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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Are they on site? Would they like their meet discussed in such an open forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago (prior to here) I had a FFM. The female assured me they had spoken at length about what would happen.

All was going well until it came to him and me, she freaked out, screamed at him and left the room - needless to say I got dressed and out of there pretty quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which one was the problem m or f?

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Are they on site? Would they like their meet discussed in such an open forum?"

It's an open question, I haven't and will not reveal who they are but I wondered if anyone has had the same experience. I'm not attacking them in any way but just wondered how much couples actually discuss

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Which one was the problem m or f?"

The female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Years ago (prior to here) I had a FFM. The female assured me they had spoken at length about what would happen.

All was going well until it came to him and me, she freaked out, screamed at him and left the room - needless to say I got dressed and out of there pretty quickly."

Pretty much what my meet was like tonight...the thing is I was happy for it to be just me and her as she wanted to explore more of her bi side but she wanted him to be there as a thank you for allowing her to meet a woman! She wanted him there!

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x "

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!"

whenever with a cpl always ask what they like and in between if the hubby is watching/videoing if he wants to take over/join in ect itsment for all to enjoy isnt it

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

common problem so it seems ..... there's almost an exact same post on a thread in swingers chat too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Years ago (prior to here) I had a FFM. The female assured me they had spoken at length about what would happen.

All was going well until it came to him and me, she freaked out, screamed at him and left the room - needless to say I got dressed and out of there pretty quickly.

Pretty much what my meet was like tonight...the thing is I was happy for it to be just me and her as she wanted to explore more of her bi side but she wanted him to be there as a thank you for allowing her to meet a woman! She wanted him there!"

Rightly or wrongly this is what puts me off about meeting couples with no previous experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what puts me off meeting couples, I am straight with a very slight bi curious streak (at the moment) so I'd be playing with the man not the woman at first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always enjoyed seeing each other with other people and have never been faced with the insecurity mid meet or at any point in all honesty.

We have however, experienced meets where they were perhaps not ready to swing and cause arguements which ended play.

Whilst it can be frustrating, it can not be helped. At the end of the day, know one knows truly how they feel until it happens. I would sooner end play than do something i was not comfortable with.

Sarah

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

whenever with a cpl always ask what they like and in between if the hubby is watching/videoing if he wants to take over/join in ect itsment for all to enjoy isnt it "

I get that and always talk to my meets in great length about everything so it is what we all expect it to be...the rules were that me and him weren't to kiss or fuck but could do anything else, I even asked her to clarify what anything else was just so I didn't tread on any toes, it was supposed to be about her exploring her bi side more and he was there to join as a thank you for allowing her to do so, with all rules followed she couldn't handle it midway! If they weren't enjoying it I wouldn't have had her juices all down my mouth and he wouldn't have had a hard on! Just seemed strange to stop midway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

whenever with a cpl always ask what they like and in between if the hubby is watching/videoing if he wants to take over/join in ect itsment for all to enjoy isnt it

I get that and always talk to my meets in great length about everything so it is what we all expect it to be...the rules were that me and him weren't to kiss or fuck but could do anything else, I even asked her to clarify what anything else was just so I didn't tread on any toes, it was supposed to be about her exploring her bi side more and he was there to join as a thank you for allowing her to do so, with all rules followed she couldn't handle it midway! If they weren't enjoying it I wouldn't have had her juices all down my mouth and he wouldn't have had a hard on! Just seemed strange to stop midway"

Not everyone is cut out for sharing.... Hopefully they'll learn from this.

Would you consider playing with them or just her again in future?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!"

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy.

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"This is what puts me off meeting couples, I am straight with a very slight bi curious streak (at the moment) so I'd be playing with the man not the woman at first. "

I'm more into women so this was supposed to be more about me and her but he wanted him there and me and him only did what she wanted us to do! I suppose she probably saw it differently in her head and I was just a bloody guinea pig for them! She's been with women before but I was the first with them both, oh well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met couple once played like a spin the bottle sort of game just to get everyone comfortable and naked then once naked and we done bit oral. the male syopped the meet told me to go because he didnt want his wife to have another cock......

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

whenever with a cpl always ask what they like and in between if the hubby is watching/videoing if he wants to take over/join in ect itsment for all to enjoy isnt it

I get that and always talk to my meets in great length about everything so it is what we all expect it to be...the rules were that me and him weren't to kiss or fuck but could do anything else, I even asked her to clarify what anything else was just so I didn't tread on any toes, it was supposed to be about her exploring her bi side more and he was there to join as a thank you for allowing her to do so, with all rules followed she couldn't handle it midway! If they weren't enjoying it I wouldn't have had her juices all down my mouth and he wouldn't have had a hard on! Just seemed strange to stop midway

Not everyone is cut out for sharing.... Hopefully they'll learn from this.

Would you consider playing with them or just her again in future? "

I'd never play with them again no, they were both really lovely and had good conversation but I wouldn't put myself in that position and feel rejected again...I'm a swinger for all aspects of it but mainly to have sexual fun, if it was a social meet then a chat is all it would be but it wasn't and we were having fun...me and him weren't going to kiss or fuck as they'd set them rules so I don't know I guess you're right, not everyone is cut for sharing even when the sharing is limited!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who actually does walk the walk I will chuck my tuppence worth in. I love a three and moresome big time but I know where you are coming from, Despite many profiles pontificating about looking for a circle of friends and regular meets, by and large most meets are one offs pure and simple. Why? Because people are scared. Scared of opening up, scared of getting attached, scared of being a wee bit inferior to someone else in the dynamic, scared of their partner thinking by fuck this guys way better than my other half....

Maybe they should just worry less and get on with it. It's just sex and if you can't handle it take up a different hobby. Jealousy should be left at the door,,,,

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Years ago (prior to here) I had a FFM. The female assured me they had spoken at length about what would happen.

All was going well until it came to him and me, she freaked out, screamed at him and left the room - needless to say I got dressed and out of there pretty quickly.

Pretty much what my meet was like tonight...the thing is I was happy for it to be just me and her as she wanted to explore more of her bi side but she wanted him to be there as a thank you for allowing her to meet a woman! She wanted him there!

Rightly or wrongly this is what puts me off about meeting couples with no previous experience. "

I have previous experience of meeting with single women...can I rightly or wrongly offer to pay for your transport to come meet me?!? You have a body to die for! I'm not a size 8/10 but god I'd be happy just to have my hands and mouth on you with a paper bag over my head!!! And my body if you get one that big!

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy. "

I completely understand that for couples they can only decide whether it's for them or not once they're in a situation but me and him had rules set out by her of not kissing or fucking but doing everything else (I even got her to clarify what everything else was) and we followed these rules, it got to her fucking him with a strap on and demanding I play with his dick, telling him to get me wet with his fingers in preparation for her using the strap on with me, whilst telling him to suck my tits and then when it got to her dominating me to suck him off she decided she couldn't handle it! I'd have respected and understood her saying she couldn't handle it after the first time me and him had any contact but she was in charge and after all that she decided she couldn't! Just baffled me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy.

I completely understand that for couples they can only decide whether it's for them or not once they're in a situation but me and him had rules set out by her of not kissing or fucking but doing everything else (I even got her to clarify what everything else was) and we followed these rules, it got to her fucking him with a strap on and demanding I play with his dick, telling him to get me wet with his fingers in preparation for her using the strap on with me, whilst telling him to suck my tits and then when it got to her dominating me to suck him off she decided she couldn't handle it! I'd have respected and understood her saying she couldn't handle it after the first time me and him had any contact but she was in charge and after all that she decided she couldn't! Just baffled me!"

How thoughtful of you to hold back on the details of the meet. If the couple read this thread it should do wonders for their confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy.

I completely understand that for couples they can only decide whether it's for them or not once they're in a situation but me and him had rules set out by her of not kissing or fucking but doing everything else (I even got her to clarify what everything else was) and we followed these rules, it got to her fucking him with a strap on and demanding I play with his dick, telling him to get me wet with his fingers in preparation for her using the strap on with me, whilst telling him to suck my tits and then when it got to her dominating me to suck him off she decided she couldn't handle it! I'd have respected and understood her saying she couldn't handle it after the first time me and him had any contact but she was in charge and after all that she decided she couldn't! Just baffled me!

How thoughtful of you to hold back on the details of the meet. If the couple read this thread it should do wonders for their confidence. "

I understand the Ops frustration, but this 'kiss and tell' does seem over the top. You say you 'completely understand', but clearly you don't. You could have generated a debate on this topic without referring to the specifics of this actual meet. Your lack of tact and discretion is selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, sounds just like lack of experience on their part..sorry for all of you x

They've met a TV before and said that went really well, she assured me as she left the room and then again as I was leaving that it wasn't personal against me but she couldn't handle it!

If one of them decides they can't handle it at the time then it doesn't matter what conversations they've had or previous meets in preparation. They simply cannot handle it, have changed their mind and that should be respected.

Their longterm relationship is more important than one nights fantasy.

I completely understand that for couples they can only decide whether it's for them or not once they're in a situation but me and him had rules set out by her of not kissing or fucking but doing everything else (I even got her to clarify what everything else was) and we followed these rules, it got to her fucking him with a strap on and demanding I play with his dick, telling him to get me wet with his fingers in preparation for her using the strap on with me, whilst telling him to suck my tits and then when it got to her dominating me to suck him off she decided she couldn't handle it! I'd have respected and understood her saying she couldn't handle it after the first time me and him had any contact but she was in charge and after all that she decided she couldn't! Just baffled me!

How thoughtful of you to hold back on the details of the meet. If the couple read this thread it should do wonders for their confidence.

I understand the Ops frustration, but this 'kiss and tell' does seem over the top. You say you 'completely understand', but clearly you don't. You could have generated a debate on this topic without referring to the specifics of this actual meet. Your lack of tact and discretion is selfish. "

Although you haven't named your meet.... You have gone into quite a lot of detail so it wouldn't be hard for the couple that you met last night to work out it's about them!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Im sure the people in question, who are also members of the site, wouldnt appreciate being discussed by the world and his wife in a public forum so I think we can leave it there.

Im also closing the other second identical thread.

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