FabSwingers.com forum: Insecurities

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you believe there are any women on this site that are here just to cure some hidden insecurities ?

For example I imagine a woman's profile without any text or images would still get 20+ messages a day.

PS I'm not saying it's wrong. Good luck if there are. I hope it works for them

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes and if it works for them

it is a risk they take as it can sometimes enhance insecurities.

all the best to them

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Last time i joined, before id even put text in i had unread messages

This time when i joined filters went up first

Im sure men/women & couples do boost their self esteem on here. Im honest with myself first & foremost so swinging or not i am what i am. No fabbed pictures/random compliments will change me as i don't wake up looking at that in my mirror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looking at a lot of womens profiles it seems there are quite a lot of women with low self esteem who seem to be ever so grateful for every little bit of attention or positive comment they get, from almost any type of man on here.

There are some very needy insecure women on here, and there are also some quite bolshy ones as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"looking at a lot of womens profiles it seems there are quite a lot of women with low self esteem who seem to be ever so grateful for every little bit of attention or positive comment they get, from almost any type of man on here.

There are some very needy insecure women on here, and there are also some quite bolshy ones as well."

Some nice ones too though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes and if it works for them

it is a risk they take as it can sometimes enhance insecurities.

all the best to them

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some very needy insecure women on here, and there are also some quite bolshy ones as well.

Some nice ones too though. "

Some very nice ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have insecurities about the way I look following multiple surgeries.

God it's hard getting over that bit on here when you eventually find someone you like, you have to hope they aren't going to be put off, after all its a sex, not relationship site.

I would never come here looking to get over my insecurities.

Every knock back I get, my disabilities are always there at the back of my mind.

If I was needy and insecure to the point of needing constant reassurance, this wouldn't be the place I would look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Yes, but what sort of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is insecure about themselves then thats hows they are regardless of signing up on this site

Getting loads of messages can be an ego boost but if you're sensible then you'll know that its about getting your knickers off and not because of your sparkling wit and breathtaking beauty,you could look like quasimodo and some men would'nt care,that can then make the insecure paranoid.......its hard work being a woman on here sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is insecure about themselves then thats hows they are regardless of signing up on this site

All together now.....sometimes it's hard to be a woman........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that a lot of ppl are insicure about something. I know I have hang ups about my looks body and skill but I meet and have never had any complaints. If these guys are meeting me just cause they can't get any better am I ever actually going to find out?

I take all 'your stunning' messages with a pinch of salt as flattering as they may be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Yes, but what sort of men.

adonis`s with bods sculpted from granite apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Yes, but what sort of men.

adonis`s with bods sculpted from granite apparently

Maybe a few are, but a lot that arent.

I didnt mean what they look like, i was thinking more about their inteligence and personality.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

All together now.....sometimes it's hard to be a woman........"

You don't know the half of it!

I think this place probably can give someone a temporary boost, but I can't see it lasting once they realise that it is all just an attempt to jump into their knickers

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Personally speaking I don't have any pics or text on here as I use another site more, I was only here to take a peek at a friends pics and profile but that hasn't stopped guys contacting me as my veris seem to attract their attention.

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally speaking I don't have any pics or text on here as I use another site more, I was only here to take a peek at a friends pics and profile but that hasn't stopped guys contacting me as my veris seem to attract their attention.

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

do you use the same name on the other site

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think being on the site has given me a slight insecurity that I didn't have before. I now worry that I am not sexually very adventurous - I like what I like and know what I don't. It is a mild worry and not enough for me to change being fussy or asserting what I will and won't do.

I have been concerned about the vulnerability some people, men and women, have exposed on here.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have been concerned about the vulnerability some people, men and women, have exposed on here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I think being on the site has given me a slight insecurity that I didn't have before. I now worry that I am not sexually very adventurous - I like what I like and know what I don't. It is a mild worry and not enough for me to change being fussy or asserting what I will and won't do.

I have been concerned about the vulnerability some people, men and women, have exposed on here.

If you're not sexually adventurous then neither am I, and I don't think I'm not.

As for the vulnerability, people seem to post their deepest darkest secrets on here, and I always think that, even on a swinger site, some things should remain private.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

do you use the same name on the other site

Noooo I have a more seaside theme to my name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question."

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

Can I ask you to have a peek at my profile and tell me if you think I'm one of them? I don't think I am but would a nice to hear if others do thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All together now.....sometimes it's hard to be a woman........

You don't know the half of it!

I think this place probably can give someone a temporary boost, but I can't see it lasting once they realise that it is all just an attempt to jump into their knickers

Lol well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

do you use the same name on the other site

Noooo I have a more seaside theme to my name

that's going to be a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely, no ? About it whatsoever. Its also the biggest ego trip they will go on . It changes some women completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

Can I ask you to have a peek at my profile and tell me if you think I'm one of them? I don't think I am but would a nice to hear if others do thanks "

god no

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

do you use the same name on the other site

Noooo I have a more seaside theme to my name

that's going to be a challenge

Cryptic isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Yes, but what sort of men.

adonis`s with bods sculpted from granite apparently

That's understandable though, such guys would have no problems getting hard.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

Can I ask you to have a peek at my profile and tell me if you think I'm one of them? I don't think I am but would a nice to hear if others do thanks "

it is often not what is written in a profile but the forum threads people post to, the ones they create or updates...

but it is always open to intrepretation, no real science just gut feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can assure you that I am not here for an ego trip, I understand how this works as I play the game well myself

do you use the same name on the other site

Noooo I have a more seaside theme to my name

that's going to be a challenge

Cryptic isn't it "

it is for a Sunday

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

I have no delusions or insecurities

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

Can I ask you to have a peek at my profile and tell me if you think I'm one of them? I don't think I am but would a nice to hear if others do thanks

it is often not what is written in a profile but the forum threads people post to, the ones they create or updates...

but it is always open to intrepretation, no real science just gut feel.

It is like you read my mind, word for word. Couldn't have put it better.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Of course there are. You can spot them a mile away too. Next question.

This^^^^^ in spades and spades and spades.

Can I ask you to have a peek at my profile and tell me if you think I'm one of them? I don't think I am but would a nice to hear if others do thanks

it is often not what is written in a profile but the forum threads people post to, the ones they create or updates...

but it is always open to intrepretation, no real science just gut feel.

It is like you read my mind, word for word. Couldn't have put it better."

likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Yes, but what sort of men.

adonis`s with bods sculpted from granite apparently

That's understandable though, such guys would have no problems getting hard."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"any woman could sign up and will immediately and continually be bombarded by men

the reason so many women say fabs the best is because this is the only place that happens

Ha, you're joking - try going on POF or Badoo, you get inundated the moment you log on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just women that have insecurities. There are plenty of men on this site that have issues too... If it helps them feel better then who are we to judge???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are easy to spot... But you need a tough skin for this site so too insecure and you could end up worse..

The place that I notice it more is in chat... You get people on cam and if someone else comes on and takes there _iewers they do more and comment so that people look back...

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Show me a person with no insecurities and I will show you a psychopath. I like attention and I like to give it. Yes it makes me feel better. No man is an island and I like these people here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off this site for many years and have encountered a wide variety of people who have helped me shape my profile to what it is now. I'm not an insecure woman I just know what I want and how I want it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show me a person with no insecurities and I will show you a psychopath. I like attention and I like to give it. Yes it makes me feel better. No man is an island and I like these people here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My query is about the type of people who would message a profile you described OP

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Definitely, no ? About it whatsoever. Its also the biggest ego trip they will go on . It changes some women completely. "

We all change to some extent. If the change empowers someone I don't think that is necessarily a bad thing.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Show me a person with no insecurities and I will show you a psychopath. I like attention and I like to give it. Yes it makes me feel better. No man is an island and I like these people here."

Some people don't project their insecurities outward. There's a big difference between not having any insecurities and not reminding people of them at every opportunity (deliberate or otherwise)

A large number on here are in the latter camp.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Show me a person with no insecurities and I will show you a psychopath. I like attention and I like to give it. Yes it makes me feel better. No man is an island and I like these people here.

Some people don't project their insecurities outward. There's a big difference between not having any insecurities and not reminding people of them at every opportunity (deliberate or otherwise)

A large number on here are in the latter camp."

I know I leak mine sometimes, it is part of being bonkers. What I get concerned with are people making themselves even more vulnerable to the predators on here.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I know I leak mine sometimes, it is part of being bonkers. What I get concerned with are people making themselves even more vulnerable to the predators on here."

Yup! I mentioned that this was a goldmine for social engineering a while back. Sadly no proper discussion came from it.

You see it often enough, played out on the forums.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show me a person with no insecurities and I will show you a psychopath. I like attention and I like to give it. Yes it makes me feel better. No man is an island and I like these people here.

Some people don't project their insecurities outward. There's a big difference between not having any insecurities and not reminding people of them at every opportunity (deliberate or otherwise)

A large number on here are in the latter camp."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The high volume of men on here makes it easy to spot the any hole a file guys who think being on here means anyone will be dropping their pants immediately.

The kind of guy I occasionally look for stands out to me..

And there are women who will ride anything and there's plenty low self esteem.people who get together....

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