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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Many kids have their own laptops/pcs/tablets these days along with smartphones. As I work with children of that age I hear all sorts of things about what they access over the net yet so many of them claim that there are no privacy controls on their devices or social networking sites like Facebook or Twitter. Most of those who have a smartphone I have spoken to seem to have nothing on them to stop them accessing so much of the nastiness which we know is out there.

Do you know what your teen is up to online during the day?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

A member of my household is about to turn 13. However, he's a cat so I'm not really concerned

Parenting these days must be very difficult. I don't envy any parent the task.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never mind a teenager, i got out the shower this morning to find my almost 4yr old using my phone and had somehow got onto this site

i was mortified.. so from now on i wont save passwords and have selected the hide all images option.

She has never used a device like a smartphone or my laptop before. Guess i must give her credit for just observing how to unlock my phone (just a swipe)

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"A member of my household is about to turn 13. However, he's a cat so I'm not really concerned

Parenting these days must be very difficult. I don't envy any parent the task."

I was thinking the same. My daughter was 17 when mobiles became the must-have item and then it was only the basic type - she had a Motorola - big old brick of a thing. So it was never something I had to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my son had a computer from when he was little, i knew what sort of things he looked at when he was a teenager because i used to overhear him and his friends talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many kids have their own laptops/pcs/tablets these days along with smartphones. As I work with children of that age I hear all sorts of things about what they access over the net yet so many of them claim that there are no privacy controls on their devices or social networking sites like Facebook or Twitter. Most of those who have a smartphone I have spoken to seem to have nothing on them to stop them accessing so much of the nastiness which we know is out there.

Do you know what your teen is up to online during the day?"

My boys aren't teens yet. But they go nto youtube and watch the gamer hints thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have set a program on my mums laptop to tell me everything my 16 year old brother is up to that he shouldn't be. but that doesn't work for his phone or the kindle school just gave him.

of course my mum giving him the password for the nonmonitored login doesn't help.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Yes I do.

Her netbook has a barking warning & she gets timed out too often.

Her phone is contract; however is locked down to content suitable for her age.

There are other things I do, and she knows I check up on her.

And most importantly we talk. About everything, sex/gossip etc, which I think is the most important thing

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I wonder how aware parents are that more and more teens are now starring and producing in their own little porn films? Or taking shots of themselves naked and these get passed around?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how aware parents are that more and more teens are now starring and producing in their own little porn films? Or taking shots of themselves naked and these get passed around?

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Yes i have heard about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They never think it will be their own little darling doing such things.....

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Butlins, Bognor Regis

Got a 16 year old, 17 next month. Suspect his browser history is Porn, Porn and more Porn. I may be wrong though!

He's out tonight at a gig in Manchester, drinking and having fun. I'm going to watch eastenders and masterchef, bastard.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

My Daughter is almost a teenager, we are incredibly close (seeing as Im a single Dad).

As sad as it may seem, we are best mates. Other than myself she is the only person I trust.

The reason for the above is I almost know that she isnt up to any negativity online, 'almost' as Im not silly enough to say 'I know for a fact'. You cant without doing a check every night.

She would never do a naked pic and send it, that I am 100% sure of

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"They never think it will be their own little darling doing such things....."

The thing is that this can leave them vulnerable to predators online. Some adult sets up a fake FB profile and gets chatting to a teen. They gain their trust and then get them to reveal more and more of themselves visually - and before long they then can threaten and blackmail that teen into more extreme stuff or even in to meeting. It has happened many times.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Really don't look forward to when my kids are old enough for me to need to worry about this stuff!

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

You can put software on most things now tho alert/ check and even track. Better safe than sorry

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I am so glad I dont have children today monitoring their activities would have been nigh on impossible with fones ipads and computers .

Thankfully they grew up without all those things, we never had TV's in bedrooms they went to bed with a book or a story tape by 9o'clock even at 17/18 we were all up and on the road to skate by 5.0am daily..for 12 years of their lives.

I think what kids know about technical things far out weys what the parents know about gadgets.

Quite scary.

I guess in this day my children would not have access to any of these gadgets in their rooms but only downstairs in the family rooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good post OP. just reviewing this at the moment. My 13 year old daughter has come back from her dads over the last year with a phone, kindle and laptop all of which connect to the Internet. All barr the phone are going back this week and I'll be asking him how he keeps track on the phone usage when she's not with either of us.

The Internet is a dangerous place. At the moment I think she's sensible, but I'm conscious that could change in a heartbeat.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

'Sexting' has been the subject of a number of assemblies this last year, so I think the word is slowly getting round but hormones do take over.

I think the bigger message is, it may seem anonymous as it's online, but once you put something out there you can NEVER get it back, nor control it.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

My friends son almost got into a serious situation through a well known social networking site , luckily he installed a secret program , this allowed him to look into his sons activities , and luckily for him that he did , as he was being groomed by a man pising as a young good looking teenager !!! If any one would like to know the name of such a program feel free to pm me as I think if I pisted it here , it would get removed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only teen i have is 19 so though i would still like to mother her I'm not allowed anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some parents can be over protective, mine were so i wanted to be different with my son, i was very open with him and would talk about things a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines not allowed on FB. I'm surprised she's never asked because a lot of her school peers have been on it since they were 9/ 10 with their parents consent.

Conversely, my parents we far to involved with themselves and other family problems to bother with me as a teen. I'm glad the Internet was not around then.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

6 of my daughters friends are on fb. Without parent knowledge. That i know of. So im guessing its more than that.

I try not to ban things more talk about appropriate/suitable & discuss each issue

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Mines not allowed on FB. I'm surprised she's never asked because a lot of her school peers have been on it since they were 9/ 10 with their parents consent.

Conversely, my parents we far to involved with themselves and other family problems to bother with me as a teen. I'm glad the Internet was not around then. "

And yet the minimum age for FB is 13, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do our teens know what we're up to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mines not allowed on FB. I'm surprised she's never asked because a lot of her school peers have been on it since they were 9/ 10 with their parents consent.

Conversely, my parents we far to involved with themselves and other family problems to bother with me as a teen. I'm glad the Internet was not around then.

And yet the minimum age for FB is 13, isn't it?"

Yes I think it's something like that. It was her primary head teacher who pointed out the percentage of under 11s on FB. I was quite taken aback. I guess I'm liberally minded in some ways but not in others. I've never been on FB myself so I can't really say but I'm led to believe it could be a minefield for kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do our teens know what we're up to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do our teens know what we're up to...

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On here? Nope mine doesn't. Why should they ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do our teens know what we're up to...

On here? Nope mine doesn't. Why should they ?"

well we arent much better are we.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Fair few on here on a Friday night I reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mines not allowed on FB. I'm surprised she's never asked ...... "
lol how naive! She hasn't asked as she just uses her friends' phones/computers to log in with!!! Not being on fb is social death to teens.

Another lol at 'i know my daughter wouldn't do that' - i've had to break the news and show the pics to a few sets of parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What'll you do when they turn 18 and decide to join fabswingers

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Do our teens know what we're up to...

On here? Nope mine doesn't. Why should they ?

well we arent much better are we. "

So many teenagers are vulnerable to grooming from predators. They simply don't have the life experiences to recognise them until it's too late. We know on here that even adults can be fooled by fake profiles. There are millions of fake profiles on FB alone. Can't remember the exact number but it's definitely in the millions.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

The frightening thing is, with the best will in the world, the kids can outsmart you.

My daughters boyfriend has a seven year old son. He has a tablet but he's insured to put all kinds of blocks on it as well as his own laptop in case his son logs onto it.

His ex phoned to say the school were concerned about something and wanted to see them. It transpired his son had not been concentrating in class and the head handed them his book with "sex" written all over it. The school were concerned about what was going on in their respective households. His ex thought he was doing things in front of him and vice versa.

When they questioned him it transpired he'd heard the older boys at school talking about sex and wanted to know about it. He was unable to Google it as the blocks prevented it.

Every weekend he stays at his grandads house and always ask his grandad if he can play the games on his phone. He then sat with his grandad playing his games until the sound got on his grandads last nerve. At some point the Grandad would hand him headphones to play in silence. He would then forget about games, log onto the internet and watch porn. His grandad didn't even know his phone had internet access.

It must be a nightmare being parents today.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Never ever think that your teenager is different to all the others, that they aren't "like that" or you and they have such a good relationship that they will tell you everything....it may be true but complacency is what allows kids to be groomed or to cave in to peer pressure. We used to check browsing history.for our kids thank God and prevented quite a few incidents the mildest thing we put a stop to when she was 15 was a guy boasting about his ten inch cock and sending her photos to prove it. And we used to think she would never be involved in anything like that, how long before the guy asked for pictures in return?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Locking things down with passwords and blocks just isn't enough. Too much access everywhere so my approach is open conversation about consequences. Bullies, perverts, psychopaths and nosey family. Bosses and stalkers and weirdos...all out there and all able to access whatever you put out there. Being aware and alert is the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only teen i have is 19 so though i would still like to mother her I'm not allowed anymore "

can relate to that one! Hang on in there. She will come back

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

My little girl is off to school on her birthday 14 today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do our teens know what we're up to...

On here? Nope mine doesn't. Why should they ?

well we arent much better are we.

So many teenagers are vulnerable to grooming from predators. They simply don't have the life experiences to recognise them until it's too late. We know on here that even adults can be fooled by fake profiles. There are millions of fake profiles on FB alone. Can't remember the exact number but it's definitely in the millions. "

Parents should warn their kids tell them straight, how it is but not just once because people forget things.

i forget things, like people dont always tell the truth on here and they have fake verifications.

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"A member of my household is about to turn 13. However, he's a cat so I'm not really concerned

Parenting these days must be very difficult. I don't envy any parent the task."

It's the cat's you've gotta watch!

I got my eight year old moggy a GPS 'cat tracker' device to see what he gets up to when he's out and about.

It turns out that he's eating and shagging his was around the whole of my neighbourhood!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A member of my household is about to turn 13. However, he's a cat so I'm not really concerned

Parenting these days must be very difficult. I don't envy any parent the task.

It's the cat's you've gotta watch!

I got my eight year old moggy a GPS 'cat tracker' device to see what he gets up to when he's out and about.

It turns out that he's eating and shagging his was around the whole of my neighbourhood! "

Does it have a camera on then ?

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"A member of my household is about to turn 13. However, he's a cat so I'm not really concerned

Parenting these days must be very difficult. I don't envy any parent the task.

It's the cat's you've gotta watch!

I got my eight year old moggy a GPS 'cat tracker' device to see what he gets up to when he's out and about.

It turns out that he's eating and shagging his was around the whole of my neighbourhood!

Does it have a camera on then ?"

No!

A camera would just be wrong! lol

It's just a GPS tracking device on his collar but it's amazing to see where he goes on Google maps... and how long he stays there for.

As for his shagging habits... I've only got to look out of my kitchen window or look at my angry neighbours faces to see what he's done to their pets lol

If cats could be swingers mine would have a full list of positive verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

out of the kids that V now has to keep an eye on, the 2 eldest are in college and do their own thing, but are both sensible enough not to get into too much trouble (20 and 19) the next one down (17) is such a nice lad.

he may look at that kind of content, but is/was much more into skating and doing parc'or(sp) with his friends to spend hours poring over internet crap that he shouldnt be

and the youngest (12) can only access the internet through his playstation, which is in the dining room, so its in full view of everyone, and he only uses it for youtube to see the cheats and tips for gaming and she looks via her laptop at what he has logged onto from his youtube account, . he hasnt got a phone.

she ahs been very lucky with her kids as none of them seem to be interested in that kind of rubbish

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Never ever think that your teenager is different to all the others, that they aren't "like that" or you and they have such a good relationship that they will tell you everything....it may be true but complacency is what allows kids to be groomed or to cave in to peer pressure. We used to check browsing history.for our kids thank God and prevented quite a few incidents the mildest thing we put a stop to when she was 15 was a guy boasting about his ten inch cock and sending her photos to prove it. And we used to think she would never be involved in anything like that, how long before the guy asked for pictures in return?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got a 16 year old, 17 next month. Suspect his browser history is Porn, Porn and more Porn. I may be wrong though!

He's out tonight at a gig in Manchester, drinking and having fun. I'm going to watch eastenders and masterchef, bastard. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules. "

Sensible rules - not an invasion of privacy at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules. "

My sons got my password because he told me it, i dont think he would want to snoop but you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules.

Sensible rules - not an invasion of privacy at all."
better safe than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules.

My sons got my password because he told me it, i dont think he would want to snoop but you never know. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my daughters password, i can go down her phone ect at any given random moment and she knows it,yes there is a delete button but if caught was lose her privilge.

condemn me for invading her privacy but they are my rules.

My sons got my password because he told me it, i dont think he would want to snoop but you never know. "
change it Ena..you never know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been up front with our kids. Explained to them what's out there, what the risks are, what we wouldn't be happy with etc.

No parental controls in the world will prevent access to the really curious.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"We've been up front with our kids. Explained to them what's out there, what the risks are, what we wouldn't be happy with etc.

No parental controls in the world will prevent access to the really curious."

But it does reduce the risk and as responsible parents we all want that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been up front with our kids. Explained to them what's out there, what the risks are, what we wouldn't be happy with etc.

No parental controls in the world will prevent access to the really curious.

But it does reduce the risk and as responsible parents we all want that. "

Or makes them more determined and provides you with a false sense of security. I'd rather try the trust and being open thing but clearly that won't work for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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she has been very lucky with her kids as none of them seem to be interested in that kind of rubbish"

a 12 year old boy not interested or curious about sex? who are you kidding?? she just hasn't found it. They can pass round usb sticks, email pics, share gadgets.

If i can use fab on my phone and not leave an obvious trace, so can your kids. my phone doesn't keep an internet history. I can delete entries even if it did.

Folks, if your kids seem innocent and uninterested, it is because they are viewing it away from your eyes!!

C'mon, how many men on here had a PHYSICAL porn stash they managed to keep secret? Virtual is much easier!! Wifi Ipods, usb, cds, playstation online gaming/linking, camming etc. Your kids ARE looking at hardcore porn, i guarantee it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

btw, a lot of kids of primary school age have seen hardcore penetration sex before they get to secondary school. Handjobs start being dished out around y8 when the boys start maturing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"btw, a lot of kids of primary school age have seen hardcore penetration sex before they get to secondary school. Handjobs start being dished out around y8 when the boys start maturing"

That really isn't normal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"btw, a lot of kids of primary school age have seen hardcore penetration sex before they get to secondary school. Handjobs start being dished out around y8 when the boys start maturing

That really isn't normal!"

it is common, if not normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"btw, a lot of kids of primary school age have seen hardcore penetration sex before they get to secondary school. Handjobs start being dished out around y8 when the boys start maturing

That really isn't normal!

it is common, if not normal"

If by common you mean pretty fucking unusual - then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a trust with my daughter and is shying away from" the popular girls" who have been laid, aged 13 and 14 im well aware she chats about it, we sit and have good chats, for now her head screwed on..hopefully it remains

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"We've been up front with our kids. Explained to them what's out there, what the risks are, what we wouldn't be happy with etc.

No parental controls in the world will prevent access to the really curious.

But it does reduce the risk and as responsible parents we all want that.

Or makes them more determined and provides you with a false sense of security. I'd rather try the trust and being open thing but clearly that won't work for all."

I would want to reduce the risk just as I would put seat belts on children. I would also make regular checks on what they were doing online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been up front with our kids. Explained to them what's out there, what the risks are, what we wouldn't be happy with etc.

No parental controls in the world will prevent access to the really curious.

But it does reduce the risk and as responsible parents we all want that.

Or makes them more determined and provides you with a false sense of security. I'd rather try the trust and being open thing but clearly that won't work for all.

I would want to reduce the risk just as I would put seat belts on children. I would also make regular checks on what they were doing online. "

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland

With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx"

good for you, it doesnt do for parents to pass on their hang ups to their kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

good for you, it doesnt do for parents to pass on their hang ups to their kids."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx"

I agree. It's up to parents, and teachers to prepare kids for the world as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At that age plenty of porn followed by internet options deleet history lol

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

I agree. It's up to parents, and teachers to prepare kids for the world as it is."

Exactly why filter the truth just water it down age accordingly x

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx"

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked."

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents."

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all.

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all. "

Yes again I agree children could be accessing anything but as parents it is our job to ensure our children are well balanced, mature individuals capable of making informed decisions based on fact not bad decisions that could be made from being wrapped in cotton wool.

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over a year ago


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all. "

And you'll also know that 100% of teens know how to bypass the blocks on the schools pc's

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all.

Yes again I agree children could be accessing anything but as parents it is our job to ensure our children are well balanced, mature individuals capable of making informed decisions based on fact not bad decisions that could be made from being wrapped in cotton wool."

As I said I agree. But equally we shouldn't be wrapping them in barbed wire either. As parents we have a duty of care.

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all.

Yes again I agree children could be accessing anything but as parents it is our job to ensure our children are well balanced, mature individuals capable of making informed decisions based on fact not bad decisions that could be made from being wrapped in cotton wool.

As I said I agree. But equally we shouldn't be wrapping them in barbed wire either. As parents we have a duty of care. "

Nobody is saying wrap them in barbed wire. Our duty of care is to enable them to live long, safe lives in todays society. Therefore they have to be aware of the dangers they might face. The way forward is to educate them in all aspects of modern life and not to have them grow up in a naive manner. I would love my children to believe in fairy tales for as long as possible but this is not possible in this day and age.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all.

Yes again I agree children could be accessing anything but as parents it is our job to ensure our children are well balanced, mature individuals capable of making informed decisions based on fact not bad decisions that could be made from being wrapped in cotton wool.

As I said I agree. But equally we shouldn't be wrapping them in barbed wire either. As parents we have a duty of care.

Nobody is saying wrap them in barbed wire. Our duty of care is to enable them to live long, safe lives in todays society. Therefore they have to be aware of the dangers they might face. The way forward is to educate them in all aspects of modern life and not to have them grow up in a naive manner. I would love my children to believe in fairy tales for as long as possible but this is not possible in this day and age.

"

And again I agree. But are you suggesting that parents only need to do that and not have any internet controls at all?

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By *uriouscouple34Couple
over a year ago

sunderland


"With the best will in the world, no amount of passwords and child locks will stop an inquisitive mind. My kids are 14, 11 and 9, all completely different kids at different stages of maturity. The best thing you can do is be completely open with your kids and have a relaxed atmosphere regarding discussing sex and the surrounding issues. If asked a question by any of my kids I answer them as honestly as I can without being explicit and because of this there are no taboo subjects in our home.

Mrs Curious xxx

It's not just about sex though. People may think their children are trustworthy, responsible and mature. They may be able to talk openly with them. But they could still fall prey to predators. They could still suffer cyberbullying. They could have their profile copied. They could be stalked.

Yes I agree but if you are able to discuss anything with your children there is no need for secrets and any concerns will be open for discussion. Too many people sheild their children from the outside world, if nothing is taboo then children shouldn't feel the need to hide things from their parents.

Absolutely but the thread is about whether parents are aware of what their children are up to online and if they use facilities and systems to keep them safe.

I work with teens. More than 50% have NO controls on their smartphones. Nothing at all. That means they can be accessing anything at all.

Yes again I agree children could be accessing anything but as parents it is our job to ensure our children are well balanced, mature individuals capable of making informed decisions based on fact not bad decisions that could be made from being wrapped in cotton wool.

As I said I agree. But equally we shouldn't be wrapping them in barbed wire either. As parents we have a duty of care.

Nobody is saying wrap them in barbed wire. Our duty of care is to enable them to live long, safe lives in todays society. Therefore they have to be aware of the dangers they might face. The way forward is to educate them in all aspects of modern life and not to have them grow up in a naive manner. I would love my children to believe in fairy tales for as long as possible but this is not possible in this day and age.

And again I agree. But are you suggesting that parents only need to do that and not have any internet controls at all?"

Not at all what I am saying is that no amount of parental controls will stop children from accessing it. The very nature of forbidding something makes it more appealing to children who will then go out of their way to access it and possibly putting themselves in greater danger.

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