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"Is it partners male and female. My understanding is that it is females who can check guys.... I fi d this grossly offensive if it is true. Men should be able to check women too. " Too right stalkers, nut jobs and psychos are all sexes. | |||
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" of course this would only show things that's in their record, not necessarily everything they've done" could also result in false accusations being revealed. I believe that the decision on which information is handed over is at the discretion of the person handling the request. | |||
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"Agree that its sensible as long as its not misused, theres a wee bit of concern that someone who has been falsely accused could end up losing a potential partner. my understanding from watching a news report that it can be used by both genders." They have a panel made up of specialist trained police officers etc and if there is nothing they won't disclose information... | |||
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"Agree that its sensible as long as its not misused, theres a wee bit of concern that someone who has been falsely accused could end up losing a potential partner. my understanding from watching a news report that it can be used by both genders. They have a panel made up of specialist trained police officers etc and if there is nothing they won't disclose information..." fair point but specialist training is no guarantee that mistakes wont be made. As an example of police files, a former school friend of mine had an accusation made of domestic abuse, it went to court before his ex admitted she had made it up. the police file shows the accusation and then states that the complaint was withdrawn. Not that it was a lie. Some panels may decide this information should be released. throw enough mud and some of it will stick. | |||
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"http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-25077115 'Clare's Law, which enables people to check the police record of their partners, is to be expanded to cover all of England and Wales.' Seems like a sensible law as long as there are sufficient checks and balances to ensure it's not misused. " In southampton it's men and women, you can apply for any person who has regular unsupervised contact with your kid , eg babysitters, friends or even family members partners. They give you a reference number over the phone and then you go to the police station You need Id for yourself and date of birth or address of the person your checking . The police then check their systems and make a referral to social services who have separate records eg drug alcohol abuse etc . You are not allowed to disclose the findings and you don't need the other persons permission It's a. Good idea but remember it's the pedos that haven't been caught are the real risk to your kids | |||
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"Its a great idea but having had some dealings and looking into it last year for my sister,it has to be the partner of with sufficient grounds and cleared before any information is given...so it wont be abused and given freely." Not sure I can agree about 'wont be abused.......'. Once info is out there, are there safeguards to stop it becoming everyday conversation at the school gates or in the pub? | |||
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"I have mixed feelings about this. If may offer a false sense of assurance to some. Just because a record comes back clean does not mean that the person has done nothing or isn't about to crack and do something. For those with "complaint withdrawn" on their files it is ambiguous if you don't know the circumstances: did the person confess to making it up or were they coerced into changing their mind? At least this law recognises that gender is no indicator of violent tendencies and general violent/manipulative madness. " All good points. Not sure if it's a good idea or not. If it saves one life it's worth it. It won't work for the guy with no previous convictions that goes nuts one night when d*unk and kills his family. | |||
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"Its a great idea but having had some dealings and looking into it last year for my sister,it has to be the partner of with sufficient grounds and cleared before any information is given...so it wont be abused and given freely. Not sure I can agree about 'wont be abused.......'. Once info is out there, are there safeguards to stop it becoming everyday conversation at the school gates or in the pub?" _nny this is getting scary now, thats two things we agree on. | |||
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"load of bollocks if you suspect a partner of been violent in the past why not just her/him" What do you mean? | |||
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"http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-25077115 'Clare's Law, which enables people to check the police record of their partners, is to be expanded to cover all of England and Wales.' Seems like a sensible law as long as there are sufficient checks and balances to ensure it's not misused. In southampton it's men and women, you can apply for any person who has regular unsupervised contact with your kid , eg babysitters, friends or even family members partners. They give you a reference number over the phone and then you go to the police station You need Id for yourself and date of birth or address of the person your checking . The police then check their systems and make a referral to social services who have separate records eg drug alcohol abuse etc . You are not allowed to disclose the findings and you don't need the other persons permission It's a. Good idea but remember it's the pedos that haven't been caught are the real risk to your kids " how do the authorities plan on ensuring that the person(s) dont go telling anyone the information they have recieved. theres a fundamental flaw in this. | |||
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"Its a great idea but having had some dealings and looking into it last year for my sister,it has to be the partner of with sufficient grounds and cleared before any information is given...so it wont be abused and given freely. Not sure I can agree about 'wont be abused.......'. Once info is out there, are there safeguards to stop it becoming everyday conversation at the school gates or in the pub? _nny this is getting scary now, thats two things we agree on. " Maybe we can go for 3. What level must the relationship have reached before one half can make a formal enquiry about the past of the other? Coffee? Cinema? Dinner? Met the kids? Overnight stay? | |||
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"How do you prove that your dating that person if your checking on them without there knowledge?? " You need full name and date of birth I believe. If they have told you the truth about their name and date of birth all is good. If not who knows? | |||
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"load of bollocks if you suspect a partner of been violent in the past why not just her/him What do you mean?" i missed dump at the end if you think a partner is violent why stay with her/him just walk away | |||
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"Should we now ask for an up to date CRB report on a first date ? While I think it's perfectly acceptable to know if your potential partner has a violent past I don't think access to a persons criminal record is the answer. " As a single parent, who left domestic violence, i think its a great idea. If id been able to do this before. I wouldnt of been in the position i was. | |||
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"Its a great idea but having had some dealings and looking into it last year for my sister,it has to be the partner of with sufficient grounds and cleared before any information is given...so it wont be abused and given freely. Not sure I can agree about 'wont be abused.......'. Once info is out there, are there safeguards to stop it becoming everyday conversation at the school gates or in the pub? _nny this is getting scary now, thats two things we agree on. Maybe we can go for 3. What level must the relationship have reached before one half can make a formal enquiry about the past of the other? Coffee? Cinema? Dinner? Met the kids? Overnight stay?" There has to be some element of superstition to request so it's not just after one night it could for example 6 months down the line...it's not a service that is designed so that everyone can put in a request...it's closely looked at I would only assume they look at length of relationship etc.. | |||
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"How do you prove that your dating that person if your checking on them without there knowledge?? You need full name and date of birth I believe. If they have told you the truth about their name and date of birth all is good. If not who knows? " So, anyone who knows my name and date of birth can just phone up, say they are a potential partner of mine and request information? Seems to be VERY open to abuse to me. And not just from prospective partners. | |||
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"How do you prove that your dating that person if your checking on them without there knowledge?? You need full name and date of birth I believe. If they have told you the truth about their name and date of birth all is good. If not who knows? So, anyone who knows my name and date of birth can just phone up, say they are a potential partner of mine and request information? Seems to be VERY open to abuse to me. And not just from prospective partners. " I assume they have to do a bit more than that but how they prove they have been seeing you etc. I don't know. | |||
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"How do you prove that your dating that person if your checking on them without there knowledge?? You need full name and date of birth I believe. If they have told you the truth about their name and date of birth all is good. If not who knows? So, anyone who knows my name and date of birth can just phone up, say they are a potential partner of mine and request information? Seems to be VERY open to abuse to me. And not just from prospective partners. I assume they have to do a bit more than that but how they prove they have been seeing you etc. I don't know. " My thoughts exactly. How do they prove they are a prospective partner of the person whose life is being scrutinised? As i said, it leaveswit wide open to prolific abuse of rights. | |||
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"How do you prove that your dating that person if your checking on them without there knowledge?? You need full name and date of birth I believe. If they have told you the truth about their name and date of birth all is good. If not who knows? So, anyone who knows my name and date of birth can just phone up, say they are a potential partner of mine and request information? Seems to be VERY open to abuse to me. And not just from prospective partners. I assume they have to do a bit more than that but how they prove they have been seeing you etc. I don't know. " you dont need to be dating the person, you simply need to be concerned. The information i downloaded states that family and even neighbours can go to the police. you can imagine the potential for malicious reporting and the increased workload for the police. | |||
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"I do not understand what this has to do with people making malicious reports. It is simply to make a request for past convictions of violence. If a person has been violent in their past,I think a potential partner that has kids and may be vulnerable,has a right to know. After what Clare went through with that guy,I am certain any parent would want their children to be safe as possible." It allows the potential, how long do you think it would take to get round that the police are carrying out enquiries, as i have said previously throw enough mud and some will stick. | |||
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"I do not understand what this has to do with people making malicious reports. It is simply to make a request for past convictions of violence. If a person has been violent in their past,I think a potential partner that has kids and may be vulnerable,has a right to know. After what Clare went through with that guy,I am certain any parent would want their children to be safe as possible." And i totally agree with some sort of safety net for vulnerable people with a potentialy violent partner. But, do it with the potential partner going along to the station as well. To show that he/she is fully aware of the proceedings. That way there can be no abuse of the law. And, if the partner refuses, then perhaps he/she has something to hide. | |||
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"........... If you have no convictions, then you have nothing to fear. " That might be what turns out to be the fatal flaw. People could be so easily lulled into a false sense of security. | |||
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"What bloody enquiries ???? It is a law so you can request details of past convictions of violence. Not so plod can go round your nieghborhood and carry out investigations. If you have no convictions, then you have nothing to fear. " have you read the procedures that are to be followed ? Free download available. if you have a suspicion someone may be at risk the police will check their records. Even if there are no records of violence they are still expected to follow up the allegation. This will involve among others social work, prison and probation services and could include the police speaking to family, employers etc | |||
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"False sense of security about what ????? That the person they are having a relationship,may at some point turn violent??? You can never safe guard against that." I think he obviously means that not all violent people have a ciminal record! | |||
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"False sense of security about what ????? That the person they are having a relationship,may at some point turn violent??? You can never safe guard against that. I think he obviously means that not all violent people have a ciminal record!" Of course they dont. Surely it is better to know that your potential partner has, if its true though. | |||
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"Did you notice the word "COULD" in there. That is to safe guard themselves. They are not going to be ringing and interviewing thousands of people,just because someone made an enquiry. That would be if there was more than a strong suspicion of some thing. " do you understand there is the potential for it to happen i have not said that it will happen. as long as there is the potential for something there is also the potential for misuse. | |||
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"I do not understand what this has to do with people making malicious reports. It is simply to make a request for past convictions of violence. If a person has been violent in their past,I think a potential partner that has kids and may be vulnerable,has a right to know. After what Clare went through with that guy,I am certain any parent would want their children to be safe as possible. And i totally agree with some sort of safety net for vulnerable people with a potentialy violent partner. But, do it with the potential partner going along to the station as well. To show that he/she is fully aware of the proceedings. That way there can be no abuse of the law. And, if the partner refuses, then perhaps he/she has something to hide." That gives me the shivers. If a woman has reason to believe the bloke may be risk, she needs to be able to go in confidence. Otherwise if he IS a risk it could put her in danger. | |||
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"load of bollocks if you suspect a partner of been violent in the past why not just her/him What do you mean? i missed dump at the end if you think a partner is violent why stay with her/him just walk away" It sounds like it should be easy but it isn't. The guy doesn't (usually) just turn round and whack her one day. He gets in her head first, makes her feel worthless. When he does hit her she's convinced it's her fault. She can't leave because she's scared of him or what he might do. It's a circle of violence/ apologies/ "it'll never happen again".... | |||
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"I do not understand what this has to do with people making malicious reports. It is simply to make a request for past convictions of violence. If a person has been violent in their past,I think a potential partner that has kids and may be vulnerable,has a right to know. After what Clare went through with that guy,I am certain any parent would want their children to be safe as possible. And i totally agree with some sort of safety net for vulnerable people with a potentialy violent partner. But, do it with the potential partner going along to the station as well. To show that he/she is fully aware of the proceedings. That way there can be no abuse of the law. And, if the partner refuses, then perhaps he/she has something to hide. That gives me the shivers. If a woman has reason to believe the bloke may be risk, she needs to be able to go in confidence. Otherwise if he IS a risk it could put her in danger. " I'm sorry, but if a woman believes she is at risk from a POTENTIAL partner, why not just finish with him? Call me naive, but isn't that what any sensible person would do? | |||
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" I'm sorry, but if a woman believes she is at risk from a POTENTIAL partner, why not just finish with him? Call me naive, but isn't that what any sensible person would do?" If it were that simple,then domestic violence would not exist. Why do you think so many people suffer day in, day out. Some feel trapped and worthless,others have been convinced it all their own fault. Some that have walked away have paid with their lives. | |||
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" I'm sorry, but if a woman believes she is at risk from a POTENTIAL partner, why not just finish with him? Call me naive, but isn't that what any sensible person would do? If it were that simple,then domestic violence would not exist. Why do you think so many people suffer day in, day out. Some feel trapped and worthless,others have been convinced it all their own fault. Some that have walked away have paid with their lives." Did you not see the word 'potential' there mate? Isn't this law for people that are 'potentialy' thinking of setting up home or beginning a relationship with someone? Maybe read the whole post instead of taking my posts out of context. | |||
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" I'm sorry, but if a woman believes she is at risk from a POTENTIAL partner, why not just finish with him? Call me naive, but isn't that what any sensible person would do? If it were that simple,then domestic violence would not exist. Why do you think so many people suffer day in, day out. Some feel trapped and worthless,others have been convinced it all their own fault. Some that have walked away have paid with their lives. Did you not see the word 'potential' there mate? Isn't this law for people that are 'potentialy' thinking of setting up home or beginning a relationship with someone? Maybe read the whole post instead of taking my posts out of context." It's not for someone that just met down the pub. If they are thinking of living together some time has passed and there will already be feelings involved. Would you abandon an otherwise perfect relationship if you had a niggling feeling something wasn't quite right? If it was only a little niggle... and you thought maybe you were just being silly or over reacting? It's not as simple as you make out. | |||
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" I'm sorry, but if a woman believes she is at risk from a POTENTIAL partner, why not just finish with him? Call me naive, but isn't that what any sensible person would do? If it were that simple,then domestic violence would not exist. Why do you think so many people suffer day in, day out. Some feel trapped and worthless,others have been convinced it all their own fault. Some that have walked away have paid with their lives. Did you not see the word 'potential' there mate? Isn't this law for people that are 'potentialy' thinking of setting up home or beginning a relationship with someone? Maybe read the whole post instead of taking my posts out of context. It's not for someone that just met down the pub. If they are thinking of living together some time has passed and there will already be feelings involved. Would you abandon an otherwise perfect relationship if you had a niggling feeling something wasn't quite right? If it was only a little niggle... and you thought maybe you were just being silly or over reacting? It's not as simple as you make out. " You say "if they are are thinking of living together", which is exactly what i said in my post! And you say "some time har passed". How much time in your book, constitutes a burdgeoning relationship? Clares Law is for people who are thinking of starting a relatinship with each other and wish to know if there was violence in a previous relationship! | |||
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"I might aswell walk around with a updated CRB certificate in my wallet " Still wouldn't be enough for some folks mate! After all, you could have gone on a bender and battered a little old lollypop lady since your last crb update! | |||
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"I might aswell walk around with a updated CRB certificate in my wallet " It's a DBS certificate now. Don't worry: we'll all be chipped soon with a QR code anyone can scan. | |||
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"I might aswell walk around with a updated CRB certificate in my wallet It's a DBS certificate now. Don't worry: we'll all be chipped soon with a QR code anyone can scan." Or, a barcode on our foreheads? Us guys can have a chip in our cocks to scan it. And the gals can have a chip on their left shoulder. To go with the other one on their right shoulder! | |||
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"I might aswell walk around with a updated CRB certificate in my wallet It's a DBS certificate now. Don't worry: we'll all be chipped soon with a QR code anyone can scan. Or, a barcode on our foreheads? Us guys can have a chip in our cocks to scan it. And the gals can have a chip on their left shoulder. To go with the other one on their right shoulder! " Erm....I'm already barcoded | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. " Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader " Der! | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader " And a full body scanner, finger print machine kit and garlic. | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader Der! " I'll der you lady | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader Der! I'll der you lady " Please?! | |||
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"I am all for openness and transparency but not sure I like the idea of this....lets just have a chip/id card and have done with it. Can just see it on a first date. Get to the door and the other person is stood there with a chip reader Der! I'll der you lady Please?! " Oooo with pleasure | |||
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