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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. Yes, there is the odd older women that is inclined towards younger men. I've came a cross and spoke to a few, who all seem to be a little too far away.

Cougars, show yourselves.

Men, opinions and comments appreciated.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Aren't cougars supposed to be better off older women who actively prowl after young studs? I am an older women who prefers to meet younger men but I am not well off, and I don't actively prowl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am definitely older! But not that much wiser! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aren't cougars supposed to be better off older women who actively prowl after young studs? I am an older women who prefers to meet younger men but I am not well off, and I don't actively prowl. "

Thats the way I read it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. "

You don't want to believe what society or porn tells you to believe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It all falls to naivety. I want to believe it, and I think although extremely rare, they do exist. I've slept with older women, but its never really felt like the fantasy scenario.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold."

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me ) the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south. Also, they are either shy or ignorant because their conversation is non-existent.

I am happy to get hot and horny with young men at a club or party, but after some disappointing one on one meets with the above happening I think I prefer to leave it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It all falls to naivety. I want to believe it, and I think although extremely rare, they do exist. I've slept with older women, but its never really felt like the fantasy scenario."

it takes two to make a fantasy reality and usually at least one needs to have the ability to suspend their disbelief even for a short while. What you're after is achievable but not quickly or easily, I wish you good luck anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aren't cougars supposed to be better off older women who actively prowl after young studs? I am an older women who prefers to meet younger men but I am not well off, and I don't actively prowl. "

When you say actively prowl why do I imagine someone dressed all in black peeking round corners and scurrying across open spaces...

Nothing personal..just generalising!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me ) the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south. Also, they are either shy or ignorant because their conversation is non-existent.

I am happy to get hot and horny with young men at a club or party, but after some disappointing one on one meets with the above happening I think I prefer to leave it. "

Agree 100%

I can't even begin to imagine why a fit young guy would want to meet me for sex, unless he's imagining some fantasy scenario which just isn't me.

I've seen that look of disappointment and I hate it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me ) the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south."
I don't expect Cameron Diaz, I wouldn't complain but who would? I accept and relish those few little discrepancies! Who wants everything to look photoshopped, every woman is beautiful in some way, well almost every woman. To make my past point clearer, the older women I've slept with have been one night stands, really d*unk and just not memorable. I want a woman to take control, not so much beat me with a stick but basically to show me their experience. To sound very feminine, I always want a woman I am sleeping with to feel stunning, if you're mid shag and the womans self conscious it can be plain boring. So I want the woman I'm with completely let go! Lose themselves upon my cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. Yes, there is the odd older women that is inclined towards younger men. I've came a cross and spoke to a few, who all seem to be a little too far away.

Cougars, show yourselves.

Men, opinions and comments appreciated. "

Are we all odd then

well ok.....i am a little

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I am not a cougar, but they certainly exist, I saw it on a television show.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me ) the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south. I don't expect Cameron Diaz, I wouldn't complain but who would? I accept and relish those few little discrepancies! Who wants everything to look photoshopped, every woman is beautiful in some way, well almost every woman. To make my past point clearer, the older women I've slept with have been one night stands, really d*unk and just not memorable. I want a woman to take control, not so much beat me with a stick but basically to show me their experience. To sound very feminine, I always want a woman I am sleeping with to feel stunning, if you're mid shag and the womans self conscious it can be plain boring. So I want the woman I'm with completely let go! Lose themselves upon my cock. "

that's you and just about every man in existence. You are very articulate and get your point across well I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me ) the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south. I don't expect Cameron Diaz, I wouldn't complain but who would? I accept and relish those few little discrepancies! Who wants everything to look photoshopped, every woman is beautiful in some way, well almost every woman. To make my past point clearer, the older women I've slept with have been one night stands, really d*unk and just not memorable. I want a woman to take control, not so much beat me with a stick but basically to show me their experience. To sound very feminine, I always want a woman I am sleeping with to feel stunning, if you're mid shag and the womans self conscious it can be plain boring. So I want the woman I'm with completely let go! Lose themselves upon my cock. "

I understand what you're after, but older women do not want to have to teach men or take control. To me a younger man is just a man, but younger. Not a panacea for getting old, or a desperate attempt to regain my youth. I like how younger men look (mostly), and the fact they tend not to come with as much emotional baggage as older people, but each person is different. I could meet an immature rude 50 year old, and an interesting and charming 30 year old, or it could be vice versa. I meet people who can hold a conversation and who want what I want, regardless of how old they are. I don't want to be a tick on someones list or a surrogate mother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If the man you're with is making you feel crap, that's the point where they get to look at your arse as you walk away.

I can't understand how a man could be disappointed with any of whom who have commented, some of you may be getting on (no offence), some of you may have those extra wobbly bits (also, no offence) but you're still stunning, and the point in swinging for me, is to help you make yourselves realise that! I can guarantee all of you could give me the night of my life! So stop worrying about others, begin to think of yourselves, its about how you feel not them.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"If the man you're with is making you feel crap, that's the point where they get to look at your arse as you walk away.

I can't understand how a man could be disappointed with any of whom who have commented, some of you may be getting on (no offence), some of you may have those extra wobbly bits (also, no offence) but you're still stunning, and the point in swinging for me, is to help you make yourselves realise that! I can guarantee all of you could give me the night of my life! So stop worrying about others, begin to think of yourselves, its about how you feel not them. "
What is this getting on you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are we all odd then

well ok.....i am a little "

Odd in the sense of rarity!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If the man you're with is making you feel crap, that's the point where they get to look at your arse as you walk away.

I can't understand how a man could be disappointed with any of whom who have commented, some of you may be getting on (no offence), some of you may have those extra wobbly bits (also, no offence) but you're still stunning, and the point in swinging for me, is to help you make yourselves realise that! I can guarantee all of you could give me the night of my life! So stop worrying about others, begin to think of yourselves, its about how you feel not them. "

at the risk of soundiong patronising towards you young man! I have absolutely no issues about my body which even if I do say so myself is in pretty good nick for 57, I don't rely on any man, old young or in between to make me feel good about myself...I am married to a guy who adores my body anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the man you're with is making you feel crap, that's the point where they get to look at your arse as you walk away.

I can't understand how a man could be disappointed with any of whom who have commented, some of you may be getting on (no offence), some of you may have those extra wobbly bits (also, no offence) but you're still stunning, and the point in swinging for me, is to help you make yourselves realise that! I can guarantee all of you could give me the night of my life! So stop worrying about others, begin to think of yourselves, its about how you feel not them. What is this getting on you speak of? "

If anyone has taken offence, it was simply a typo. The entire sentence. If no one has, as much as I feel I shouldn't have added that now (thanks). Age

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"If the man you're with is making you feel crap, that's the point where they get to look at your arse as you walk away.

I can't understand how a man could be disappointed with any of whom who have commented, some of you may be getting on (no offence), some of you may have those extra wobbly bits (also, no offence) but you're still stunning, and the point in swinging for me, is to help you make yourselves realise that! I can guarantee all of you could give me the night of my life! So stop worrying about others, begin to think of yourselves, its about how you feel not them. What is this getting on you speak of?

If anyone has taken offence, it was simply a typo. The entire sentence. If no one has, as much as I feel I shouldn't have added that now (thanks). Age"
I was joking, fill ya boots OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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at the risk of soundiong patronising towards you young man! I have absolutely no issues about my body which even if I do say so myself is in pretty good nick for 57, I don't rely on any man, old young or in between to make me feel good about myself...I am married to a guy who adores my body anyway "
I am certain he isn't the only one who adores your body, I meant it more in a general sense. Why someone would have any issues, to make another feel put down is beyond me. Unless its the case of a man saying he's 23 and turning up with a zimmer having got on the bus for free.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I am not a cougar, but they certainly exist, I saw it on a television show. "

Animal Planet?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am for not one moment saying all men behave the way I put in my earlier reply, otherwise I wouldn't keep meeting them . However I do think some have an unrealistic expectation of older women from porn and Hollywood, and really need to learn to school their facial expressions when they meet someone less than perfect.

But we are out there, twiddling our thumbs waiting for some hot young totty fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

at the risk of soundiong patronising towards you young man! I have absolutely no issues about my body which even if I do say so myself is in pretty good nick for 57, I don't rely on any man, old young or in between to make me feel good about myself...I am married to a guy who adores my body anyway I am certain he isn't the only one who adores your body, I meant it more in a general sense. Why someone would have any issues, to make another feel put down is beyond me. Unless its the case of a man saying he's 23 and turning up with a zimmer having got on the bus for free."

Stay in the forums a bit longer, see the threads about larger ladies, women with pubic hair, women who's labia aren't neat and tidy, read about women's genitals referred to as a wizards sleeve (I know that there are threads about men's bodies too)there's a lot of pressure to conform to a certain stereotype, that is a massive put down and it's going on all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There's one waiting right here for you! I don't even know if I'm being facetious right now, I suppose that's upto you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like how on this thread I've been described as articulate, quite flattered.

To reply to others' comments, I'm only young and its unlikely I'll have the experience of someone with ten or twenty years on me. To flatter myself, to my knowledge I've never disappointed. I'm very experienced for someone of my age. I don't want to be taught, I want to be with someone I don't have to teach!

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. Yes, there is the odd older women that is inclined towards younger men. I've came a cross and spoke to a few, who all seem to be a little too far away.

Cougars, show yourselves.

Men, opinions and comments appreciated. "

Is there a positive name for the male equivalent of 'cougar'?

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. Yes, there is the odd older women that is inclined towards younger men. I've came a cross and spoke to a few, who all seem to be a little too far away.

Cougars, show yourselves.

Men, opinions and comments appreciated.

Is there a positive name for the male equivalent of 'cougar'?

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round. "

I know of no positive male equivalent name (I don't see cougar as positive either but that's another story).

I'm not sure either scenario is socially acceptable but one is viewed more indulgently than the other perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Society leads you to believe 'cougars' exist, admittedly by society I basically mean porn. Yes, there is the odd older women that is inclined towards younger men. I've came a cross and spoke to a few, who all seem to be a little too far away.

Cougars, show yourselves.

Men, opinions and comments appreciated. "

There are older women on here who like younger guys, there are older women who feel uncomfortable with younger guys and there are women who are unhappy with the term cougar. Best advice I can give is not to treat people as in a group, don't make age an issue in wanting to meet them and try and look at the individual what you like about her profile and dwell on that its kind of nice to like someone and want to play with someone for who they are not what they are. Good luck though with it on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like meeting younger gents as they carry less baggages, however, I do not prowl or actively look out for them.

The younger gents I had met, some in the 20s, appreciated me as a woman, and the age gap did not appear to matter to them.

However, that could be naivety on my part!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round. "

Oh I totally disagree, no way I would pursue young men, they do all the chasing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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I understand what you're after, but older women do not want to have to teach men or take control. To me a younger man is just a man, but younger.

"

Exactly so. I have no desire to take advantage of naivity - on the contrary, I would find naivity a turnoff, I like my men to be men whatever their age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I would simply define a cougar as older and experienced. Every young lad dreams of the perfect cougar to take advantage of their naivety, and ofcourse fuck their brains out. Its mentally stimulating beyond that of a one night stand, because its a fantasy. I see wealth as irrelevant. If I was in York, i would more than happily let my naivety take hold.

I hear this so many times! Yet when the guy

finally gets his wish (ie a meet with me )

the look of disappointment on their faces just makes me feel crap. You see, what men want are older women who look like Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz. What they get are older women who are normal, with wobbly bellies and boobs travelling south. Also, they are either shy or ignorant because their conversation is non-existent.

I am happy to get hot and horny with young men at a club or party, but after some disappointing one on one meets with the above happening I think I prefer to leave it. "

Ok, so I'm just basing this on the photos and not having met you in the flesh, but you look fantastic. You also seem dead confident which is incredibly sexy.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round.

Oh I totally disagree, no way I would pursue young men, they do all the chasing."

I understand that but Mrs Robinson definitely did the pursuing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round.

Oh I totally disagree, no way I would pursue young men, they do all the chasing.

I understand that but Mrs Robinson definitely did the pursuing."

Sure, but I find that socially unacceptable, for me anyway. I do not identify with her or her character one jot, she was gross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure how much younger the post is referring to but I met a guy younger than me, next day told me I was too old for him

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round.

Oh I totally disagree, no way I would pursue young men, they do all the chasing.

I understand that but Mrs Robinson definitely did the pursuing.

Sure, but I find that socially unacceptable, for me anyway. I do not identify with her or her character one jot, she was gross."

I suspect that'd put you in the minority.

Mrs Robinson - yes or no?

Anne Bancroft - same question.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

Is it only socially acceptable when Mrs Robinson is pursuing Benjamin and not the other way round.

Oh I totally disagree, no way I would pursue young men, they do all the chasing.

I understand that but Mrs Robinson definitely did the pursuing.

Sure, but I find that socially unacceptable, for me anyway. I do not identify with her or her character one jot, she was gross.

I suspect that'd put you in the minority.

Mrs Robinson - yes or no?

Anne Bancroft - same question."

I am not talking about whether Ann Bancroft is attractive or not, I am talking about the cold-hearted, self-centred, cheating seductress she played - not the type of character I admire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got asked if I was a cougar by a 17 year old

I thought I was too young but do prefer older men, usually x

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