FabSwingers.com forum: Tell me the secret to the opening message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is the best thing to write in the opening message.

Do I start with me or her profile

Do I mention anything about my kinks

What do you lady's like in the opening message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it interesting

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Tell them exactly what they want to hear... Simple as that...

However everyone will want something slightly different.

Just be yourself, then whatever results you get will match your personality.

D&K

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Don't start off with a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give the rrecipient a reason to want to reply

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

"Give the rrecipient a reason to want to reply"
surely that means the 'fancy a fuck' message I send should work every time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a crystal ball and get inside their mind lol

There is no one method or set message, it alll depends on what the person wants to hear and that can be anything at all

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Make it obvious you've read their profile, but without quoting from it or playing match and tick. Add some humour, don't make it too long or too short, either. Add a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be original .

Hard - but it works!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Who knows the secret of the black magic box?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone likes something different. There is no 'perfect first message'. Be yourself.

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

The best advice is to be honest in you mail. Tell them what has attracted you to them and what you would be the perfect outcome for you...

Most of the time if you get a reply it will be a "thanks but no thanks" reply, however when you get a positive reply you will more than lightly find it leads to a mind-blowing meeting and equally good follow up meetings! (My experience at least)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows the secret of the black magic box?"

All because the lady loves......

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way to start a message

"Hey bbz, u got msn?" Then insert a cock pic and send.

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By *rencherMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Everyone likes something different. There is no 'perfect first message'. Be yourself. "

If the person you message is looking for what you have to offer then you're sorted

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

Call me old fashioned, but I like it when the message makes it clear that the sender has taken the time to read my profile. When I have initiated contact with someone on here, I've always thought carefully about our compatability first, then constructed a message to show I'm interested in finding out more about them, using their profile as a foundation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks peeps.

I am as clear as mud. Lol.

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By *eno_2004Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Everyone's different like some people have said be yourself and if it suits then you will meet like minded people if not then you dodged a bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows the secret of the black magic box?

All because the lady loves......

Roses grow on you

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Who knows the secret of the black magic box?

All because the lady loves......

Roses grow on you"

Wash behind your ears and stop standing in manure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows the secret of the black magic box?

All because the lady loves......

Roses grow on you

Wash behind your ears and stop standing in manure.

Everyone's a fruit n nutcase .

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Definitely none of the fancy a fuck or what you upto messages work.

Try a bit of comedy , like previous pop some thing in to show you have read their profile and don't sound desperate as that is a real put off lol

Offer up a photo of your self and see how it go's good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see... the problem with the title is that rather than finding out for yourself.. you want people to do that job for you....

minimum effort... maximum reward.....

the only way to work out what works for you is for you to do it... nobody figured it out straight away!.... read, learn, watch, and repeat......

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Crystal ball previously mentioned is the best answer. I have sent well thought out personally tailored messages to people who say they are looking for exactly the sort of things I have to offer and I've been blocked straight out. I've made some great friends following a one liner that just hit the spot. There are no rules and there's no point in trying to work any out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no magic formula as everyone is different!

I don't respond to ' fancy a fuck' type messages or anyone that clearly hasn't read my profile.

I prefer a funny / witty type message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish i knew. Can never know what to write on an initial message. I usually like to respond to messages though, so i know how to reply back.

...but, that's me in a nutshell i suppose. I like to bounce off people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it looks like short witty messages are the key.

Oh crikey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy compliments me on my hair, he gets my interest and usually gets a bonk...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"see... the problem with the title is that rather than finding out for yourself.. you want people to do that job for you....

minimum effort... maximum reward.....

the only way to work out what works for you is for you to do it... nobody figured it out straight away!.... read, learn, watch, and repeat......"

The most efficient and effective way. "Minimum effort in for maximum reward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep it simple. introduction - ur interests - do they share them?

done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going by a lot of people on here, you'd be lucky to even get a reply !!

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