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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

My best mates know. Most of them are fascinated by it all. Every Sunday I walk the dog with one and it cracks him up when I tell him what's been going on in my 'fab life' side of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice "
your over 18 and don't have to explain nothing as its your life and your choices .

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london


"My best mates know. Most of them are fascinated by it all. Every Sunday I walk the dog with one and it cracks him up when I tell him what's been going on in my 'fab life' side of things "

same here our best friends know and their partners,mainly for our safety.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

You know, I like to think of Fab as one great big happy family.

So I guess, I have a lot of friends and family on here. x

*ghey smiley*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice "

Why do you need to explain anything? You're an adult, it's none of his business.

My private life is private, I don't tell anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice

Why do you need to explain anything? You're an adult, it's none of his business.

My private life is private, I don't tell anyone."

This so none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sex life has absolutely bugger all to do with anyone but me and who im having sex with,so no my friends or family have no idea and im not about to tell them either

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Some trusted friends know my brother suspects

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice

Why do you need to explain anything? You're an adult, it's none of his business.

My private life is private, I don't tell anyone.

This so none "

Totally agree...it's called a private life or a reason. I'm not saying that no ones knows but even so, I don't have to share anything with anyone but my spouse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My sex life has absolutely bugger all to do with anyone but me and who im having sex with,so no my friends or family have no idea and im not about to tell them either

"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate, my brother and his wife, and my sister al know in fact my sister is on here too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My aunt recently stumbled across my old profile. I freaked out and deleted my old account, anyway ended chatting to her after avoiding her for as long as possible lol and after chating agreed to.keep our secret safe and she told me to stop being draft and carry on enjoying myself. Which i plan to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My sex life has absolutely bugger all to do with anyone but me and who im having sex with,so no my friends or family have no idea and im not about to tell them either"

^^^^ This!! My private life is private and that's how I intend keeping it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest "

If I was you Id hide profile for a while and put all pics in private. Deny everything!! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody outside of swinging knows i'm on here

my mum suspected a few years ago and started asking questions I just acted offended and she apologised shut up

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

My wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest "
yes you do that. Nothing to do with no one but you two. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest yes you do that. Nothing to do with no one but you two. xxx "
play dum ...... I say to them if they ever said something . I must look it up , lol

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By *hebrummiesCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thankfully for us almost everyone we know knows we have an "unusual" side to our lives, some know more details than others.

I say thankfully because of this thread from a year or so ago we had to start:

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/41778

If we had had to explain from scratch I think the outcome with our friends and neighbours would have been different.

You are doing nothing wrong by being on here, by acting as of it's a dirty secret, you make it dirty.

That said, it's also your private life, you just have to accept that by being on here it may not be quite so private as if you weren't on here...

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By *dynlisaCouple
over a year ago

Notts

Everyone knows we do it my dad is on here with his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My sex life has absolutely bugger all to do with anyone but me and who im having sex with,so no my friends or family have no idea and im not about to tell them either

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would of played dumb but was obvious when i got a message signed of aunty lol.

But would not admit it to anyone outside the swinging world has nothing to do with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of ours found us on here and asked us outright if it was us so we told him yes. Then blocked him changed our profile name and photos. My best friend also knows. I tell him everything and he is quite interested in it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest "

You have face pics for everyone to see. How can you deny it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few friends and my mum knows.. Not ashamed to tell them... Fab is part of my life and who I am

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

none of my family know im here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my mum and her partner know.. also a few friends from work. my choice to tell them

for security reasons really should anything happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but not bothered if they found out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some one must have found my profile and has bean spreading bullshit around about me and my private life should I ignore it and play dum or put people straight and be honest "

who are you Eddy or Red? What does the other one think?

Having face pictures in public and as your avatar will put you at more risk of being outed, if you don't want that move them to private. As has been said your sex life is your and your partners business only unless you're in some sort of danger. If your father asks directly just assure him that you're safe and doing things from your own free will if he doesn't ask don't say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My girlfriends know I meet people and know I'm in a site .... But not told them the name ... Really don't want them seeing the details or my pics ,,,,, but my family have no idea ! And that's the way I like it .... I don't show face pics unless I feel comfortable .... So I don't think anyone will find me here ...... As for you , I would just hide my face pics and carry on .... Answer questions with the truth, but don't offer any info unless confronted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I encourage as many people to join as possible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well according to the amount of "straight" guys on here that message us saying they are bi really its just they have friends and family on here and dont want them knowing I would of thought this feed would be more popular xx

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By *istermuffmanMan
over a year ago

Oldbury

One of my employees knows I'm on here. Might be interesting conversations when I deny them a pay rise next year.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

With the amount of people who state how wonderful the swinging lifestyle is and how honesty is paramount with potential meets I'm surprised more aren't so honest with their families

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

no one knows apart from a guy i work with, thats because hes on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gbf knows I'm on here, in fact I got him to sign up on here too and he always wants to know what I'm up to!! I told him originally as I wanted someone to know where I was going to be etc.... For safety, that was back in my single days now I'm part of a couple he just wants the goss!!!

Ty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the amount of people who state how wonderful the swinging lifestyle is and how honesty is paramount with potential meets I'm surprised more aren't so honest with their families"

It's nothing to do with honesty. It's privacy and being discreet.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"With the amount of people who state how wonderful the swinging lifestyle is and how honesty is paramount with potential meets I'm surprised more aren't so honest with their families

It's nothing to do with honesty. It's privacy and being discreet."

Really?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How many people on hear have friends and family that know your a swinger.

And how did they find out did u tell them etc only asking because I think my dad knows what I'm up to and don't know how to explain to him any one got some advice "

My family and friends don't know my bank balance, my weight, the colour and consistency of my stools: a myriad of things they don't know.

My sex life is another subject not for sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my boss who happens to be my best mate. Only because I was recognised on here and when it gets round work im bi life will get very difficult for a while and he's the only 1 who could make it bearable, security is still quite a closed minded career on the subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I do wonder why anyone shows face in here..it may be a chapter you wish to close and it can stay online forever. Some careers it would be embarrassing and impossible .. You win the lottery it becomes a national story you were a swinger.

People need to think long term.. If you work in teaching it is unwise to show face on here as pupils could make the job impossible.

Be smart think long term !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why I do wonder why anyone shows face in here..it may be a chapter you wish to close and it can stay online forever. Some careers it would be embarrassing and impossible .. You win the lottery it becomes a national story you were a swinger.

People need to think long term.. If you work in teaching it is unwise to show face on here as pupils could make the job impossible.

Be smart think long term !"

I'm not embarrassed at all im having fun!! I know and expect it to get difficult for a while but im not going to hide just because some small minded oaf thinks he's better than me. But on the same account im not gonna start wearing make up n shouting about it. If it comes out then so be it I'll still have a bloody good sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it's just easier to keep it secret..

There are long term implications like wanting to spare your kids getting teased at school about it. You can make decios for yourself but we have greater responsibilities to shield the ones we care for. Kids at school can be bullies.. And I have heard it make a child's life hell that it got around school her their parents were swingers.

Think bigger picture.. It's easier to do this with more discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I agree that it is nothing to be embarrassed about but.. When it takes so little effort to keep it secret by not showing face pics right away, why take the risk? fun is great now, but simple steps can keep the fun less risky to your everyday life.. You might change your mind in a month and want to forget all this. It would be too late everyone would know and there would be no option to erase it from your past. people gossip and why give them easy ammunition until at least you have given it some good time to know if this is your path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friends know I'm on here, and couple of them are on here themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The swinging parts not the issue the bi part is, we were only recognised when sending pics to arrange a meet so we would have been recognised anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my daughter was on here.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No I agree that it is nothing to be embarrassed about but.. When it takes so little effort to keep it secret by not showing face pics right away, why take the risk? fun is great now, but simple steps can keep the fun less risky to your everyday life.. You might change your mind in a month and want to forget all this. It would be too late everyone would know and there would be no option to erase it from your past. people gossip and why give them easy ammunition until at least you have given it some good time to know if this is your path.

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Everyone is different though, some people don't think it's a problem. It's not for me to tell an adult they need to think long term and not show their face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be awkward as all couples/fems ask for face pics. I used to have my more rude ones on public till i got a message from someone. I sent a face pic then the horror as it was my aunt who i had been chatting too. We were both mortified at first but hey we are both adults so just keep away from each other. Twas rather embarrassing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have told no one..for us, thats half the turn on(a secret life)

One of our customers has found us on here which was a little embarrasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my friends know and like a previous poster said they are fascinated by my swinging tales...one of them even knows my fab login in case I ever go missing in action and I always let them know addresses im going to for my safety...my family don't though, they'd just freak out and have me committed lol

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