FabSwingers.com forum: Ok ask a silly question :/

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Un verified people, how do you feel would you give them a chance?

Having been duped, in the past, New user, sent face pic. Perhaps I'm being a little harsh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll only consider profiles with one proper meet verification

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It's on my profile that I don't meet anyone unverified. May not seem fair but been let down before and won't repeat it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe meet at a social and then you have an escape route and others to chat to if he a minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the least, newbies without face pics not a chance in hell of getting a reply from me after past experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a problem with guys who aren't verified. .. I always insist on skype and a social first before a meet so if they cant manage that they're not getting any further x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not in the least, newbies without face pics not a chance in hell of getting a reply from me after past experiences

She sent a face pic pp

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X"

That's what I would do!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

My thoughts also seems so genuine, but unfortunately have become very cynical

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I've met unverifieds before. They have to get the first one somehow. Mind you I cammed with them and spoke to them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

this.... Depends how long they have not been verified for also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

My thoughts also seems so genuine, but unfortunately have become very cynical

I'd say go with your instinct then x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have met unverified peeps before, but always on my own patch. Only been let down once in 6 yrs but at least I knew where the nearest pub was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd ask to see plenty of pics, webcam and chat on the phone. Doesn't guarantee they will turn up or be sane but verifications don't guarantee that either xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in the least, newbies without face pics not a chance in hell of getting a reply from me after past experiences

She sent a face pic pp "

At the end of the day its your choice if you feel you've done the right thing then there's no need to worry. How many have you blocked and deleted in the past and thought nothing about doing it. Same principle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met both unverified and verified in the past, so long as I get a face picture, I don't mind meeting either as being verified doesn't necessarily mean they won't take the piss ie not turn up etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Un verified people, how do you feel would you give them a chance?

Having been duped, in the past, New user, sent face pic. Perhaps I'm being a little harsh?"

I would say there are more problematic people (which includes dangerous people, time wasters, deceivers) that are varied than aren't. In reality its better to keep an open mind if someone has an interesting profile pictures its not a big thing to exchange messages or chat on the phone an you should really be trusting your own assessment on someone than a scarification penned by who knows who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification is one factor for me.

At first I met a verified couple. Went on a meet and it was the husband wanting to watch me masturbate.

Found out he was doing it behind his wife's back.

Now I try to chat, phone and social meet before I decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've met unverifieds before. They have to get the first one somehow. Mind you I cammed with them and spoke to them first. "

Yes I remember being *new* and how difficult it was, hence I'm all for giving people, a chance, but as a couple to be messaged out of the blue by a cutie, alarm bells start ringing, normally I'd delete... But on this occasion something tells me otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block unverified from messaging us but aren't opposed to messaging them if the profile catches our eye. We make it clear that we only really only meet at clubs or kink events so we aren't at risk of wasting a night if they don't show. We don;t do phone or webchat to verify people as we trust our gut instincts.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Got no problem meeting unverified people. We were all there once. Maybe take a bit more time getting to know then etc time wasters can be verified too.

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

"Got no problem meeting unverified people. We were all there once. Maybe take a bit more time getting to know then etc time wasters can be verified too. "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I've had some cracking meets with unverified guys, and met some very well verified people who have acted like total shits!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok!!! If she sells seashells on the sea shore, what does he sell????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are looking for the village bike, verifications are usefull, because you are more likely to get a shag, if you want discretion, avoid people who give and show verifications, that is my personal rule, words are very cheap, its actions that are important, a promise means nothing till it is delivered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a woodchucker could chuck wood

how much wood would a woodchucker chuck , if a woodchucker could chuck wood?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's encouraging to see some sensible, balanced opinions as well as the usual "closed doors". I'm not rushing to get a verification in order to be able to meet people with that attitude. Everyone has to start somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X"

I'd speak to her on the phone then meet for a coffee. Ask her to get in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have to start somewhere so we don't discount unverified people.

We were lucky that we had swung with people in clubs before joining fab so they happily verified us, so did it the opposite way to some.

Mrs Z also met a new and unverified couple but our instincts were satisfied first. It was pretty apparent that the couple although new were genuine and a female to female phonecall and full contact details further put our mind at rest.

Instincts more important and a bit of common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's on my profile that I don't meet anyone unverified. May not seem fair but been let down before and won't repeat it."

We will arrange to meet up when we were ona night out anyway, but wouldn't make special arrangements as they don't turn up or if they do have to get home to wifey by 8 pm lol

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We had a single female message us last week which we find unusual and after 2 short messages they never came back to us. Gut feeling felt right as she was a hottie looking at her single pic. Don't think she would have been interested in us with all the super hot couples and singles available

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the mixed responses, the long and short of it, she would like a natter on the phone. So we shall see. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

I'd speak to her on the phone then meet for a coffee. Ask her to get in touch.

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

I'd speak to her on the phone then meet for a coffee. Ask her to get in touch.

We would do or ask for something similar. At the end of the say if somebody approaches Us/you with a view to meeting it is in their best interests to prove they are genuine if they want to meet.

Appreciate people get messed around on here on all time, we've learnt to go with our gut instinct and it hasn't let us down yet!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I've met unverifieds before. They have to get the first one somehow. Mind you I cammed with them and spoke to them first.

I am not sure why you have 'alarm bells' because she is a cutie. Do you only respond to and or contact people who you deem to be not cute? What do you risk in chatting/camming? You both might just be her type and if its a guy you'll soon find out. Just curious that's all, not judgment on my part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some cracking meets with unverified guys, and met some very well verified people who have acted like total shits!!"

We seem to live along similar lines, FM

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I decline based on no recent met in person veri's; whether male or female.

Women do seem to get the hump more than men though

Just because they are women, doesn't give them a right to change my profile stated preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been let down a couple of times... by verified people

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X"

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"If you are looking for the village bike, verifications are usefull, because you are more likely to get a shag, if you want discretion, avoid people who give and show verifications, that is my personal rule, words are very cheap, its actions that are important, a promise means nothing till it is delivered."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met unverifed guys in the past, but insist a) on sufficient conversation here/cam/phone to feel comfortable about them. Time wasters normally get bored quickly; b) face pics; c) a social, no expectations meet first, in a public place, normally a coffee shop, no alcohol!

If he/she looks too good to be true they probably are.

Not had any problems thus far, and only one no show, who did text me in good time to apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met unverifieds before. They have to get the first one somehow. Mind you I cammed with them and spoke to them first.

if 'she' is genuine and interested then there should be no problem talking on the phone to verify.....Someone gave all of us our first chance. I have done the same with others (even other guys) by allowing them to attend my parties or socials. Had very few problems that and met some lovely people that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

"'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it. "

Must agree....

and what's happening on Tuesday?

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By *at2Couple
over a year ago

north Down

"Not in the least, newbies without face pics not a chance in hell of getting a reply from me after past experiences

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it.

Must agree....

and what's happening on Tuesday? "

Special time with a special pwrson

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've met unverifieds before. They have to get the first one somehow. Mind you I cammed with them and spoke to them first.

Well hello bambers and welcome back x firstly, no we do not only respond too people we deem to be *not cute* that would make us very shallow, something i feel we arent, if there is no attraction/connection between all parties then I guess we don't.

It's just strange to be contacted by a lovely woman out of the blue. Most of the ladies I natter to on here are through the forums, and there is a genuine connection, between all parties. Be it sexually or otherwise.

Guess I was a little dubious... There's a lot of yummy couples out there. And we know what we are... And in laymans terms *we ain't all that*

Hope this settles your curiosity a little x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I had a good feeling about them, I'd give them a chance. We were all unverified once

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it. "

I actually meant a photo verification

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it.

I actually meant a photo verification

But that's not what you said

I can only respond to the actual words you write.

And to be fair I'd still think you were up your own whatsit telling me to get photo verified. I use this site how I want to use it, not how a potential meet wants me to. If that loses me a meet, so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely meet an unverified person.

I'm pretty strict about who I meet anyway, so they would have to have already done enough to convince me they were genuine and worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thankyou for your replies, guess I know the answer, shes either genuine or very clever. I really don't know. Have told her to get back in contact when she's verified. X

And if I were her I'd block you while laughing my head off!! How patronizing does that sound?

'I like you dear but I think you're a fake. Go away and fuck someone else, ask them to verify you then come back to me and I'll be interested'

Might not be the way you intended it to come across but it's how I would see it.

I actually meant a photo verification

But that's not what you said

I can only respond to the actual words you write.

Fair do,s it was a suggestion, not a demand. But like you say people are free to use the site, the way they deem fit, each to their own.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I meet with single, unverified men frequently but as it's always for a social, that's not a problem.

In fact, I've had more messing around by verified guys than anyone else.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I meet unverified people, but then its rare for people to pretend to be a single man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I meet unverified people, but then its rare for people to pretend to be a single man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thanks for your constructive criticism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always insist on a number for a fem to fem phone chat. If they make excuses they get blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what ever you think is best. You can use your prefrence/filters to stop unverified and newbies contacting you. Personally I've met both and other than one not knowing the concept of a 'social' they were ok x

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

have met unverified guys without any issue

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