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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right hear goes

Is a swingers site the wrong place for a virgin? I'm 26 I'm not sure why it's not happened for me think it's because I was quite shy when I was younger suffered with nervousness and anxiety my whole life just the thought of intimacy would make me a nervous wreck. I never really learnt how to talk to women I was always one of those guys who instantly jump into the friends zone I like to think I'm a honest caring nice guy is that my problem? Should I become a dickhead? I'm not only on hear I'm on a couple of dating sites but I never seem to get anywhere I'm not much of a clubber or anything so I never seen to just go out and meet new people. Anyway sorry for the long read but I just want some advice really should I just try and get out into the world? Because honestly if it doesn't happen sooner or later I'm just not sure what I'll do xx

P.s sorry for the terrible grammar I have a good excuse but I'll not go into it now

P.p.s no this isn't a sad attempt to try and get a sympathy shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there. "

Agree , find something special for your first time as it sounds like your that kinda person otherwise you would have went to a prostitute years ago ..... Lose it with a special person first and then later down the line , start to explore in swinging ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there. "

Where's the best place to meet people? It's not like I stay at home 24/7 but most places I got ie gym, football there isn't a woman in sight lol. I don't drink so most times when I go out it's with friends for a meal or something

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Agree , find something special for your first time as it sounds like your that kinda person otherwise you would have went to a prostitute years ago ..... Lose it with a special person first and then later down the line , start to explore in swinging ...."

Thanks. Yeah your right it is something you only loose once and growing up it was always something I wanted to be special. It's just got to the point that it's almost like a burden. This is embarrassing to say but I've never had any sexual contact with a woman. Never even kissed anyone. I'm like a male Susan Boyle without the singing voice haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to the couple of people who have pm'd me about this. Has bin good to talk about it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks to the couple of people who have pm'd me about this. Has bin good to talk about it x"

Your as likely to find the right Lady here as anywhere

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Agree , find something special for your first time as it sounds like your that kinda person otherwise you would have went to a prostitute years ago ..... Lose it with a special person first and then later down the line , start to explore in swinging ....

Thanks. Yeah your right it is something you only loose once and growing up it was always something I wanted to be special. It's just got to the point that it's almost like a burden. This is embarrassing to say but I've never had any sexual contact with a woman. Never even kissed anyone. I'm like a male Susan Boyle without the singing voice haha"
never even kissed anyone ?? are you sure!! do u not have any friends that go out and enjoy pulling etc wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women on Fab are likely to eat a virgin alive!

I'd suggest making a profile on a mainstream dating site to meet people, build up a connection with someone before finally doing the deed, it'll ultimately be a far more fulfilling experience.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The women on Fab are likely to eat a virgin alive!

I'd suggest making a profile on a mainstream dating site to meet people, build up a connection with someone before finally doing the deed, it'll ultimately be a far more fulfilling experience.

Good luck"

Thanks and thanks for the advice. I think my confidence hinders me as I am on other sites but it is helping to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Agree , find something special for your first time as it sounds like your that kinda person otherwise you would have went to a prostitute years ago ..... Lose it with a special person first and then later down the line , start to explore in swinging ....

Thanks. Yeah your right it is something you only loose once and growing up it was always something I wanted to be special. It's just got to the point that it's almost like a burden. This is embarrassing to say but I've never had any sexual contact with a woman. Never even kissed anyone. I'm like a male Susan Boyle without the singing voice haha never even kissed anyone ?? are you sure!! do u not have any friends that go out and enjoy pulling etc wow "

Yes I'm being completely honest I was always just shy and nervous when I went out and I don't have any confidence. I'm also I'd say the worst looking out of a large bunch of mates I go out with. I was also much more into just going to local pubs than out up town or clubbing so it was always the same people I see ect. I think with the kissing thing I just hadn't kissed anyone by the time I was about 18 and I just kept making a bigger and bigger deal out of it so now I see it as this huge deal that I'm 26 and I don't even know what I'm doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really don't think a swinging site is the way to go to lose your virginity or a way to learn how to have sex and kiss!

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

( yeah I am old fashioned )

You might find a patient willing lady on here who would be willing to help you out! But I think a dating site, or just socializing more would be a better way for you to find a relationship that you can grow into and naturally lose your virginity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really don't think a swinging site is the way to go to lose your virginity or a way to learn how to have sex and kiss!

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

( yeah I am old fashioned )

You might find a patient willing lady on here who would be willing to help you out! But I think a dating site, or just socializing more would be a better way for you to find a relationship that you can grow into and naturally lose your virginity "

To be honest I'm old fashioned too I'm not just looking for a quick shag to get it out of the way I still want to hopefully find someone who is understanding and I still believe it can be special. I'm on a few dating sites but I never get any msgs or replies to msgs I send x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx"

Rubbish? You know better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx

Rubbish? You know better xx"

You're not the worst looking out of all your mates unless they are all pretty boy types xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx

Rubbish? You know better xx

You're not the worst looking out of all your mates unless they are all pretty boy types xx"

You've not seen my mates it's like going out with 10 members of JLS haha. When we go out I think it's takes me 15min max to get ready think it takes them double that just for there fringe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx

Rubbish? You know better xx

You're not the worst looking out of all your mates unless they are all pretty boy types xx

You've not seen my mates it's like going out with 10 members of JLS haha. When we go out I think it's takes me 15min max to get ready think it takes them double that just for there fringe x"

Luckily some women have grown out of boybands xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx

Rubbish? You know better xx

You're not the worst looking out of all your mates unless they are all pretty boy types xx

You've not seen my mates it's like going out with 10 members of JLS haha. When we go out I think it's takes me 15min max to get ready think it takes them double that just for there fringe x

Luckily some women have grown out of boybands xx"

Glad to hear it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not necessarily the wrong place for a virgin

however its the wrong place for someone that isnt confident or fears intimacy, as those are the 2 things this place requires in bucket loads.

some women like shy guys, but if you are gonna run away the second a woman suggests getting close, then you arent going to be much good to anyone

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Don't think of 'THE' place that you try to find sex.

Think of yourself and the person you are going to have sex with.

It will be just like 'losing it' in your teens or even better in many ways. It cannot be any worse.

It may be a let down, a disaster, a laugh ... just realise that it's still the case for those experienced sexually with a thousand notches on their belt.

Everyone here will have a tale to tell of their horrific early sexual encounters and they will tell it through laughter. So will you in time.

This is EXACTLY the place to meet a women who want nsa sexual encounters.

You can gain the experience without the obligation to have to listen to it replayed verbally every time you are late home for dinner

If I cut this short and go for the bottom line.....

A highly sexually able and experienced woman can meet the same in a man...... The sex can be shit ... it's the chemistry and the character that matter in the end.

The BIGGEST piece of advice I can give you is to ignore people like the poster above that said 'women from here will eat a virgin alive' He only knows about who he has met. There are lots of people on the forums who would testify that there are many decent human beings out there.

Hope all your tomorrows are happy ones cos believe it or not ... sex isn't all that when it comes to survival.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"not necessarily the wrong place for a virgin

however its the wrong place for someone that isnt confident or fears intimacy, as those are the 2 things this place requires in bucket loads.

some women like shy guys, but if you are gonna run away the second a woman suggests getting close, then you arent going to be much good to anyone"

A couple of years ago I would have very much bin like that but I've bin having therapy to help my anxiety and in turn it has help my confidence a little. I no longer run a mile anytime a woman tries to talk to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to a nightclub sunshine

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Morning sexy man, stop talking rubbish xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't think of 'THE' place that you try to find sex.

Think of yourself and the person you are going to have sex with.

It will be just like 'losing it' in your teens or even better in many ways. It cannot be any worse.

It may be a let down, a disaster, a laugh ... just realise that it's still the case for those experienced sexually with a thousand notches on their belt.

Everyone here will have a tale to tell of their horrific early sexual encounters and they will tell it through laughter. So will you in time.

This is EXACTLY the place to meet a women who want nsa sexual encounters.

You can gain the experience without the obligation to have to listen to it replayed verbally every time you are late home for dinner

If I cut this short and go for the bottom line.....

A highly sexually able and experienced woman can meet the same in a man...... The sex can be shit ... it's the chemistry and the character that matter in the end.

The BIGGEST piece of advice I can give you is to ignore people like the poster above that said 'women from here will eat a virgin alive' He only knows about who he has met. There are lots of people on the forums who would testify that there are many decent human beings out there.

Hope all your tomorrows are happy ones cos believe it or not ... sex isn't all that when it comes to survival. "

Great and informative post. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Where's the best place to meet people? It's not like I stay at home 24/7 but most places I got ie gym, football there isn't a woman in sight lol. I don't drink so most times when I go out it's with friends for a meal or something "

There's not a women in sight at your gym??? Really where are you looking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Where's the best place to meet people? It's not like I stay at home 24/7 but most places I got ie gym, football there isn't a woman in sight lol. I don't drink so most times when I go out it's with friends for a meal or something

There's not a women in sight at your gym??? Really where are you looking? "

I go to a proper powerlifting dirty hole in the wall type gym. I've been going on and off for about 8 years and in that time I've probly seen 3 women in there two of them trained whit there partners. A leisure centre or somewhere like that wouldn't be any good for me weight wise

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Firstly the women on here don't eat men alive. The other thing that screams out from your original post is that you describe yourself almost entirely in negative terms....stop doing that, if you think like that and talk in those terms to women that is the impression they will get of you. Women aren't creatures from another planet we understand insecurities, we mostly know that men have an insecurity or two and we don't expect them to be experts sexually with huge amounts of confidence. I have my doubts as to whether what you want is available here if you want it to be special that implies some form of romantic attachment and I wonder what thought process led to you looking here for that sort of experience, but of course it is possible and I really hope you find what you're after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Where's the best place to meet people? It's not like I stay at home 24/7 but most places I got ie gym, football there isn't a woman in sight lol. I don't drink so most times when I go out it's with friends for a meal or something

There's not a women in sight at your gym??? Really where are you looking?

I go to a proper powerlifting dirty hole in the wall type gym. I've been going on and off for about 8 years and in that time I've probly seen 3 women in there two of them trained whit there partners. A leisure centre or somewhere like that wouldn't be any good for me weight wise"

There's plenty of "lesiure" gyms that have heavy weights for power lifting, obviously not 24hour gyms but I'm sure there's a gym around you were you can lift heavy enough I'm always chatting to women at my gym but to be fair they are mostly old haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

"

No any hole is a goal...apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also confidence can easily out shine looks, stop over thinking things in your head and dive straight in, the worst someone can say is no, so just turn around walk off and you'll never see them again, embarrassment won't last long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

No any hole is a goal...apparently. "

Haha think the OP just got an offer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably the wrong place for a virgin. But you never know.

Think you need to also take your own advice and get out into the real world. It's pretty good out there.

Where's the best place to meet people? It's not like I stay at home 24/7 but most places I got ie gym, football there isn't a woman in sight lol. I don't drink so most times when I go out it's with friends for a meal or something

There's not a women in sight at your gym??? Really where are you looking?

I go to a proper powerlifting dirty hole in the wall type gym. I've been going on and off for about 8 years and in that time I've probly seen 3 women in there two of them trained whit there partners. A leisure centre or somewhere like that wouldn't be any good for me weight wise

There's plenty of "lesiure" gyms that have heavy weights for power lifting, obviously not 24hour gyms but I'm sure there's a gym around you were you can lift heavy enough I'm always chatting to women at my gym but to be fair they are mostly old haha "

Haha don't even get older women in my gym. I've been to just about every gym in my area and there is one that's got a good mix of cardio and heavy lifting equipment but it's almost double the price I pay monthly and the two areas are separate. Plus there dumbbells only go upto 50kg I'm currently pressing 60's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Firstly the women on here don't eat men alive. The other thing that screams out from your original post is that you describe yourself almost entirely in negative terms....stop doing that, if you think like that and talk in those terms to women that is the impression they will get of you. Women aren't creatures from another planet we understand insecurities, we mostly know that men have an insecurity or two and we don't expect them to be experts sexually with huge amounts of confidence. I have my doubts as to whether what you want is available here if you want it to be special that implies some form of romantic attachment and I wonder what thought process led to you looking here for that sort of experience, but of course it is possible and I really hope you find what you're after."

What I ment by special is some form of connection to be honest. A lot of women write on hear that they want a social meet and to see if there's a spark that's what I'm after. I understand that joining a swinging site looking for romance wouldn't be the best idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

No any hole is a goal...apparently.

Haha think the OP just got an offer "

Errr yeah

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Blimey and there's me thinking that old women were past going to the gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Losing your virginity should be special and it should be with a special person

No any hole is a goal...apparently.

Haha think the OP just got an offer "

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I think go to different club including swinger and just watch and chat will build your confident up gradually with women.

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