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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.

But for those of you that are the more kinky among us (and yes I know there is a huuuuuuge spectrum of BDSM etc) have you always been kinky?? Did you just try something one day and think yes that's definitely right up my street...have you developed new and more extreme kinks as time went by??

I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I had flirted with being tied up in the past but it wasn't until I met someone I could trust who knew what they were doing that I really began to explore more and more 'extreme' stuff - though to be fair it is not as extreme as what you could find on the internet these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been a bit kinky, always knew what I wanted and how to get it!

I always hid my kinks as I never had a partner that I could try these things out with, I am hoping to discover and venture further into the kink world this forthcoming year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a late bloomer sexually, but with my first partner I knew some of my desires would have scared him so never mentioned them. It was only really when I started meeting casually that I got to speak to guys that would explore less vanilla things with me and since then my kinky side has definitely developed and will probably continue to as I meet people with new ideas or kinks of their own. A big part of why I love this lifestyle is the variety of people and ways they play...and how I can have great vanilla-ish sex with one FB and then be tied and teased by my other FB the next day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found myself being more and more drawn towards the more kinky stuff over the last year or so. Recently added restraints and whips to my toy collection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found it @ the age of 42 when my then bf decided to put me over his knee and spank me. Since then its gone through the roof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you must have a huge arse, if it went through the roof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0cAfoZWzl8M

Thread song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love Kinky stuff..

Ive tried BDSM and was NOT for me! Ended up drawing blood! Quite painful actually lol..

But I love being blindfolded and tied up.. my FB also enjoys being tied up.

Somethings are for some and not for others really..

I have a huge fetish for Boobs and Bums tho

Ohh and dress up and role play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not extreme kink but i have a huge love of worshipping feet and stilettos.

I also love getting spanked and also my nipples being squeezed really hard during sex

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Gotta love Kinky stuff..

Ive tried BDSM and was NOT for me! Ended up drawing blood! Quite painful actually lol..

But I love being blindfolded and tied up.. my FB also enjoys being tied up.

Somethings are for some and not for others really..

I have a huge fetish for Boobs and Bums tho

Ohh and dress up and role play

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Being blindfolded and tied up is BDSM though isn't it??? Bondage?

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit

I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I happened upon mine strangely.

I have always had a very high pain threshold. I never cried as a kid when I hurt myself, to the point my mum took me to the doctor because she was worried.

When I started swinging, I was lucky enough to meet an experienced Dom at one of the first Munches I attended, he was the first to spank me. And was amazed when I didn't cry in pain, or exquisite agony. He began my journey of curiosity on how far I could take the pain thing. As my limits began to show no sign of reached, he escorted me to places where I could meet new Dom men and women who had more experience of pain kink.

I discovered a hell of a lot about myself and what pain I enjoyed and what pain I just found annoying for want of a better phrase.

8 years on, I am still exploring and still finding out new things about myself.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit

I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things

Hun, thats what I used to think, but it can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.

I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it...

Something happened to me when I hit 30!!

I'm not complaining though

Trying new things all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I have always sought a bit of kink but as time went on and I tried more and more, I started to crave more and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you must have a huge arse, if it went through the roof"

It is massssosive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always had that side to me, it just took me a while to find the right person to build that deep level of trust and chemistry to explore them with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit

I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things

To help a few playmates learn trust, I used "grass bondage"

You can have your ankles secured, and a blindfold.... But... The wrists have silk scarves tied round them, then the loose ends are wound round (say) the bedspread with the free ends held in each hand.

If you panic, you release the ends and shake your wrists free....

One of the rules being that if you release, the games Stop... This can be sexually frustrating...

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

17 years old my then gf asked me if I would tie her to the bed with our school ties......I did and never looked back! Always been dom but being so properly takes time, experience, skill, trust and a bloody good sense of humour!

Master x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit

I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things

To help a few playmates learn trust, I used "grass bondage"

If you panic, you release the ends and shake your wrists free....

One of the rules being that if you release, the games Stop... This can be sexually frustrating...

Bedstead.... Not bedspread.... Grrrrr...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a curious streak i think. If i see something that i haven't done before, then i'm curious to try it

..in terms of BDSM, i just don't get that. Then again, i've never really indulged in it.

Mind you, i have been speaking to someone who is in the scene and they have me intrigued to try a few things.

Not sure if i'm kinky. But, i do love to tie people. Both hands and legs - watch them squat before me in their heels. I do like to tease, and recently become more curious with foot play and much much more.

..i'm kind of interested in role reversal at the moment. Usually it's me who is in 'control' But, i want to see how far out of my comfort zone i can go with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always had the kink in me but the last few years have really pushed the boundaries and I'm a real pain slut now and absolutely love being taken to sub space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thought of kink scared the crap out of me a year ago. Now, thanks to someone special, I'm enjoying trying New things

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"

I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"

Yes it is, you're definitely not thick.

Restraint is usually the start of it .

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X

I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink

That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.

Dunno where I'd start though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X

I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink

That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.

Dunno where I'd start though! "

We could show you....

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

BDSM is an umbrella term encompassing a whole range of activities. Enjoying some does not imply that being 'into' BDSM is enjoying all.

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X

I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink

That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.

Dunno where I'd start though!

We could show you....

When I finally decide to grow some balls and take the plunge Lucy you will be the first to know

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"BDSM is an umbrella term encompassing a whole range of activities. Enjoying some does not imply that being 'into' BDSM is enjoying all."

Yeah having had a read just now of the wide range of things within the BDSM spectrum I can totally understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"

...it is. But, not in the way i personally interpret BDSM.

When i restrain, it's usually as foreplay or something sensual. Something to just tease with. I don't count that as BDSM in it's true nature.

I haven't used handcuffs or anything alike. Usually, whatever is lying around or pieces of scarves.

That's just me though.

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X

...it is. But, not in the way i personally interpret BDSM.

When i restrain, it's usually as foreplay or something sensual. Something to just tease with. I don't count that as BDSM in it's true nature.

I haven't used handcuffs or anything alike. Usually, whatever is lying around or pieces of scarves.

That's just me though.

Ah I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try reading some books and The black lace ones are good. I never in my wildest dreams thought that would be interested in it, and found the whole concept scary too x

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"You could try reading some books and The black lace ones are good. I never in my wildest dreams thought that would be interested in it, and found the whole concept scary too x "

Good idea I need some new books to read anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.

Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.

Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.

crystal

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.

Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.

Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.

crystal"

Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.

Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.

Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.

crystal

Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain?? "

Public play/nudity, pain, restraint, humiliation/degradation, the voyeuristic side has grown hugely, topping a man, and actually talking through what turns me on and trying to explain why.

In the last 5 years, I have definitely learnt to be more open minded and not be so stuck up in my own concepts of what I considered to be ideal.

I was already comfortable with 'vanilla' sex as I had already experienced group sex and I had already played with ladies when I was very young but I am now having a lot more fun exploring my sexuality and my kink.

crystal

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.

Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.

Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.

crystal

Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain??

Public play/nudity, pain, restraint, humiliation/degradation, the voyeuristic side has grown hugely, topping a man, and actually talking through what turns me on and trying to explain why.

In the last 5 years, I have definitely learnt to be more open minded and not be so stuck up in my own concepts of what I considered to be ideal.

crystal"

It's not too late for me then?? Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not too late for me then?? Lol x"

Oh god no!

The hardest part is analysing exactly what it is about a scene that turns you on. Once you understand that better and you're able to communicate it, it then allows people to play on that aspect giving you a chance to explore that more.

crystal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I found it @ the age of 42 when my then bf decided to put me over his knee and spank me.

Thats exactly how I discovered I liked spanking. Surprised me at the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly have that side and I'm trying to enter that world to explore it. There is a lot of things I want to try, and I also want to lose control to stop my mind over analyzing stuff. So I need someone I can trust and who keeps you safe, but makes you try stuff you would never do out of your own choice... obviously there is always boundaries etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever above said that communication is the key is 110% correct - once you're able to confidently convey exactly what does (and doesn't!) turn you on the pleasure can really start ...

Personally I enjoy a few "kinks" and live the buzz if meeting those who share them (enquire within for more details!) - but always try to keep it light hearted & fun. I blame the Fifty Shades phenomenon (anyone else find those books unreadable!??) for the sudden army of "Dom" guys. There's a lot more to it than simply tying your partner up and having your way with her (or him!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Auto erotic asphyxiation...

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Auto erotic asphyxiation..."

Crikey that sounds terrifying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Auto erotic asphyxiation...

Crikey that sounds terrifying! "

Indeed ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Auto erotic asphyxiation...

Crikey that sounds terrifying!

Indeed ....

I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Auto erotic asphyxiation...

Crikey that sounds terrifying!

Indeed ....

I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol"

Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Auto erotic asphyxiation...

Crikey that sounds terrifying!

Indeed ....

I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol

Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x "

Very much so!!

There is a direct parallel to it but I won't say here as it will probably upset people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breath play can be very hot

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Auto erotic asphyxiation...

Crikey that sounds terrifying!

Indeed ....

I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol

Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x

Very much so!!

There is a direct parallel to it but I won't say here as it will probably upset people!"

PM me if you like I'm always interested in hearing experiences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ray Davis...

oops....sorry wrong end of the stick....again!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd like to tie someone up, but feel that as soon as I did, I'd end up pissing about, moving all of their furniture about, putting some bacon on, drawing on their face to make them look like Groucho Marx and so on. I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always felt it but I used to think I was a freak! I got turned on by things that my head said I shouldn't. I guess I was quite sheltered as I had no idea there were other people who felt the same. Till I met someone who gave me a taste of kink and introduced me to the swinging scene. And I thank him regularly!

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I can probably trace most of the kinky things I enjoy back to when I came across (pun intended) my dad's video collection in my early teens and thought "this looks fun"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like kinky stuff like watersport and I would like to try hardsport and see how it feels to get a dump on my penis

Are you being serious!!?

FORUM INSURANCE

I'm newish to the forums.. What is this Tina

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Sorry folks, Ive removed so many posts about stuff thats not allowed on the forums. Can you please take it to PM and think before you post. Cheers

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Sorry folks, Ive removed so many posts about stuff thats not allowed on the forums. Can you please take it to PM and think before you post. Cheers"
I hadn't even posted mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to many a munch

BBB etc

Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...

Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)

Bondage

Hand cuffs

Wax

Rope/suspension

Erm et, brutal sex

And lots more

We like kink xxxx

Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been to many a munch

BBB etc

Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...

Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)

Bondage

Hand cuffs

Wax

Rope/suspension

Erm et, brutal sex

And lots more

We like kink xxxx

Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ... "

Violet wand?

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

I guess it's all relative ... but trust is paramount yes !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been to many a munch

BBB etc

Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...

Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)

Bondage

Hand cuffs

Wax

Rope/suspension

Erm et, brutal sex

And lots more

We like kink xxxx

Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ...

Violet wand?"

That's the one... Stunk of ozone... Did fuck all for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been to many a munch

BBB etc

Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...

Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)

Bondage

Hand cuffs

Wax

Rope/suspension

Erm et, brutal sex

And lots more

We like kink xxxx

Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ...

Violet wand?

That's the one... Stunk of ozone... Did fuck all for us x"

Oh sorry, you were asking what it is???

Electro-stim

High voltage shocks

Kinda like kwhat you see on Frankenstein films

High voltage low current... Van de graf generator thang

Some like t

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

As time goes by we enjoy more and explore 'kinks' more depending on scenario etc...its good to learn new tricks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been kinky but for many years kept it surpressed. This site and my EX brought the kink out more and more. Now I seem to push myself that little more each time, and I love it, can't get enough kinky fuckery!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the violet wand is amazing.

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.

I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it...

I love trying new kinky things...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those who have their own interpretation of BDSM, I suggest you read up on it to avoid confusion.

BDSM covers all this:

BD - bondage and discipline

DS - domination and submission

SM - sadism (a love of giving "pain") and masochism (...receiving).

I want more

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

suppose like most things one persons kink is another persons the norm..

long as its fun, crack on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only recently started playing with rope and have found that although not many ladies do.. Once they have they love it...

Dip a toe in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"suppose like most things one persons kink is another persons the norm..

long as its fun, crack on.."

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely love and adore being a rope bunny. Soon as they come out of the drawer I'm ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes when I met Gary, him being a dominant, I tried the submissive side of things, that was two years ago, and have not looked back.

I still have the edge of dominance in me, but only towards a woman, strange as that sounds, I feel I could switch with a woman.

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