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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I was meeting someone very local, I prefer them to be married as I know then that they will be discreet. If they further out, I dont care about their marital status. Anyone else feel the same?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

No. I prefer them not to be married no matter how far away they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope - the last thing I want is someone's wife turning up on my doorstep giving it large and the neighbours seeing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I prefer them not to be married no matter how far away they are "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope - the last thing I want is someone's wife turning up on my doorstep giving it large and the neighbours seeing!"

Oooh yeah I didnt think about that lol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Nope - the last thing I want is someone's wife turning up on my doorstep giving it large and the neighbours seeing!"

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

don't like too local anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think discretion can be given no matter what marital status really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt matter either way to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think discretion can be given no matter what marital status really."

Agreed and there a woman I meet regularly from same town who is single but very discreet. But in general, I thought may be easier to go for only married if they in same town. After posting, I have already changed my mind though. That partner knocking on my door scenario could be damaging lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I know single men who prefer to meet married/attached women as it is easier to keep it NSA.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know single men who prefer to meet married/attached women as it is easier to keep it NSA. "

I have no problems keeping it no strings because I am certainly not boyfriend material lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i think a married man is more likely to be discreet, but not always.

one man told me that he worked with a man who was seeing three women, neither of them knew about the other ones.

my hubby used to joke about men he worked with who had cheated on their wives. one who used to visit prostitutes, and another one who cought an std of a prostitute and gave it to his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think discretion can be given no matter what marital status really."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I agree with that too, but I have seen married woman develop feelings too, and become bunny boilers swings and roundabouts, if there is trust that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to meet un married, single not local people!!

Don't really want to get caught up in someone's domestic

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No married or attached

I don't want to part cause of anyones sadness if their spouses found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not had a meet within 20 miles of here never been an issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think discretion can be given no matter what marital status really."

It suddenly dawns on me that 'marital status' is an odd expression.

There can be only one status: you're married (or not).

The un-married statusses/statii are manifold (divorced, co-habiting, etc)

There should be another word for 'married' in relation to 'status'.

Suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was meeting someone very local, I prefer them to be married as I know then that they will be discreet. If they further out, I dont care about their marital status. Anyone else feel the same? "

I had a guy hassling me to met him behind my husbands back. (not from here) I was going to block him but then I

thought I would organize a meet. I didn't tell him I was bring 17 stone of angry husband with me. Moral being, self pleasure before your hormones get the better of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing."

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing."

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't meet married people because everything has to be to their timescale, when they can fit me in, when they can get away.

They can be unreliable because their home plans change and they can't say they already had something arranged.

They can also be very paranoid.

All in all, it's more trouble than it's worth, which is a shame because there are some seriously hot married people on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children? "

Dont get caught i bet your block list is longer than your friends list lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

Dont get caught i bet your block list is longer than your friends list lmao"

Aimed at who exactly ?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I won't meet local married guys as I have no problem with neighbours seeing strangers coming to mine but if it's Jane Bloggs' from round the corner's hubby then I don't want that sort of gossip about me (and as previously mentioned, wouldn't Want the afore mentioned Jane Bloggs on my doorstep shouting the odds)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are married I would prefer them to be miles away when the shit hits the fan and they get caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care, it's not my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm a firm believer of don't shit on your door step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesnt matter either way to me "

Yeah but you fuck your sister in law, as well as your own wife so not surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children? "

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs "

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person. "

opinions are personal to ourselves, all because my opinion is different to yours that does not make you right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person.

opinions are personal to ourselves, all because my opinion is different to yours that does not make you right "

If you believe yourself to be immune to accountability then thats your failing. Oh, and I am right......otherwise third parties could not be held to account in divorce proceedings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person.

opinions are personal to ourselves, all because my opinion is different to yours that does not make you right

If you believe yourself to be immune to accountability then thats your failing. Oh, and I am right......otherwise third parties could not be held to account in divorce proceedings. "

hang on I haven't done anything to be held accountable for I have never knowingly met a married guy, I have however been cheated on but I do not feel the women he fucked cheated on me, only one person made a commitment to me and that was my ex husband and he was the only one who betrayed me not the women he met

what I wrote above was an example and an opinion not an admission of my life story

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

How would you even know if someone was married or attached???

They could just lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never fails to cause a stir this debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married people got no chance then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might not be the most popular post on here but I do enjoy meeting married women whose partners don't know they are playing.

Do you enjoying breaking up homes and hurting children?

to be fair its not the people who meet the married person who breaks uo marrage and hurts children, because if I didn't meet a married guy someone else would, if a married person wants to get a shag they will, so its them who are hurting their own families and if they don't give a shit about their partners and kids you cant hardly expect someone who has never met them too, I look after my family its upto them to look after theirs

Sorry, you are wrong. The third party is also guilty if they knowing involve themselves with a married person.

opinions are personal to ourselves, all because my opinion is different to yours that does not make you right

If you believe yourself to be immune to accountability then thats your failing. Oh, and I am right......otherwise third parties could not be held to account in divorce proceedings.

hang on I haven't done anything to be held accountable for I have never knowingly met a married guy, I have however been cheated on but I do not feel the women he fucked cheated on me, only one person made a commitment to me and that was my ex husband and he was the only one who betrayed me not the women he met

what I wrote above was an example and an opinion not an admission of my life story "

Well, if you thought about it carefully and did hold this woman responsible for part of your past/continuing pain, then would it not help or at least answer some of the questions I have no doubt remain unanswered about your ex husbands activities ? Two to tango etc. I am sorry for your past situation and hope you are stronger today as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to all if my strong views offend. A bit close to the heart. Will observe only from this point forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no point being bitter about something you cant change, if someone cheats on you then there's something wrong in your marriage and if the cheating didn't split you up something else would in the end

Only two people can make a marriage work and only two people cant split it up, if my hubby loved me then no matter how many women threw themselves at him he would have said no, he cheated because he chose to, which makes it his doing and his doing alone, I do not feel that any of the women contributed to my marriage break down as it was obviously broke before they came along for him to want to go with them

they did us a favour in the long run

again only my opinion

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By *ev-PMan
over a year ago

Hampshire


"How would you even know if someone was married or attached???

They could just lie "

They will get caught out ..eventually. Best to be honest from the outset letting others know, then its up to them if they want to meet. Married or attached guys do get a rough time though ...and, imo tend to be labelled as 'not nice'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which ladies would go against the grain if someone like Brad Pitt wanted to meet up behind his wifie's back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no point being bitter about something you cant change, if someone cheats on you then there's something wrong in your marriage and if the cheating didn't split you up something else would in the end

Only two people can make a marriage work and only two people cant split it up, if my hubby loved me then no matter how many women threw themselves at him he would have said no, he cheated because he chose to, which makes it his doing and his doing alone, I do not feel that any of the women contributed to my marriage break down as it was obviously broke before they came along for him to want to go with them

they did us a favour in the long run

again only my opinion"

And you express your opinion very eloquently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no point being bitter about something you cant change, if someone cheats on you then there's something wrong in your marriage and if the cheating didn't split you up something else would in the end

Only two people can make a marriage work and only two people cant split it up, if my hubby loved me then no matter how many women threw themselves at him he would have said no, he cheated because he chose to, which makes it his doing and his doing alone, I do not feel that any of the women contributed to my marriage break down as it was obviously broke before they came along for him to want to go with them

they did us a favour in the long run

again only my opinion

And you express your opinion very eloquently. "

I know, just a pity no men threw themselves at me, he got all the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I hope you are making up for lost time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which ladies would go against the grain if someone like Brad Pitt wanted to meet up behind his wifie's back? "

not me. hes ugly

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

i dont mind if there hubby is there filming it ive had a meet with a woman while her hubby was working away and we skyped the event to him

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

people can be very "ballsy" when it comes to saying yes they would meet because the other person is an anonymous figure......

bravado right???

I am betting people are nowhere near as ballsy when anonymous person becomes "voice on phone" or even "face to face"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind as long as they are honest in the first place !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind as long as they are honest in the first place !"

an honest cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which ladies would go against the grain if someone like Brad Pitt wanted to meet up behind his wifie's back? "

Oh yes, bit different then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone who says they won't meet married/attached men have probably met quite a few because if they are willing to cheat they certainly have no worries about lying to people about their marital status.

While you can be cautious and try to them out, many are able to lie very well.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs."

Tell me about it, more let downs because they have to do something at home. They would also throw you under the bus to save their dignity if needs be. Single people are better to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's hard to generalise as peoples reasons differ, if it is someone who is unhappy in their marriage then the chance of them developing feelings is drastically increased. However, if the person is meeting people for more practical reasons such as a difference in sex drive then that person would be less likely to develop lasting feelings as they already have that connection with their partner. But that is only my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's hard to generalise as peoples reasons differ, if it is someone who is unhappy in their marriage then the chance of them developing feelings is drastically increased. However, if the person is meeting people for more practical reasons such as a difference in sex drive then that person would be less likely to develop lasting feelings as they already have that connection with their partner. But that is only my opinion "
totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs.

Tell me about it, more let downs because they have to do something at home. They would also throw you under the bus to save their dignity if needs be. Single people are better to meet."

If you can get them to. I've had my share of letdowns and excuses from them

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"No. I prefer them not to be married no matter how far away they are "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs.

Tell me about it, more let downs because they have to do something at home. They would also throw you under the bus to save their dignity if needs be. Single people are better to meet."

On average I have been stood up a lot of times and all by single guys, very few arrived men stand you up as they are gagging for it. I am married in a pretty unique situation. Ours is an open marriage and we both play as singles. We love each other and have two kids, but the big thing is trust.

It seems that a lot of the people on the site do not have trust.

Yes all three parties are guilty when it comes to a trist. The wife for not providing the husband with a stable sex life so he doesn't have to go looking, the husband for having a roving eye and the mistress/ lover for engaging with a married man but all hold equal blame.

I have spoken to married men who have been bans shed to the spare room because they have served their purpose as a sperm donor for the 2.4 children and are now denied any sexual encounter. Are these men to suffer because their wife's have decided they don't want anymore

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs.

Tell me about it, more let downs because they have to do something at home. They would also throw you under the bus to save their dignity if needs be. Single people are better to meet.

On average I have been stood up a lot of times and all by single guys, very few arrived men stand you up as they are gagging for it. I am married in a pretty unique situation. Ours is an open marriage and we both play as singles. We love each other and have two kids, but the big thing is trust.

It seems that a lot of the people on the site do not have trust.

Yes all three parties are guilty when it comes to a trist. The wife for not providing the husband with a stable sex life so he doesn't have to go looking, the husband for having a roving eye and the mistress/ lover for engaging with a married man but all hold equal blame.

I have spoken to married men who have been bans shed to the spare room because they have served their purpose as a sperm donor for the 2.4 children and are now denied any sexual encounter. Are these men to suffer because their wife's have decided they don't want anymore"

If they as you put it ..suffering...then they have the option to leave their marriage.......put up or shut up........their choice!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't meet married as I've had too many let downs.

Tell me about it, more let downs because they have to do something at home. They would also throw you under the bus to save their dignity if needs be. Single people are better to meet.

On average I have been stood up a lot of times and all by single guys, very few arrived men stand you up as they are gagging for it. I am married in a pretty unique situation. Ours is an open marriage and we both play as singles. We love each other and have two kids, but the big thing is trust.

It seems that a lot of the people on the site do not have trust.

Yes all three parties are guilty when it comes to a trist. The wife for not providing the husband with a stable sex life so he doesn't have to go looking, the husband for having a roving eye and the mistress/ lover for engaging with a married man but all hold equal blame.

I have spoken to married men who have been bans shed to the spare room because they have served their purpose as a sperm donor for the 2.4 children and are now denied any sexual encounter. Are these men to suffer because their wife's have decided they don't want anymore

If they as you put it ..suffering...then they have the option to leave their marriage.......put up or shut up........their choice!!!"

One was a friend in a very delicate job and would have to give up his job, family and home. Others have children and stay in the spare room for the children's sake. It can be cruel but the children come first.

I personally don't meet evenings or weekends as they belong to my kids and hubby. Family will always come first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do married meets although have had one that didn't admit it til afterwards. It's their business but it's never gonna be for me. Tbh I had a shit marriage. If you think the grass is greener sort it out. If you don't. Be happy with your lot. End of.

And this littlebird won't be accepting shit from aggrieved wives or husbands. Absolutely fuck all to do with me what happens in someone else's marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The expression

Don't shit on your own doorstep comes to mind !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no point being bitter about something you cant change, if someone cheats on you then there's something wrong in your marriage and if the cheating didn't split you up something else would in the end

Only two people can make a marriage work and only two people cant split it up, if my hubby loved me then no matter how many women threw themselves at him he would have said no, he cheated because he chose to, which makes it his doing and his doing alone, I do not feel that any of the women contributed to my marriage break down as it was obviously broke before they came along for him to want to go with them

they did us a favour in the long run

again only my opinion"

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