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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey everyone I need a little help, I've recently been seeing this girl for a while (Not been meeting on here during, obviously) and I thought it was going well. I've been working alot lately so I haven't really been able to meet up with her as often as I'd like but we were messaging daily and talking on the phone for hours and when I finished work I'd got to her work and stand and chat for 15 mins(She works in a bar too). Then one day she just ignored me i.e. not replying to phone calls or messages. and when I go see her she seems distant. I don't think I've done anything wrong but I don't know. Anyone able to help?  "
You have answered your own question, time is the most precious gift we have, and if you can spend it texting and chatting for hours on end, which is generally meaningless, and free, and takes no effort.
You could have spent it meeting, and spending precious time together,
To her it looks like you are not interested, and couldn't be bothered putting her first, ie when you do make the effort to meet you just want sex,
It isn't something you can fix by words, , when she sends you a message, wait an hour, then ask to meet for a coffee on neutral ground, ie café, not home, just tell her what you want from your friendship, and then simply ask her what she wants, go quiet, and listen,
If she was here now, she would say she cant give you what you want.
When you get off your arse and make an effort she will, be honest with you, and then you can move on, and develop your friendship.
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