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i cant see the point in being in a relationship with someone you only see every now and again, it just don't seem like a relationship to me, but each to their own and I'm sure some make it work i wouldn't like to be with someone who was hundreds of miles away when i needed him and spend more time on the phone than face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally i cant see the point in being in a relationship with someone you only see every now and again, it just don't seem like a relationship to me, but each to their own and I'm sure some make it work i wouldn't like to be with someone who was hundreds of miles away when i needed him and spend more time on the phone than face to face "

thing is, sometimes it works better.

we have both admitted we probably couldnt live together right now at least, as we are both so used to doing our own thing our own way, but we would never want to be without each other, really wouldnt.

its a very strange situation and way to live, but as with those who see each other all the time, you just have to work to make it last

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

maddness to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive tried a few.. all failed but i enjoyed what i had, with those who i shared it with for however long it lasted

would i venture into one again? sensible head says never.. heart is open minded.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

They can work.....but you both have to put in the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can work.....but you both have to put in the effort "

And the effort is worth it. I'm not going to lie and say its an easy thing to do, but it is so worth it. Yes, I wish he was even half an hour closer at times, but I would rather have a long distance relationship with someone who makes me feel the way he does that one with someone local who is less than half the man he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "

Awww that's lovely .

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