FabSwingers.com forum: Talking on the phone before meeting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do people find it important?

For me its a bit part of setting up a meet. Part of the attraction of a man is his voice, tone, pitch, dynamics etc. If i'm not drawn to the accent etc then i just cant find a man attractive. Perhaps i'm weird?!

I feel that if conversation wont flow via a phone i can't understand how it would be any different face to face. Nothing worse than an awkward silence right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an absolute must. If I can't have a conversation with them then I'm not going to want to spend any time in their company.

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By *himanMan
over a year ago

chichester

"Its an absolute must. If I can't have a conversation with them then I'm not going to want to spend any time in their company.

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i agree

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Wouldn't dream in a million years of meeting someone without chatting on the phone, how would you know if there was a rapport, can't do that via text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it, and its not sexual..even though I migght be rubbing my cock..

and sassy if I may say, u have a lovely voice...makes me think we could shut u up with a few cocks in ur wee sweet mooth xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like it, and its not sexual..even though I migght be rubbing my cock..

and sassy if I may say, u have a lovely voice...makes me think we could shut u up with a few cocks in ur wee sweet mooth xxxx"

oh padster lmao

your voice was such a big shock to me! I had to get you to slow down just to understand half the stuff you were saying haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its important to me,some people are expert cyber communicators but have no real life skills

I want to know that the cyber rapport works just as well over the phone when responses need to be instant instead of being thought about and then typed onto a keyboard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to Skype it, that way I get to see if they match their pictures and I get to check out the potential chemistry (to an extent). Kill two birds with one stone.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

it was never a pre-requisite when i was meeting i have to say. didnt have too many traumas through not speaking on the phone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Its important to me,some people are expert cyber communicators but have no real life skills

I want to know that the cyber rapport works just as well over the phone when responses need to be instant instead of being thought about and then typed onto a keyboard

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you said it so much better than me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its important to me,some people are expert cyber communicators but have no real life skills

I want to know that the cyber rapport works just as well over the phone when responses need to be instant instead of being thought about and then typed onto a keyboard

The instant reactions, pauses, natural laughs. When reading written text you can not truly understand how a person is meaning a sentence and if they are joking or not. Punctuation and smileys can help with these things, but the spoken voice just gives the words a whole new dimension.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always speak on the phone to women/ women half of couples before I'll meet them, even before a coffee.

First meet with guys is always for a coffee. Need to speak face to face to know what I want to do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some conversations you have to have on the phone. If I'm going to see someone I will talk to them the night before, or the morning of the day that I'm going just to confirm things.

I have been known to settle differences on the phone that can't be done in text or emails as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to Skype it, that way I get to see if they match their pictures and I get to check out the potential chemistry (to an extent). Kill two birds with one stone.

yup ideally Skype works too

though to be fair i never thought my webcam ever did me any justice as the camera angle is shocking and i cant change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its important to me,some people are expert cyber communicators but have no real life skills

I want to know that the cyber rapport works just as well over the phone when responses need to be instant instead of being thought about and then typed onto a keyboard

I'm a crap communicator online. People seem to 'warm' to me more in real life. I don't think my sense of humour comes across well online.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It is am absolute must for me to speak first. Sometimes you get to sort out the dreamers from the real. Importantly you get to start that real interaction, so that youre not total strangers when you meet in the flesh. If someones afraid of speaking, or has poor social skills, it can easily mean that theyre not really going to interact well, once together. You can tell a lot from speaking, picking up deceit, levels of confidence, their interest etc. Ive sometimes had people push to skype immediately, but I chat first via the phone. Good, reliable old technology works well for me as a first base.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"I like to Skype it, that way I get to see if they match their pictures and I get to check out the potential chemistry (to an extent). Kill two birds with one stone.

Me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to Skype it, that way I get to see if they match their pictures and I get to check out the potential chemistry (to an extent). Kill two birds with one stone.

Me too x"

I came before i could say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never talk on the phone before meeting, I never give my number to anyone one here, I don't text or call, all communication is done through fab, when I close my laptop I don't want people off here contacting me in my everyday life

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It's not important for me nor something I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it just has to be planned a little

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Not really keen on talking on the phone thats why I always meet for coffee or a drink first. If that goes well then I will arrange a play date....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Thinking about it I only spoke to my first ever meet on the phone the day before we met.

The others I have extensively messaged on here and text. And one I met at the social so we arranged to meet again so there was no need.

Anyone who's met me knows I can chat for England but I'm not good on the phone with people I don't know. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ju will always talk to anyone we plan on meeting. She has a better phone manner than me. I will be there though so if anyone wants to chat to me I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to Skype it, that way I get to see if they match their pictures and I get to check out the potential chemistry (to an extent). Kill two birds with one stone.

Me too x"

My preference too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A girl to girl chat is always good.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have to speak to someone before meeting them. If I don't like a voice and the things they say there is no way I am going to enjoy meeting them. I don't do Skype and I need a mobile number to confirm a meet before leaving. I don't trust those that point blank refuse to speak or let me have a number.

I get very attracted to voices. Beckham is attractive and I like what he says but I don't fancy him at all because his voice leaves me cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can be, sometimes, other times we have just gone with it and been pleasantly suprised.

would probably do so with someone we hav hardly talked to or if they are unverified

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

have done pre meet chats on the phone and also met guys without phone call ..try mainly to chat first before actually arranging to meet as we both have quite strong accents and some people state that they strugggle to understand what we are saying so it can help in avoiding wasting peoples time

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