FabSwingers.com forum: Regrets...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I posted this on the Scottish forum a couple of mins ago.....

But I'd also like to post it on here.

Big subject for a Saturday night.

But I (Dexter) had a real heart to heart with my two daughters earlier today.

Their mother and I are no longer together.

Both my daughters are happily married with kids.

And we talked about things we'd do different given the gift of hindsight.

For me right here...right now. In my middle 50's.

I just wish I'd spent more time with them when we were all younger. And taken more pictures. And kept their drawings.

And I wish I could remember more of when they were young.

But like a lot of parents back then we were caught up in careers and work and stuff. Stupid stuff.

So for any of you out there with young kids.......do whatever you have to...but just spend more time with them.....talk to them.

Involve them in your life.

They treasure and remember every minute of the time you give them. And remember the times you don't.

And also give more time to your own parents......one day they won't be there.

We are all here for so short a time...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Time is valuable. It's something that people don't often appreciate until they don't have it any more. Look to the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted this on the Scottish forum a couple of mins ago.....

But I'd also like to post it on here.

Big subject for a Saturday night.

But I (Dexter) had a real heart to heart with my two daughters earlier today.

Their mother and I are no longer together.

Both my daughters are happily married with kids.

And we talked about things we'd do different given the gift of hindsight.

For me right here...right now. In my middle 50's.

I just wish I'd spent more time with them when we were all younger. And taken more pictures. And kept their drawings.

And I wish I could remember more of when they were young.

But like a lot of parents back then we were caught up in careers and work and stuff. Stupid stuff.

So for any of you out there with young kids.......do whatever you have to...but just spend more time with them.....talk to them.

Involve them in your life.

They treasure and remember every minute of the time you give them. And remember the times you don't.

And also give more time to your own parents......one day they won't be there.

We are all here for so short a time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the best pal, bet it feels better to get it off your chest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i take SOOOOOO many photo's of my little girl and capture everything we get up too

Sometimes i forget to just relax, enjoy the activity and to stop living life through a camera and just enjoy and recall the memories

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i take SOOOOOO many photo's of my little girl and capture everything we get up too

Sometimes i forget to just relax, enjoy the activity and to stop living life through a camera and just enjoy and recall the memories "

What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs

And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,

Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,

Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,

And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can

Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i take SOOOOOO many photo's of my little girl and capture everything we get up too

Sometimes i forget to just relax, enjoy the activity and to stop living life through a camera and just enjoy and recall the memories

What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs

And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,

Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,

Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,

And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can

Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare."

My dad often quotes this poem to us and it is very thought provoking

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I regret lots but tend to put it down to life experiences....regrets can eat you up

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No one has "great at his job" engraved on the tombstone.

Yes, you have to provide for your family but that provision must include time, care, love and remembering to stop the other stuff every once in a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted this on the Scottish forum a couple of mins ago.....

But I'd also like to post it on here.

Big subject for a Saturday night.

But I (Dexter) had a real heart to heart with my two daughters earlier today.

Their mother and I are no longer together.

Both my daughters are happily married with kids.

And we talked about things we'd do different given the gift of hindsight.

For me right here...right now. In my middle 50's.

I just wish I'd spent more time with them when we were all younger. And taken more pictures. And kept their drawings.

And I wish I could remember more of when they were young.

But like a lot of parents back then we were caught up in careers and work and stuff. Stupid stuff.

So for any of you out there with young kids.......do whatever you have to...but just spend more time with them.....talk to them.

Involve them in your life.

They treasure and remember every minute of the time you give them. And remember the times you don't.

And also give more time to your own parents......one day they won't be there.

We are all here for so short a time...

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bought a year to my eye... Lovely thread

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Very nice post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make memory boxes we were talking about this today

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By *at2Couple
over a year ago

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The problem with regrets, is there is not much you can do about them.

You can't change the past, but most of us get tied down with, worrying ourselves with these things.

Maybe it's best to try not to make the same mistakes again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, life passes us by so quickly. Try to enjoy every moment with my kids and hubby.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem with regrets, is there is not much you can do about them.

You can't change the past, but most of us get tied down with, worrying ourselves with these things.

Maybe it's best to try not to make the same mistakes again."

You are right. You cannot change the past.

But you can influence and change the future....

Life is about choices. Make more good ones than bad and you'll have a good life.

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By *at2Couple
over a year ago

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"The problem with regrets, is there is not much you can do about them.

You can't change the past, but most of us get tied down with, worrying ourselves with these things.

Maybe it's best to try not to make the same mistakes again.

You are right. You cannot change the past.

But you can influence and change the future....

Life is about choices. Make more good ones than bad and you'll have a good life."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone should search on youtube for Simon Mayos theme tune....

"Enjoy yourself...its later than you think"

Simple words.......huge meaning

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