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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat.

This is a time for family for me and this year is emotional.

I am somewhat offended by fake greetings being used as an approach. At least be honest about what you want, so I can decide whether to reply or not, rather than trying to con me into a conversation I don't want to have and which feels absolutely inappropriate today.

Moan over. An ulterior motive free wish of a wonderful Christmas to everyone.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas"

Exactly!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat.

This is a time for family for me and this year is emotional.

I am somewhat offended by fake greetings being used as an approach. At least be honest about what you want, so I can decide whether to reply or not, rather than trying to con me into a conversation I don't want to have and which feels absolutely inappropriate today.

Moan over. An ulterior motive free wish of a wonderful Christmas to everyone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm staying out of this one, it seems a lose lose situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you! "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

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I concur with the above.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

At least by sending a seasonal greeting it shows that they are actually giving some thought as to which copy and paste message to send. This is a site where people contact each other in order to get laid in the main, chit chat between friends and family I would suggest is not what most people are here for.

Anyway all the best for Christmas and the new year I must go I have a bird to stuff.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you! "

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat.

This is a time for family for me and this year is emotional.

I am somewhat offended by fake greetings being used as an approach. At least be honest about what you want, so I can decide whether to reply or not, rather than trying to con me into a conversation I don't want to have and which feels absolutely inappropriate today.

Moan over. An ulterior motive free wish of a wonderful Christmas to everyone."

aw, chill out.

nothing wrong with being horny on xmas dat.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas"

Like I said, I logged in specifically to reply to messages from friends, some of whom know my circumstances and are offering genuine wishes and support.

I should have known better since this is just a sex site.

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By *traddle VariousWoman
over a year ago

Salford

I went into Tesco yesterday and they were selling flowers !

Bastards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it x I'm having a cuppa and browse,,had a message from a couple wishing me a merry xmas asking for a face pic,they been watching me for a month since I met someone they met

I said merry xmas sent pic and I was immediately blocked and deleted,atleast I gave them my pic for there curiosity and they can no longer stalk me pmsl.

Funny thing is generally people unblock so can peek again so does give me great pleasure to block them back,they stay there though hehe

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex."

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas

Exactly! "

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat.

This is a time for family for me and this year is emotional.

I am somewhat offended by fake greetings being used as an approach. At least be honest about what you want, so I can decide whether to reply or not, rather than trying to con me into a conversation I don't want to have and which feels absolutely inappropriate today.

Moan over. An ulterior motive free wish of a wonderful Christmas to everyone.

aw, chill out.

nothing wrong with being horny on xmas dat."

No but there is something wrong with being disingenuous with greetings and trying to con people into chat they don't want.

Anyway, I'm off to spend the day with my family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic"

Some are Psycho tho

Gary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oopps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas"

or hide your profile and just delete the messages Merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic"

I knew you would say that

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic"

I reply with thanks and reciprocal good wishes. Sexual messages following get a reply clearly indicating I am not interested in that sort of chat. Yet most persist rather than taking the hint.

I know they are thinking with the wrong head but really, take a hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa "
Nadolig Llawen Soxy x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa "

Hellooooooooooooo My name is Jolly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total non thread. " I dont want attention....but guess what, i'll draw attention to myself"

Bah humbug. I am away out for a walk with my no 1 bitch.

Jack Russel btw

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic

I knew you would say that"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Total non thread. " I dont want attention....but guess what, i'll draw attention to myself"

Bah humbug. I am away out for a walk with my no 1 bitch.

Jack Russel btw"

Jack's a funny name for a Big Tall Woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa Nadolig Llawen Soxy x"

Coesau Nadolig Llawen....

Yikes I hope Go'ogle translator got that right....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Total non thread. " I dont want attention....but guess what, i'll draw attention to myself"

Bah humbug. I am away out for a walk with my no 1 bitch.

Jack Russel btw

Jack's a funny name for a Big Tall Woman"

She wears the troos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa

Hellooooooooooooo My name is Jolly "

Mewwy Chwistmas Gwanny,,,,...xx

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Total non thread. " I dont want attention....but guess what, i'll draw attention to myself"

Bah humbug. I am away out for a walk with my no 1 bitch.

Jack Russel btw"

I don't mind genuine greetings but using them with an ulterior motive is sad.

Note the complaint post lower down from the man who sent greetings and didn't get a reply. Well I replied and found the message wasn't at face value.

Sad that I'm now encouraged to ignore seasons greetings messages simply because I suspect ulterior motives.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online"

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Merry Christmas "

No I won't talk dirty to you

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa

Hellooooooooooooo My name is Jolly "

...oooh gwanny!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa

Hellooooooooooooo My name is Jolly

Mewwy Chwistmas Gwanny,,,,...xx "

Soxy, Merry Yuletide to you also x x x x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa

Hellooooooooooooo My name is Jolly

...oooh gwanny!"

I know , it was forward of me Sass.. Sigh .. im just a dirty old bitch at heart xxxx all the best xx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have had a few also, it doesn`t mean you have to run with a conversation, I just sent a good wishes reply then deleted...simples

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex. "

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seasons Greetings

Any Chance of a Sympathy Shag ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex. "

As I said very sensative,fab is open 24/7 men don't have days of being horny,just ignore or delete if get reply that affends you

Merry xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm jealous, no one has sent me a Christmas greeting with the aim af getting in my pants...must be doing something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel this is a non issue. The OP just has to delete the ulterior motive messages. The rant therefore is petulant and silly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wishing someone a Merry Xmas just to get into their knickers is a terrible, terrible thing to do.

Almost as bad as using mistletoe to try and get a kiss.

What a horrible, fucked up world we live in.

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you! "

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic"

Totally agree! It's not their fault surely?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the conversation will only go that way if you let it go that way

I have sent lots of xmas mail to random people.... I hate it to think that people are that cynical that it is meant as anything more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see her point but also everyone else's too. I'm sat with my oh as our Xmas day is tomorrow. But I will probably sneak on tomorrow so feel free to message me privately or here I will reply at some point I promise

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford


"Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat.

This is a time for family for me and this year is emotional.

I am somewhat offended by fake greetings being used as an approach. At least be honest about what you want, so I can decide whether to reply or not, rather than trying to con me into a conversation I don't want to have and which feels absolutely inappropriate today."

I'm utterly puzzled by this thread. No offence to the OP, but surely any approach by ANYONE is potential heavily loaded. What's so different about today? If you have some personal issues, or do not wish to be approached at the moment, there is nothing on your profile to indicate this is the case.

Also no one is denying the social side of swinging, but if you walk into a car showroom you cannot blame the assistant for assuming you might be interested in buying a car. I just do not understand the logic of the argument.

It seems to me you have one of two choices:

1) ignore the approaches, politely

2) don't log on, as it seems for whatever reason you feel there's something inappropriate about swinging on a day like today???

Whatever the reason I see no evidence of anyone tricking you, or forcing you to do anything you don't want.

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can the OP know that the messages have an "ulterior motive" vein? Perhaps if they were overt, in content then normal service would have been restored!

One thinks the OP has been at the sherry instead of putting it in the trifle!!

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"How can the OP know that the messages have an "ulterior motive" vein? Perhaps if they were overt, in content then normal service would have been restored!

One thinks the OP has been at the sherry instead of putting it in the trifle!!"

All PMs have an ulterior motive.

How's you = fancy a shag?

What you up to = fancy a shag?

What do you know about differential calculus = fancy a shag?

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family."

You're right, of course, and I've been here long enough that I don't know why it surprised me.

I think it was that I'd just spoken to my mum this morning, I logged on to reply to messages from friends and within a minute got pounced on, presumably by someone who saw I was online. The first message was a seasonal greeting and when I replied in kind he took that as an opening to dive straight into the I'm horny spiel.

There was no 'are you interested?' approach, just the assumption I'd replied so it was fine.

It just ticked me off. I should know better. Some guys will only ever think with their cocks on here.

The sender wasn't to know but also should not assume just because I was on here, I was looking for dirty chat with a total stranger.

And I am having a lovely day with my parents, thank you.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Oi Oi VV. fancy a Xmas shag ? Best be quick though. The Queen is on in 7 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family.

You're right, of course, and I've been here long enough that I don't know why it surprised me.

I think it was that I'd just spoken to my mum this morning, I logged on to reply to messages from friends and within a minute got pounced on, presumably by someone who saw I was online. The first message was a seasonal greeting and when I replied in kind he took that as an opening to dive straight into the I'm horny spiel.

There was no 'are you interested?' approach, just the assumption I'd replied so it was fine.

It just ticked me off. I should know better. Some guys will only ever think with their cocks on here.

The sender wasn't to know but also should not assume just because I was on here, I was looking for dirty chat with a total stranger.

And I am having a lovely day with my parents, thank you."

I suppose being a sex site, horny chat is what its about.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"How can the OP know that the messages have an "ulterior motive" vein? Perhaps if they were overt, in content then normal service would have been restored!

One thinks the OP has been at the sherry instead of putting it in the trifle!!"

Clue:

First message is innocuous greeting. I reply in kind. Next message, immediately is overt and with the apparent belief that because I replied I am somehow "up for it".

As Fabio said, he's sent many greetings with no intention other than sending good wishes, so whoever said any message is wanting sex is clearly wrong. I, too, have sent greetings which are genuine greetings.

I'd like to be able to respond to a greeting in kind to such messages, rather than ignoring them all because so many are disingenuous attempts to get something else.

I'd now be suspicious of Fabio's type of message based on previous experience.

If other people think that's ok, and don't mind that I'll treat everyone with suspicion and it'll make me less likely to reply (and how many men complain about that?!), that's fine. We're all entitled to different opinions and feelings. This is mine.

As for the sherry, I have yet to drink any alcohol today.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family.

You're right, of course, and I've been here long enough that I don't know why it surprised me.

I think it was that I'd just spoken to my mum this morning, I logged on to reply to messages from friends and within a minute got pounced on, presumably by someone who saw I was online. The first message was a seasonal greeting and when I replied in kind he took that as an opening to dive straight into the I'm horny spiel.

There was no 'are you interested?' approach, just the assumption I'd replied so it was fine.

It just ticked me off. I should know better. Some guys will only ever think with their cocks on here.

The sender wasn't to know but also should not assume just because I was on here, I was looking for dirty chat with a total stranger.

And I am having a lovely day with my parents, thank you.

I suppose being a sex site, horny chat is what its about."

Except, perhaps, for those of us who have real friends here.

Different people use the site in different ways.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Oi Oi VV. fancy a Xmas shag ? Best be quick though. The Queen is on in 7 mins"

7 minutes? You want to do it 3 times?

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"How can the OP know that the messages have an "ulterior motive" vein? Perhaps if they were overt, in content then normal service would have been restored!

One thinks the OP has been at the sherry instead of putting it in the trifle!!

All PMs have an ulterior motive.

How's you = fancy a shag?

What you up to = fancy a shag?

What do you know about differential calculus = fancy a shag?

"

No, they don't. See Fabio's post above.

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over a year ago


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family.

You're right, of course, and I've been here long enough that I don't know why it surprised me.

I think it was that I'd just spoken to my mum this morning, I logged on to reply to messages from friends and within a minute got pounced on, presumably by someone who saw I was online. The first message was a seasonal greeting and when I replied in kind he took that as an opening to dive straight into the I'm horny spiel.

There was no 'are you interested?' approach, just the assumption I'd replied so it was fine.

It just ticked me off. I should know better. Some guys will only ever think with their cocks on here.

The sender wasn't to know but also should not assume just because I was on here, I was looking for dirty chat with a total stranger.

And I am having a lovely day with my parents, thank you."

That's why I'm saying don't be so sensative,I'm on my own with my gals,first year in 27ys,and bloody loving it,i still have to go for cuppa and echo cig brake,so have a browse on ere,still get same messages I normally get let it just ride over my head,today there are a lot people on there own,just ignore if not ur thing.I personally cant talk dirty even if a man asks me on a meet I just end up laughing,hence I say no,just batter to people u want to x enjoy ur day at parents

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think ur very sensitive at times,men on a swinging site don't have ulterior motives,I simply say no thankyou x u could do.that or just delete and talk to ur friends when online

No ulterior motive? Saying happy Christmas just to get a response to try and start a chat about something totally different?

I give up. Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

Thing is it happens all the time. Men outside my meet criteria will send me a message along the lines "may I ask what your avatar pic is?" to then follow up with "I've always fancied a butt plug in my arse."

I simply ignore them. Therefore, I'm finding it difficult to understand why you're making such a song and dance out of basically nothing.

I hope you eventually enjoy the time with your family.

You're right, of course, and I've been here long enough that I don't know why it surprised me.

I think it was that I'd just spoken to my mum this morning, I logged on to reply to messages from friends and within a minute got pounced on, presumably by someone who saw I was online. The first message was a seasonal greeting and when I replied in kind he took that as an opening to dive straight into the I'm horny spiel.

There was no 'are you interested?' approach, just the assumption I'd replied so it was fine.

It just ticked me off. I should know better. Some guys will only ever think with their cocks on here.

The sender wasn't to know but also should not assume just because I was on here, I was looking for dirty chat with a total stranger.

And I am having a lovely day with my parents, thank you.

That's why I'm saying don't be so sensative,I'm on my own with my gals,first year in 27ys,and bloody loving it,i still have to go for cuppa and echo cig brake,so have a browse on ere,still get same messages I normally get let it just ride over my head,today there are a lot people on there own,just ignore if not ur thing.I personally cant talk dirty even if a man asks me on a meet I just end up laughing,hence I say no,just batter to people u want to x enjoy ur day at parents "

*shrug* It hacked me off. Most of us rant from time to time.

See the post further down from the guy complaining about rude people not replying to happy Christmas messages. I wonder why?!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

we wish you a merry christmas

we wish you a merry christmas

we wish you a merry christmas

do you fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had lovely messages at Facebook,kinda expect tryers ere as type site,I have an odd join in the rants time to to time relaying my experiences,,so yeah we all rant ur excused lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex. "

me too...

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too... "

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"we wish you a merry christmas

we wish you a merry christmas

we wish you a merry christmas

do you fancy a fuck"

Well since Ryan is now spent, why not. Don't wake my folks up though, they're having an afternoon nap.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex? "

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference."

You see a tick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I logged in while waiting for Xmas dinner and had a guy asking me if I was busy, well he obviously didn't know what day it was

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I logged in while waiting for Xmas dinner and had a guy asking me if I was busy, well he obviously didn't know what day it was "

At least he asked rather than assuming because you're on here, you're desperate for a fuck, immediately, with anyone and just launching into how horny he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I logged in while waiting for Xmas dinner and had a guy asking me if I was busy, well he obviously didn't know what day it was

At least he asked rather than assuming because you're on here, you're desperate for a fuck, immediately, with anyone and just launching into how horny he is. "

Told him he isn't gonna be able to find anyone who's willing to drop time with family on Xmas day for a shag with a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?! "

But people wouldn't try it, if it didn't work occasionally.

There are a percentage who it does work for just by reading verifications and profiles you can see that. One of the thing i like about Fabs is the diveristy and see how others do things.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Blimey. Is this still running?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?! "

I use it as a sex site, you are using it as a dating site.

We are both able to use it in whichever way we wish.

I am alone today, as are many other single people and if I wanted to message people who are on line & try and hook up, I will.

I feel the OP's angst and she has every right to feel that way, the same as the guys who wrote to her did. They chose an approach that irritated her but may work for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be Christmas but look at the meet today listings

To many it's just another day and that means one thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?!

How are they using it as a dating site?!

I use it as a sex site, you are using it as a dating site.

We are both able to use it in whichever way we wish.

I am alone today, as are many other single people and if I wanted to message people who are on line & try and hook up, I will.

I feel the OP's angst and she has every right to feel that way, the same as the guys who wrote to her did. They chose an approach that irritated her but may work for someone else.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?! "

People cam use this site as and how they wish!! How would you like it if someone told you to go elsewhere because you're using it as a dating site??

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

You see a tick?"

I avoid sheep.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

You see a tick?

I avoid sheep."

So that means no, you didn't notice the lack of tick, and you didn't realise when you told me what you "thought I mean" that I meant exactly what I said.

Of course I wouldn't expect you to admit that actually you didn't know what you were talking about when you were telling me what I meant!

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

You see a tick?

I avoid sheep.

So that means no, you didn't notice the lack of tick, and you didn't realise when you told me what you "thought I mean" that I meant exactly what I said.

Of course I wouldn't expect you to admit that actually you didn't know what you were talking about when you were telling me what I meant! "

I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you saying its possible to know if someone is verified even if they don't show any verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps this is not the best site for the o p really.

having read the follow on posts seems to be the lady doth protest too much.

the social side of site is good but ultimately a sex site its that simple.

o p pr anyone else for that matter does not have to opem read and reply to messages especially after saying she just logged on to chat to friends.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

You see a tick?

I avoid sheep.

So that means no, you didn't notice the lack of tick, and you didn't realise when you told me what you "thought I mean" that I meant exactly what I said.

Of course I wouldn't expect you to admit that actually you didn't know what you were talking about when you were telling me what I meant!

I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you saying its possible to know if someone is verified even if they don't show any verifications?"

Yes, that's what I am saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chillax Dr who on in mo

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"perhaps this is not the best site for the o p really.

having read the follow on posts seems to be the lady doth protest too much.

the social side of site is good but ultimately a sex site its that simple.

o p pr anyone else for that matter does not have to opem read and reply to messages especially after saying she just logged on to chat to friends."

Ultimately it's a sex site *to you*. Other posts have made it quite clear other people regard it differently.

To me, sometimes it's a sex site and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes I am only here for the social aspect.

Quite apart from anything else, I don't care whether anyone thinks this site is for me, or not, or whether I use the site "properly" or not.

Lesson learned. Happy Christmas messages from strangers now get deleted. Next time someone is complaining about not getting replies, you can explain it to them.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Chillax Dr who on in mo "

I've been chilled for nearly 8 hours now. I'm now back to being amused by the ones who think this is "just a sex site" and that crude behaviour is "only to be expected".

It's the ones who aren't crude that tend to get the meets, so if people want to shoot themselves in the foot, they can go ahead.

I'll have to record Dr. Who as my dad claims to have an allergy to it.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

I think you mean no verifications shown.

There's a difference.

You see a tick?

I avoid sheep.

So that means no, you didn't notice the lack of tick, and you didn't realise when you told me what you "thought I mean" that I meant exactly what I said.

Of course I wouldn't expect you to admit that actually you didn't know what you were talking about when you were telling me what I meant!

I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you saying its possible to know if someone is verified even if they don't show any verifications?

Yes, that's what I am saying."

Well. Every day, including Christmas, can be a school day.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had any today

Im sure there's something wrong with me

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"I've not had any today

Im sure there's something wrong with me"

Merry Christmas............. Fancy a Fuck?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not had any today

Im sure there's something wrong with me

Merry Christmas............. Fancy a Fuck?"

No thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not had any today

Im sure there's something wrong with me

Merry Christmas............. Fancy a Fuck?

No thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyway all the best for Christmas and the new year I must go I have a bird to stuff. "

Would she appreciate it you call it that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy christmas....Fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If repeated too much, it ceases to be funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As its a time for family and an emotional time for you, you could always not log in...

Happy Christmas"

haha this thread did not need anymore replies after this smack down lol

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yeah haha because I should haha totally ignore messages haha from actual friends haha because I don't want haha crude messages in haha the guise of friendly haha greetings from blokes thinking with their haha cocks haha.

But yes, you're right, of course that I shouldn't log on here unless I want sex or dirty chat with anyone who asks. I've no right at all to feel irritated by people sending crude, insulting messages simply because I've had the decency to reply to their greeting in kind.

Coming from someone who moans if someone describing himself athletic, but not athletic in your opinion, dares to message you, that's really funny!

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It's been pointed out that without knowing what was said to piss me off, which the forum rules prevent me from sharing here, nobody can understand why it bothered me.

Some of you would understand, some wouldn't. It doesn't matter anyway because this is old news now. I've a right to be pissed off and moan. Others have a right to feel differently.

The sender of the final straw message apologised once I explained why what he'd just said wasn't horny but disrespectful, which I respect.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"In fairness, you're logged onto the site and not in the bosum of your family. Hardly surprising then those also logged in will contact you!

True, although only logged on to post a couple of happy Christmas messages and to reply to a few from friends. I'm off to my parents' shortly for the rest of the day.

Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex.

Most of the guys on here aren't psychic"

Or decent, honest or "genuine" either.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"perhaps this is not the best site for the o p really.

having read the follow on posts seems to be the lady doth protest too much.

the social side of site is good but ultimately a sex site its that simple.

o p pr anyone else for that matter does not have to opem read and reply to messages especially after saying she just logged on to chat to friends.

Ultimately it's a sex site *to you*. Other posts have made it quite clear other people regard it differently.

To me, sometimes it's a sex site and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes I am only here for the social aspect.

Quite apart from anything else, I don't care whether anyone thinks this site is for me, or not, or whether I use the site "properly" or not.

Lesson learned. Happy Christmas messages from strangers now get deleted. Next time someone is complaining about not getting replies, you can explain it to them."

There's an amazing amount of hypocrisy on here. The number of threads that have been posted stating FAB is not just a sex site, it's also a social site for "friendly chat". Yet some of the people who've posted in those very threads are on here basically saying if you don't want sex don't log in.

Just saying......

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By *rafty98Man
over a year ago

herts


"I went into Tesco yesterday and they were selling flowers !

Bastards.

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Merry Christmas how are the tulips then

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"C'mon folks,,,,,,,

Tis the season to feel Jolly Fa-la-la la-laa la-la-laa-laaaaaaaa "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The block bottom is not exempt from Xmas day - just block if you do not like someone's attitude and approach - may save doing it in future

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The block bottom is not exempt from Xmas day - just block if you do not like someone's attitude and approach - may save doing it in future "

Entirely true. As I said earlier, I lost my patience. We all rant sometimes. I'm usually a supporter of block and delete but I snapped this morning.

I don't know why it surprised me to be honest. One message was the final straw and it just caught me at the wrong moment.

So what if someone I don't know and won't ever meet thinks my entire life is some sort of sex game for his gratification? It's not the first time here and it won't be the last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The block bottom is not exempt from Xmas day - just block if you do not like someone's attitude and approach - may save doing it in future

Entirely true. As I said earlier, I lost my patience. We all rant sometimes. I'm usually a supporter of block and delete but I snapped this morning.

I don't know why it surprised me to be honest. One message was the final straw and it just caught me at the wrong moment.

So what if someone I don't know and won't ever meet thinks my entire life is some sort of sex game for his gratification? It's not the first time here and it won't be the last."

Just block and mutter under your breath " fuck off creep "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex? "

Happy Easter xx

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, it's just a sex site and I only ever log on when I want sex.

me too...

Hmm. 6 months, no verifications. I wonder why

Ever think a different approach might actually get that sex?

Happy Easter xx

"

Now you're talking. I'm anyone's for a chocolate egg...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"perhaps this is not the best site for the o p really.

having read the follow on posts seems to be the lady doth protest too much.

the social side of site is good but ultimately a sex site its that simple.

o p pr anyone else for that matter does not have to opem read and reply to messages especially after saying she just logged on to chat to friends.

Ultimately it's a sex site *to you*. Other posts have made it quite clear other people regard it differently.

To me, sometimes it's a sex site and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes I am only here for the social aspect.

Quite apart from anything else, I don't care whether anyone thinks this site is for me, or not, or whether I use the site "properly" or not.

Lesson learned. Happy Christmas messages from strangers now get deleted. Next time someone is complaining about not getting replies, you can explain it to them.

There's an amazing amount of hypocrisy on here. The number of threads that have been posted stating FAB is not just a sex site, it's also a social site for "friendly chat". Yet some of the people who've posted in those very threads are on here basically saying if you don't want sex don't log in.

Just saying......"
I will say though you are very consistent in your negativity towards single guys...which is a plus I think. Happy Christmas.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I love single guys, well, some single guys. I need a lot more of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we done. Is it safe to come out now lol

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Are we done. Is it safe to come out now lol "

My strops are usually quite short-lived. I've been safe to be around for more than 12 hours.

I came, I moaned, I went to have Christmas dinner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's brill I will sleep in peace tonight ur stropfree

Thought I just check and see lol

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"That's brill I will sleep in peace tonight ur stropfree

Thought I just check and see lol"

My cockles are warmed by your compassion

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Merry Christmas all

(hoping for an ulterior motive message )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"perhaps this is not the best site for the o p really.

having read the follow on posts seems to be the lady doth protest too much.

the social side of site is good but ultimately a sex site its that simple.

o p pr anyone else for that matter does not have to opem read and reply to messages especially after saying she just logged on to chat to friends.

Ultimately it's a sex site *to you*. Other posts have made it quite clear other people regard it differently.

To me, sometimes it's a sex site and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes I am only here for the social aspect.

Quite apart from anything else, I don't care whether anyone thinks this site is for me, or not, or whether I use the site "properly" or not.

Lesson learned. Happy Christmas messages from strangers now get deleted. Next time someone is complaining about not getting replies, you can explain it to them."

Sorry to hear its a difficult day for you but Im sure Im not alone in feeling confused! I've lost track of the number of times you have contradicted yourself since starting this thread.

Not really surprised that guys arent getting it right!!

Happy Boxing Day all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above poster, there are many contradictions.

There is no right or wrong way to use this site. People can use any approach they want, what they can't do is manipulate a response if the other party does not allow it.

Be a realist - many men wont know personal circumstances and would they care if they did.

You talk about only logging on to wish 'real friends' a happy Christmas, so just message those people and say it. Or if you feel strongly about the importance of Christmas and the disingenuous messages, then dont log on and text those real friends instead. Noone is forcing you to read, message or chat to anyone else, you simply stop at the point you want to.

Swinging is a very social activity and friendship bonds do form when active in the scene. Some people may confuse it with real long-lasting friendship when the reality is it lasts only when sharing the same hobby ie swinging. If you stopped swinging and deleted your profile, in a year how many of those real friends would be in regular close contact.

Enjoy your Christmas, log on here and enjoy everything that is Fab, serious messages, sexy messages, gossip and the fancy a fuck and 'you are the most sexy woman on the site' type

But if you are looking for true friendship and people who really care

look no further than those sitting in front of you and long standing friends, not on an internet forum - be a realist and you'll find things like how men attempt to engage iinterest won't bother you in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages from new people increase at Christmas as I guess some will be alone and looking for company.

My most thoughtless one was from a friend who wanted me to drive over an hour to his at 11pm to spend the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the above poster, there are many contradictions.

There is no right or wrong way to use this site. People can use any approach they want, what they can't do is manipulate a response if the other party does not allow it.

Be a realist - many men wont know personal circumstances and would they care if they did.

You talk about only logging on to wish 'real friends' a happy Christmas, so just message those people and say it. Or if you feel strongly about the importance of Christmas and the disingenuous messages, then dont log on and text those real friends instead. Noone is forcing you to read, message or chat to anyone else, you simply stop at the point you want to.

Swinging is a very social activity and friendship bonds do form when active in the scene. Some people may confuse it with real long-lasting friendship when the reality is it lasts only when sharing the same hobby ie swinging. If you stopped swinging and deleted your profile, in a year how many of those real friends would be in regular close contact.

Enjoy your Christmas, log on here and enjoy everything that is Fab, serious messages, sexy messages, gossip and the fancy a fuck and 'you are the most sexy woman on the site' type

But if you are looking for true friendship and people who really care

look no further than those sitting in front of you and long standing friends, not on an internet forum - be a realist and you'll find things like how men attempt to engage iinterest won't bother you in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went walking with my family yesterday. Loads of us. We passed a few people and exchanged Christmas greet. We had a Sherry at the pub, exchanged Christmas greets. One man we walked past.. We all individually said merry Christmas. He ignored us. We all agreed him a miserable cun.

Merry Christmas everyone. I understand that the poster is bitter about greetings, but really; miss poster, what if nobody had said merry Christmas to you?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I came on here a couple of times yesterday and it was lovely to hear from my friends, but it wasn't so nice to get a total stranger trying a cheap gambit with the aim of me getting them off. I was trying to watch Dr Who at the time, dammit!

These chaps are entitled to chance their arm, but I'm equally entitled to occasionally get the hump, same as the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being on here doesn't necessarily mean I want to talk dirty with any man who happens to feel horny.

There's a social side to here as well as it being about sex."

Thats so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people keep calling this a sex site?! It's clearly a swinging site and I agree with OP that there is a social side to swinging! If this site was just a sex site I wouldn't be here. Perhaps people who think of fabSWINGERS as a place to get an easy fuck they should go elsewhere?!

People cam use this site as and how they wish!! How would you like it if someone told you to go elsewhere because you're using it as a dating site?? "

I'm using it as a dating site to find a cuckold partner...that's a part of swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys sending "Happy Christmas" messages with ulterior motives, trying to manipulate me into dirty chat."

I know what you mean, absolutely wrong... New Year Eve shag anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iconic 1 - exactly what I was thinking but couldn't be bothered to put that much effort into typing.....well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use what ever angle they can to get someones attention so I don't see it as wrong. Some may be genuinely using it in the way its intended others not but as long as they are being polite is it really a problem?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Where's Manrider when you need him to say 'full balls=empty head' !!??

I don't know why anyone is surprised - millions of horny men are suddenly off work thinking about little other than getting laid, I've had a ridiculous number of new contact messages this week as I am sure most single females have, only this week they're saying 'Happy Christmas', or asking what plans I have for Christmas instead of saying 'Hi'.

Next week I have no doubt they'll be saying 'Happy New Year', that's just obvious! This is a site where people come looking for sex, it's nothing more than I expect, and no different from many dating sites either!

I simply choose to be flattered by endless propositions rather than offended. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iconic 1 - exactly what I was thinking but couldn't be bothered to put that much effort into typing.....well said "

agree,iconic has whacked the nail.

moaning about Xmas messages from people wanting sex at christmas whilst actually on a sex site is brilliant.

they ain't interested in sob stories,its not x factor.

we have had the happy Xmas messages.not worth stressing over.would be more upset if we had none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iconic 1 - exactly what I was thinking but couldn't be bothered to put that much effort into typing.....well said

agree,iconic has whacked the nail.

moaning about Xmas messages from people wanting sex at christmas whilst actually on a sex site is brilliant.

they ain't interested in sob stories,its not x factor.

we have had the happy Xmas messages.not worth stressing over.would be more upset if we had none."

I don't know if I should be feeling quite upset now as I haven't had many at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dont really bother me, if the guy who sends the msg is fit then i reply. If hes not then i dont. Simples

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I went walking with my family yesterday. Loads of us. We passed a few people and exchanged Christmas greet. We had a Sherry at the pub, exchanged Christmas greets. One man we walked past.. We all individually said merry Christmas. He ignored us. We all agreed him a miserable cun.

Merry Christmas everyone. I understand that the poster is bitter about greetings, but really; miss poster, what if nobody had said merry Christmas to you? "

He didn't mean merry Christmas though. He meant "I'm sending you a message that you'll be more likely to reply to so I can then feel entitled to send you a crude message because I want wank chat".

I'd rather have had no greetings than that.

And for the record, I did stop the conversation as soon as he got crude. I was still pissed off by his approach.

I'm over it now but I am amused that some of those justifying his behaviour are among the biggest moaners about things that don't suit them

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Blah blah sex site blah we're not listening to anyone else's opinion blah sex site sex site sex site.

What a load of crap

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Where's Manrider when you need him to say 'full balls=empty head' !!??

I don't know why anyone is surprised - millions of horny men are suddenly off work thinking about little other than getting laid, I've had a ridiculous number of new contact messages this week as I am sure most single females have, only this week they're saying 'Happy Christmas', or asking what plans I have for Christmas instead of saying 'Hi'.

Next week I have no doubt they'll be saying 'Happy New Year', that's just obvious! This is a site where people come looking for sex, it's nothing more than I expect, and no different from many dating sites either!

I simply choose to be flattered by endless propositions rather than offended. Simples!"

Agree. Yesterday it happened to catch me at a time that annoyed me. As I said later, I should know to expect that crap now and shouldn't be surprised.

Someone was rude and it pissed me off. Big deal.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Blah blah sex site blah we're not listening to anyone else's opinion blah sex site sex site sex site.

What a load of crap "

You said further up the thread that sometimes you use it as a sex site and at other times you use it as a social site... so, people are meant to be able to read your current mind-set... I agree with your blah, blah, blah that your not listening to other people's opinions which is just my opinion of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Merry Christmas, I'd like insert myself inside you."

You never know I guess.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I went walking with my family yesterday. Loads of us. We passed a few people and exchanged Christmas greet. We had a Sherry at the pub, exchanged Christmas greets. One man we walked past.. We all individually said merry Christmas. He ignored us. We all agreed him a miserable cun.

Merry Christmas everyone. I understand that the poster is bitter about greetings, but really; miss poster, what if nobody had said merry Christmas to you?

He didn't mean merry Christmas though. He meant "I'm sending you a message that you'll be more likely to reply to so I can then feel entitled to send you a crude message because I want wank chat".

I'd rather have had no greetings than that.

And for the record, I did stop the conversation as soon as he got crude. I was still pissed off by his approach.

I'm over it now but I am amused that some of those justifying his behaviour are among the biggest moaners about things that don't suit them "

We noticed that. Hypocrisy is a wonderful thing.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I came on here a couple of times yesterday and it was lovely to hear from my friends, but it wasn't so nice to get a total stranger trying a cheap gambit with the aim of me getting them off. I was trying to watch Dr Who at the time, dammit!

These chaps are entitled to chance their arm, but I'm equally entitled to occasionally get the hump, same as the OP "

No, no, they're horny and they can't possibly be expected to control themselves Most horny men have very limited capabilities after all

It's more laughable than annoying.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


""Merry Christmas, I'd like insert myself inside you."

You never know I guess."

I brought the grappling hook over but you'd closed the bedroom window. Rotter!

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Blah blah sex site blah we're not listening to anyone else's opinion blah sex site sex site sex site.

What a load of crap

You said further up the thread that sometimes you use it as a sex site and at other times you use it as a social site... so, people are meant to be able to read your current mind-set... I agree with your blah, blah, blah that your not listening to other people's opinions which is just my opinion of course! "

It's not "just" a sex site is the point.

Nobody has to be able to read anyone's mind, just not automatically assume that because they are on here they are up for anything with anyone!

Some people think because this is a "sex site" that's only to be expected.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think this is just going round in circles now.

If you don't want mails on certain days then maybe don't log in as you won't be able to control what some people may write to you.

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