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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you think this is exclusive to women

. I can assure you a shit separation can be made worse by both sexes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

because they have made the wrong choice of partner, and hate the fact that they were wrong, so usually try and transfer the failure onto their partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And you think this is exclusive to women

. I can assure you a shit separation can be made worse by both sexes. "

Yes i am sure it can, its just frustrating when I am trying so hard to keep it decent and all i get is abuse. Oh well at least it saw me move back to mansfield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be the better person. Hold your head up high

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be the better person. Hold your head up high

i am trying but the fact she wants to financially cripple me, despite letting her have the house and car and me still paying for them.

Oh well i will have to vent my frustrations somehow without dropping to her level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all women do so. I've recently separated and eventually going to divorce, but it's being done as amicable as possible. Emotions run high at such a time and I admit I do feel upset and a tad angry, guilty too. Perhaps this is what your spouse is feeling too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be the better person. Hold your head up high

i am trying but the fact she wants to financially cripple me, despite letting her have the house and car and me still paying for them.

Oh well i will have to vent my frustrations somehow without dropping to her level."

stop work, sign on and fuck her plans.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

I was never nasty during my divorce and we broke up because of his constant lies.

I'm a good perdon and just don't have it in me to be nasty even when I try

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be the better person. Hold your head up high

i am trying but the fact she wants to financially cripple me, despite letting her have the house and car and me still paying for them.

Oh well i will have to vent my frustrations somehow without dropping to her level.

stop work, sign on and fuck her plans."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???

I was never nasty during my divorce and we broke up because of his constant lies.

I'm a good perdon and just don't have it in me to be nasty even when I try

I wish i could say the same for the ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

They want your hair to grow grey before another woman gets her hands on you

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???

I was never nasty during my divorce and we broke up because of his constant lies.

I'm a good perdon and just don't have it in me to be nasty even when I try

I wish i could say the same for the ex"

Divorce is never easy anyway. Especially with kids involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My divorce was going fine until her mother got involved. At that point it all went to hell and the nastiness started. Still its in the past. All you can do is pick up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All i can say is try keep your cool as you loss it and bang its going to be used agenst you so be the nice guy and when she gives you abuse just agree and smile if its face to face if its over the phone just tell her to have a nice day but your busy and hang up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My divorce was going fine until her mother got involved. At that point it all went to hell and the nastiness started. Still its in the past. All you can do is pick up and move on"

Oh yes i have the joys of the poisonous soon to be ex in laws too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Divorce is never easy anyway. Especially with kids involved"

this is the most poignont thing i have read, and so very true.

with divorce its usually the one that has been wronged that is the most nasty (we have no idea why the relationship broke down, and personally i would take what you say in these forums with a pinch of salt as it will never be the whole truth)

kids are also used as weapons by parents, because many (male and female) cant detach their own feelings of the ex being a shit partner, from the fact they were probably a decent parent, but thats life.

the only way to avoid it is to never have any human contact. EVER. and we all know thats never going to happen.

as has been said, keep your head held high and dont stoop to any level lower than that you have already maintained.

you may walk away with empty pockets, but your pride will be intact.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

SOME people!

My husband and I managed to divorce amicably, even though I had to wait five years for the divorce. During that time we both attended parents evenings, college and university visits. Travelled together to visit our daughter at uni in Derby and the other when she moved to Portsmouth. We sat side by side at our daughters graduations, proud as peacocks. We used to spend bank holidays as a family. People thought we were still married as we would be out and about together. When his mum developed dementia and he moved into her flat to look after her I'd help out and had her one Christmas. We talk regularly, his sons visit me once a month. Their mum died last year and my ex visited her every day. My girls and their husbands/partners visited too and attended the funeral.

If we hadn't divorced in 2009 this year would have seen us celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary.

That said, WE ended us. Our son died and WE didn't grieve together. If however he had cheated, fallen out of love with me, would I have been so civil, calm and collected?

Erm...

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

My ex was a absolute bitch during divorce and still has her moments

But her family still treat me as one of the own couldnt ask for better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Divorce is never easy anyway. Especially with kids involved

this is the most poignont thing i have read, and so very true.

the only way to avoid it is to never have any human contact. EVER. and we all know thats never going to happen.

as has been said, keep your head held high and dont stoop to any level lower than that you have already maintained.

you may walk away with empty pockets, but your pride will be intact."

this. Well said

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

my ex was an absolute bitch using the kids as a weapon preventing me seeing them etc .

but i never retaliated just stayed calm kept in contact with my kids best i could never bad mouthed her in front of them kids soon saw through her lies and deceit and made there own minds up . they now take every thing she says with a pinch of salt and we have a good relationship thats all that mattered to memy kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

Then put kids in the mix then it can get real fun

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I divorced years ago now. The ex was told off for his behaviour during mediation. The mediator and solicitor were not impressed. Basically I came away with debt I can never clear. He went bankrupt so I hot the debt. He is now financially sorted as partner has a house. I still have the debt and am currently trying to get him to see our kids more often than once a month when he almost drives past our door after work on a Friday.

I do think people deflect their feelings onto the other person. I was given silly reasons for the end of our marriage but he refused to discuss and try sort it out.

I got myself through depression after a few years but still the effects of visitation are around now.

His life has moved on. Away from his kids from our marriage.

Unfortunately I guess people show their true colours at times.

To the OP. Just try to keep things good and if there are kids then please continue to be a father. I hope you get it sorted xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

All i can say based on own experience is if kids involved bite your tongue best you can sadly as amicable as you try things become heated and things said you may both in time regret.

As others say its not just women though for pure vileness in my experience are different breed.

I had moments during the divorce where i was unpleasant verbally and regret some things said but heat of moment lack of control hard to control.

Good luck to you both.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So I am currently going through a divorce. I am trying to make it is amicable and easy as possible, but why oh why do women have to be so nasty and vicious during the process???"

Haha, yeah we are all just out for your money and revenge.

Like the usual bleat when someone posts about single men on here, try not to tar us all with the same brush. Me and my ex split up extremely amicably and are still friends now. And he was the one who cheated on me too! So try to keep a sense of perspective, especially if children are involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what others have said & rise above it. Your kids will love you whatever comes out of the divorce. Parents all to easily spend their time scoring points off each other & forget that the children didn't ask to be born or for their parents to split .

I'm lucky, but only because I like to think I stayed civil during the whole process & I made sure we split everything equally. My ex & I are very good friends.

Hopefully in a few years, it'll be water under the bridge. At the time though I remember , it's all consuming.

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