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Feelings... good or bad?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings "

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!! "

so do you only shag people you dont like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

so do you only shag people you dont like?"

Liking someone is not a feeling, it's a fact

Feeling good after sex isn't always emotional attachment either, it can simply be emotional relief

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

so do you only shag people you dont like?"

no, I like them but I don't want to be friends with them.

I think there is an obsession with friendship in the world of the internet.

I signed up for no strings sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ive become mates with someone i happen to have sex ,then yes there are feelings but its not anything mushy ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

so do you only shag people you dont like?

Liking someone is not a feeling, it's a fact

"

So liking someone is an non emotive response, there is no feeling what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?"

I have feelings for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone

"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Like others with the last few posts. I'm human, not a robot, so I have feelings, including those I play with. Love is rare, so it is most unlikely to ever approach romantic levels and those types of emotions. I feel differently with those that I meet regularly with, compared to someone I may play with at a club just the once, of course. Proud to be a human with feelings towards others, including sex mates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone "

Yeah, that's it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?

I have feelings for you! "

Ooh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

so do you only shag people you dont like?

Liking someone is not a feeling, it's a fact

So liking someone is an non emotive response, there is no feeling what so ever "

Liking someone is not a response unless you're letting them know that you like them, and genuinely feel it.

Even then, liking someone can be something as unemotional as allowing yourself to trust them.

You can fuck and not bring your feelings into it.

Fucking is a physical response to physical attraction.

Some people can do it that way, others need the emotions.

Some people get together and fuck because it's what they like to do. It's a hobby they're lucky to share.

Any more eyball rolling for me Sherlock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings "

I'm the same, for me friends and sex don't mix, if i meet someone and a friendship develops i stop having sex with them, i have made loads of friends through swinging and had lots of sex but prefer to keep the two separate

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

been seeing the same guy about 20'months now ...like him alot and we are very good friends which is great...it works for us !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone

"

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I want to enjoy the social side of potential sex buddy to get a feel for there personality a. However, i don't want feelings to come into any kind of repeat shag friend. Feelings cause problems.

We have played with my best friend 4 times. A couple of times I've misjudged something that happened & feelings got in the way. Dangerous ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

friends and sex for me doesnt work.i wouldnt know what we were meeting for.shopping or shafting.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ofcourse you going to get feelings especially if you meet them regularly just be sure its what your both happy with or things will end up going downhill

I myself met someone off here and had 7 yr relationship so it does happen!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think at times you can get swept up in the moment and think you feel a certain way when you don't...I'm a very guarded person and try to avoid getting into a situation where I will get hurt...

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?"

tricky one and i hope i dont end in such a situ as it could be too painful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive feelings are only a bad thing if its never mutual and its all one way traffic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive known my fb for over 6 yrs , so of course there are feelings...I love him to bits but im not in love with him. He knows me better than any other person, inside out....

He is my best buddy and i wouldnt like it any other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say its bad to have feeling for people on here, i prefer to just meet for sex, i like friendly people but dont like it when they stay too long or talk to much, i prefer not to know too much about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you cant help feelings - what you do with them is a different matter -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like others with the last few posts. I'm human, not a robot, so I have feelings, including those I play with. Love is rare, so it is most unlikely to ever approach romantic levels and those types of emotions. I feel differently with those that I meet regularly with, compared to someone I may play with at a club just the once, of course. Proud to be a human with feelings towards others, including sex mates. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's great. Means I still want them and think about them in a nice way that makes me feel warm inside. It doesn't have to be romantic or deeply emotional to have feelings for someone "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?"

I would prefer to be feeling you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not always a bad thing .... it is if its one sided though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not always a bad thing .... it is if its one sided though "

very true, one sided dony work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?"

How funny I have just started a similar thread in Swinging Chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like others with the last few posts. I'm human, not a robot, so I have feelings, including those I play with. Love is rare, so it is most unlikely to ever approach romantic levels and those types of emotions. I feel differently with those that I meet regularly with, compared to someone I may play with at a club just the once, of course. Proud to be a human with feelings towards others, including sex mates. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would say its bad to have feeling for people on here, i prefer to just meet for sex, i like friendly people but dont like it when they stay too long or talk to much, i prefer not to know too much about them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?"

Seems perfectly natural to me. But a lot of folk around here run a mile at the thought!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't have feelings for them I don't enjoy sex as much so I cultivate feelings-and then I lose 'em lol! (the guy I mean)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how you manage those feelings. I have feelings for both of my fwb's but was well aware that at some point I would not be able to see either of them again. Indeed I no-longer see either of them due to circumstances and I have coped fine as we were not boyfriend and girlfriend and I accepted that; I would be a liar if I said I didn't miss them though but that is as far as it goes. I guess I am able to separate strong deep feelings and love as I did not love either of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?

I would prefer to be feeling you "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its not always a bad thing .... it is if its one sided though "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a bad thing to have feelings for someone? If you meet someone for a long time surely you will have some feelings for them, even if only friendly ones?

Seems perfectly natural to me. But a lot of folk around here run a mile at the thought!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would say its bad to have feeling for people on here, i prefer to just meet for sex, i like friendly people but dont like it when they stay too long or talk to much, i prefer not to know too much about them."

This is why I don't 'fall asleep' with them after sex, or see the same people too often

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"if I meet someone and it develops into friendship, I don't want sex with them.

so my preference is, no feelings

WHOA!!! SNAP!!!

so do you only shag people you dont like?

Liking someone is not a feeling, it's a fact

Feeling good after sex isn't always emotional attachment either, it can simply be emotional relief "

All feelings are facts.

Emotional relief is a wank,

emotional attachment doesn't always mean marriage,it can be for the moment.

;-)

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