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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,like to hear ur opinion...met a woman last fri at her place,had a chat,got on well,kiss & cuddle on couch then she invites me to her bedroom where we banged,her words not mine,lol,both parted with smiles on our faces,got home & gave her a nice verification,since then she still hasnt returned one,been messaging & iv hinted that it wud be nice to get a veri from her but nothing...i know its everyones choice & no rules saying u have to or should but is it not the right/polite thing to do to return a verification?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Maybe she didn't enjoy it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she don't wish others to know.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Is it important that she verify you as you are already verified

Some people dont verify even after meeting. Personally i wouldn't think anything of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno, I always leave a veri if I have enjoyed myself. It's my way of saying thank you but have never had to ask for one back.

Maybe she doesn't use the veri system in general? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair enough comment but got a great vibe from meet,left on great terms & have been in contact since?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she don't wish others to know."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit rude in my opinion if she displayed yours...I would prefer to be told if a meet didn't give out veris so I can reciprocate accordingly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She has verified 3 guys so does use system,wudnt care if all the signals wer bad but completely the opposite (

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Fair enough comment but got a great vibe from meet,left on great terms & have been in contact since?"

one persons great vibe may be another person being polite..

I wouldn't push it, can understand that some see verifications as important but if you enjoyed the meet jut leave it at that perhaps and move on..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a bit rude in my opinion if she displayed yours...I would prefer to be told if a meet didn't give out veris so I can reciprocate accordingly "
Think thats the thing thats pissed me off a little,she did display my verification,can be hard on here for single guys..theres a lot of us & a lot of timewasters so verifications are a big help!!!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show all my feedback as I had this local woman mailing people I had meet .. saying she new me and stuff ....... so I keep a lot to myself now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I don't worry about verifications.

If you had NO verifications, then yes, it would have been nice if she wrote one for you. But you're already verified, so don't worry about NOT getting a new one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't show all my feedback as I had this local woman mailing people I had meet .. saying she new me and stuff ....... so I keep a lot to myself now."
And I don't now send feedback as its for me to know not others .. Been here a time and its not needed now for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people dont bother about them as long as they have one to show they are genuine. next time wait until they leave you one before you leave them one.

one man i met left me one but told me not to leave him one because one of his girlfiends gets jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im totally with you OP. I always veri every meet - most meets are fab and even if its just ok I still veri but tone it down. I do expect one back - its how this site operates. I do the veri and then send a note saying - " looking forward to getting one back" . I wait 5 days and then send one reminder. 2 more days then I snatch it back by blocking on here. I usually get a panicked whats app asking whats wrong - so they get 24 hours. A few on here say they dont care about the veri's ,dont display etc / their choice - I think personally the veri system is hugely important and enables me to get highly attractive young men xx

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire


"Think thats the thing thats pissed me off a little, she did display my verification, can be hard on here for single guys..theres a lot of us & a lot of timewasters so verifications are a big help!!!x"

Just a thought, but perhaps because your verifications aren't displayed, she didn't think you'd want to be verified?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people just aren't bothered about them

I never leave verifications or ask for them but if people do leave me one I will verify back if I enjoyed the meet other wise I don't, I have to be honest though when people ask me for one that annoys me its like they are more bothered about verifications than the meet and using previous meets as magnet for the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bit rude in my opinion if she displayed yours...I would prefer to be told if a meet didn't give out veris so I can reciprocate accordingly Think thats the thing thats pissed me off a little,she did display my verification,can be hard on here for single guys..theres a lot of us & a lot of timewasters so verifications are a big help!!!x"

if its pissing you off block her, it removed your verification, forget about it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think thats the thing thats pissed me off a little, she did display my verification, can be hard on here for single guys..theres a lot of us & a lot of timewasters so verifications are a big help!!!x

Just a thought, but perhaps because your verifications aren't displayed, she didn't think you'd want to be verified?"

This! If as you say they're so important - why hide them?

And as you say you've been in touch since have you (politely) asked her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't display veris, but always return veris when sent one. I suppose the OP has taken the no return veri as a negative reflection of the meet ?

Has anyone ever sent or received a bad veri ?? saying would not meet again etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't display veris, but always return veris when sent one. I suppose the OP has taken the no return veri as a negative reflection of the meet ?

Has anyone ever sent or received a bad veri ?? saying would not meet again etc "

I sent a bad verification once but only because the guy was a knob, he didn't verify me, not that I wanted one, but still kept messaging me asking for me to leave him one, so after a while I did, telling him exactly what I thought of him and the meet, he didn't display it but it did stop him mailing me

I would never usually leave a bad very, if I meet someone and it went bad I would just not verify them and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has it crossed your mind she may be contemplating how to word it and wants to put a bit of thought into it first? I know i have delayed giving veris until i calmed down a few times lol

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Maybe she is Speechless

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

If she has displayed yours then she clearly uses the verification system so it would be polite to send you one if only to confirm you met recently.

If she hasn't displayed it then she just doesn't do them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what I would do is follow all her verifications to see if she had left others one or not that why id knew whether to take it personal or not

if she has given all her other meets glowing verifications take the hint, if not your fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what I would do is follow all her verifications to see if she had left others one or not that why id knew whether to take it personal or not

if she has given all her other meets glowing verifications take the hint, if not your fine "

cyber detective lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bit rude in my opinion if she displayed yours...I would prefer to be told if a meet didn't give out veris so I can reciprocate accordingly Think thats the thing thats pissed me off a little,she did display my verification,can be hard on here for single guys..theres a lot of us & a lot of timewasters so verifications are a big help!!!x

if its pissing you off block her, it removed your verification, forget about it and move on "

this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I sent a bad verification once but only because the guy was a knob, he didn't verify me, not that I wanted one, but still kept messaging me asking for me to leave him one, so after a while I did, telling him exactly what I thought of him and the meet, he didn't display it but it did stop him mailing me

I would never usually leave a bad very, if I meet someone and it went bad I would just not verify them and leave it at that"

yeah i did this to someone to get my point accorss and it worked no mails and he blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm....have you asked her directly? 'Did u likethe veri i left for you, can you do one for me please?'

If youre still chatting surely thats ok?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Hi all,like to hear ur opinion...met a woman last fri at her place,had a chat,got on well,kiss & cuddle on couch then she invites me to her bedroom where we banged,her words not mine,lol,both parted with smiles on our faces,got home & gave her a nice verification,since then she still hasnt returned one,been messaging & iv hinted that it wud be nice to get a veri from her but nothing...i know its everyones choice & no rules saying u have to or should but is it not the right/polite thing to do to return a verification? "

If you re still in contact with her I m guessing its pretty cordial either forget about the veri and arrange another meet with her or you can ask her why,

Me I f I d had a great night with the Lady I d be wanting to arrange another meet rather than the verification

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

i dont always leave a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're still chatting and you both had a good time and both want to repeat the experience then does a veri really matter that much?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"If you're still chatting and you both had a good time and both want to repeat the experience then does a veri really matter that much?

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Firstly, I think it does for single guys, as he said. It can be difficult on here and recent veris show that the person does meet and has done so recently.

Secondly, she has accepted and displayed his verification - but no reciprocated. Whilst she is not under any obligation to do so, it would be the polite thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im different,I could'nt give a monkeys about verifications,but if its that important hes an adult and could just ask for one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're still chatting and you both had a good time and both want to repeat the experience then does a veri really matter that much?

Firstly, I think it does for single guys, as he said. It can be difficult on here and recent veris show that the person does meet and has done so recently.

Secondly, she has accepted and displayed his verification - but no reciprocated. Whilst she is not under any obligation to do so, it would be the polite thing to do."
Thank u DB9 Queen cudnt hav put it better myself & thanx 2 everyone for ther comments,wish i hadnt give a verification now but lesson learned...onwards & upwards with manners still intact,lol!!!

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think as you don't display your veris or show summary she may think she was just wasting her time doing you one

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

i never bothered with verifications on this site.it was between us adults we knew we had a good time.So why tell the planet kind of "notches on the bedpost" However now it seems Fabs has changed its siftware and made them more visible and unless a bloke is verified at least twice or thrice some peeps wont speak to them.Least thats my impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,like to hear ur opinion...met a woman last fri at her place,had a chat,got on well,kiss & cuddle on couch then she invites me to her bedroom where we banged,her words not mine,lol,both parted with smiles on our faces,got home & gave her a nice verification,since then she still hasnt returned one,been messaging & iv hinted that it wud be nice to get a veri from her but nothing...i know its everyones choice & no rules saying u have to or should but is it not the right/polite thing to do to return a verification? "

She probably just doesnt understand the importance of verifications for single guys. I met a few who have not verified me.

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