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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Away with work for the next few weeks and staying in a hotel. This evening I made use of the jacuzzi and steam room.

Waited for jacuzzi to become free as I got up to go in it so did a man, well we sat down and made polite conversation, there was definite flirting (or maybe I imagined it)

Now obviously I wouldn't have jumped him but I'm curious as to what he would have said if I'd hinted at something. In our polite conversation he did get to know that I'm here with work and he said he lives locally but just uses the leisure facility. I hope to see him again.

Have any of you met people in normal every day places, hit it off and suggested more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - 19 years ago.

We got married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is'nt that normal life or have I missed something and all people have to meet online first these days

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Away with work for the next few weeks and staying in a hotel. This evening I made use of the jacuzzi and steam room.

Waited for jacuzzi to become free as I got up to go in it so did a man, well we sat down and made polite conversation, there was definite flirting (or maybe I imagined it)

Now obviously I wouldn't have jumped him but I'm curious as to what he would have said if I'd hinted at something. In our polite conversation he did get to know that I'm here with work and he said he lives locally but just uses the leisure facility. I hope to see him again.

Have any of you met people in normal every day places, hit it off and suggested more? "

Is this a serious question? Are you saying you find it strange for two people who aren't on a sex site to flirt and possibly engage in sexual activity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So.

Where are you working again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure you've thought this one through love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Away with work for the next few weeks and staying in a hotel. This evening I made use of the jacuzzi and steam room.

Waited for jacuzzi to become free as I got up to go in it so did a man, well we sat down and made polite conversation, there was definite flirting (or maybe I imagined it)

Now obviously I wouldn't have jumped him but I'm curious as to what he would have said if I'd hinted at something. In our polite conversation he did get to know that I'm here with work and he said he lives locally but just uses the leisure facility. I hope to see him again.

Have any of you met people in normal every day places, hit it off and suggested more?

Is this a serious question? Are you saying you find it strange for two people who aren't on a sex site to flirt and possibly engage in sexual activity? "

I must say you took the words out of my mouth there!!! Surely people do this all the time? It's probably how most of us met our partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that how most people meet up and get together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is'nt that normal life or have I missed something and all people have to meet online first these days "

Sorry, I meant rather than through here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes - 19 years ago.

We got married."

Love this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away.."

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure you've thought this one through love. "

Please don't call me love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Away with work for the next few weeks and staying in a hotel. This evening I made use of the jacuzzi and steam room.

Waited for jacuzzi to become free as I got up to go in it so did a man, well we sat down and made polite conversation, there was definite flirting (or maybe I imagined it)

Now obviously I wouldn't have jumped him but I'm curious as to what he would have said if I'd hinted at something. In our polite conversation he did get to know that I'm here with work and he said he lives locally but just uses the leisure facility. I hope to see him again.

Have any of you met people in normal every day places, hit it off and suggested more? "

Sometimes it can be opportunities missed. That is why I live by a 'Fuck it' attitude. Cue witty comments? Hopefully you will see him again and find out where the possibilities may take you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Infact I've seen similar posts by men who have been slated by other posters saying "not every woman is walking round wanting sex or to be propositioned"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure you've thought this one through love.

Please don't call me love!"

Apologies for any offence.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"

Is this a serious question? Are you saying you find it strange for two people who aren't on a sex site to flirt and possibly engage in sexual activity?

I must say you took the words out of my mouth there!!! Surely people do this all the time? It's probably how most of us met our partners."

You want them back? I'm done now

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yes the 7 39 train

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes - 19 years ago.

We got married."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun."

We have lots of fun playing the 'would you?' and 'do you think they would?' games.

But we'd never dare to really approach anyone other than in the safe confines of a club - and even then we don't tend to be the ones that make the first move. Unless red wine is involved..

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By *enny the lip lickerMan
over a year ago

bath bristol


"Yes the 7 39 train "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes the 7 39 train "

Loved that drama

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun.

We have lots of fun playing the 'would you?' and 'do you think they would?' games.

But we'd never dare to really approach anyone other than in the safe confines of a club - and even then we don't tend to be the ones that make the first move. Unless red wine is involved.."

If you're talking about playing as a couple then fair enough.

The OP is referring to a 1-2-1 situation which is every day life and I personally can't fathom what the fuss is about.

Someone catches your eye, you flirt, opportunity missed or not? And.......?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun.

We have lots of fun playing the 'would you?' and 'do you think they would?' games.

But we'd never dare to really approach anyone other than in the safe confines of a club - and even then we don't tend to be the ones that make the first move. Unless red wine is involved..

If you're talking about playing as a couple then fair enough.

The OP is referring to a 1-2-1 situation which is every day life and I personally can't fathom what the fuss is about.

Someone catches your eye, you flirt, opportunity missed or not? And.......?"

that's what I though to be honest. Let's face it, most people you meet in your normal day to day life aren't going to be swingers are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun.

We have lots of fun playing the 'would you?' and 'do you think they would?' games.

But we'd never dare to really approach anyone other than in the safe confines of a club - and even then we don't tend to be the ones that make the first move. Unless red wine is involved..

If you're talking about playing as a couple then fair enough.

The OP is referring to a 1-2-1 situation which is every day life and I personally can't fathom what the fuss is about.

Someone catches your eye, you flirt, opportunity missed or not? And.......?"

We're not joined at the hip!

I don't see your point?

Do we flirt with others when chance permits? Yes

Do we wonder if other people might want a fuck? Yes

Would we ask them outside of a club? No

The same can be repeated for us individually. Well for me - my mind wonders all the time - especially with other women.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I am staying in a hotel these days I tend to arrange meets through Fab, but early on in my career I was surprised at how easy it was to get chatting to men staying in my hotel. Perhaps they saw my potential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's generally how things used to work for me when I was younger. Depends on situation, chemistry and flirting really.

Sadly I'm not sure if I would suggest it these days unless she came on to me pretty strongly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Is this a serious question? Are you saying you find it strange for two people who aren't on a sex site to flirt and possibly engage in sexual activity?

I must say you took the words out of my mouth there!!! Surely people do this all the time? It's probably how most of us met our partners.

You want them back? I'm done now"

That's ok....you can keep them. I can't see a situation when I'm going to need to use them again

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"To be fair I understand what was meant and we've discussed the same. In a club you know what everyone is there for. In a hotel you don't, and so there's sometimes that question of what would happen if you just approached somebody.

When I was younger I was offered a threesome by a couple in a bar. I just laughed - and walked quickly away..

Exactly this, someone who has understood what I meant.

Not everyone wants to be hit on, not everyone is looking etc.

On here you know people are looking for fun.

We have lots of fun playing the 'would you?' and 'do you think they would?' games.

But we'd never dare to really approach anyone other than in the safe confines of a club - and even then we don't tend to be the ones that make the first move. Unless red wine is involved..

If you're talking about playing as a couple then fair enough.

The OP is referring to a 1-2-1 situation which is every day life and I personally can't fathom what the fuss is about.

Someone catches your eye, you flirt, opportunity missed or not? And.......?

We're not joined at the hip!

I don't see your point?

Do we flirt with others when chance permits? Yes

Do we wonder if other people might want a fuck? Yes

Would we ask them outside of a club? No

The same can be repeated for us individually. Well for me - my mind wonders all the time - especially with other women."

Sorry, I'm failing to see what point you're trying to make.

Are you saying as individuals you wonder whether the person you're flirting with would want to fuck you but you wouldn't anyway?

Or are you saying you would fuck them if they wanted to but because you've gotten so used to playing in clubs you've forgotten how the majority of the adult population do things?

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

Thats life..Thats what all the people say..riding high in April,shot down in may. x x X

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I don't go to normal pubs or clubs so have no idea.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"

Is this a serious question? Are you saying you find it strange for two people who aren't on a sex site to flirt and possibly engage in sexual activity?

I must say you took the words out of my mouth there!!! Surely people do this all the time? It's probably how most of us met our partners.

You want them back? I'm done now

That's ok....you can keep them. I can't see a situation when I'm going to need to use them again "

Would it make a difference if I mentioned my intended method of transference?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I can chat and flirt with real people

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just ask him, it's easier than casting your net for him on here in the hope he bites.

Life is too short

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I flirt all the time in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask him, it's easier than casting your net for him on here in the hope he bites.

Life is too short"

Nothing wrong with being a little suggestive incase he didn't fancy risking his spa membership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hurrah for the real world...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Clearly majority have misunderstood what I meant.

I meant normal vanilla world and then this swingers world/open mindedness etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Away with work for the next few weeks and staying in a hotel. This evening I made use of the jacuzzi and steam room.

Waited for jacuzzi to become free as I got up to go in it so did a man, well we sat down and made polite conversation, there was definite flirting (or maybe I imagined it)

Now obviously I wouldn't have jumped him but I'm curious as to what he would have said if I'd hinted at something. In our polite conversation he did get to know that I'm here with work and he said he lives locally but just uses the leisure facility. I hope to see him again.

Have any of you met people in normal every day places, hit it off and suggested more? "

But did you want to jump on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clearly majority have misunderstood what I meant.

I meant normal vanilla world and then this swingers world/open mindedness etc.

"

I sometimes say I'm having a FAB day, just to see if they respond to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, I'm failing to see what point you're trying to make.

Are you saying as individuals you wonder whether the person you're flirting with would want to fuck you but you wouldn't anyway?

Or are you saying you would fuck them if they wanted to but because you've gotten so used to playing in clubs you've forgotten how the majority of the adult population do things? "

This is a swingers site. The clubs we go to are swingers clubs.

At both of those places it's normal for people in relationships to openly approach other people for sex.

I know the boundaries are blurred somewhat on here between swinging and dating, but I believe the original question was with reference to the otherwise unusual behaviour of approaching people directly for sex in a 'normal' environment.

I know people approach people in 'normal life' - I even made the first joke about that bit (see above). But I also understood where the original question was coming from - and replied accordingly (again, see above).

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Sorry, I'm failing to see what point you're trying to make.

Are you saying as individuals you wonder whether the person you're flirting with would want to fuck you but you wouldn't anyway?

Or are you saying you would fuck them if they wanted to but because you've gotten so used to playing in clubs you've forgotten how the majority of the adult population do things?

This is a swingers site. The clubs we go to are swingers clubs.

At both of those places it's normal for people in relationships to openly approach other people for sex.

I know the boundaries are blurred somewhat on here between swinging and dating, but I believe the original question was with reference to the otherwise unusual behaviour of approaching people directly for sex in a 'normal' environment.

I know people approach people in 'normal life' - I even made the first joke about that bit (see above). But I also understood where the original question was coming from - and replied accordingly (again, see above)."

But people approach others for sex in 'normal life' all the time. The process may not be as direct as in here or a swingers club but the OP simply described a situation which to me does not seem out of the ordinary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my younger days I used to frequent folk and jazz clubs. Can't say it happened every weekend, but it HAS occurred that eyes met and collars got hot under and the conversation

was continued elsewhere ...

So yes - there's nothing new under the sun.

Unless I misunderstand entirely, in which case the above never happened.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"In my younger days I used to frequent folk and jazz clubs. Can't say it happened every weekend, but it HAS occurred that eyes met and collars got hot under and the conversation

was continued elsewhere ...

So yes - there's nothing new under the sun.

Unless I misunderstand entirely, in which case the above never happened.

"

Too late, the genie is out

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

If you got up to get into the hot tub

I'd be running to get there too!

;)

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"In my younger days I used to frequent folk and jazz clubs. Can't say it happened every weekend, but it HAS occurred that eyes met and collars got hot under and the conversation

was continued elsewhere ...

So yes - there's nothing new under the sun.

Unless I misunderstand entirely, in which case the above never happened.

"
Nice

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