FabSwingers.com forum: opinion about me...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im confused. ..and upset... I met someone (not in fab). Its first stage of know each other. Was great.spark.etc. ..was great until..he know about fab. And what I heard? Compliments but im not for him....

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

find someone from fab ...problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think... First of all... You need to buy... An inhaler... C xx

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Im confused. ..and upset... I met someone (not in fab). Its first stage of know each other. Was great.spark.etc. ..was great until..he know about fab. And what I heard? Compliments but im not for him....

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

...you will be who you are and if he can't accept that from the start is it worth going down that route and finding out later?

Take it as a blessing in disguise you avoided potential pain later.

Only opinion of you is that you're in Newmarket & i wish it was 2 years earlier & i was living in Bottisham again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You could tell he's being judgemental, but if that's how he feels what can you do. He may come round you never know, but then you might not want to be with because of his initial reaction

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You being on here is no one else's business.

If you meet someone, sharing everything you have done in your past is not compulsory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's of little comfort but top marks for honesty

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

Are you upset about his response or his, and therefore possibly others, response to you being on here?

Too many people prostitute their own values and kowtow to others values for attention, a great foundation for a crap relationship.

Don't let others judge you and what's more, don't judge yourself from others reactions.

Now, can those aliens from Altos 7 please return the real Ian

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You disclosed a very private part of your life and he was taken aback, shocked, surprised. Ask yourself how you would have reacted if it had been the otherway round?

He may need some time to 'digest' the information and may yet come back to discuss it with you. I hope he does. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being on here is no one else's business.

If you meet someone, sharing everything you have done in your past is not compulsory "

I would never tell anyone about this. They wouldn't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being on here is no one else's business.

If you meet someone, sharing everything you have done in your past is not compulsory

I would never tell anyone about this. They wouldn't understand. "

Telling a vanilla potential bf that your a swinger is not a good idea

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am not sure why a potential boyfriend need know about your past. I am sure he must have a past wherever he found it.

Is it the old " woman is a slag and the man is a stud syndrome" I wonder.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Is it the old " woman is a slag and the man is a stud syndrome" I wonder.

Surely not!!

It may sound a bit sneaky but if I met someone I would give swinging up for, I wouldn't tell him about swinging. Unless he asked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for a relationship at mo but if were vanilla boring,prefer chocolate so have to be from here,don't c that happening at mo no interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others."

So how does this logic hold up with couples?

What you imply in this post is deeply offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not sure why a potential boyfriend need know about your past. I am sure he must have a past wherever he found it.

Is it the old " woman is a slag and the man is a stud syndrome" I wonder.

That was my thought too. Though being charitable it has to be remembered that this lifestyle isn't for everyone.

Either way in my opinion the OP dodged a bullet as clearly their morals and/or values are not exactly on the same page

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others."

You do this a lot, do you have anything to back up your sweeping statements or are you just posting to be provocotive considering the site you are on?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

provocative*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

You do this a lot, do you have anything to back up your sweeping statements or are you just posting to be provocotive considering the site you are on?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt think bad of the guy. this isnt going to be everyones cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im back..thank you guys for cheer me up.

I send him into space pick up strawberries

I just feeling in that moment like prostitute . It was not nice. I dont think so i do something wrong..i have here not only great fun but also social and get more experience lol and i can use that experience on him..

Maybe i should ask you guys about that? How is with acceptance of woman with rich sex experience for yours life partners?

So i stay single and enjoy fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuk him off and come out on the pull with me and the girls in bury lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuk him off and come out on the pull with me and the girls in bury lol"

Great idea ! I will do that lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I hope you are ok. I once told a bf donkeys years ago about my sexual confidence and what I like. He couldn't handle. I think he realised that missionary position and cumming quick wasn't gonna be good enough. Basically he was not going to be able to cope.

I had a lucky escape so maybe you did. If I don't find love because of my fab sex life then so be it. I don't want a vanilla life as no man is going to give me the touch of a woman andthe group fun.

If I stay single and wwithout love then so be it.

One day someone will love me for who I am and my desires, my family circumstances and everything.

The same for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be up front about things. It saves a lot of problems if they find out from another source in future. I know married bisexual men (still practicing) whose wives don't know. It was one of the first things I discussed with my wife when we met.

There's no point hiding stuff from people you hope to have a future with (in my opinion) and I think you can find love on a site like this. It's not the most likely event, but love appears in the most unlikely places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and for the record, I'm separated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not looking for a relationship at mo but if were vanilla boring,prefer chocolate so have to be from here,don't c that happening at mo no interest"

Vanilla in the right hands can be tutti frutti.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

So how does this logic hold up with couples?

What you imply in this post is deeply offensive."

I am sorry if you found my post offensive, I just said what a lot of people not involved in swinging think, in reply to the op,

Swinging is a lifestyle that suits some and not others. As many posts on this thread say, its best not to tell people about your choices, because people generally are judgemental, and insecure about something outside their experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

You do this a lot, do you have anything to back up your sweeping statements or are you just posting to be provocotive considering the site you are on?"

I am expressing an opinion based on reading peoples posts and experiences, and my 10 years experience of being on an inter generational dating/ friendship site.

some younger people are attracted to older people, as age and health conditions advance, some of the older guys lose the ability to get an errection, either due to medication, sex drive, whatever reason, because they love and want to hold on to the younger partner, they give them permission to swing, and look for other sexual partners, this works for both of them, I am certainly not trying to br provocative, hopefully it will get a response and hopefully, make things a little clearer for people struggling with a problem.

I in fact your previous post, just confirms many peoples attitudes to the op, did you post that to be contravercial?

I am not sure why a potential boyfriend need know about your past. I am sure he must have a past wherever he found it.

Is it the old " woman is a slag and the man is a stud syndrome" I wonder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You could tell he's being judgemental, but if that's how he feels what can you do. He may come round you never know, but then you might not want to be with because of his initial reaction

judgemental or not, many in the vanilla world wouldnt accept the lifestyle that people on this site have chosen.

many will think its disgusting and depraved.

some would be open to considering it further.

my initial question would be, if this other person isnt a swinger, why would you have been inclined to mention it?

see no reason to tell someone about every wart, scare and blemish on a first, 2nd or third date.

discretion comes in many forms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You could tell he's being judgemental, but if that's how he feels what can you do. He may come round you never know, but then you might not want to be with because of his initial reaction

judgemental or not, many in the vanilla world wouldnt accept the lifestyle that people on this site have chosen.

many will think its disgusting and depraved.

some would be open to considering it further.

my initial question would be, if this other person isnt a swinger, why would you have been inclined to mention it?

see no reason to tell someone about every wart, scare and blemish on a first, 2nd or third date.

discretion comes in many forms."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, orbeing a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

So how does this logic hold up with couples?

What you imply in this post is deeply offensive.

I am sorry if you found my post offensive, I just said what a lot of people not involved in swinging think, in reply to the op,

That's not what you said at all. As ever you condemn people with a ridiculously ill informed sweeping generalisation. How can you say that swinging relationships lack love and security and aren't normal? How can you imply that swinging couples do so because the man is on someway inadequate? Or have such a low regard for women who swing?

Why on earth are you on a site like this when you _iew it's members in such poor light? Or could it be that as based on your posts your idea of swinging is having sex with supposedly straight men behind their partner's backs, maube the people you meet have distorted your idea of what people that swing are really like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You need to meet a swinger like yourself otherwise it doesn't have much chance of working out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are reading into my post something that I didn't say,

"How can you say that swinging relationships lack love and security and aren't normal? How can you imply that swinging couples do so because the man is on someway inadequate? Or have such a low regard for women who swing?"

That is your interperatation, not mine,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think... First of all... You need to buy... An inhaler... C xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

You need to meet a swinger like yourself otherwise it doesn't have much chance of working out x"

do you count yourself as a swinger first and a person second?

why cant a relationship work with someone who isnt a swinger?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Fab is for fun, not for love, very few people in the normal world would want someone who swings.

So its a choice you make, love, security and traditional values, or being a loose wanton, sex diva.

For some it works, and they can be in love and sleep around, but it very seldom lasts, unless the man cant get an erection, then he is prepared to see his partner with others.

You do this a lot, do you have anything to back up your sweeping statements or are you just posting to be provocotive considering the site you are on?

I am expressing an opinion based on reading peoples posts and experiences, and my 10 years experience of being on an inter generational dating/ friendship site.

I in fact your previous post, just confirms many peoples attitudes to the op, did you post that to be contravercial?

I am not sure why a potential boyfriend need know about your past. I am sure he must have a past wherever he found it.

Is it the old " woman is a slag and the man is a stud syndrome" I wonder. "

You didn't answer my question apart from to say you have seen it posted on here. Any chance of showing me the posts and we can see what percentage you are talking about?

Your comments on this thread are not relevant to the question asked , mine are ,and as you have done this before were it wasn't relevant then it is looking very provocative ....as you are not stupid I am guessing you know this.

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham

Its mean.. if im single..and on future if i want to have partner ..i cant tell about fab? Otherwise in mans eyes i will be ....

Your life you live it the way you want to live it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

I agree. I think the OP also knows this....so would you do as the OP asks and tell a potential new G/F you were on here or not?

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

I agree. I think the OP also knows this....so would you do as the OP asks and tell a potential new G/F you were on here or not?"

Personally I wouldnt unless it was something you would be hoping to involve them in.... even then I would probably wait a few months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

I agree. I think the OP also knows this....so would you do as the OP asks and tell a potential new G/F you were on here or not?"

As I'm going through a bit of a time at moment deciding I want more than just NSA sex I have mixed feelings on this. On one hand why should I hide what I have been doing I'm not ashamed of it and for me I want to be as open and honest as I can right from the start. I don't want to spend the rest of my life having to watch what I say incase I slip up. This makes me want a swinger for a relationship so here is a great place to find one. On the other hand there is the man and woman who on here think it's good enough to shag but def not good enough for anything else so I'm at a loss as to what to do. So do I tell a potential new B/F , fook knows

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Cant help here but love those hold ups

what make/colour, where from please

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

I agree. I think the OP also knows this....so would you do as the OP asks and tell a potential new G/F you were on here or not?"

I wouldn't tell them unless it was entirely relevant. I'd definitely test the waters before mentioning it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wrap it up as prettily as you like but to the majority of the 'outside world', what goes on between people on this site isn't seen as normal! Therein might lie the problem.

I agree. I think the OP also knows this....so would you do as the OP asks and tell a potential new G/F you were on here or not?

I don't think it necessarily takes a swinger to understand swinging.

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