FabSwingers.com forum: Friends... With benefits?

By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

I have a dilemma and I'd like your thoughts please...

I have a male friend, who I've been friendly with for about a year (not from here or any other site) and I've realised that I really quite fancy him

We are quite flirty and there's a lot of banter, but nothing more.

Do I leave well alone? Or let him know I'd like to get in his pants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are both swingers go for it. Always nice to have a sidekick or someone who will have your back if something goes wrong.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Has he given you any indication that this might be reciprocated?

Will you get over losing him as a friend if he bolts?

If the sex is not good will you be able to still be friends.

If you can answer yes then go for it. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it girl otherwise you will just never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is too short for wondering, just say what you want, and ask him what he wants, the worse thing that can happen, is he will say no !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my near death experience on stairs in Tescos I say tell him

Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is too short for wondering, just say what you want, and ask him what he wants, the worse thing that can happen, is he will say no !"

Bloody hell something I actually agree with you on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometime s I find the sex can spoil the friendship , .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally id leave well alone, a good friend is harder to come by than a shag, things may not be the same after you have had sex or they may be great, I wouldn't risk it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go for it girl otherwise you will just never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is too short for wondering, just say what you want, and ask him what he wants, the worse thing that can happen, is he will say no !

Bloody hell something I actually agree with you on

that is worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good old fashioned way is to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it makes any difference if hes a swinger or not,you're single,hes single,you like him,go for it the worst he can say is no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is too short for wondering, just say what you want, and ask him what he wants, the worse thing that can happen, is he will say no !

Bloody hell something I actually agree with you on

that is worrying

You're not wrong

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

He's not a swinger (that I know of!!!)

Good questions Lickety... I don't know the answers though. He's been more 'tactile' the last few times we've been out but he's not said anything.

I definitely don't like the thought of losing him from my life if it goes wrong.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"After my near death experience on stairs in Tescos I say tell him

Life is too short "

I'm intrigued!!!

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"good old fashioned way is to talk about it "

This makes perfect sense, however I'm struggling with the fact that once it's 'out there' it's not retractable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good old fashioned way is to talk about it

This makes perfect sense, however I'm struggling with the fact that once it's 'out there' it's not retractable! "

No it's not but I would rather find out the truth however it goes than spend my time worrying about whether I should or should not say anything.

This I will tell you is only because of what happened to me on Friday.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"good old fashioned way is to talk about it

This makes perfect sense, however I'm struggling with the fact that once it's 'out there' it's not retractable!

No it's not but I would rather find out the truth however it goes than spend my time worrying about whether I should or should not say anything.

This I will tell you is only because of what happened to me on Friday. "

??? Pray tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good old fashioned way is to talk about it

This makes perfect sense, however I'm struggling with the fact that once it's 'out there' it's not retractable! "

another thing id worry about with him not being a swinger and a friend, what if he takes your asking for sex as something more than just wanting a shag, he may think your after more from him, after you have had sex what if he gets clingy?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

ive been seeing a single guy off here for about 4 years ..he meets single girls as well but when one of them pulls the 'could this be more than nsa he backs off ..when guys write this on their profile they generally mean it ...works for me though ...always ends up back in my bed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if he feels the same and is too scared to say something?

A life gone by possibly missing out by being scared of rejection or change

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"personally id leave well alone, a good friend is harder to come by than a shag, things may not be the same after you have had sex or they may be great, I wouldn't risk it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if he feels the same and is too scared to say something?

A life gone by possibly missing out by being scared of rejection or change"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a tricky one....

I think if you want just to get in his pants then I'd leave it as it is, a big gamble to take just for a quickie. However if you want more than that I'd go for it!

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree go for it.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"What if he feels the same and is too scared to say something?

A life gone by possibly missing out by being scared of rejection or change"

This is true, mutual friends have joked about a chemistry between us... Maybe they're into something.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"it's a tricky one....

I think if you want just to get in his pants then I'd leave it as it is, a big gamble to take just for a quickie. However if you want more than that I'd go for it!

good luck x"

Thank you x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"He's not a swinger (that I know of!!!)

Good questions Lickety... I don't know the answers though. He's been more 'tactile' the last few times we've been out but he's not said anything.

I definitely don't like the thought of losing him from my life if it goes wrong. "

It's not inevitable that you could lose him as a friend but the only thing you can prepare for is how you feel and how you will present the request. The better you prepare yourself for all eventualities the easier it will be for you.

Don't live life with "maybe if" hanging over you and don't over think it but do consider your approach.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"He's not a swinger (that I know of!!!)

Good questions Lickety... I don't know the answers though. He's been more 'tactile' the last few times we've been out but he's not said anything.

I definitely don't like the thought of losing him from my life if it goes wrong.

Don't live life with "maybe if" hanging over you and don't over think it but do consider your approach.

Wise words, thank you honey... I've got some long, hard thinking to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another question to add to licketys, do you in 20/30/40 years times want to sit back and wonder should I or shouldn't I have asked

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it Ben?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

go for it babe .. good luck

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Is it Ben?"

Haha

where is he? He's gone missing in action

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is it Ben?"

She says it's not anyone on the site and I think she may have been in Ben's pants. It's just a sneaky suspicion I have.

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

"Another question to add to licketys, do you in 20/30/40 years times want to sit back and wonder should I or shouldn't I have asked"

= its your Decision..

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

Lol no it's not Ben?! It's someone from my 'normal' life.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"Is it Ben?

She says it's not anyone on the site and I think she may have been in Ben's pants. It's just a sneaky suspicion I have.

A regular Miss Marple

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)"

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you word it right you can let him know you like him and that you want to stay friends if he doesn't feel the same.

Hope it goes ok.

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover

1 year on and I'm still looking for a FWB.

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"If you word it right you can let him know you like him and that you want to stay friends if he doesn't feel the same.

Hope it goes ok.

Thank you... I will give this some careful consideration and choose my words wisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A male friend and I did just that earlier on this year. We had been mates for a couple of years.

We now have the best of both worlds, still great friends and fantastic benefits.

If it feels right ........... do it

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"A male friend and I did just that earlier on this year. We had been mates for a couple of years.

We now have the best of both worlds, still great friends and fantastic benefits.

If it feels right ........... do it"

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple! "

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

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By *Kgirl80 OP Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!"

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

Ryan Dear, could you do something similar for me please? I need a friend with some benefits. Could you find me one and have the chat with him? Thanks.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

Ryan Dear, could you do something similar for me please? I need a friend with some benefits. Could you find me one and have the chat with him? Thanks."

Of course. I don't provide the pants peeking service though.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

Ryan Dear, could you do something similar for me please? I need a friend with some benefits. Could you find me one and have the chat with him? Thanks.

Of course. I don't provide the pants peeking service though. "

Ok, I will peek in pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

Ryan Dear, could you do something similar for me please? I need a friend with some benefits. Could you find me one and have the chat with him? Thanks.

Of course. I don't provide the pants peeking service though. "

Jumps on bandwagon , me too me too

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Have a sneaky peek in his pants first. Just to be on the safe side (don't let him catch you though)

I can confirm trouser region is both generous and well kept

Fill ya boots then

Ah... If only it were that simple!

Would you like me to have a chat with him - along the lines of, my friend fancy's you

You are a true pal

all goodness and kindness!!!

No worries. You will be reaping his benefits in no time

Ryan Dear, could you do something similar for me please? I need a friend with some benefits. Could you find me one and have the chat with him? Thanks.

Of course. I don't provide the pants peeking service though. "

In that case, sign me up too please. I'd like a tall, hot, male friend with benefits, please.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Fookin ell. What am I Cilla Black

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i never think its a good idea to guess who is fbs with who in the forums .them that are happy for it to be public knowledge normally let it be known

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Fookin ell. What am I Cilla Black

Apparently so

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