FabSwingers.com forum: Real names

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain lol have done that myself

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

That happens to me. I am great with faces and once a name is logged to that face I can't change it when they give me their real name.

In fact, I am much more likely to remember their username and as some know that's what I call them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the private note thing on their profile

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I did it the other day. Had to go ask someone else

unusual for me, I'm normally pretty good.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I did it the other day. Had to go ask someone else

unusual for me, I'm normally pretty good. "

I hope you weren't at the whispering sweet nothings stage of a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile "

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

Me too sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

Me too sometimes

So pleased it's not me. Been seeing him weekly for a few months lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

Oh might just do that. Or check his wallet out lol !!!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I can never remember names or faces and a night out for me usually involves a shockingly large number of people chatting to me who know me, but whom I can't remember for the life of me. I then play a guessing game, dropping out hints and gambits to get clues as to who the person is and how I know them. Think guess who but without beards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

Just call him darling.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Just do what i do....and say what's your name again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not appropriate on this site but a good trick outside (real life/work place) is to justcask them what their name is and when they answer say "no sorry, I meant your surname". This way there is no chance they will get offended.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I did it the other day. Had to go ask someone else

unusual for me, I'm normally pretty good.

I hope you weren't at the whispering sweet nothings stage of a meet.

No it hadn't gone quite that far Gloria.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

If its Florence and Fred you then have 2 options....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I did it the other day. Had to go ask someone else

unusual for me, I'm normally pretty good.

I hope you weren't at the whispering sweet nothings stage of a meet.

No it hadn't gone quite that far Gloria. "

I did once call someone the name I remember at a heated moment and not his real name. He got a little cross and we had a different heated moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am really awful with names, it takes me ages to remember,

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

If its Florence and Fred you then have 2 options...."

It won't help if it says T.M. Lewin.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

If its Florence and Fred you then have 2 options....

It won't help if it says T.M. Lewin."

Or John Lewis

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I am really awful with names, it takes me ages to remember,

I can remember yours easily, as I only know one other person who shares it

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I sometimes forget where I am mid- ooh a chicken sandwich would be lovely about now.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

Wouldn't work with me. Mine says 12-14

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am really awful with names, it takes me ages to remember,

I can remember yours easily, as I only know one other person who shares it "

there's someone else with my name

oh no!!

But thanks Bob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He needs a more memorable name.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

I call my wife "hun" because I can't remember her name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

Wouldn't work with me. Mine says 12-14"

You're a bit young for this site ain't you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

Wouldn't work with me. Mine says 12-14"

Are you ok about me abbreviating it to 12?

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

I'll help you......first name BRAD, surname PITT....username? who cares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always give meets a pet name to suit their personality or body, and explain from message two that I don't wish to know their real name.

I can remember around 50 pet names when I see their body or hear their voice, but could never remember real names.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

Wouldn't work with me. Mine says 12-14

You're a bit young for this site ain't you. "

It's ok. I log off at 9pm before the dirty minded come in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

If its Florence and Fred you then have 2 options....

It won't help if it says T.M. Lewin.

Or John Lewis"

Or George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

Then she may be calling him "st michael"

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?"

she's going out with St Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Use the private note thing on their profile

I would but how do I ask him again what his name is?

Read the name tag in the back of his shirt?

If its Florence and Fred you then have 2 options....

It won't help if it says T.M. Lewin.

Or John Lewis

Or George "

Ben Sherman?

If you've got his number you can always try a good trick!

Wait til he next messages and then send him a reply saying "hi - my phone's lost all it's numbers due to an incident with the loo/washing machine/dog. Not sure who this is so can you text me your name! Ta!"

*i have never done this before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just do what i do....and say what's your name again...

That's what I do and the twinge of embarrassment helps me to to remember their name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Im crap at names.

Im one of those that gets a name stuck & then i get in a tizz trying to remember their username or vice versa.

I used to be a sod for dropping real names on this forum

Especially when people have 3 names

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I always want to call people their user name as i identify them by it, I was at a social just before Christmas and i kept doing just that

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Send them a mail on fab saying you have lost your mobile, and ask them to send you a text so you have their number again

tell them that your having to ask a lot of people to text you, so can he also put his name in the text

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it."

I don't mind being called Lickety. I put Amy Gdala as my name and I do get confused being called Amy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good job i use my real name then if people are that forgetfull

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I actually have a real problem remembering faces. Unless I know someone quite well, I can't usually remember or recognise their face. If I am expecting to see them somewhere I might recognise them, but it's not guaranteed. If I see them out of context I may not recognise them at all. The chance of me recognising a stranger from a photo is slim.

It can be very embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hope he don't read the forums kol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I actually have a real problem remembering faces. Unless I know someone quite well, I can't usually remember or recognise their face. If I am expecting to see them somewhere I might recognise them, but it's not guaranteed. If I see them out of context I may not recognise them at all. The chance of me recognising a stranger from a photo is slim.

It can be very embarrassing."

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it."

Yes, depends on the name but it's a bit of weird. I think I'd cringe if someone called me mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

I don't mind being called Lickety. I put Amy Gdala as my name and I do get confused being called Amy.

i guess being called 'cute' or 'sassy' isn't offensive and could be sweet when in a public venue, but one on one intimately its just odd for me.

im sure a lot of the regulars know my real name and even in the forums ive no issues with people calling me by this, but i do get a little bit confused when people ive never spoke to call me by my real name. thats over familiarization.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it."

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I met a bloke from here and we exchanged 'names' I've called him this name now for about five years.

About three/four years ago he put me in touch with a lady friend of his.

She was not happy and proceeded to tell me his real name and a little more besides.

I still call him by the first name he gave me even tho I now know his real name and he knows I do. He has ALWAYS been that name to me and it's nicer than his real name

I never told him my real name tho and he still calls me by my pretend real name.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It can be very embarrassing.

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

Yes, always.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

I don't mind being called Lickety. I put Amy Gdala as my name and I do get confused being called Amy.

i guess being called 'cute' or 'sassy' isn't offensive and could be sweet when in a public venue, but one on one intimately its just odd for me.

I find it over-familiar when people shorten my real name without invitation but it happens a lot here.

At choir last night we had a new warm up where we had to sing our first and last names to different notes. At seven syllables I was still singing when everyone else was silent. Thankfully we didn't have to include middles names.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

Sorry but I couldn't say hand on heart I know your name.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It can be very embarrassing.

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

Yes, always. "

Prosopagnosia is not as rare as once thought but it's still only something like 1.5 or 2% of people.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

Sorry but I couldn't say hand on heart I know your name.

I can't remember yours! I think of you as Lickety. Some names stick, some people suit their screen name better.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

Sorry but I couldn't say hand on heart I know your name.

I rest my case

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It can be very embarrassing.

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

Yes, always.

Prosopagnosia is not as rare as once thought but it's still only something like 1.5 or 2% of people.

I didn't know it had a name. I've never investigated it. It's bloody annoying and can be very embarrassing.

Still, rare and unusual, that sounds about right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does anyone else feel a little bit odd when being called their username once youve met someone?

even speaking on the phone im not a fan of it.

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

is it because _ezebel is an actual name rather than a verb? i actually like the name

if your username was something like 'squirter big norks' i think its unlikely a person with more than a brain cell would shout that across a packed public bar to get your attention lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It can be very embarrassing.

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

Yes, always.

Prosopagnosia is not as rare as once thought but it's still only something like 1.5 or 2% of people.

I could probably walk past you, or Ryan in the street tomorrow and not recognise you. I have walked past friends in various places numerous times. I've just got a reputation as a bit vague and off in my own little world but it's actually that I really don't recognise faces well.

It was a nightmare at a family funeral earlier in the year. Fortunately a lot of people wrote it off as grief.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Not me, nearly everyone Ive met in the flesh from the forums still calls me jez so Im used to it now

Sorry but I couldn't say hand on heart I know your name.

I rest my case

If we ever share a bed I will be a lady and ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone tells me one name and it changes down the line I'll continue to call them what they originally told me their name was.....I can't help it

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It can be very embarrassing.

Have you always had bad facial recognition? It's not a common trait.

Yes, always.

Prosopagnosia is not as rare as once thought but it's still only something like 1.5 or 2% of people.

It was a nightmare at a family funeral earlier in the year. Fortunately a lot of people wrote it off as grief."

I know there is a test for it but I don't know if there are any exercises you can do to improve it.

I don't forget faces but I can't always put a name to them. Luckily someone I had met with others recognised me at a tube station and remembered my name. He is a very consistent and satisfying meet.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

is it because _ezebel is an actual name rather than a verb? i actually like the name

if your username was something like 'squirter big norks' i think its unlikely a person with more than a brain cell would shout that across a packed public bar to get your attention lol"

True, only very close friends get to call me that. Its my Sunday name .

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If someone tells me one name and it changes down the line I'll continue to call them what they originally told me their name was.....I can't help it

That's an interesting money shot, Jo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it because _ezebel is an actual name rather than a verb? i actually like the name

if your username was something like 'squirter big norks' i think its unlikely a person with more than a brain cell would shout that across a packed public bar to get your attention lol

True, only very close friends get to call me that. Its my Sunday name ."

sorry didnt mean to blurt it out SBN

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I have a friend from another site who had quite a rude screen name, (she's since changed it). The look on her face when I first met her in person, when she had to introduce herself and tell me who she is on the site, was priceless!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

is it because _ezebel is an actual name rather than a verb? i actually like the name

if your username was something like 'squirter big norks' i think its unlikely a person with more than a brain cell would shout that across a packed public bar to get your attention lol

True, only very close friends get to call me that. Its my Sunday name .

sorry didnt mean to blurt it out SBN

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I'm hopeless with names. Worst is when I get a text out of the blue saying things like;'Hi it's Dave. We met ages ago. How are you?'

I never have a bloody clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met someone I few times now and he told me his real name but can I remember it. Nope !! Is that bad. I've a memory like a ..... You no the thingy with holes in lol!!!

Me too sometimes

So pleased it's not me. Been seeing him weekly for a few

months lol

Lucky you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think many of my meets have actually used my real name to my face

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

I was just looking through my contacts list on my phone . I don't know if people use their real names or an AKA . It can be very confusing . I found 20 Jon - John - Johnny's and 18 Steve - Steven - Stephen's . Hard to remember who's who . Especially as most of them have given out their number willly nilly , but never keep in touch .

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

I thing if people are texting you after a long period of time has past they should add their profile name and where they are from , they shouldn't assume you will remember them . I had one on fab recently from a guy I met 10 years ago . At first I didn't recognise him from any of the pictures that he sent or his name as he'd change it fro Ed to Eddie . I was baffled . If he had said where he was from and a little about himself I would have remembered and known him right away. I was embarrassed to say " I don't remember you . Who are you ? " I think he thought I was kidding .

Anyway he resent some pics with and more realistic head shot and I do actually remember this guy . Will have to find a way to make it up to him , maybe he will forgive me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real name is on my profile. Why use an alias?

I would probably forget it too if I did. lol

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