FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it that guys don't read profiles?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

I tend to read the profile before looking at the pics, because if it's something that ain't going to happen why bother looking at something you're never going to get. It just reduces the amount misery this site can cause you.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

because they don't have to, it is not compulsory behaviour.

they may have read it, hotlisted you and make contact when they see you on line

and a good few other reasons.

one thing is for sure: it won't change any time soon despite a million threads on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

I dont get messages from men as they are blocked, I think couples and single women are just as bad, messaging from hundreds of miles away and couples "hoping to tempt me"

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It isn't just men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because this country is anti intellectual, anyone who can spell, read or write is seen as an outsider, someone to be wary of, someone who is committing the cardinal sin of self improvement.

Or maybe guys are horny little buggers who go straight to the pics??

I don't know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

Is it groundhog day ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because eventually they will get a response off a woman who doesn't care and will shag anything with a pulse so are trying their luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simples

Full balls = empty head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"simples

Full balls = empty head"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get messages from men as they are blocked, I think couples and single women are just as bad, messaging from hundreds of miles away and couples "hoping to tempt me""

this

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Again with the men bashing.... a helluva lot of couples and females are guilty of this also!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again with the men bashing.... a helluva lot of couples and females are guilty of this also!! "

Not man bashing, I don't allow messages from couples or females anyway, just trying to make a point

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

the same can apply to single women...

the same can apply to couples....

I can give you some recent examples from my inbox,

being an "arse" is not exclusive to one group of people.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

My bug bare too but think they just try their luck and hope they'll be the one to change your mind lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am not sure why anyone gets het up about this... some people ( note I said people ) will try their hand whatever people have on their profile.

It is easy to ignore

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

Yes if he's in a hurry or can't read or thinks you'll fuck anything or he's brainless or desperate.

If he's making a career out of it and want's to pass his profile reading badge then he'll probably make more effort.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's an extension of the principle that people feel somehow more deserving today than in the past, with an expectation that little needs to be invested in order to get maximum returns.

I think fab helps rebalance things somewhat, in this regard. There will be some who respond to the spam priniciple. Spammers send millions of spam emails, needing just the odd fraction of 1% to earn them some money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See above............the issue expressed as a mathematical equation with terms involving brain and balls?

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Allways read the profiles, and yes the whole thing.

No point messaging if dont match their wants.

Or perhaps thats just me.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Some enjoy seeing threads everyday like this one and knowing they were the cause.

The above is false, i'm just trying out a different response from my usual one in situations like this.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

People could always use their filters and do the mailing to the people they are looking for.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

People could always use their filters and do the mailing to the people they are looking for.

This requires logical thought processes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv found that lots of women write profiles so long that men start to read it then get bored and irritated with the amount of conditions and do's n don'ts some women's profiles seem to be very stern or even quite angry.

I do understand women get lots of the same old msg's like wanna fuck,your sexy,hi,how you, ext ext but we ain't all like that and some of us men get our fare share of that sort of thing. The amount of fat old hairy geezers sending me msg's asking if they can suck my big cock or nice cock mate and yea it gets on MY nerves but I don't give them SHIT I just delete an move on till someone fit sends a msg so let's just hope that's not pissed all you lady's off I'm only being truthful ok

PS anyone fit do msg me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because eventually they will get a response off a woman who doesn't care and will shag anything with a pulse so are trying their luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole profile thing is a nonsense. I have read profiles that go on for ever and met the authors..........they just didn't tally.

A picture, a phone call and a social meeting is the best way to a successful assignation. No surprises no lies and a chance to say thanks but no thanks. Its called being sensible and adult!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

I could similarly ask "why do women, worried about guys only looking at pictures, post pictures of tits and bum.. then expect guys to read about the person"? Any woman can post "tits and bum" pics, I'd rather see a smiley face.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Again with the men bashing.... a helluva lot of couples and females are guilty of this also!! "

^^^^^This!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!

the same can apply to single women...

the same can apply to couples....

I can give you some recent examples from my inbox,

being an "arse" is not exclusive to one group of people.....

indeed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Iv found that lots of women write profiles so long that men start to read it then get bored and irritated with the amount of conditions and do's n don'ts some women's profiles seem to be very stern or even quite angry.

PS anyone fit do msg me lol "

I think a lot of people get messages from people outwith their search criteria. Some of us simply delete, move on as the world continues to turn. Others get their panties in a bunch get apoplectic rant and rave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS anyone fit do msg me lol

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The site is very basic in this regard. Refining searches would help those who are being cold called in looking for what they want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just guys that don't!

Easily sorted. No thanks, delete. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hay Pandora have you noticed that the forth pic on your profile looks exactly like Hommer Simpson have a look its so funny

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By *unkyhunkMan
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

Probably the same reason we don't read instructions either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean I not only do I have to perv at your pictures, but I also have to read a profile now. This is getting complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

Because our profiles are similar to instruction manuals. And we all know how some people are with instruction manuals.

" I don't need those, I know how to do it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!

Totally agree with your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"simples

Full balls = empty head"

This

I feel the OP's annoyance though. Drives me crazy (though not at the mo, since my profile is currently hidden).

I have quite a long profile, but if a person - that does not just mean single males - cannot be bothered to read it then I can't be bothered to reply to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really not interested in reading a novel as most of you have for profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"simples

Full balls = empty head

This

I feel the OP's annoyance though. Drives me crazy (though not at the mo, since my profile is currently hidden).

I have quite a long profile, but if a person - that does not just mean single males - cannot be bothered to read it then I can't be bothered to reply to them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men only have one brain cell and can't read i have blocked them all for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's because this country is anti intellectual, anyone who can spell, read or write is seen as an outsider, someone to be wary of, someone who is committing the cardinal sin of self improvement.

Or maybe guys are horny little buggers who go straight to the pics??

I don't know"

Let the thickos meet each other......

And when they message me with a one or two word introduction I can delete them

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!

the same can apply to single women...

the same can apply to couples....

I can give you some recent examples from my inbox,

being an "arse" is not exclusive to one group of people.....

This

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Really not interested in reading a novel as most of you have for profiles "

Most profiles take 5 minutes of your time to read....hardly a novel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really not interested in reading a novel as most of you have for profiles "

Pheww!! that means its cool to completely ignore you then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It isn't just men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had to ask, is it so hard to take time and read a profile guys???

Had too many silly messages from guys too far away, please, please read the profile !!!!"

Some will have read it and still sent a message anyway block delete and keep smiling

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"It's not just guys that don't!

Easily sorted. No thanks, delete. Simples

Exactly! It isn't just guys - what about the couples that fail to read profiles, ignore profile preferences or, heaven forbid, demand accessible face pics while they have none of their own?

Talk about massive double standards. If the single guys are to be subjected to the "bashing" then let the "bashers" prove they are without sin of the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My singles profile isn't too long, doesn't have loads of rules and states what I want. But I still get messages from guys who don't match.

I think it really is a combination of the effect the pictures have on people (rendering them incapable of reading) and a scattergun approach to messaging.

If you copy and paste enough people to tell them they are hot and you want to chat someone will reply.

I reply to all my messages and if they don't match I ask if they have read my profile. They often say they have but were just "trying their luck".

It's a problem that will never go away

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Single girls and couples can be the same so don't tarnish all men with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile and only because if I think I'm not what they are looking for then why waste my time and theirs ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it that guys don't read profiles?

Same reasons that girls do not read profiles I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Italian - I always read profiles however would think a lot of single men play the numbers game. I'd say that's the likely reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not just guys that don't!

Easily sorted. No thanks, delete. Simples

Exactly! It isn't just guys - what about the couples that fail to read profiles, ignore profile preferences or, heaven forbid, demand accessible face pics while they have none of their own?

Talk about massive double standards. If the single guys are to be subjected to the "bashing" then let the "bashers" prove they are without sin of the same."

I always read a profile before sending a message and was not bashing, just making a point, which is what the forum is for!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just guys that don't!

Easily sorted. No thanks, delete. Simples

Exactly! It isn't just guys - what about the couples that fail to read profiles, ignore profile preferences or, heaven forbid, demand accessible face pics while they have none of their own?

Talk about massive double standards. If the single guys are to be subjected to the "bashing" then let the "bashers" prove they are without sin of the same.

I always read a profile before sending a message and was not bashing, just making a point, which is what the forum is for!!!! "

And a point well made

Maybe it's not all men but I'd say of the messages we get from people who haven't read our profile 99.9% are men. And I don't see why people are criticising the post - its a forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not just guys that don't!

Easily sorted. No thanks, delete. Simples

Exactly! It isn't just guys - what about the couples that fail to read profiles, ignore profile preferences or, heaven forbid, demand accessible face pics while they have none of their own?

Talk about massive double standards. If the single guys are to be subjected to the "bashing" then let the "bashers" prove they are without sin of the same.

I always read a profile before sending a message and was not bashing, just making a point, which is what the forum is for!!!!

And a point well made

Maybe it's not all men but I'd say of the messages we get from people who haven't read our profile 99.9% are men. And I don't see why people are criticising the post - its a forum

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