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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think wearing the deceased wife's clothes is a bit odd. Not knowing why or what she wore it's not open to say whether it was insensitive to the children.

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

Sounds a bit weird , but each to their own

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Sounds like the set-up to an episode of CSI to me. Definitely odd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A few things I think, like cardigans - not sure to be honest, I didn't see. But they were definitely items of clothing that his children could have seen on their mother one month and his new partner a couple of months later..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"A few things I think, like cardigans - not sure to be honest, I didn't see. But they were definitely items of clothing that his children could have seen on their mother one month and his new partner a couple of months later..

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If the new wife looks and sounds like the deceased then that is serious weirdness.

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Did the man and woman know each other before or did they only meet after the mans wife had died?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know Lickety...maybe in looks a bit.

I think they had met many years ago.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I'm reluctant to judge the couple, without knowing the reason why the bride would choose to wear what she wore.

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By *himanMan
over a year ago

chichester

Very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think? "

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it was a case of, shame to throw them, here dear you pop them on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think?

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs."

Its a forum, my thread does not break any rules that I'm aware of....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are they up for a meet is all I'm concerned with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it works for them, maybe they are just simply not wasteful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"are they up for a meet is all I'm concerned with"

lol, next time I see them I'll pass on your request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs."

i agree,how fortunate they are to find each other late in life,and so she wore a cardy that belonged to his ex wife,had he have gave it to charity someone else would be wearing it and other items.recycling working well i say.good luck to both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think?

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs.

Its a forum, my thread does not break any rules that I'm aware of...."

No one is talking about rules, just seems a very odd question to ask,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs.

i agree,how fortunate they are to find each other late in life,and so she wore a cardy that belonged to his ex wife,had he have gave it to charity someone else would be wearing it and other items.recycling working well i say.good luck to both of them"

+1

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By *eeds toy boyMan
over a year ago

leeds

I think its rather strange that the woman would wear the deceased ladies clothes but each to there own i supose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless of course it is the cardy the ex wife died in and still carries the blood stains where he bashed her head in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs.

i agree,how fortunate they are to find each other late in life,and so she wore a cardy that belonged to his ex wife,had he have gave it to charity someone else would be wearing it and other items.recycling working well i say.good luck to both of them"

Well yes that is true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are they up for a meet is all I'm concerned with

lol, next time I see them I'll pass on your request."

just tell her no cardis...it reminds me of my nanna...unsexually of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are they up for a meet is all I'm concerned with"

I wouldn't say no

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have a mate whose mum died over twenty years ago now and her father remarried fairly quickly, she went to their house to see the new wife wearing one of her mothers scarves. She spoke to her father about it and he honestly hadn't realised that it might upset her or her brother, he just hadn't seen it that way.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nothing about people strikes me as odd anymore.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

its lovely that they have found happiness again maybe cost come into it with clothes why waste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just thinking about a parent with another partner could be upsetting, same house, bed, plates, clothes. Sex even. so understandable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing about people strikes me as odd anymore."

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Nothing about people strikes me as odd anymore."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just thinking about a parent with another partner could be upsetting, same house, bed, plates, clothes. Sex even. so understandable."

It was the timing really, just felt sorry for this children.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally."

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Think No one realises the loneliness of being a widow or widower after a long marriage.

More so for the man as generally they are not as equipped to be alone after a long happy marriage. they are desperately lonely and may not have any social life.

they may have grown up kids but lets face it most of us have our own lives and really dont have time for older parents all of the time.

It isnt unusual to remarry quickly ( they dont tend to live together) the companionship is very important.

Must admit I would be extremely lonely if I didnt have someone popping in and out at least its company.

The clothing thing is a little strange.. But lets face it we all have stuff in the wardrobe that has barely been worn. It would normally go to Charity shop no doubt there are clothes there from dead people.

I wouldnt mind people wanting to wear my clothes . hey ho .BUT NOT my jewelry.. that is for the kids.

As a foot note..anyone going into my wardrobe after I peg it will be VERY surprised

OH has not seen most of my underwear. giggles.. to be honest no one but me has.. how very sad.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly."

But the end may have been a long one with goodbyes said some time ago. Also, if you feel your life is precious as you have experienced a loss it may be a question of grab the good now before it disappears.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly."

I would have agreed until my mum lost my dad ..id give anything to see her happy again with someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly."

It would depend on many things, for instance, if your partner had been ill and suffering for years , ie, dementure, or cancer.

You would actually want them to be free from pain, and their death would be a relief for them, and for family, maybe you had said your goodbyes a long time ago, time is different in every situation, when your young, six weeks sounds like a lifetime, when your older it sounds like a blink of the eye.

Also they may have known each other for years, wether as friends or lovers, but have hidden that, to protect family,

Death is a release, its about life, perfectly normal, life is too short not to live each and every day to the full, just wish them joy and happiness,

it sounds like this guy did his duty and cared for his wife till the end, so he was true to his wedding vows, till death, do us part!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly.

But the end may have been a long one with goodbyes said some time ago. Also, if you feel your life is precious as you have experienced a loss it may be a question of grab the good now before it disappears.

"

I think that was it. The late wife died suddenly.

Some good posts, interesting hearing other peoples thoughts

oh and the clothes thing - was not to save money - they're a wealth couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they got wealthy by not wasting money

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Most of you are looking at it from your own young point of _iew. which obviously is fine. There are not many of you past your 40's or even 50's here.

When you have been married 40 plus years things are very different. Yes some people are still in love some not.

For the most part in the vanilla world couples stay with each other for the length of the marriage come hell or high water and have never had another sexual partner.

They may or not sleep in same room. Often no one knows what its like inside the home and actually whether they were happy.

It really isnt wrong or strange to meet someone quick and marry when you are 70 you know there is no time to waste . What have they got to wait for ?

They have met someone they like and will care for each other for rest of their lives.

Sorry to ramble but to me its no more strange than being married and sharing yourself and your partner with others for sex. Something I could never had done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think?

I think it is a bit odd that your even asking the question, what 2 adults do is none of anyones business accept theirs.

Its a forum, my thread does not break any rules that I'm aware of....

No one is talking about rules, just seems a very odd question to ask,"

Goes well with every single odd response, you leave on practically every single post that appears on this site....that's EVERY one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if the wife died suddenly then surely the man in question would still be in the grieving process,when he met the new woman ?

That would suggest maybe a substitute wife rather than a new partner perhaps ?

The clothes thing would reinforce that slightly and it is far too creepy,imo.

If the new partner resembled the old one then even more so.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think? "

I think there's nothing for anyone to think about.

In any case , the legion of tutters here will just believe it so they can clack their tongue against their teeth.

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By *ootleCouple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

Many people never get to experience a first love, never mind a second chance - so in my humble opinion good luck to them and hopefully it's a long and happy relationship.

It not up to outsiders or relatives to say if it's right or wrong if it's a happy relationship - the couple will make decisions based on their feelings and what they are comfortable with - others don't have to like it, or understand it - they should just accept that its not something they agree with and leave it at that.

After all, how many of us would tell our family and friends that we are members on here ? We don't tell them because it's our lifestyle and we don't want their opinion.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it was a case of, shame to throw them, here dear you pop them on "

Well that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman who is widowed, (her husband died many years before) meets another man, who is also a widower but only by 6 weeks. Both were happily married for 20/30 years.

They get together and announce within weeks they will marry, which they do the following year. The woman even wore some of the deceased wifes clothes.

I remember thinking at the time sympathy for the man children, who are adults, but I think there's a lot of insensitivity in this story.

What do you think?

I think there's nothing for anyone to think about.

In any case , the legion of tutters here will just believe it so they can clack their tongue against their teeth."

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly."

Grief and bereavement have no set timeframes. What one person feels is acceptable is always going to be too early for someone else. Who are we to judge?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly.

But the end may have been a long one with goodbyes said some time ago. Also, if you feel your life is precious as you have experienced a loss it may be a question of grab the good now before it disappears.

I think that was it. The late wife died suddenly.

Some good posts, interesting hearing other peoples thoughts

oh and the clothes thing - was not to save money - they're a wealth couple."

Mayberry are wealthy because they save money by recycling old possessions. You don't need a good job etc to get rich.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Well if the wife died suddenly then surely the man in question would still be in the grieving process,when he met the new woman ?

That would suggest maybe a substitute wife rather than a new partner perhaps ?

The clothes thing would reinforce that slightly and it is far too creepy,imo.

If the new partner resembled the old one then even more so.

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I had that.... I was a dead ringer parden pun... of his dead wife spooky or what creeped me out

but I still think if they are both happy good luck to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly."

Doesnt mean he had got over his first wife though, you dont just forget someone because they arent there anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A man loses his wife then meets someone only 6 weeks later ? Would find that odd behaviour to start with personally.

I know I wouldn't get over losing my partner anywhere near that quickly.

But the end may have been a long one with goodbyes said some time ago. Also, if you feel your life is precious as you have experienced a loss it may be a question of grab the good now before it disappears.

"

I agree and non of us knows unless we are in that situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as long as it isnt the sex toys I suppose

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I am widowed (14years) and met a widow 2 years after,we were together 10 years but have now split. We had so much in common. 6 weeks is a bit soon but your head is so F*&cked up after, anything can happen.

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