FabSwingers.com forum: Liking someone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have to be confident a man wants to meet ME, and isn't meeting me out of convenience. Also because I'm looking for men I can enjoy a natter to as well as enjoy sex with, I want to try new things and need to build some form of trust to do so due to my past so prefer those who meet semi regularly.

Are you the kind of person that is honest about liking someone and wanting to see them again or do you drop hints and just avoid arranging to meet?

I'm quite easy to read, if I don't quite like a person it is obvious, I'm not nasty but go quite cold. If I didn't want to see a person I just tell them.

Just curious.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If I'm chatting and have sent a face pic then I'm interested. But I do like a confident assertive man who takes charge so will generally wait for him to ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i drop hints if i am not interested in meeting someone but they dont take them.

i might tell them they arent my type but they still keep messaging me because they think i will change my mind. i wouldnt tell them i dont really like them though.

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends."

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case."

Thats all well and good, but i could go without sex for months if i waited for the right man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally there needs to be a connection before i can play, that's both physically and mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case."

I quite like men who will fuck anything with a pulse because those types of men have a very high sex drive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case.

I quite like men who will fuck anything with a pulse because those types of men have a very high sex drive.

The problem being the 'any hole is a goal' brigade tend to be more concerned about their own 'release' than their company!

So many Pandas!!

(Eats, shoots and leaves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case.

I quite like men who will fuck anything with a pulse because those types of men have a very high sex drive.

The problem being the 'any hole is a goal' brigade tend to be more concerned about their own 'release' than their company!

So many Pandas!!

(Eats, shoots and leaves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case.

I quite like men who will fuck anything with a pulse because those types of men have a very high sex drive.

The problem being the 'any hole is a goal' brigade tend to be more concerned about their own 'release' than their company!

So many Pandas!!

(Eats, shoots and leaves!

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the old ones are the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case."

Chemistry is the key to great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the social aspect is as important as any sex. Rapport is key for me in relaxing, letting go and really enjoying giving and receiving pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill be honest they usually say 'Id like to see you again' or Ill mention it. With the way I meet I usually try to meet for an hour before meeting for sex anyway - that way Ive kissed them and Ill know whether there is a spark

There are men on here who will sleep with lots of different women there are some that only want a select few

I love the social side of it - so in this incarnation of me I decided to meet through the forums ... but thats harder because I don't like the stepping on toes and it can cause hassle - LOTS

Im honest without hurting feelings but Im a lot like you - I don't want to meet someone who likes ' pick n mix'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men want to meet women for sex, it doesnt matter to me too much if they like me or not, im on here for the same thing not to make friends.

Everyone is different, have noticed many who enjoy the social aspect too.

And as I'm not a blow up doll I'm not into men who will fuck anything with a pulse, nor will I fuck a man where I don't feel some chemistry as I'd rather use my toys if that is the case.

I quite like men who will fuck anything with a pulse because those types of men have a very high sex drive.

I'd have to disagree with you there. Not all men with high sex drives will fuck anything with a pulse. But if that was the case I'd keep well clear and have done many a time. I like to think there's more to me than just a pulse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many Pandas!!

(Eats, shoots and leaves!

Oh love that

never heard it b4 ... Will be using that one from now on

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"If I'm chatting and have sent a face pic then I'm interested. But I do like a confident assertive man who takes charge so will generally wait for him to ask me.

I don't really ask for meets, I wait for peeps to ask me, as I never like to appear pushy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ill be honest they usually say 'Id like to see you again' or Ill mention it. With the way I meet I usually try to meet for an hour before meeting for sex anyway - that way Ive kissed them and Ill know whether there is a spark

There are men on here who will sleep with lots of different women there are some that only want a select few

I love the social side of it - so in this incarnation of me I decided to meet through the forums ... but thats harder because I don't like the stepping on toes and it can cause hassle - LOTS

Im honest without hurting feelings but Im a lot like you - I don't want to meet someone who likes ' pick n mix'

I like to meet through the forums and do worry about stepping on toes, it has stopped me mailing people in the past

I've only met 4 through the forums, and don't feel bothered about who else they meet in the forums as long as I'm sure they like me for me, respect me and don't play me off with others as I like some girlies in here and don't want to fall out because of a man.

Meeting through forums is different as people build friendships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet those who have the any hole's a goal mentality.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I meet people I think I'll like, and I hope they'll like me. Its usually quite easy to pick up the fact they are bored of chatting and just want to get the kit off.

However I do NSA meets, rarely meet again, so I don't expect a huge connection. As long as we get on that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ask if they want a meet , if they don't move on to someone else.

Plenty of others that they can email endlessly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because there are so many new things I want to try I need some connection and trust as I couldn't just meet any man and try those things.

Some people can but I couldn't.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I can understand your post. I never came on here to fall for someone it came as quite a shock at the time.

If I look to date I go on a dating site. If I want to swing I am on here. That clears up that aspect in my mind.

As for guys. I want a guy to meet me for attraction, chemistry and connection. Thats in the swing world.

In the dating world we need to have far much more than that.

I think you need to be honest with yourself about what you want from the guy and if he wants that too. There are guys who are happy to meet someone a couple of times while also keeping up sexy communication with others (building up to a future meet). But that is the name of the game for a lot.

So ask yourself is this person a possible swing meet or more. If its a swing meet you would have already established that you like each other. If its possibly more...be careful asyou need to nnaturally protect your heart.

Hope you solve your riddle xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can understand your post. I never came on here to fall for someone it came as quite a shock at the time.

If I look to date I go on a dating site. If I want to swing I am on here. That clears up that aspect in my mind.

As for guys. I want a guy to meet me for attraction, chemistry and connection. Thats in the swing world.

In the dating world we need to have far much more than that.

Hope you solve your riddle xx"

That makes sense, I am completely upfront and let men know I am just looking for a select few men to see regularly to explore my sexual side and enjoy being friends with too.

At the same time I let them know I don't want a relationship and they can see who they like as long as they respect me at the time they are with me, if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the social side as well and prefer more than a "one off" as i think the sex gets better when you learn to trust someone and get to know what they like and visa versa. What i dont like is the "pushy guy" who continually bombards you with "when when when" ? If im fit and able then alls good but that can change daily. Im always honest in when im able but some guys still wish to disbelieve and think your giving them bullshite...their choice....so they tend to "hit the dust" pretty quickly. Im lucky in that i have a "friend" that ive known for over 6 yrs and he is my best mate....We meet when time and all the usual shite allows and he knows my circumstances and makes allowances. And, he takes precedence over anyone else.

If guys i chat to dont have patience, then they are not for me.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I can understand your post. I never came on here to fall for someone it came as quite a shock at the time.

If I look to date I go on a dating site. If I want to swing I am on here. That clears up that aspect in my mind.

As for guys. I want a guy to meet me for attraction, chemistry and connection. Thats in the swing world.

In the dating world we need to have far much more than that.

Hope you solve your riddle xx

That makes sense, I am completely upfront and let men know I am just looking for a select few men to see regularly to explore my sexual side and enjoy being friends with too.

At the same time I let them know I don't want a relationship and they can see who they like as long as they respect me at the time they are with me, if that makes sense?

Surely you wouldn't meet them if they didn't respect you though. Just be upfront and honest and sure it will be fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest. I'm not the kind of person who asks someone if they would like to meet me. I don't know, i find that a bit pushy on my part. I'm the one usually waiting for someone who i'm speaking to invite me over. Hopefully, from my messages they can tell that i like them and that i would like to meet them; be it social or otherwise.

...like someone said, for me it's that first kiss that dictates what's going to happen. I need that spark from a kiss. That's what gets me going.

Again, i'm not that forward in my approaches. I try to hint and be subtle but that may be where i'm going wrong. Mind you, i'm not in a rush to meet - i prefer to develop a friendship, where we are both comfortable with each other (can be ourselves) and take it from there.

I don't know. I'm still a newbie at the scene. So, not the greatest thing sliced bread but i'm genuine, here for fun and seduction - and i hope that's how people see me as well.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I can understand your post. I never came on here to fall for someone it came as quite a shock at the time.

If I look to date I go on a dating site. If I want to swing I am on here. That clears up that aspect in my mind.

As for guys. I want a guy to meet me for attraction, chemistry and connection. Thats in the swing world.

In the dating world we need to have far much more than that.

Hope you solve your riddle xx

That makes sense, I am completely upfront and let men know I am just looking for a select few men to see regularly to explore my sexual side and enjoy being friends with too.

At the same time I let them know I don't want a relationship and they can see who they like as long as they respect me at the time they are with me, if that makes sense?

Surely you wouldn't meet them if they didn't respect you though. Just be upfront and honest and sure it will be fine x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

Amen to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i had an excellent meet with a guy i used to chat to on the forums, though its normally from messaging etc.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

Amen to that

I know some see the forum members as a type of family but.....well.....no.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Is he likely to read this thread

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

Amen to that

I know some see the forum members as a type of family but.....well.....no."

It might of been the wrong word choice but I could not think of another word to be honest...it's hard to explain what I mean I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

Amen to that

I know some see the forum members as a type of family but.....well.....no."

Its not about ' family' in my mind its more that I don't want to lay down with someone that someone else I know and talk to has as well

Theres only so much sharing I like to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is he likely to read this thread

"Used" to....is the operative word ...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I live the forums and I like most that use the forums...I may even fancy a few and probably would like to sleep with a few too...however sometimes it's like swap shop on here...you can see as plain as day who is meeting who and when. ( I've been guilty of that too in the past) then you know when they have had sex...then they move into the next person and the cycle begins again...it's just my observation so I maybe completely wrong..,

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

A lot of my meets have been forum related as I like to get an insight in to them first. The forum is an ideal place to do that. It also gives me the ability to steer clear of drama as well. Can't be doing with the handbag swinging.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"A lot of my meets have been forum related as I like to get an insight in to them first. The forum is an ideal place to do that. It also gives me the ability to steer clear of drama as well. Can't be doing with the handbag swinging. "

That is true Ryan....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I live the forums and I like most that use the forums...I may even fancy a few and probably would like to sleep with a few too...however sometimes it's like swap shop on here...you can see as plain as day who is meeting who and when. ( I've been guilty of that too in the past) then you know when they have had sex...then they move into the next person and the cycle begins again...it's just my observation so I maybe completely wrong..,"

I have seen it too, but I am guilty of it too so tend to just smile at it. I haven't been to any socials etc so I guess I'm not as into it as others are as such x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree.. i get this place is about nsa but sometimes its not quite that easy to just switch off. I wont meet folk from my town as its too close to home for my liking and now as i get chatting to people from the forums i kinda see it that way too.

this is more my issue than anyone else's but i just think 'oh dear' when you can read so openly who's shagging who and its a complete turn off.. each to their own though and yes we all have our own ways of using here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely this only applies to a small group of forum regulars

I'm relatively new to the forum and haven't noticed the patterns yet but have seen 'the love-ins' in some of the threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its also why i wont attend socials.. all you gotta do is have a bit of history with one person and the rest of the pack are instantly against you or have pre concieved idea's of what you may be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met and slept with one Forumite and it worked out very well. I'd meet him again as we kept in touch while I took a four month break from here. However, I'm not sure I'd meet many others from the Forums to be honest for fear of treading on toes. I'd meet for coffee if anyone found themselves in my neck of the woods, which is highly unlikely and I'd possibly mail someone for the same reason if I was visiting somewhere.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Surely this only applies to a small group of forum regulars

I'm relatively new to the forum and haven't noticed the patterns yet but have seen 'the love-ins' in some of the threads

Sometimes it's not plain as day but it's little bits here and tree that you can see...some even post on here when they are together..however it's their choice and none of my business who does what where....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There are some 'single' male profiles that post on the forum that are anything but single with their FBs. They are the ones I won't set up a meet with. Not worth the chance that I'll suddenly become Fab poison because I stepped on someone elses toes. It doesn't matter whether they say they still play alone - you can tell which ones are out of bounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its also why i wont attend socials.. all you gotta do is have a bit of history with one person and the rest of the pack are instantly against you or have pre concieved idea's of what you may be like. "

Really....I have to say I didn't expect to hear this comment from you.. updating my perspective on the forum rapidly now....

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over a year ago

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I've met and slept with one Forumite and it worked out very well. I'd meet him again as we kept in touch while I took a four month break from here. However, I'm not sure I'd meet many others from the Forums to be honest for fear of treading on toes. I'd meet for coffee if anyone found themselves in my neck of the woods, which is highly unlikely and I'd possibly mail someone for the same reason if I was visiting somewhere. "

I get totally where you are coming fro legs. Social meets yes I'd happily meet loads for a coffee...the forums have been part of me for 3 years so I've spoken to so many people I'd love to meet...I had an experience where I got pissing up the lamp post messages from someone and it put me off completely....

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Ah boo! I'd love to meet you at a social. I think you'd be a right laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surely this only applies to a small group of forum regulars

I'm relatively new to the forum and haven't noticed the patterns yet but have seen 'the love-ins' in some of the threads

I don't understand posting on here while with someone in the forums, I don't come on FAB when on a meet regardless of if they use the forums.

The exception to that was NYE, I wanted to say HNY to everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest. I'm not the kind of person who asks someone if they would like to meet me. I don't know, i find that a bit pushy on my part. I'm the one usually waiting for someone who i'm speaking to invite me over. Hopefully, from my messages they can tell that i like them and that i would like to meet them; be it social or otherwise.

...like someone said, for me it's that first kiss that dictates what's going to happen. I need that spark from a kiss. That's what gets me going.

I don't know. I'm still a newbie at the scene. So, not the greatest thing sliced bread but i'm genuine, here for fun and seduction - and i hope that's how people see me as well.

That's pretty much verbatim what I would have said. Thanks for saving me the time.

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over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Unfortunately that is the risk when a relationship is played out online. It would be lovely to think it might be for keeps, but sometimes its not. However I would never 'take sides' and assume that one person was in the wrong. Things aren't always clear to the people you don't take into your confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh now that makes sense I've seen that too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah boo! I'd love to meet you at a social. I think you'd be a right laugh.

quite a few id like to meet.. you being one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so so true you speak many truths handsome

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to clarify i didnt mean a relationship but just even have a personal spat or bit of conflict for whatever reason..

your hardly going to be welcomed with loving arms to a social if your blocked by the organizer (just using that as an example)..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"your hardly going to be welcomed with loving arms to a social if your blocked by the organizer (just using that as an example).. "

That is a problem yes, and I would be a bit peeved about that too. However I am off to the Xtasia social and can bet there are a few people going who think I am a total twerp on here. I am sure it won't affect my night at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if the majority think the same

Why does it still happen

Maybe we need to ask what the men/women are saying to these people before they start their ' cattle prodding'

Intriguing Id say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A highly informative and educational thread, that confirms lots of my own thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. Sometimes the word 'incestuous' is dropped and, although strong, it does have the ring of truth.

Much as it is denied, there IS a clique/pack mentality - which is only normal, but it can be very daunting and people do get hurt.

I'll steer clear - life is too short. There are ways to get in touch with those who do appeal without getting caught in the mêlée.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of. "

Bloody hell - need to brush up on NLP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A highly informative and educational thread, that confirms lots of my own thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. Sometimes the word 'incestuous' is dropped and, although strong, it does have the ring of truth.

Much as it is denied, there IS a clique/pack mentality - which is only normal, but it can be very daunting and people do get hurt.

I'll steer clear - life is too short. There are ways to get in touch with those who do appeal without getting caught in the mêlée.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Much as it is denied, there IS a clique/pack mentality - which is only normal, but it can be very daunting and people do get hurt.

I'll steer clear - life is too short. There are ways to get in touch with those who do appeal without getting caught in the mêlée.

Yes it's the reply privately button lol x

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over a year ago

Much as it is denied, there IS a clique/pack mentality - which is only normal, but it can be very daunting and people do get hurt.

I'll steer clear - life is too short. There are ways to get in touch with those who do appeal without getting caught in the mêlée.

Yes it's the reply privately button lol x"

Its only my favourite button

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Bloody hell - need to brush up on NLP

Not if you recognised the terminology you don't

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over a year ago

I'll be totally honest here, I had my name down to go to the Forum social in Feb but withdrew for several reasons. Finances being one of them, as getting anywhere from here is a bit of an expensive expedition! Confidence was another and I know many will say that's nonsense and Id have been fine, but that's the way I feel and something I have to deal with.

But another reason was a few things I read in the Forums and I don't mean that in a nasty way although I'm sure many will take it the wrong way.

The Forums are a great place for banter and getting to know people and their outlook, but that can also be a bit intimidating if you're not part of the group that have met previously.

It's NOT the C word as that's not what I'm saying at all but sometimes newbies or occasional posters can feel slightly left out if there's an in joke. This is NOT a criticism in any way shape or form as I will move onto the next thread and carry one.

Anyway, I've gone off the subject slightly, sorry Serendipity but someone mentioned socials so I just thought Id put my point across.

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over a year ago

"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Bloody hell - need to brush up on NLP

Not if you recognised the terminology you don't

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There are probably some on here that dislike me...however it won't stop me going to socials...I speak with who I like and like who I want to...I've never been a follower just because someone is not liked by certain people does not mean I don't have to like them...I often hear 2 sides to every story and make my own judgement

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over a year ago

I've had experience of building up a relationship with someone over a period of a couple of months, getting on really well, then arranging a meet and seeing everything unravel, as in the flesh it was a disaster. This doesn't stop me wanting to take my time to get to know someone first before meeting up, as I have met some great people who I still see from time to time.

I don't tolerate pushy people and won't deviate from a "no immediate meets" rule.

I've never attended a social, and I'm not sure if that's for me. I guess it gives you an immediate "measure" of the people you're dealing with.

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"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of. "

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity?

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over a year ago

But another reason was a few things I read in the Forums and I don't mean that in a nasty way although I'm sure many will take it the wrong way.

The Forums are a great place for banter and getting to know people and their outlook, but that can also be a bit intimidating if you're not part of the group that have met previously.

i wanted to say that but didnt,, but yes i agree.

its lovely that over time people have met and actual friendships have formed but these connections will just increase in strength and you'll all bond and the 'outsiders' even though its an open social,, i still think theres an extent of them and us..

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"I'll be totally honest here, I had my name down to go to the Forum social in Feb but withdrew for several reasons. Finances being one of them, as getting anywhere from here is a bit of an expensive expedition! Confidence was another and I know many will say that's nonsense and Id have been fine, but that's the way I feel and something I have to deal with.

But another reason was a few things I read in the Forums and I don't mean that in a nasty way although I'm sure many will take it the wrong way.

The Forums are a great place for banter and getting to know people and their outlook, but that can also be a bit intimidating if you're not part of the group that have met previously.

Anyway, I've gone off the subject slightly, sorry Serendipity but someone mentioned socials so I just thought Id put my point across.

If your finances pick up, try and go. I went to my first proper social thing last year and I was worried I'd be in a corner with no-one speaking to me.

But everyone was really nice and friendly. Some may think I'm a dipshit because of some of my posts, but they didn't show it that night. x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity? "

It's a model that uses linguistic pointers to highlight limiting beliefs and mindsets - based on the work of Virginia Satir

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But another reason was a few things I read in the Forums and I don't mean that in a nasty way although I'm sure many will take it the wrong way.

The Forums are a great place for banter and getting to know people and their outlook, but that can also be a bit intimidating if you're not part of the group that have met previously.

Anyway, I've gone off the subject slightly, sorry Serendipity but someone mentioned socials so I just thought Id put my point across.

You just saved me posting all that, finances are the main issue for me. If you look at a map you will see I am in a similar location to you but on the East coast

But it is a big social and I would be terrified, despite a previous meet saying I could find him there if I was worried. I think a smaller social would suit me better at first.

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over a year ago

Leicester

Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

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over a year ago

Leicester

"I prefer meeting men away from the forums. I have met one or two from the forums and yes had sex...however it just in my mind become incestious...I'm maybe wrong in that but that's just how I am...

Amen to that

I know some see the forum members as a type of family but.....well.....no.

Its not about ' family' in my mind its more that I don't want to lay down with someone that someone else I know and talk to has as well

Theres only so much sharing I like to do

Yep, I totally get you, Floro

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"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity?

It's a model that uses linguistic pointers to highlight limiting beliefs and mindsets - based on the work of Virginia Satir"

In simple terms using terms like 'must, should, have to, got to, ought...

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over a year ago

How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

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"You just saved me posting all that, finances are the main issue for me. If you look at a map you will see I am in a similar location to you but on the East coast

But it is a big social and I would be terrified, despite a previous meet saying I could find him there if I was worried. I think a smaller social would suit me better at first."

Another truth. That meet IS massive. Too many faces, too much to concentrate on, and then you have to deal with your own apprehension...

I'd love to go to a very small meet, and see those I have grown to like.

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over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!"

It may of been my fault....it was mentioned I elaborated on it...send me to my room...

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Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

And so do you....and that's not all either

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"How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!

It may of been my fault....it was mentioned I elaborated on it...send me to my room...

My fault too but I have apologise in my post!

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"How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!

It may of been my fault....it was mentioned I elaborated on it...send me to my room...

Naughty girl......I shall let the forum decide on your punishment

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over a year ago

Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

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over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!

It may of been my fault....it was mentioned I elaborated on it...send me to my room...

Naughty girl......I shall let the forum decide on your punishment

Lynched drawn and quartered then....

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"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity?

It's a model that uses linguistic pointers to highlight limiting beliefs and mindsets - based on the work of Virginia Satir"

I'd find that more of a challenge than a turn off. An opportunity to test out your Meta Model responses?

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over a year ago

"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I love your profile pic. It makes me think of summer.

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over a year ago

"How did this turn into a forum meet up thread?!

It may of been my fault....it was mentioned I elaborated on it...send me to my room...

Naughty girl......I shall let the forum decide on your punishment

Lynched drawn and quartered then....

they may be lenient with you if you flutter your eyelashes and wiggle your bum

Anyway back to the OP.......runs back to check what it was...brb....

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"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity?

It's a model that uses linguistic pointers to highlight limiting beliefs and mindsets - based on the work of Virginia Satir

I'd find that more of a challenge than a turn off. An opportunity to test out your Meta Model responses?

Yep a forum challenge but not my idea of a fun meet

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over a year ago

Oh......I thought it was titled licking someone. In that case I have nothing of any value to add. Sorry

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"There are probably some on here that dislike me...however it won't stop me going to socials...I speak with who I like and like who I want to...I've never been a follower just because someone is not liked by certain people does not mean I don't have to like them...I often hear 2 sides to every story and make my own judgement

Its just a shame that everyone doesnt...And to me, socials open the world up for just that reason. Some times preconceived ideas of what someone is like is unravelled when meeting face to face. Forum personas can be very very different to the person you meet. And sometimes people chat/gossip about certain folk and like cheeky, i like to make my own mind up and wish others would do the same

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over a year ago

"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I like that...doffcocking....you learn something new...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"You can tell a lot by the type of messages people post.

Linguistically you can start picking up on pointers, on how people think and this can give insight to how open or closed their mindset could be.

To me if people use a lot of modal operators of necessity, I would steer well clear of.

Excuse me professor Chomsky, what's a modal operator of necessity?

It's a model that uses linguistic pointers to highlight limiting beliefs and mindsets - based on the work of Virginia Satir

I'd find that more of a challenge than a turn off. An opportunity to test out your Meta Model responses?

Yep a forum challenge but not my idea of a fun meet

Ditto

Unless.............

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over a year ago

"Oh......I thought it was titled licking someone. In that case I have nothing of any value to add. Sorry

Not sure if you are joking or not but I actually read it as that (and more than once).

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"Oh......I thought it was titled licking someone. In that case I have nothing of any value to add. Sorry

Not sure if you are joking or not but I actually read it as that (and more than once). "

we know what's on your mind then

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over a year ago

"personally there needs to be a connection before i can play, that's both physically and mentally.

For me too

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over a year ago

"personally there needs to be a connection before i can play, that's both physically and mentally.

For me too

Can't imagine it any other way....oh wait.... Remembers a few disasters at Uni in my 20s

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

We usually make it pretty plain and say another meet isn't likely to happen, it saves avoiding texts and people online.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

It was once voted Rear Of The Year on another site

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"Oh......I thought it was titled licking someone. In that case I have nothing of any value to add. Sorry

Not sure if you are joking or not but I actually read it as that (and more than once). "

I really did read it as that to start off with!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

It was once voted Rear Of The Year on another site

I can imagine

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Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

And so do you....and that's not all either

Whats with girls here and men arses! Lol. Can someone help me take a nice pic of my arse!

Am actually thinking of priting this thread take notes and use them as guidance to all my future communicatjons on fab. I feel like at very naive vulnerible newbie reading this but thanks ladies for the very educative thread. Floro am really strating to like u although I know we'll never meet in person

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over a year ago

I wouldn't touch anyone with an fb/fwb... It's still a relationship of sorts.

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Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

And so do you....and that's not all either

Whats with girls here and men arses! Lol. Can someone help me take a nice pic of my arse!

Ah thats nice thanks

not sure what I did to provoke that but cheers all the same

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over a year ago

I wouldn't touch anyone with an fb/fwb... It's still a relationship of sorts.

^^^^^^ THAT exactly

Not separately I wouldn't but as a couple I would

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Well with hand on heart I can say that at the time of this post I have not met or played with anyone who uses the forums

I still think you have a great arse

It was once voted Rear Of The Year on another site

I couldn't manage Cheek of the Week

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over a year ago

"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I like that...doffcocking....you learn something new...

I wonder what cockdoffing is?

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over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I like that...doffcocking....you learn something new...

I wonder what cockdoffing is?

Sounds like a Cock Mexican wave .

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"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I like that...doffcocking....you learn something new...

I wonder what cockdoffing is?

It's slightly elevating the penis as a greeting or mark of deference.

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"Stop doffcocking, you two! (to doffcock = to go off on a tangent, totally derailing a thread)

I like that...doffcocking....you learn something new...

I wonder what cockdoffing is?

It's slightly elevating the penis as a greeting or mark of deference. "

I was waiting for something on these lines

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

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"I can understand your post. I never came on here to fall for someone it came as quite a shock at the time.

If I look to date I go on a dating site. If I want to swing I am on here. That clears up that aspect in my mind.

As for guys. I want a guy to meet me for attraction, chemistry and connection. Thats in the swing world.

In the dating world we need to have far much more than that.

Hope you solve your riddle xx

That makes sense, I am completely upfront and let men know I am just looking for a select few men to see regularly to explore my sexual side and enjoy being friends with too.

At the same time I let them know I don't want a relationship and they can see who they like as long as they respect me at the time they are with me, if that makes sense?

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this makes total sense to me as its all ive ever wanted from this site but now due to meeting yet another liar ive given it all up xx

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this makes total sense to me as its all ive ever wanted from this site but now due to meeting yet another liar ive given it all up xx"

Having far too much experience on the generic dating scene, I never assume someone is honest. Neither do I assume they are liars but time will tell.

Experience has taught me that a huge proportion of men will tell a woman what they think she wants to hear. For the most part this is not meant as either malicious nor as lying between their teeth. However my philosophy is give me the truth... it is ALWAYS easier to handle.

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Men tell u the truth u want to hear but not all the truth. From my experience Men lies are a shared guilt between the 2 genders. Coz if u tell a woman the truth the whole truth and only the truth. In most cases it wont work. I have found my private afairs that I shared with my ex on facebook being discussed with her friends. So its the saying if u want to spread a secret fast use either telegram, telefax or even faster tellurwoman lol. Having said that I am very easy to read and cant change that

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over a year ago

life is for living and this lifestyle is non judgemental however in the last week i have seen some can be very quick to chastise others who do not conform to their will or thoughts.

this is a drawback of the cyber world because the conversations or the thread takes place on screen and not in the real world were remarks and statements must be justified in the flesh and not from the confines of a glass house.

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