FabSwingers.com forum: Too many veris??

By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Another thread has made me wonder..,

A lot of people have commented on profiles in the past saying they find too many veris off putting.

Obviously that's up to them but what I'm wondering is do those people just see a number and go

or do they bother to read the veris as I know from personal experience that 90% of my veris are social only. So in a year or two I could have say 100 veris but maybe 80 of those will be from socials/parties.

I'm not one that finds too many veris off putting personally as meeting be it socially or for play is what this site is all about but if I was I wouldn't assume that just because someone has 200 veris they must all be from play meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have about 100, mostly from cam, some from meeting people in clubs. But we limited them down a lot because we didn't want people thinking there was too many there. But the idea is that each one has what type it is, and the text usually says what happened. So if people are dumb enough to think 100 veris means 100 "shagging meets", then its their loss! C xx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I read veris

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I like to see and read the social meet ones.. usually amusing. Not keen on the graffic who did what to whom type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got told I was damaged goods due to the volume of veris I have. Most of mine are from one person or socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care either way. If we like we message and then phone regardless.

Although I'll admit to sometimes having a nosy at the type of people they've met if there's not much else on a profile.

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london

"Don't care either way. If we like we message and then phone regardless.

Although I'll admit to sometimes having a nosy at the type of people they've met if there's not much else on a profile."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have enough problems when people read my profile. No way am I letting them near my veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can never see the issue or understand the logic that makes some people judge those woth too many verificatipns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is bothered by how many veries I have, then there is no way they would be happy to meet me.. and I wouldnt want to play with them either xx

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I can never see the issue or understand the logic that makes some people judge those woth too many verificatipns.

Nor me. But I would think that anyone who is concerned with too many veris would bother to have a quick skim through to see if they were social ones or not before writing someone off!

Although why I think that when reading a profile is a challenge for some so expecting them to read veris as well is just madness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the veris I find them interesting and I enjoy them would never let it put me off

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am put off by volumes of verifications, but it is more the timeline: If I see people who meet nearly everyday then that would put me off. I would make a judgement that swinging has consumed their lives and I would not want to be just another cock.

But that is entirely their shout and that is cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it would seem that some people think that " too many veris " could mean a few things!

Your not selective in whom you meet

Your far to experienced

And you must have enough friends so you don't need any more!

How ever many veris anyone has doesn't bother us one diddly squite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have thought 100 different veris in a month from play meets might be considered excessive by some

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Displaying all of mine has led to a new range of messages from people saying that I put it about too much. I take from that only that they see the number and haven't read them.

I had almost as many before but didn't show them all.

The post marking, I want him/her for myself, verifications are the most helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't go by the number of veris but more the context. If a man has 3 or 4 sex meets a week I will steer clear as makes me think I'd just be another hole to them.

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Well it would seem that some people think that " too many veris " could mean a few things!

Your not selective in whom you meet

Your far to experienced

And you must have enough friends so you don't need any more!

How ever many veris anyone has doesn't bother us one diddly squite!

It was comments on your thread that made me start this one.

Tbh it's not the fact that some don't want to meet those with lots of veris that is annoying me (although I do think its weird getting judged for having too many meets on a swinging site) it's the fact that people just assume that people with lots of veris must be off having a gang bang every week and don't think that in all likelihood they could be social etc

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I'd have thought 100 different veris in a month from play meets might be considered excessive by some

Yes it probably would

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Displaying all of mine has led to a new range of messages from people saying that I put it about too much. I take from that only that they see the number and haven't read them.

I had almost as many before but didn't show them all.

The post marking, I want him/her for myself, verifications are the most helpful.

Yours is another good example lickety. A good mix of social and play meets. I think people do just look at the number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it would seem that some people think that " too many veris " could mean a few things!

Your not selective in whom you meet

Your far to experienced

And you must have enough friends so you don't need any more!

How ever many veris anyone has doesn't bother us one diddly squite!

It was comments on your thread that made me start this one.

Yes I have just read some of the comments!! Very judgemental indeed!

And hey

Who'd have thought that people in a swingers site actually meet and have sex with others!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Another thread has made me wonder..,

A lot of people have commented on profiles in the past saying they find too many veris off putting.

Obviously that's up to them but what I'm wondering is do those people just see a number and go

the problem is that way too many people think every single Verification IS from playing...... regardless... as was proved in the other thread, and the misconcepting is that people will play with anyone..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have been around the block enough to ascertain the play meets from the social meets.

it would be the frequency of the play meets that would drive my opinion of the person and if I need to make a judgement on who I play with: I will.

Likewise, they are cool to do the same with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also don't think people take into account on how long with a number of veris have been on the site

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I have been around the block enough to ascertain the play meets from the social meets.

it would be the frequency of the play meets that would drive my opinion of the person and if I need to make a judgement on who I play with: I will.

Likewise, they are cool to do the same with me"

And that's fair enough. My gripe (for want of a better word) was people thinking others had too many veris when they hadn't even bothered reading them to see that most were social meets x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I have been around the block enough to ascertain the play meets from the social meets.

it would be the frequency of the play meets that would drive my opinion of the person and if I need to make a judgement on who I play with: I will.

Likewise, they are cool to do the same with me

And that's fair enough. My gripe (for want of a better word) was people thinking others had too many veris when they hadn't even bothered reading them to see that most were social meets x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also don't think people take into account on how long members with a number of veris have been on the site "

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I have been around the block enough to ascertain the play meets from the social meets.

it would be the frequency of the play meets that would drive my opinion of the person and if I need to make a judgement on who I play with: I will.

Likewise, they are cool to do the same with me

And that's fair enough. My gripe (for want of a better word) was people thinking others had too many veris when they hadn't even bothered reading them to see that most were social meets x"

I verify men after the initial social meet - extremely rarely after a play meet but sometimes a social turns into a play meet. I have had a query about whether I only meet socially and if I ever play? Maybe, there are people who think social meets indicate you are a flirt who doesn't get down and dirty? I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that some people, particularly those who think that this is a sex site rather than a swinging site, have the outdated and misogynistic _iewpoint that women with lots of partners are slags.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I do think that some people, particularly those who think that this is a sex site rather than a swinging site, have the outdated and misogynistic _iewpoint that women with lots of partners are slags."

what is good for the goose, is good for the gander.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes, we need to have a high libido and the restraint not to show it or act on it. As long as we're not too selective and decline them. Of course, once we've met them that's all we're good for.

If we have had more than a handful of partners then we must also be dying to teach those new to all of this.

Sorry, it's just my libido talking. It's very frustrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we should all turn celibate

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

I am in the new year x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

I am considering returning to celibacy.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

I am considering returning to celibacy."

I think I bloody well have!!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

I am considering returning to celibacy.

I think I bloody well have!!!

Celibacy isn't thrust upon you, that's just not getting any. You have to make it a choice and follow it through properly. I don't know if you local authority would be able to manage to recycle all of your toys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just read the thread this stemmed from and see a prime example of judgement

if im interested in meeting someone,i take the time to read profiles,look at pics and read verifications,if they have alot i look at a few,i see meet for plays and socials ,i wanna know if there able to get on with people on a social level and that they also play,

I wouldnt judge anybody on how many,i personally have loads,only show recent,i keep my summary on show because i want to,im not hiding who i am lol,as it happens half are social,t if they were all playmeets what does it matter i have sex one evening/day a week,when i was married i had sex 3or4 times a week,if people think my veri's are all sex then in 14months being on fab that isnt alot of sex lol

I will keep my summary up,anybody who dosent like the ammount,then they can walk on by,it only seems to be about in forums not to me personally

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, it's a ruddy swinging site. It shows that you are doing something right, whether they are socials or from a gangbang. I like mine. They are nice things that someone has taken the trouble to share. Obviously the ones that say I'm a mentalist I lose in the post....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well I've never had one negative comment about my verifications and when I have them on show there's about 100.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Perhaps we should all turn celibate

Yeah right, like that is going to happen

I am considering returning to celibacy.

I think I bloody well have!!!

I think they'd consider it heavy haulage and charge me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tarts - the lot of you!!

*sorry - meant us, not you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it's a ruddy swinging site. It shows that you are doing something right, whether they are socials or from a gangbang. I like mine. They are nice things that someone has taken the trouble to share. Obviously the ones that say I'm a mentalist I lose in the post....

I think one of mine actually says I'm mad as a box of frogs! But I'm with you on the ruddiness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just read the recent ones someone could have changed a lot in two years.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Miss Bottie Hottie I totally agree with you. Sorry I have not read all posts so apologies if I am repeating others.

With the new 'summary' available on profiles, it would greatly help if there was a distinction between socials and play meets xx

I admit that as a newbie on the site, when a isaw profiles with many many veris my first reaction was WoW....and moved on without taking the time to read them

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

The only verifications that really make me go

are the 100 from the same person that seems to get more and more territorial you'd not chance meeting for fear of their stalker following them to your house!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"The only verifications that really make me go

are the 100 from the same person that seems to get more and more territorial you'd not chance meeting for fear of their stalker following them to your house! "

Oh I love those

Better than soap operas. I wouldn't meet that person, but I follow the veris like fan fiction

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"The only verifications that really make me go

are the 100 from the same person that seems to get more and more territorial you'd not chance meeting for fear of their stalker following them to your house!

Oh I love those

Better than soap operas. I wouldn't meet that person, but I follow the veris like fan fiction

I have blocked some of those just to stop myself looking at the next installment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ammount don't bother me, but the lack of "meet" veri's puts me off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single bloke on here, ive been very lucky to get the number of veris that I have in the time ive been on. Yes there are a good few from regular meets, but to me that just shows how trust builds up and things progress.

When looking at others veris I tend to look at the time its taken to get them, but at the end of the day, if there is a connection with someone, the past is past and who is to say someone with only a few is showing them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go by the number of veris but more the context. If a man has 3 or 4 sex meets a week I will steer clear as makes me think I'd just be another hole to them. "
. 100% agree with this, I saw a profile the other day a woman been on here 3 weeks and had 24 veris all from meets!!! And some of us single women wonder why some guys treat us the way they do on here.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"The only verifications that really make me go

are the 100 from the same person that seems to get more and more territorial you'd not chance meeting for fear of their stalker following them to your house!

Oh I love those

Better than soap operas. I wouldn't meet that person, but I follow the veris like fan fiction

It's a guilty pleasure as I feel I'm reading someone's secret personal sexual diary and I can't look away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go by the number of veris but more the context. If a man has 3 or 4 sex meets a week I will steer clear as makes me think I'd just be another hole to them. . 100% agree with this, I saw a profile the other day a woman been on here 3 weeks and had 24 veris all from meets!!! And some of us single women wonder why some guys treat us the way they do on here. "

and you find that wrong????

If I got veried on every meet last year I would have had that in a day somedays..

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I got told I was damaged goods due to the volume of veris I have. Most of mine are from one person or socials

Damaged goods

I dont get put off by the number of veris as much as i do with the profile, pics & if they are a forumite thier posts

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Just looked. I have 51 verfis. I have been this scene for about 7 years now. I meet once a month if lucky occasionally two nights. I go to clubs and house parties.

Aside from the swinging that is the only sex I have. Do I get more sex than a couple together? I doubt it. But I am frowned upon??If aanyone doesn't like it tough x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did once get told.. You seem

Very nice but your amount of veris says you are not for me... Uve been around the track a few times!!!

Most are from socials I didn't bother to point this out, I was a bit

at first but then just smiled... Have also been told I love myself

I said aye I know

I can't be doing with judgemental people especially when they haven't a clue and just surmise. Numpties

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It's horses for courses though. Greedy girls, those that meet at clubs etc are bound to have a few verifications by the very nature of their activity.

Would I want to meet them? No. Do I think men treat greedy girls differently? Some will...some wont!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined it did but that's because I didn't know any better. Now it dosnt bother me at all

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

What does that mean? How she meets, who she meet and how many she meets is up to her. What does that have to do with how men treat other women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you're also passing judgment on her too. To some that may seem a lot, to others it's a normal weekend, but why does the amount of sex she chose to have excuse some men from treating women with respect? It's not her fault that some men (and women & couples) see this site as free prostitution! There is also a change that some of these men knew her before she joined/rejoined and that the timeline might not have actually been 3 weeks...not that there would be an issue with that if they were all in the 3 weeks. On the flipside of it, she could see men as disposable which I have noticed on several occasions and dislike too...everyone on here is a person not a sex toy.

Number of verifications doesn't bother me, but some of the repeat ones can make me wary if they seem to be marking their territory. Most of my veris are from meets, but if someone wants to judge me on that then so be it...we wouldn't have been compatible if they don't like how active I am. Funny thing is I have met many more than I have been verified by, and still regularly meet some that I have known for a couple of years...none of that is reflected in my veris so they aren't the full picture at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have loads of verifications from over the years we have been on here.Some from social ,some from Play,If it puts people off its there problem not ours,but repect there choice ,we are proud of our verifications and feel it shows we are a genuine couple and up for fun people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read veris, the ones that attract me are a meeting in person, rather than cam, we can all do that all day.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't do socials. All my veris, apart from one who I chose not to play with, are play meets. If that makes anyone _iewing my profile to go ...

... then they are not the kind of person I would want to meet.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I haven't read all the comments in this thread but my thoughts on veris are that they are useful but not the be all & end all. I have a few, but some are the same person verifying a couple of times, a few are social, some are from men who I have encountered along the way but not done anything sexual with. I think my verifications hint at my being decent & trustworthy. This is important because I am sure everyone is, to some degree at least, sceptical of single men on here. I don't expect people to think I'll be amazing in bed from reading my verifications, but hopefully they will be reassured I'm not here to mess folk about or treat them with anything less than respect.

However, an excess of verifications would put me off. I recently spotted a profile with over 400, many being a day or two apart. That puts me off. As would dozens of verifications, all of which are cam as I am only interested in meeting in person.

I take a persons verifications as part of my decision process along with profile text & photos. If they tick all the boxes they get a message.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I don't do socials. All my veris, apart from one who I chose not to play with, are play meets. If that makes anyone _iewing my profile to go ...

... then they are not the kind of person I would want to meet."

I've seen your profile and gone

but that's cause of your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only verifications that really make me go

are the 100 from the same person that seems to get more and more territorial you'd not chance meeting for fear of their stalker following them to your house!

Oh I love those

Better than soap operas. I wouldn't meet that person, but I follow the veris like fan fiction :-

I love them too, especially if there are 2 women trying to outdo each other on a guys profile. I wish the site owners could publish a book with the best ones.

I am often amused by some comments criticising those who chose to be more active with their hobby than those who don't meet often. It doesn't make anyone a nicer, purer, cleaner person if they don't have many veris on show, we are all on a site to meet strangers for sex.

I have always had the philosophy of 'if you don't like what's on my profile, get off my page'. Noone is wrong with this, we all chose to do what and when we like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of the time when someone has slated me for the amount I have they don't take into consideration that I've been on this site over 2 years and as others have said when your at a club or some sort of gathering you can easily build up quite a few more verifications in a short space of time. Usually the people who have a issue are people who don't take my fancy in the slightest or are too dumb to put 1+1 together and realise how it actually is.

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