FabSwingers.com forum: Fed up of the good life...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ever since I was a little girl I just wanted to meet the love of my life, get married, have babies, a nice place to live and a good job...

I've got 2 and a half out of the 4 and I'm already getting sick of it.

All I do is work. Cleaning the house, looking after people, cooking, ironing, washing up. I've got few friends after moving to a new town and I'm feeling miserable.

Partner and I barely get time for sex with each other let alone meeting anyone off here, and I hate being on my own which I appear to be a lot of the time. All my money goes on bills and I buy the odd luxury for myself which loses novelty after about 24 hrs.

Just needing a bit of excitement, losing meaning to my life and always feel like I'm working towards an unattainable future rather than enjoying the present.

Any idea's on how to change things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ever since I was a little girl I just wanted to meet the love of my life, get married, have babies, a nice place to live and a good job...

I've got 2 and a half out of the 4 and I'm already getting sick of it.

All I do is work. Cleaning the house, looking after people, cooking, ironing, washing up. I've got few friends after moving to a new town and I'm feeling miserable.

Just needing a bit of excitement, losing meaning to my life and always feel like I'm working towards an unattainable future rather than enjoying the present.

Any idea's on how to change things?

Lol *out of the 5

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By *lentyoffun40Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

Come and work with me for the day

See real life woes , anxiety , poverty , neglect and abuse

You will soon get that shock of reality badly needed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets easier when the kids get a bit older. Can you have a 'date night' once a week or so? Kids stay with grandparents while you can recharge your batteries.

Make a bit of time each day for yourself. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be thankful for what you have. You're both young and attractive and actually have money to pay the bills, there's plenty of people out there that have none of that.

Find yourself a hobby and set aside some time each week to do it.

Life often isn't easy but you get out of it what you put in to it so embrace what you have and give little thought to what you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life was like yours x til the night he came home from work.... Unable to talk. I lost my partner n my child lost her dad. He has made alot of progress but won't work again x

Please be grateful for what you have x I'd love it all back

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Theres always someone worse off than you and I don't mean to patronise.

Try looking at what you have and not what you don't and keep ya head high.

If its any consolation Millions in the UK have a similar life to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It gets easier when the kids get a bit older. Can you have a 'date night' once a week or so? Kids stay with grandparents while you can recharge your batteries.

Make a bit of time each day for yourself. x"

We don't have kids yet, however I'm starting to think I don't want them, at least not for a good few years as I'm already sick of tidying up after the Mr!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

At only 22 I'd say quit moaning and be grateful for the 2.5 out of 5 you have got!!!

If your on your own and lonely go and do some volunteering for the people who really have something to moan about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ever since I was a little girl I just wanted to meet the love of my life, get married, have babies, a nice place to live and a good job...

I've got 2 and a half out of the 5, I'm already getting sick of it.

All I do is work. Cleaning the house, looking after people, cooking, ironing, washing up. I've got few friends after moving to a new town and I'm feeling miserable.

Just needing a bit of excitement, losing meaning to my life and always feel like I'm working towards an unattainable future rather than enjoying the present.

Any idea's on how to change things?

Sorry to not show any sympathy, well not much anyway. Bloody hell, 2 and a half out of 5, lucky you. I suppose I should be really pissed at my 1 out of 5 then, I'm off to hang myself. Like others have said, you are both healthy, you look great, find a hobby, make the best of what you have, there's worse off out there in millions of households.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a really interesting post this is . I want to respond to this but not in this forum , but unfortunately your filypters prevent me doing so .....shame .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe if you arent happy with the goals you set out for yourself, that you have achieved already, then maybe think of different goals that will make you happy.

most of the things you list are superficial anyway and arent about making you a better person.

if you cant rethink your life goals, then you just have to make the best of what you have.

you are still young and have plenty of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It gets easier when the kids get a bit older. Can you have a 'date night' once a week or so? Kids stay with grandparents while you can recharge your batteries.

Make a bit of time each day for yourself. x

We don't have kids yet, however I'm starting to think I don't want them, at least not for a good few years as I'm already sick of tidying up after the Mr!"

Maybe give him a kick up the backside?

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By *ingerbicky69Woman
over a year ago

EXETER

We all get fed up with our lot. Im a single mum of 4. All I do Is washing cooking, and work my ass off for peanuts. My partner walked out an left us with bugger all, we had to go to the food bank, beg and borrow from friends. But you know what I wouldn't change a thing. When I can sit back and listen to my kids laughing (best sound in the world). Yeah its hard yeah it can be ground hog day. Count your blessings for what you have.xxx

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Ever since I was a little girl I just wanted to meet the love of my life, get married, have babies, a nice place to live and a good job...

I've got 2 and a half out of the 4 and I'm already getting sick of it.

All I do is work. Cleaning the house, looking after people, cooking, ironing, washing up. I've got few friends after moving to a new town and I'm feeling miserable.

Just needing a bit of excitement, losing meaning to my life and always feel like I'm working towards an unattainable future rather than enjoying the present.

Any idea's on how to change things?

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is that you (my mrs) with a secret account? sounds like u nothings ever good enough

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Do yourself a swot analysis...very basic tool but it can help to write stuff down and prioritise. Forget the ironing, don't do it. I'm married and we never iron anything, saves time. Get a routine, eg. Monday evening is clean bedding wash day, tues housework etc then it only takes about 1 hour each evening and leaves the weekend free. Don't buy stuff you don't need just cos it makes you feel better. Cos it won't. Go explore your town by walking. Take photos. Go visit every cafe, every shop, everywhere and see something new every day. Get others to help in the house, putting toys away, share the chores, get organized with everything with a place to go. Make time for yourself.....just things we do, makes it all easier.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Marriage is a partnership, if your hubby won't help, find someone who will. Tell him to fuck off. Two people helping makes things happen in half the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be greatful for what you have it could be a lot worse I work with young people and some of them live in poverty others have no family and many other things.

Buy yourself an amazing toy and find a fuck buddy. Change things for you make life better don't moan about it. X

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Do yourself a swot analysis...very basic tool but it can help to write stuff down and prioritise. Forget the ironing, don't do it. I'm married and we never iron anything, saves time. Get a routine, eg. Monday evening is clean bedding wash day, tues housework etc then it only takes about 1 hour each evening and leaves the weekend free. Don't buy stuff you don't need just cos it makes you feel better. Cos it won't. Go explore your town by walking. Take photos. Go visit every cafe, every shop, everywhere and see something new every day. Get others to help in the house, putting toys away, share the chores, get organized with everything with a place to go. Make time for yourself.....just things we do, makes it all easier. "
marry me steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And make me your mistress!

Top advice!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I quite like hoovering

And no witty comments, it's too early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lot of posters telling the OP to basically suck it up and get on with it. I disagree completely, life isn't a rehearsal, you only get one shot. If you're not happy, change your life to make yourself happy. It won't just happen, set the goals and do it. Better to have tried than to live in misery.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not a 'whose got it worse' competition.

I'm a good person. I work hard doing thankless jobs as I know most people do.

All I wanted was constructive advice on how to make the most of what I've got. I know I'm lucky, I've got a lovely fiancee, and a job, (albeit not a very good one but I make minimum wage and that's fine). A flat to go home to.

Yes I am young, it's my first time moving out, first time living with a partner, first time working full time, first time paying bills, first time in a new city and basically first time being a real adult.

We've all got and had shit in our lives, really I thought that some of the more mature people on this site would be able to give constructive advice on how to enjoy the moment as some of you have been in my position before!

I don't want to be a robot, living for time management and 'just dealing with it'. I guess the hardest part is juggling everything when I've never done it before...

Tbh I think I posted this in the wrong place, maybe I need to look elsewhere for support.

Thanks for all your comments all the same, I agree I find myself losing site of what I've got more often than I care to admit, and that is definitely something I will work on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello OP.

From your post, the one thing a read is that you and your S.O have lost, in the maelstrom of life, the gift of communication. You need to talk, both of you. You need to tell him how you're feeling - because maybe he is feeling the same way but doesn't know how to even begin to say it. You have to trust in the love that exists between you - that love which bonded you in the first place. Sometimes the hardest thing to to is to put yourself out there when what you need is for your partner to do exactly that.

If you can say it on a forum full of strangers - then find the courage to talk to him about it. So many relationships fail through communication - and sometimes the thing you fear most is the fear to talk about it rather than the thing itself.

Talk to him. Tell *him* how you feel - not a bunch of strangers on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my naughtier solution. Big advantage is it wont cost you a penny.

Just try to look at it from boyfriends side and see he may be feeling the same. When he comes in from work try wearing heels and stockings for him to cheer him up and let him know you love him to bits. And have a nice cocktail ready. Just for an hour or two :0) it may lift both your spirits so that you feel a little bit more like adults and less like an old married couple already.

"It's not a 'whose got it worse' competition.

I'm a good person. I work hard doing thankless jobs as I know most people do.

I don't want to be a robot, living for time management and 'just dealing with it'. I guess the hardest part is juggling everything when I've never done it before...

Tbh I think I posted this in the wrong place, maybe I need to look elsewhere for support.

Thanks for all your comments all the same, I agree I find myself losing site of what I've got more often than I care to admit, and that is definitely something I will work on.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"It's not a 'whose got it worse' competition.

I'm a good person. I work hard doing thankless jobs as I know most people do.

I don't want to be a robot, living for time management and 'just dealing with it'. I guess the hardest part is juggling everything when I've never done it before...

Tbh I think I posted this in the wrong place, maybe I need to look elsewhere for support.

Thanks for all your comments all the same, I agree I find myself losing site of what I've got more often than I care to admit, and that is definitely something I will work on.

Moving out and becoming really independent is a massive step. It does make you realise what responsibilities come with it. The trick for you both is not to let it take over your lives. You see so many couples who don't talk when they are out, the spark has gone, don't let yourselves become one of those.

With no kids yet, you have more choices than most to make the changes, other than cash, there is nothing really stopping you. Some of the best times together can be free. On the cleaning front, that is a partnership thing, unless you signed up to be a stepford wife? You should both have time to make for yourselves. It will be worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open your filters up , and tou may get some constructive comment

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Op I think you ve posted this in the right place, you ll get a very broad spectrum of advice ,

My mother ( mums are very wise people) always said the only reason men get marrrid is because their mothers are sick and tired of cleaning cooking and ironing for them, the days of 'housewives ' where the Lady stayed at home doing the chores are long gone a lot of ladies work full time these days, share that burden

its hard with tje employment situation at the moment however if you don t like your job try applying for others

, I read your profile about opposing shifts thats not easy youre often ships that pass inthe night however making time for you two together is for the both of you making that time,

Hope you find some solutions op often the most simple things give the greatest pleasures

and often they re free,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what I would do for that life ....

im single no kids never married and I get lonely would love what you have sweetie enjoy it xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Grab life and drive through change that makes you happy... it is never too late and you have the gift of years.

good luck and be happy.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'd also say you each need lives apart from one another. Your own friends, your own hobbies. Find the thingd in life that bring you joy.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

"It's not a 'whose got it worse' competition.

I'm a good person. I work hard doing thankless jobs as I know most people do.

I don't want to be a robot, living for time management and 'just dealing with it'. I guess the hardest part is juggling everything when I've never done it before...

Tbh I think I posted this in the wrong place, maybe I need to look elsewhere for support.

Thanks for all your comments all the same, I agree I find myself losing site of what I've got more often than I care to admit, and that is definitely something I will work on.

welcome to real life.

its not what we expect it to be when we are sat in school daydreaming and making plans for adulthood, thats all fantasy

but some of the advice on here is well worth a second read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ever since I was a little girl I just wanted to meet the love of my life, get married, have babies, a nice place to live and a good job...

I've got 2 and a half out of the 4 and I'm already getting sick of it.

All I do is work. Cleaning the house, looking after people, cooking, ironing, washing up. I've got few friends after moving to a new town and I'm feeling miserable.

Just needing a bit of excitement, losing meaning to my life and always feel like I'm working towards an unattainable future rather than enjoying the present.

Any idea's on how to change things?

Before you can fix a problem you have to find the problem.

Your problem is that dreams are not reality.

You wanted a partner, home job and family, so you set your stall out to get those things,

Reality hasn't lived up to expectations, you can fix the problem easily.

Set yourself a goal that can be measured, career/ educational, and or financial, when you are working towards something that is tangible, you will be busy, motivated, secure and happy, and you can measure your success by your savings and progress.

Then and only then will love add to your life and be brilliant, having children is not the answer to a problem.

Communicate with your boyfriend, ask him what he wants, ask him his dreams, it sounds like he has been going along with you because he loves you and wants you to be happy.

You have changed, no two people ever want the same things at the same time, we are all different, and for any relationship/ friendship or marriage to grow and blossom, you need independence and your own security.

The internet will help patch over problems, but will not fix them. by looking for fun and excitement to relieve the boredom, it will help your relationship last a bit longer, but never solves the initial problem that you have.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

I think you need to look at yourself and ask what really you want.

We all want different things, some have travel, some hobbies, gardening, gambling, some take a lot more risks.

life has many possibilities and only you can change them.

I have travelled a lot in my past, and I am definitely missing that. That's one of my goals next year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP your young and having a lot of new 'grown up' experiences all at the same time. I went through the same thing when I got married at 22. Moved to a new town 3 hours away, new house, new job and new husband and outside of Wales! Try to get out and meet new people. I know its easier said than done but they wont come to you. Tell your o/h how you feel and try to have quality time a few times a week. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any idea's on how to change things?

Get yourself a tranny friend,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any idea's on how to change things?

Get yourself a tranny friend,,,,

OMG,

high maintanence,

never enough mirrors,

make up everywhere,

Always drama,

much easier to get 5 rottweillers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may sound extreme, but believe us it is worth it - Get yourselves into Relate, best thing we ever did. Never regretted it and recommend it to any married couple.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

I think a lot is down to what is expected of you.

people seem to hitch up far too early in their lives, without exploration of any kind.

My life icouldnt follow the status quo of career gf,marriage house kids.

Although did that later in life.

But its a good start you're on a swing site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any idea's on how to change things?

Get yourself a tranny friend,,,,

OMG,

high maintanence,

never enough mirrors,

make up everywhere,

Always drama,

much easier to get 5 rottweillers. "

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

"It's not a 'whose got it worse' competition.

I'm a good person. I work hard doing thankless jobs as I know most people do.

I don't want to be a robot, living for time management and 'just dealing with it'. I guess the hardest part is juggling everything when I've never done it before...

Tbh I think I posted this in the wrong place, maybe I need to look elsewhere for support.

Thanks for all your comments all the same, I agree I find myself losing site of what I've got more often than I care to admit, and that is definitely something I will work on.

I'm reading mindfulness for busy people.

Its a really good book for quick time out and experiencing moments in the now and improving focus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

I was wild in my teens, with parties, promiscuity and hobbies a plenty, although my behaviour was self-distructive, I felt more of a sense of who I was back then. I ditched it all for success and love and maybe I need to let the rebel out a bit more and enjoy what life has to offer.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!"

Be very careful because you have changed, and are not the same person you were, he may go to work, and not come home one day, then everything has been a waste of time.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!"

It is a massive shock to the system, and some peoples coping mechanisms can't deal with it.

It is still about who YOU are though although you have shared lives.

And you can still have the fun as you did when you were younger.

People change when they get in relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!"

can you not be a little of who you were, and some of who you are?

going back to who you were isnt an option, if your OH wouldnt like the person you were before you met, but he probably wont like who you have become either, as, has been said, you will turn into an old married couple.

what environment do you work in?

can you not go out with workmates, and take it from there?

does he not have friends you can get to know their girlfriends and so on?

plenty of ways to meet people that doesnt have to lead to being a promiscuous party animal.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Op you mentioned you had 5 aspirations / dreams as a kid, they re probably very similarr to the majority of other people, from the outside it looks as if you have a lot,,, to those that have said iI wish I had what you have they would need to walk a mile in your shoes ,,,then they can say I wish,

Op you serm a pretty smart switched on sort of person, often we lose sight of what would make ourselves happy,,,

Its very easy to change a belief if what you thought would make you happy doesn t change that belief, the values you hold as a person the intrinsic makeup of you are very difficult to change,

Good luck, be happy,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantasy 241 .... I give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!"

Serious question do you think you coild be depressed?

Or is it just that you are overwhelmed with some pretty significant life changes? I've twice moved to a new town and it the realisation of not knowing anyone can be totally debilitating.

I think you need to find some time for you. Have you considered night school? You're clearly intelligent, frustrated in your current job and it means you'll meet new people? But find something so you meet new people tp break the feeling of loneliness. If you and your partner work opposite ahifts and you are home during the day make sure you get out during the day even if it's just a walk around your local park, daylight and fresh air are a tremendous stmuli.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!

Serious question do you think you coild be depressed?

Or is it just that you are overwhelmed with some pretty significant life changes? I've twice moved to a new town and it the realisation of not knowing anyone can be totally debilitating.

Hey, yeah I've suffered depression and anxiety in the past but I don't really like to talk about it. It could be a factor now, but I like to think I've come past that.

The night classes I would definitely think about however I am in the process of applying for university. I applied last year and unfortunately didn't get in. So I'm not sure taking on a night class now has much point as I'm still hoping to get in in september.

I think I'll feel a lot better if I do end up going to uni as I wont have to work in the care home for peanuts anymore. I can hopefully get a better wage for the same thing (wanting to go into nursing/midwifery).

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!

Serious question do you think you coild be depressed?

Or is it just that you are overwhelmed with some pretty significant life changes? I've twice moved to a new town and it the realisation of not knowing anyone can be totally debilitating.

Hey, yeah I've suffered depression and anxiety in the past but I don't really like to talk about it. It could be a factor now, but I like to think I've come past that.

hey know exactly how you feel, i have been there and in some ways i can see light at the tunnel now. it is a slow process,mostly changing your perception.

i am reading some really good books now,one is a lifecoach book, which has quick and easy steps.could pm you but not in age range, but here to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I think I've just lost sense of who I am now.

I don't have any hobbies so to speak and my days are lived for my partner. I work for us, I cook for us, I clean for us when really I need to do more for me!

I guess I'm just scared of getting out there and meeting new people and trying new things on my own.

Sod the cleaning for a bit, why don't I just explore while there's still time!

Serious question do you think you coild be depressed?

Or is it just that you are overwhelmed with some pretty significant life changes? I've twice moved to a new town and it the realisation of not knowing anyone can be totally debilitating.

Hey, yeah I've suffered depression and anxiety in the past but I don't really like to talk about it. It could be a factor now, but I like to think I've come past that.

September's a while off yet. Maybe spend a bit of time 'having fun' before you start the hard slog of uni. Don't feel bad about depression, it's just one of those things. If you've had it before you know the signs, so you'll know if it's that or if you're just a bit down from the weather and other stuff.

Glad you sound more cheerful in your later posts.

Have a chat with your partner. If you're not getting on now, it won't get any better. Don't look back in 10 years and wish you'd done something differently. x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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"Fantasy 241 .... I give up

They don't want to change their filters, get over it. If you can't use the forums to get around a block I'm sure you can't use them to get people to change their filters, no matter how good your intentions

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