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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do veries and,sometimes profile names put you off????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veries and,sometimes profile names put you off???? "

They can do if it proves they don't practice what they preach.. and it don't like some names.

Cali

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

we wouldn't choose someone based on a good verification but we do use verifications to help us when we decide not to meet someone, if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some user names do put us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes some of them make me cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some user names put me off too. As for verifications no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Dependant on the name. And for veri's it can be both the content AND who's left it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some user names put me off, some profiles put me off, some photos put me off, some veris put me off. I'm a bit puttoffable. But, of course, good ones of all attract me! I'm quite attractable.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Dependant on the name. And for veri's it can be both the content AND who's left it."

this. I'm not overly confident and if veris have been left by women who are all the complete opposite of me, then I'm afraid it would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is my name a put off/poor ? tried others and were already taken.. so looked in fridge for inspiration lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some user names put me off, some profiles put me off, some photos put me off, some veris put me off. I'm a bit puttoffable. But, of course, good ones of all attract me! I'm quite attractable. "

So, your attractively putoffable

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Some user names put me off, some profiles put me off, some photos put me off, some veris put me off. I'm a bit puttoffable. But, of course, good ones of all attract me! I'm quite attractable. "

This...it depends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is my name a put off/poor ? tried others and were already taken.. so looked in fridge for inspiration lol"

It was a tune back in the day. Living On The Ceiling.

youtube.com/watch?v=L03PJeB38dI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And, in answer to the question....HUGE yes!.

There are a few users, who leave the same kind of verifications, and like to use the word WOW! a lot, this just makes me cringe. Yes, you may get the odd wow moment, but every meet? really! really really?? ...I think not. If I am messaged by a guy and they pop up, its a huge groan moment from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No names put us off ... the only veris that put us off are those from barebackers !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

graphic veris make us cringe a lot !

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Do veries and,sometimes profile names put you off???? "

Veris do when it's all "mmmmmm" and "ooo" and shit like that. You'd think people were bars of bloody chocolate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Dependant on the name. And for veri's it can be both the content AND who's left it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is my name a put off/poor ? tried others and were already taken.. so looked in fridge for inspiration lol"

Your name is fine. In fact it's quite sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some names put me off, names with words like dom/master in them do, sure I don't need to explain why lol

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Lots of user names put me off, and yes veri's from certain people are an instant decline. At the same time not showing veri's will also make me decline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. The amount of guys who have slept with women who are complete opposites from me. Yet when they ask why and i tell them they say "Oh i was so horny and she was just throwing it at me so i did it. She's minging! She's not my type at all!" How pathetic and spineless is that? Not only did they sleep with someone they didn't find attractive but they tell me that. What a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have a veri I'll gladly put it up for discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I do a bit of a veri stalk i find looking at the verification that they have left for people can be more illuminating and tell you more about them than one that another person has left for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him."

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I do a bit of a veri stalk i find looking at the verification that they have left for people can be more illuminating and tell you more about them than one that another person has left for them"

Ooh, crafty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What gets my back up is people leaving good veri's just so they get a good one back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

They are probably not on here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

So what if they don't show the summary and all their veri's?

I'd class myself as VERY selective in who I play with yet have a few more than 5 ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

okay.... flag on the play...

let me play a bit of "devil's advocate..."

how do we know you only have three verifications?.... you only "Show" three, you could have many more hidden!

say I have been to a social.. actually went to the newcastle social the other week... there were best part of 200 people there.... and they all decide to leave me a verification....

you now judging me???

should I only show "less than 5?"

talk about reading so much into a verification...... in how many other situation would you like the opinion of someone you have never met as gospel about another person you have never met?????

it is the content of a verification that I look at, yes like someone said above overly graphic ones do make me cringe... and I personally dont show them... but then the people I meet socially or otherwise know that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

okay.... flag on the play...

let me play a bit of "devil's advocate..."

how do we know you only have three verifications?.... you only "Show" three, you could have many more hidden!

say I have been to a social.. actually went to the newcastle social the other week... there were best part of 200 people there.... and they all decide to leave me a verification....

you now judging me???

should I only show "less than 5?"

talk about reading so much into a verification...... in how many other situation would you like the opinion of someone you have never met as gospel about another person you have never met?????

it is the content of a verification that I look at, yes like someone said above overly graphic ones do make me cringe... and I personally dont show them... but then the people I meet socially or otherwise know that..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

I think you accidentally signed up to a swingers site. People are still selective, but they make lots of selections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't put us off! But then we very rarely read other peoples veris!

As to who they had met! A possible maybe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some "user names" make me cringe and i often think wtf !!!

How would that name entice anyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O yes .... Without doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

But with this statement, your assuming the lady with lots of veris isnt having safe sex .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's usually the people leaving them that will put me off rather than the content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes certain user names do put me off even more so if they accompanied by a dodgy profile pic.

veri's didn't used to bother me but some definitely make me think twice now. as mentioned earlier in the thread it's also a bit of an eye opener to read the veri they left for someone else

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Firstly, usernames can be a bit off-putting for me - although it would more depend on the email convo that followed the initial first message, I'm pretty sure I've never turned anyone down flat cos they were called SwallowMyHugeLoad or FillMyGapingMinge (actually, I think that's one of Funky's fake fem profiles). If the photo, profile and initial message appeal to me, I'll attempt a bit of a dialogue - often I find these taper off into one line responses (regardless of user name) which lead nowhere.

With regards to veris, I scan them, read a few, notice if we have any meets in common - very graphic or gushy ones I mostly overlook - if the messagee has met someone I know then usually it's more likely that I'd maybe arrange a social. As to how many or few veris a person has, I'm more for those with a goodly amount, but don't immediately discount those with only a few or having them hidden (I had a great overnighter with a gent whose veris I never saw...)

Veris and usernames - one of the many contributory factors I use when selecting who to bestow my presence upon...but my most useful tool is my brain and common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Dependant on the name. And for veri's it can be both the content AND who's left it."

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious? "

Lol !

Here's a little example of why this kind if thinking is so wrong .

A few months ago we were at a social and we bumped into a nice couple .

It turned out we had words on the forum some months previously . We clearly were not their type . Too upfront , different type to that which would appeal to them . Too many veris etc ....

Well to cut a long story short , we ended up having a wonderful time in a playroom and we all agreed that the saying ' never judge a book by the cover' was never more apt !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

It's a swinging site

So your expecting people to stop meeting after 5 meets?

Just because someone may have more than 5 veris doesn't mean they are not selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alternatively, rather than have verifications, they could be replaced with a chart of some kind that shows how often they have met in say the last 3 months, 6 months etc.

This way you know they are verified and how active they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly, usernames can be a bit off-putting for me - although it would more depend on the email convo that followed the initial first message, I'm pretty sure I've never turned anyone down flat cos they were called SwallowMyHugeLoad or FillMyGapingMinge (actually, I think that's one of Funky's fake fem profiles). If the photo, profile and initial message appeal to me, I'll attempt a bit of a dialogue - often I find these taper off into one line responses (regardless of user name) which lead nowhere.

With regards to veris, I scan them, read a few, notice if we have any meets in common - very graphic or gushy ones I mostly overlook - if the messagee has met someone I know then usually it's more likely that I'd maybe arrange a social. As to how many or few veris a person has, I'm more for those with a goodly amount, but don't immediately discount those with only a few or having them hidden (I had a great overnighter with a gent whose veris I never saw...)

Veris and usernames - one of the many contributory factors I use when selecting who to bestow my presence upon...but my most useful tool is my brain and common sense "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm only interested in the most recent verifications as I am not likely to scroll down ages to get to the bottom (too lazy).

I will never, ever understand why people think that those who meet a lot of people on here are more likely to be 'dirty' than someone who hasn't. You only need to shag one person unwisely to get a STI! But then I would never cut down my veris to please people. They're not the sort of people I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as names then yes some I think yuk, as for veris I don't use them so not bothered how many have.

I've still to work out why some people feel the need to rely on what someone else has said about someone and not find out about them themselves. That's just me though and while we have a veri system then people can use it however they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

Your really asking on a swing site and think 5 is a lot... Some of us do that in one sitting.. and I'm very selective

Anyway back to the op.... Usernames often put me off.. and veries if there profile states safe sex only but veri is from people that say.. we only do bare etc.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

Bugger, I now have a new target - a million veris (puts on Dr Evil voice and little finger to side of mouth)...I'm not sure what risk you run with someone who has fucked a woman with loads of veris unless you're making the assumption that every woman with more than {insert perfect number} of verifications is banging all and sundry bareback - that is not the case for many promiscuous people (both genders included)

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

It's a swinging site

So your expecting people to stop meeting after 5 meets?

Just because someone may have more than 5 veris doesn't mean they are not selective "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

okay.... flag on the play...

let me play a bit of "devil's advocate..."

how do we know you only have three verifications?.... you only "Show" three, you could have many more hidden!

say I have been to a social.. actually went to the newcastle social the other week... there were best part of 200 people there.... and they all decide to leave me a verification....

you now judging me???

should I only show "less than 5?"

talk about reading so much into a verification...... in how many other situation would you like the opinion of someone you have never met as gospel about another person you have never met?????

it is the content of a verification that I look at, yes like someone said above overly graphic ones do make me cringe... and I personally dont show them... but then the people I meet socially or otherwise know that..."

I'm not judging them on someone elses say so, i'm judging them that they think it's acceptable to show 200 verification. That is what turns me off them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious? "

Can always rely on obi to make me smile......I was thinking the exact same thing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious? "

I've been here over a year and so far only 2 people on here have met my high standards. I doubt i'll meet another 2 if i'm perfectly honest. And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me.

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By *allen MadonnaWoman
over a year ago

In my own little world

I think you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we wouldn't choose someone based on a good verification but we do use verifications to help us when we decide not to meet someone, if that makes sense."
..We do the same..Makes perfect sense to us.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious?

I've been here over a year and so far only 2 people on here have met my high standards. I doubt i'll meet another 2 if i'm perfectly honest. And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me. "

In that case, as you're not showing your summary and others have no way of knowing how many meets you've actally had, does that mean you think that showing only three veris is appropriate for you?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In that case, as you're not showing your summary and others have no way of knowing how many meets you've actally had, does that mean you think that showing only three veris is appropriate for you? "

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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In that case, as you're not showing your summary and others have no way of knowing how many meets you've actally had, does that mean you think that showing only three veris is appropriate for you?

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me."

So going by that then why be bothered about what others think is appropriate for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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In that case, as you're not showing your summary and others have no way of knowing how many meets you've actally had, does that mean you think that showing only three veris is appropriate for you?

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me."

Im not trying to insult you at all!! You made a statement that you thought showing too many veris was not appropriate and that more than 5 was not being selective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

In that case, as you're not showing your summary and others have no way of knowing how many meets you've actally had, does that mean you think that showing only three veris is appropriate for you?

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me."

Seems fair enough - and I agree about the things that just say the same over & over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veries and,sometimes profile names put you off???? "

The only thing that puts me off is when they say in there profile there looking for safe sex then you see one than one pic on there profile with a cock inside them and no comdom or cum dripping out of there lady area and yes some of the names are put off to

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me."

And the ones I show I feel is appropriate for me.

Obviously you use veris as a filter which is fine, but how would you know whats appropriate for others? Is 4 too many but 2 too few?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do veries and,sometimes profile names put you off???? "

Yes.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me."

I think they are saying in kind words that you preach the below....


"

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

isn't quite what you are practicing.... but judging others on how many they have....

so you in fact have 33 verifications ...... of which you only show 3!

so are you saying people should think less of you now? people can cloud what information they like.. or in your case hide information....

I have loads of verifs... most of mine are social meet with people who I have met at socials and clubs and haven't played with... but they were kind enough because we got along and the conversations we had to leave me a verification

you may be reading more into verifications that isn't there.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so you in fact have 33 verifications ...... of which you only show 3!

so are you saying people should think less of you now? people can cloud what information they like.. or in your case hide information....

I have loads of verifs... most of mine are social meet with people who I have met at socials and clubs and haven't played with... but they were kind enough because we got along and the conversations we had to leave me a verification

you may be reading more into verifications that isn't there..... "

Yes i have 33 verifications and 30 of them are for conversations on a webcam not sex. You are deliberately being obtuse now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious?

I've been here over a year and so far only 2 people on here have met my high standards. I doubt i'll meet another 2 if i'm perfectly honest. And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me. "

I am just glad that not everyone thinks like that... I have a few on here.. and don't show all but to be honest if everyone id played with had verified me it would be a much bigger list. I show what I do because it's appropriate for me..

So why do you think it's not appropriate. ? And can I suggest you work out what this site is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmmm, user names don't worry us... Veris? Can be useful indicators of type of person and how genuine they are (but we do meet peeps without). But number of veri's is a prob for people like us, we've been casually swinging for over 17yrs and we feel if someone is generous enough to veri us it's only polite to put it up, for a little while anyway! However we only use veri's when we have actually met / played xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some user names yes. Too many veris definitely but not the content of them as you have to take them with a pinch of salt and make your own decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not keen seeing a huge amount of verifications in a profile. Too round the block for me. 2 or 3 is enough for character reference but after that it's a repeat of each one and turns me off. Sometimes a little decorum goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

Oh - and just another thought!

Will you quit meeting after another 2 veri's ?

Or run the risk of becoming 'a woman that has loads of verifications' ?

Just curious?

I've been here over a year and so far only 2 people on here have met my high standards. I doubt i'll meet another 2 if i'm perfectly honest. And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me. "
you think it inappropriate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have over 30 veris from people i've spoken to on webcam but why show 30 when 1 will do? I have 3 veris from guys i've actually met and had sex with however only show 2 as the third one was a guy i met from another site and brought him here. I feel that showing the 2 veris for the guys from here and 1 of the cam veris is appropriate. I have no idea what you're trying to suggest here. I'm fairly certain that you're trying to insult me however it's not clear to me how. Yes, 3 veris is what i feel is appropriate for me.

I think they are saying in kind words that you preach the below....

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?

isn't quite what you are practicing.... but judging others on how many they have....

so you in fact have 33 verifications ...... of which you only show 3!

so are you saying people should think less of you now? people can cloud what information they like.. or in your case hide information....

I have loads of verifs... most of mine are social meet with people who I have met at socials and clubs and haven't played with... but they were kind enough because we got along and the conversations we had to leave me a verification

you may be reading more into verifications that isn't there..... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I do a bit of a veri stalk i find looking at the verification that they have left for people can be more illuminating and tell you more about them than one that another person has left for them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


". And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me. you think it inappropriate? "

In my opinion, showing loads of verifications is inappropriate and i make my choices of my sexual partner accordingly. Why is this such a big deal? There are plenty of other people here saying exactly the same thing but you're not jumping all over them. The way i choose my partners is entirely my choice. Someone asked the question and i replied. If you don't like the answer that's not my problem.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Yes so do some avatars and names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


". And as i stated in a reply earlier, it's not the amount of people someone has slept with on here, it's the amount of verifications THEY THINK IS APPROPRIATE TO SHOW that causes concern for me. you think it inappropriate?

In my opinion, showing loads of verifications is inappropriate and i make my choices of my sexual partner accordingly. Why is this such a big deal? There are plenty of other people here saying exactly the same thing but you're not jumping all over them. The way i choose my partners is entirely my choice. Someone asked the question and i replied. If you don't like the answer that's not my problem. "

Your not being jumped over.. just curious as to why it's inappropriate... As in do you think that if someone only showed 5 that they might not have 50 .. at least showing all the veries or or most gives people the option.

I think honesty is best on here...so why hide how many ive met .

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy has 150 veris all for sex or mostly for sex, then he's proud of all his conquests and in my opinion, not very picky. We all make judgement calls and that's one of mine. I'm not looking to sleep with a guy who thinks numbers are impressive. It's quality not quantity in my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy has 150 veris all for sex or mostly for sex, then he's proud of all his conquests and in my opinion, not very picky. We all make judgement calls and that's one of mine. I'm not looking to sleep with a guy who thinks numbers are impressive. It's quality not quantity in my world."

But some of us like group sex and 150 is only one a week for 3 years..

On our singles profiles we have a few between us , and are definitely picky. Oh and I just like quantity of quality.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If veris are too graphic they can put me off slightly.

Usernames yes, anything with Dom or Master usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But some of us like group sex and 150 is only one a week for 3 years..

On our singles profiles we have a few between us , and are definitely picky. Oh and I just like quantity of quality.

Cali"

And that's your opinion and i respect it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"we wouldn't choose someone based on a good verification but we do use verifications to help us when we decide not to meet someone, if that makes sense."

This for me too!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There are plenty of other people here saying exactly the same thing but you're not jumping all over them."

Because they're not saying its inappropriate to show verifications.

There are nicer ways to express an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy has 150 veris all for sex or mostly for sex, then he's proud of all his conquests and in my opinion, not very picky. We all make judgement calls and that's one of mine. I'm not looking to sleep with a guy who thinks numbers are impressive. It's quality not quantity in my world."

So there aren't 150 women of 'quality' on here that a guy could justifiably meet over a number of years without just looking to rack up numbers?

Id hate to have to judge that shortlist!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"There are some names that put me off mainly from single male profiles where they think they are Christian Grey or the best Dom you'll ever meet - if anything probably means they are shit.

As for veris yes they can put me off. I was chatting to a man who seemed nice whilst we were chatting I saw he had met a very local well known couple on here with literally over 100 verifications and it really put me off, especially as all the pictures the couple post of these meets are bareback. That's fine, but this man said he didn't do bareback but pictures stated otherwise.

I know I am responsible for my own sexual health and I'd have insisted on protection however it really put me off him.

Oh yeah the men and women with a million verifications! If you have more than 5 verifications then i'm not interested and if you've slept with a woman that has loads of verifications, i don't want to run the risk. What happened to people being selective with their sexual partners?"

Erm...you know this isn't puritan.com right?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you have liked me to say? In fact, don't answer that. I really could not care less. I thought the forums in here would be a lively discussion about matters and opinions pertaining to the users. But it would seem it's just a place for people to try and pick on others. Sorry but i'm a grown up. So thanks for the eye opener! Happy swinging folks!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"As far as names then yes some I think yuk, as for veris I don't use them so not bothered how many have.

I've still to work out why some people feel the need to rely on what someone else has said about someone and not find out about them themselves. That's just me though and while we have a veri system then people can use it however they want. "

Something I've mentioned many a time. Why on earth would I rely on a total strangers opinion of another total stranger to decide who to invite into my bed. The idea is ludicrous to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not gonna lie, some names are a bit off putting. Either alittle to weird or overly confident... It's been interesting seeing some of them

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if they are displayed like a trophy cabinet, a popularity contest, a marking one's territory then they are offputting...

but hey, different strokes for different folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Names put me off as they can give be insightful. Its interesting to remember the original names before forum influences cause people to change to what they believe others find aacceptable.

Some veris make me cringe but im glad there are such huge variations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adding to this, or hijacking so I apologise, some pics also put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

so you in fact have 33 verifications ...... of which you only show 3!

so are you saying people should think less of you now? people can cloud what information they like.. or in your case hide information....

I have loads of verifs... most of mine are social meet with people who I have met at socials and clubs and haven't played with... but they were kind enough because we got along and the conversations we had to leave me a verification

you may be reading more into verifications that isn't there.....

Yes i have 33 verifications and 30 of them are for conversations on a webcam not sex. You are deliberately being obtuse now. "

Must say after looking over your profile I agree with your comment/ post people seem to get confused with the body type athletic

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Erm...you know this isn't puritan.com right?!! "

It's not?! Oh shit. I've been getting it totally wrong

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