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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

Far from it. Those people desperate for meets, and always complaining they get no meets, messages or attention must come across as such in their messages.

Desperation is a huge turn off.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I deal with it by bringing up someone's profile and pulling a moony at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

Not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest. Ive met lots of loverly people on here. Its just a case of putting in the work. Being respectfull and knowing that there will be the odd one or two that dont fancy the pants off me and find me totally awsome

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

nope... I am pragmatic and a realistic in that I know I would probably appeal to a small number....

so its all water off a ducks back....

I think a lot of it comes down to the mindset you come in with.... too many think they get by on looks alone and that swingers will shag anything, where as the reality is that it is probably harder because people already have some idea of what they are looking for....

mindset... a healthy dose of cynicism and basic common sense and if it looks too good to be true.. it normally is

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

I'll be honest, yes sometimes I have felt like that but I got over it and these days it happens very rarely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol "

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

No I get many positives from fab.mind body and spirit.its all good.I stay away from any b.s so that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the opposite experience, lots of messages, lots of offers. My confidence has always been healthy, but boosted a lot since joining and meeting some fab men, single , partnered and married straight guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I'm a realist & appreciate that there are loads of us single guys on here, compared to single women/couples. I take knock backs on the chin & move on. I guess the only slightly deflating thing is when you send them a face pic that gets instantly deleted or blocked.

Still it's good to have a chat/laugh with people, thats one of the main reasons i still come on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

I am in a couple and we play separately , it does not bother me that ladies turn me down or ignore messages , no more than it bother Paula when she gets turned down

Now if we were on a dating site as singles we would be out for dates every night, because there is no expectation of sex on first date on dating site, even though it happens a lot lol

It also does not bother either of us if we get turned down as a couple.

Saying that we get more luck going out using the usual place to meet singles than we ever had here. Probably because human beings were not designed to find potential sex partners over the internet.

I think people have too high an expectation of what to expect, from a sex site. And let's face it sex is easy to get , you don't need a sex site to get it.

Feeling rejected has never come into it. I have thought about joining a dating site so we can play fair and both have our fair share of singles, but that would lead to problems with weird stalker thinking they were getting more than a fuck as i like regular friends, and Paula likes different friends each time

Plenty more rats in the sewer

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Never in a million years. It is sex that I seek, not looking to discover a cure for a horrid disease for the world.

If you can't get sex on a swingers site, get a grip of yourself ffs.

The drama it brings to some beggars belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Successful ones seldom complain, on FAB and life in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, this is quite a strange place for me, all in all. Not had a meet here yet, but I'm quite stringent in who I choose. Though for every lady here there's probably 100 men. The numbers are well against ussingle men, I realise this, and I also realise I'm not the best looking bloke ever, though I wouldn't say I thought I was 100% fugly either. I don't get frustrated though, to be honest.

Why?

Well, away from here I had 2 Fbs until quite recently (now down to 1, but she's smoking imo). I've never had any problems getting a girlfriend when I want one, and generally punch well above ny weight. If I go on the pull, I don't usually come back empty handed.

I just don't seem to 'click' on here. I don't understand why, but hell, I like the forums and popping into chat every once in a while. The sex advice can be handy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

No, no and no.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I like the site if anything happens its a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you on with your wolves tickets ???

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

A little but getting used to it

Having fun anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"If you don't like me, then don't look at me,

There must be someone who can take your gaze away"

*fawns*

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I'm guessing, and it seems to be the case, that this thread is hardly likely to attract the "it's not fair on single males" contingent, but those with a more positive experience and/or outlook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river."

Really?

I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!

Only one person - yourself - to worry about, and none of the bullshit women and couples have to deal with on a daily basis!

I wouldn't have it any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river.

Really?

I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!"

Good for them eh?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No... oh, I'm female. Yes, that's right, female, so it isn't a problem for me.

*nods emphatically*

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I'm guessing, and it seems to be the case, that this thread is hardly likely to attract the "it's not fair on single males" contingent, but those with a more positive experience and/or outlook."

The it's not fair brigade are too busy writing "what's wrong with me?" and "why are women/couples so ignorant?" threads

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?"

Masochists. Very horny masochists.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?"

Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah i find fab great. Not all single guys struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?

Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here . "

maybe its a trick to get you to feel sorry for them and take pity on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?

Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here . "

its because you have a sign over your head saying

" can I help you"

quiet often a sympathy shag request works.

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

I love this site and all the women I meet on here.

I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.

My reputation preceeds me.

You have met me chops. You know what I am like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river.

Really?

I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!

Good for them eh? "

As is often said - try clubs and socials - most 'successful' single guys find this a great way to meet people and network.

There's usually plenty going on in all areas. Especially the midlands!

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't do pity shags... I just tell them to stop feeling sorry for themselves and get out and meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. .. Im a guy short of attention and with desperately low self esteem... is there a help group I can join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its frustrating more than anything but only because of the environment your having to work in

most of us will be used to doing this kinda thing in person. the approach, the chat, the initial gauging and shit like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.

Love fab :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

_isscheekychops,perhaps you should volunteer to be the site agony aunt ? Seriously though this site is just one small part of the very big swinging cog. If some males don't understand this fact,then they will probably continue to struggle.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.

Love fab :p"

Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport!

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

It's funny that this thread has almost turned into bragging about how many people they meet/have met and how successful they are.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"_isscheekychops,perhaps you should volunteer to be the site agony aunt ? Seriously though this site is just one small part of the very big swinging cog. If some males don't understand this fact,then they will probably continue to struggle."

Id rather stick hot pokers in my eyes thanks

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I feel sorry for some guys too - you can see how false their expectations are, somehow they believe that all that have to do is show themselves available and a queue will form, and it must be quite a blow to the fragile male ego!!

I talk to a few who cannot accom and have not had meets and they regularly delete their profiles in a fit of pique, even paid up gold members, and then come back again a few days later......shame!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fake profiles that do the harm for single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men do them selves no favours.

the decent blokes do well,and are in demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

Cheeky, the only guys that feel rejected on here are the ones that think they'll join for a quick shag, the genuine single guys that would like to experience the whole scene are here for much more. Unfortunately you read so many posts that tarnishes many of the single males that enjoy the site.

I love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

Not at all of i get rejected which is rare just move on its not what i class as real life more like an extension.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not at all. The ones that feel like that are the ones that bombard everyone with messages and come across as desperate.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

I love this site and all the women I meet on here.

I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.

My reputation preceeds me.

You have met me chops. You know what I am like. "

That's because (and don't get a big head) your easy to talk to and a good laugh. As well as being a cheeky sod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

I love this site and all the women I meet on here.

I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.

My reputation preceeds me.

You have met me chops. You know what I am like. "

God yes

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I work on the theory that I will meet people who want to meet me, why worry about trying to meet the ones that don't want to meet me !

(admittedly the latter outweigh the former about 100- 1)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting your self esteem and confidence in the hands of others is the quickest and sure fire way to ensure that you lose both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.

Love fab :p

Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport! "

I really want to see if i can attach it to a motorcycle helmet for summer :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.

Love fab :p

Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport! "

Mine too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Hi, not really as I know the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"It's funny that this thread has almost turned into bragging about how many people they meet/have met and how successful they are.

"

There is just a very small element of that but it has hardly turned into a bragathon, and does have some very interesting points about positive attitudes and a balanced outlook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "

i am new to this all..

I have tried to speak to a few people some do talk and some dont but i dont feel any rejection as i dont expect anything from sending a message to someone if they wanna talk they will if they dont they wont..

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? Hi, not really as I know the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol."

Where has this 400:1 statistic come from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female here. I give gentle knockbacks unless I get a daft message then I don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone mentioned a sympathy shag... noooooo. Fortunately I have only ever had one beg me. *shudder*

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?

No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.

Love fab :p

Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport!

I really want to see if i can attach it to a motorcycle helmet for summer :p"

If you do, can I request a meet now? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone mentioned a sympathy shag... noooooo. Fortunately I have only ever had one beg me. *shudder*"

You promised you wouldn't mention it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol "

That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here."

There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here.

There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group."

Wasn't slagging any group of people off eh? I don't get many messages off single guys. So I'm saying it as I see it, if thats ok?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

if you ladies are getting so many messages and looking at them on phones its hardly a wonder many guys get ignored .. answering twenty .. thirty or more invites would take all night .. thats if you actually even see them .. so the your inboxes just get a bulk delete ..also there should be a little marker guys can use so they could highlight or put a blob on a no thankyou profile to act as a reminder what happened last time we sent a message ... i actually chat occasionally not asking for a meet at all

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"It's fake profiles that do the harm for single guys "

nope... thats too easy a kop out.. and leave the blame for any failures elsewhere.....

for example... a female friend advertised for an afternoon social and got a fair few replies saying they would be there... so how many of those people showed up.... me!!!

sometimes people are there own worst enemy...

as someone else said... this site in itself is one small piece of the swinging jigsaw... and I probably use it more for networking then actual meets now.. but it means that if some event or party comes up more chance of me being invited....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

god it's hard work but someone has to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On average I turn down around 3 meets a week, I just don't have the inclination to meet more than about twice a month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol

That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here.

There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group."

That's why the word some was used ...

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