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By *uietlyKinkyUs OP   Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Just a daft question really,

Of late I'm getting pm's which just quote a post I made on here, occasionally it says 'good post' or 'cracking comment'.

So do you respond to these pm's?

I have a few times and have found they either get the wrong idea or feel led on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to messages like that even if it's just with a chuckle-chuckle arf-arf chortle-chortle gaffaw-gaffaw...... or if it's to someone north of the border with a " Tee-Mac-Hee"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did PM someone last week but only to offer advice on a medical condition that was too long and personal to leave in a thread, otherwise I think all comments about a thread should be made on the thread. That's just my oppinion obviously but some people have had nasty messages which is not on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a daft question really,

Of late I'm getting pm's which just quote a post I made on here, occasionally it says 'good post' or 'cracking comment'.

So do you respond to these pm's?

I have a few times and have found they either get the wrong idea or feel led on "

I'm thinking its a way of getting to talk to you. If your sent a pm with one of your old comments on it your more likely to reply to it, than just a message from some bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as both guys had messaged me about a comment I had made on a forum post but got it totally wrong so I soon put them right, they were however the reason I hid my verification's as they went through them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a couple. They don't bother me to be honest, but I suppose if the person started sending repeat messages it would be a bit annoying.

What I'm not so keen on are random people who don't post their replies in forums and only PM instead. Why not just contribute openly ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the forums are a tool to make friends, maybe because a post has sparked an interest or your post has helped or clarified something. People message me, either agreeing or disagreeing with an opinion I have posted,

in some cases because they don't want others to know their views.

All communication is good communication, and should be encouraged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this once to give some advice on a matter that was not for public at large to read. When i get messages i read and if of no interest delete.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Just a daft question really,

Of late I'm getting pm's which just quote a post I made on here, occasionally it says 'good post' or 'cracking comment'.

So do you respond to these pm's?

I have a few times and have found they either get the wrong idea or feel led on

I'm thinking its a way of getting to talk to you. If your sent a pm with one of your old comments on it your more likely to reply to it, than just a message from some bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do reply,I ask was it a mistake that they messaged me instead of posting in the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a couple. They don't bother me to be honest, but I suppose if the person started sending repeat messages it would be a bit annoying.

What I'm not so keen on are random people who don't post their replies in forums and only PM instead. Why not just contribute openly ?"

probably because thye are banned, or dont want open forummers to see they have views that are contraversial, as that can limit the amount of people they can lie to at a later date lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I do reply,I ask was it a mistake that they messaged me instead of posting in the forum"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they are complimenting my post then I reply thanking them. If they've used it to ask to meet and they are not within my preferences then I ignore it. If they are abusive (rarely happened tbh) then I report it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I will sometimes respond in private to a comment if I want to say something particular to that person. They either respond or delete.

I get messages on some of my posts, either a thought, support or something negative. The abusive ones can be annoying. If I have never seen the sender on the forum I just assume they are banned, a lurker, unable to post yet or not wanting to share their view in public. If it's rude, contradictory or supportive I think it should remain on the forum.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I send a polite message back. Generally I've found them to be genuine complimentary messages with no ulterior motive. Sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will sometimes respond in private to a comment if I want to say something particular to that person. They either respond or delete.

I get messages on some of my posts, either a thought, support or something negative. The abusive ones can be annoying. If I have never seen the sender on the forum I just assume they are banned, a lurker, unable to post yet or not wanting to share their view in public. If it's rude, contradictory or supportive I think it should remain on the forum."

I sometimes want to message you because of your musings, but cannot because of your goalposts or whatever they're called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ways reply, never had a problem.

I sometimes mail people directly about posts if it's something private. If they are offended I'm sure they would say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point I might as well send similar messages to women inboxes sounds fun to do lol.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I occasionally get PMs off the back of my forum posts, usually complimentary which I always respond to. Once had a bit of an arsey message where someone took issue with something I posted so I just reported it and blocked the person - I personally wouldn't say anything in PM that I wouldn't post in public if in disagreement with a poster

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's the one's who think they're currying favour by saying something snidey about another forumite that make me laugh.

They backtrack really quickly when they realise you are not only not impressed but also turned off by such petty attempts at point scoring!

I may have a difference of opinion with someone in the forum but not only do I respect their right to that opinion but I also give credit for standing by it in a public discussion.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I get responces to posts made I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get them

Curious

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I do pm via thread if I am able..sometimes I would rather just keep it personal. yes I reply if someone takes the trouble to message me too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gauge my response depending on whether I like the other person's online persona.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those who were in chat last night would new I had a pm message last night and could retrieve it lol. But think a lot of people were smiling at me and my frustration of not working out what I was supposed to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the one's who think they're currying favour by saying something snidey about another forumite that make me laugh.

They backtrack really quickly when they realise you are not only not impressed but also turned off by such petty attempts at point scoring!

I may have a difference of opinion with someone in the forum but not only do I respect their right to that opinion but I also give credit for standing by it in a public discussion. "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I've had people pm by accident through here.

But I have also had one or two chancers try it on. It never works. I come on the forums to chat/debate.

When I want a meet I go looking for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a few pms about thing ive said in forums of which i always answer,especially when I did a s.t.i.thread the Feedback was amazing,what people have been through but couldnt say it on the thread as didnt want to discuss it in open ,i brought alot of awareness to a considered taboo subject

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i've pm ed sometimes if the person on the thread is getting grief and needs some support without getting into a shouting match with ignorant trolls who sometimes show their ugly heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If something is a delicate matter ill pm, if not ill say it in the forum, if I pm on a thread then I don't expect a reply, sometimes it's nice when I do but it's not the reason I pm

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By *uietlyKinkyUs OP   Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i made a good chatty friend that way - she commented in a pm to something id written - shes now left the site but we had a few laughs - would never meet as so far away but we not here just for the sex =

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