FabSwingers.com forum: How helpful have you been to others on the scene?

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Do you let people sink or swim, do you feel the need to help others?

... A sort of responsibility to help others integrate into the swinging scene?

Your thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only by suggesting they maybe go to socials and by having patience etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we try to help any one we can in all walks of life xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've helped in lots and lots of ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both, helped a work mate sign up here and gave her some tips on the use of filters etc

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Only by suggesting they maybe go to socials and by having patience etc.

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But have you ever done anything more? Do you think its a sort of duty to help newbies integrate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only by suggesting they maybe go to socials and by having patience etc.

But have you ever done anything more? Do you think its a sort of duty to help newbies integrate?"

Hmmmm

well some think they already know everything

Some know absolute fuck all....

But if i could help i would

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

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In what way?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I used to help New guys get verified

I have also helped a few with profiles and pics etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Do you let people sink or swim, do you feel the need to help others?

... A sort of responsibility to help others integrate into the swinging scene?

Your thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done plenty of newbies ....

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

" Do you let people sink or swim, do you feel the need to help others?

... A sort of responsibility to help others integrate into the swinging scene?

Your thoughts please.

More than many with newbies to the scene I have no problem remembering being new and people taking time to help me out and help me integrate both on various websites and in clubs and at parties. I like to give back a little and I guess I don't feel threatened by new people which I get the opinion some do. "
Thats the thing although I laugh and joke on here, I will genuinely put myself out to help some people who are prepared to take / listen to advice. I agree with the latter also, good point.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I shagged a newbie once. I'm hoping it helped.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though."
Whats the definition of a cunt as you see it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to be helpful, but not pushing in any direction, it's a big decision for any couple and they need to make it between themselves.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I shagged a newbie once. I'm hoping it helped. "
No, she was mentally scarred for life due to a "waders" incident I believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I befriend, happily married straight guys, and offer to show them my new bondage bench..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though."

Ahh but the cunt is the holy grail on here they have just got the wrong idea and think akin to duck hunting as in if you want to bag duck you use a duck quack.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though.

Ahh but the cunt is the holy grail on here they have just got the wrong idea and think akin to duck hunting as in if you want to bag duck you use a duck quack.

poor daffy

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"We try to be helpful, but not pushing in any direction, it's a big decision for any couple and they need to make it between themselves. "
Thats very true, do you point out possible pitfalls if you see them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I shagged a newbie once. I'm hoping it helped. "

HAHAHA I just laughed out loud proper..woke my dogs up on the floor.

They put their heads up like.. "what what what"..

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I shagged a newbie once. I'm hoping it helped. No, she was mentally scarred for life due to a "waders" incident I believe.

She did go unlos. So that is a possibility. She did have a nice bum though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Do you let people sink or swim, do you feel the need to help others?

... A sort of responsibility to help others integrate into the swinging scene?

Your thoughts please.

More than many with newbies to the scene I have no problem remembering being new and people taking time to help me out and help me integrate both on various websites and in clubs and at parties. I like to give back a little and I guess I don't feel threatened by new people which I get the opinion some do. Thats the thing although I laugh and joke on here, I will genuinely put myself out to help some people who are prepared to take / listen to advice. I agree with the latter also, good point.

Everybody was new once and always have that in the back of my mind. Mind an asshole can be both an old and fresh asshole so I only give so much rope.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I would like to be able to do more. Such as take others to swingers clubs, help with pics and profile - I have done both at least once but the opportunities are not so easy to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IWhats the definition of a cunt as you see it?

Oh it varies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though.

Ahh but the cunt is the holy grail on here they have just got the wrong idea and think akin to duck hunting as in if you want to bag duck you use a duck quack.

poor daffy "

Duck dynasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been on the scene long but I do try to help.

In what way?

Mostly other single guys.

"No rey to messages"

"Can't get a meet"

I've never really had a problem with any of these personally.

Some I wont bother trying to help if they appear c...ts! though.

Ahh but the cunt is the holy grail on here they have just got the wrong idea and think akin to duck hunting as in if you want to bag duck you use a duck quack.

Yeah this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do try to help, don't always spout clap trap ... Well 90% of the time... Sometimes not quite as barking as some would believe

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I would like to be able to do more. Such as take others to swingers clubs, help with pics and profile - I have done both at least once but the opportunities are not so easy to find."
Thats really weird isn't it considering there are help me threads regularly ont forums.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

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"Allow"?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have defended a couple in the forums when they get picked on, given good advice to a few others but to be honest, don't spend too much time here to know who needs help. And there are others who do it so much better.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol "
Ahhhhh thats what you meant....its good to encourage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol "

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

I will

I'm in Brum in December - any socials ? Lol

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

I will

I'm in Brum in December - any socials ? Lol"
Yes but you have to wear teddybear ear muffs to attend.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I try mi best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

defintely

I lack the "I need to shag someone before others do" mentality..but I definitely dont like the way some have worked around doing absolutely fuck all(to get a meet(lets say group meet),then expect to come to things they havent been invited to(having never spoke to the other people in question), so its me thats supposed to vouch for them

its more about being disrespectful to the other people than me thinking highly of myself if u get what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

"Allow"?

Bugger off you know what I meant...encourage lol

I'm a newbie will someone hold my .... Hand

I will

I'm in Brum in December - any socials ? LolYes but you have to wear teddybear ear muffs to attend.

I've been called a teddy bear - I'm a bit furry

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I help generally with advice, encouragement and a welcome and particularly with some that I don't think will be mad stalkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm helpful in a lot of ways....I arrange socials and always allow newbies to come along it's a good way of getting yourself out there

You were my safe call

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"defintely

its more about being disrespectful to the other people than me thinking highly of myself if u get what i mean"
Yeah I think I do, but you will always get those that take liberty's.

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

I'm relatively new still but have really appreciated the support I've received from regular forumites and others on fab

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I would like to be able to do more. Such as take others to swingers clubs, help with pics and profile - I have done both at least once but the opportunities are not so easy to find.Thats really weird isn't it considering there are help me threads regularly ont forums."

Oh I participate to those and also dive into the 'introductions' section quite regularly. I meant physically doing something to help, not virtually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in no way a hardened swinger. I'm practically a virgin to the scene, but I do try and help as much as I can.

..I am grateful to many who have actually given me advice, both through the forums and through private messages.

It's kind of given me the confidence that I did lose when I started to 'swing' or join the site, as I used to get a lot of abuse when I initially joined. And it wasn't just me who used to receive it, those on my friends list too.

Now, I am getting there and actually beginning to enjoy the site and 'swinging'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I offer help/advice when I believe I know enough of the subject matter to do so, on this and other non-swinging boards that I frequent.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I am in no way a hardened swinger. I'm practically a virgin to the scene, but I do try and help as much as I can.

..I am grateful to many who have actually given me advice, both through the forums and through private messages.

Now, I am getting there and actually beginning to enjoy the site and 'swinging'.

"
Glad you have had a positive experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my opinion it's not just about helping newbies but instead anyone who asks advice. I've been on a few years now and it's not unusual for me to ask someone's opinion - one is always learning in this scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given help and advice before via messaging even though I'm not experienced, felt like Mother Theresa tbh

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"It's my opinion it's not just about helping newbies but instead anyone who asks advice. I've been on a few years now and it's not unusual for me to ask someone's opinion - one is always learning in this scene

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This is very true.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I've given help and advice before via messaging even though I'm not experienced, felt like Mother Theresa tbh "
It can get like that sometimes but we were all new once as someone else said in this thread, no harm trying to help.

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By *istress loves purpleCouple
over a year ago

amongst the fairy dust

"we try to help any one we can in all walks of life xx

ditto there are so many wonderful peeps put there ,,,, in our opinion never judge a book by its cover as it maybe us asking for help some day too

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