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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

This.....maybe not the place but it's like my second family on here....I always thought that as time went on I'd find it easier to let go...and it would heal....however as time goes on so does my clock...

They say that time's a great healer

But I don't think that's true.

My hearts been aching so so much

Since the day that I lost you.

I had to say goodbye

before I could say hello

I wish I could of told you

How much I loved you so.

You mean more to me than anything

Even though we never met

You are etched in my memory

And I promise that I won't forget.

You were all I ever wished for

& in my heart is where you'll stay

But don't be too sad little one

Because mummy knows we'll meet someday.

For the little bambino that never their mummy (me)

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs Cheeky. Thinking of you today xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs from me xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It doesn't ever go. You just find ways of getting on.

Yeats' Cloths of Heaven is my poem for my son and I take time each year for him and the others I never got to hold.

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over a year ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

big big hugs xxx from uncle olov xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's easier, sometimes it hits you like a brick.

Big hugs xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They say that time's a great healer "

It is, but 3 years is not enough time, after 6 - 7 maybe you will see.

The pain never lessens, BUT in the first stage the pain is constant, after 15 years pain lasts a few seconds / minutes most of the time then normal life resumes, some days it takes longer but most days are OK now. Until time can do it's thing then the only other option is distraction. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think it ever gets an easier, you just find ways of dealing with the loss hoping as each day comes and goes...its less painful.

(((hugs))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awe that's beautiful (((((hugs))))) xx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

As already said its not something you get over how could you but it is something with time you learn to deal with or at least most of the time. Who ever come up with the saying what doesn't kill you make you stronger was ether taking the piss or just full of shit. So know how you feel cheeky hugs sweet heart xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs from us xx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"They say that time's a great healer

It is, but 3 years is not enough time, after 6 - 7 maybe you will see.

so very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we lost 3 babies between the births of our two sons who are now 24 and 28 and I can only speak for myself, but I think about them every single day.

Time softens the pain but it doesn't heal the hurt.

We know that we are blessed with our boys, and to be honest, if any of our babies had survived we might not have had our youngest.

I'm sure your time will come, and when it does you'll surely cherish it

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"we lost 3 babies between the births of our two sons who are now 24 and 28 and I can only speak for myself, but I think about them every single day.

Time softens the pain but it doesn't heal the hurt.

We know that we are blessed with our boys, and to be honest, if any of our babies had survived we might not have had our youngest.

I'm sure your time will come, and when it does you'll surely cherish it

Bloody hell jack you just made me cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww cheeky am thinking of you ((((hugs)))))) xxx

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010 "

anniversays are never good x

be good to yourself x ((((hugs))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kept a rose amongst my baby mementos. I picked it up recently and there was no pain, just a fleeting sadness. It is, however, over 20 years ago.

Hugs.

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

It doesn't leave you Cheeky, but it's like any bereavement, it gets easier as time goes on.

It was 2 years for us a week ago today and even though this year, I am finally pregnant (after 4 years of IVF & heartache), we didn't forget. It still hurt, it was just different. The pain wasn't as raw.

*hugs* for Monday.

I thought of you and closed my eyes

And prayed to God today.

I asked what makes a Mother

And I know I heard him say.

A Mother has a baby

This we know is true.

But God, can you be a Mother

When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can He replied

With confidence in His voice

I give many women babies

When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime

And others for a day.

And some I send to filll the womb

But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this, God

I want my baby here

He took a breath and cleared His throat

And then I saw a tear.

I wish I could show you

What your child is doing today.

If you could see your child smile

With other children and say

"We go to earth and learn our lessons

Of love and life and fear.

My Mommy loved me oh so much

I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom

Who had so much love for me

I learned my lesson very quickly

My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much

But I visit her each day.

When she goes to sleep

On her pillow is where I lay.

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek

And whisper in her ear

"Mommy don't be sad today

I'm your baby and I'm here."

So you see my dear sweet one

Your children are OK

Your babies are here in My home

And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with me

Until your lesson is through

And on the day that you come home

They'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother

It's the feeling in your heart.

It's the love you had so much of

Right from the very start!!!

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lost five babies, for me its not getting over their loss its learning to live with the constant dull ache they've left.

Big hugs cheeky xx

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Aww that's lovely. I think what makes it harder is that I don't have anyone so it's not like we can try over...for me it's the unknown of the future...

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Aww that's lovely. I think what makes it harder is that I don't have anyone so it's not like we can try over...for me it's the unknown of the future..."

it will happen for you your still young its just a matter of time thats all x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I lost two babies one at 5 months I knew it was a girl and one at 12 weeks. I managed to get on with my life because it can consume you. One would of been 30 and one would of been 21.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010 "

It's 18 years ago this summer that my girl died, it gets easier but never goes away completely, I miss her everyday x

Thinking of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hug....kisses xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I lost two babies one at 5 months I knew it was a girl and one at 12 weeks. I managed to get on with my life because it can consume you. One would of been 30 and one would of been 21.

I admire you for that.

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By *rummagemMan
over a year ago

Bedworth/Nuneaton

Hug ((x))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending you big hugs Cheeky. Thinking of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hugs xxx

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Pranks for all your lovely comments....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is a great heeler, you'll never forget but it helps you cope better, I lost my son aged 20 months 17 years ago, every birthday I used to fall to bits for years, it still hurts when that day comes round but each year just gets that little bit easier to cope x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010 "

23/08/03 my bump was still born at 21weeks. It still feels like yesterday and hurts on the anniversary. But its does get less I promise.

Thoughts and hugs with you for this weekend. Xxxxx

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is very close to my heart at the moment...

Time will heal sweetie, but perhaps never fully... There will be a time and a place for you....

Much love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pranks for all your lovely comments....

Unintended, but it did make me laugh

I do wish you and everybody who has those anniversaries to deal with, lots of positive waves and hugs.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Pranks for all your lovely comments....

Lol bloody iPad I meant thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thoughts are with you. Sending hugs and saying wee prayer for you hunni xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am wearing a pair of shoes.

They are ugly shoes.

Uncomfortable shoes.

I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.

Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.

Yes, I continue to wear them.

I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

They are looks of sympathy.

I can tell in other's eyes they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.

They never talk about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.

But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.

I now realise I am not the only one who wears these shoes.

There are many pairs in the world. Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.

Some have learned to walk in them so they don't hurt quiet as much.

Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.

These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in these shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

I was sent this and it is so very true

I am a lucky one I have a beautiful 4 year old son but last year I lost twins at 22 weeks and no one can ever know this pain unless they have been there as nothing can discribe it. But I do deal better each day I smile now when I think of them n don't cry. Sending toy hugs hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of love xxx

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Lots of love xxx"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son died christmas day 2009. he was 27. still painful, but getting easier.

I cant imagine not even knowing your child. must have so many different emotions. best wishes for this weekend. hope it gets easier for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a year in September for me, hasn't got any easier for me yet but I do have my little ones here that keep me strong

No one knows how it feels unless they've been through it, I never expected the pain in my heart to be so bad when I had never met my baby

Hugs to all who have lost xxx

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I just wanted to say thanks for all the posts there is still a huge void in my heart.....however you just have to get on with it...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

losing a child is a very personal thing to a woman (no disrespect meant to men) and quite often personal pain that a woman feels others can not comprehend or empathise with ...often that is true !!

people find their own dealing mechanisms for coping ...some blank it out and throw themselves into other things to stay too busy to have time to recall the events ...others have support networks around them where it is not taboo to discuss it ...regardless it is a hugely painful road to walk down and ti all who have i offer my best wishes and hope you find peace on what ever road you choose to go down

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

when we were at the crematorium Friday we went into the babies and childrens memorial garden ..... it made me realise they had had no lives but it was so peaceful in there no death is easy but to lose a child is dreadful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 6..7... the pain is still the same. My girl die in car accident she was only 8 months. Today she will have 7 years. When I look at her younger sister.. never can't stop thinking..

Misscheeky hunni I send you a lots of warm hugs and smiles.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

So i woke up this morning with a cloud of sadness and a pile of guilt which i usually do surrounding this....I blame myself lots...i should of booked the day off and had a duvet day....however onwards and upwards....

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over a year ago

"So i woke up this morning with a cloud of sadness and a pile of guilt which i usually do surrounding this....I blame myself lots...i should of booked the day off and had a duvet day....however onwards and upwards....

Xxx

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

can't imagine such a pain. Keep strong Cheeky. Big hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking of you xxxxxx

Big hug xxx

I lost mine on the 24/10/09.

Will never forget xx

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH

"I am wearing a pair of shoes.

They are ugly shoes.

Uncomfortable shoes.

I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.

Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.

Yes, I continue to wear them.

I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

They are looks of sympathy.

I can tell in other's eyes they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.

They never talk about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.

But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.

I now realise I am not the only one who wears these shoes.

There are many pairs in the world. Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.

Some have learned to walk in them so they don't hurt quiet as much.

Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.

These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in these shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

I was sent this and it is so very true

What a poignant poem xx

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Thoughts are with you Cheeky, it's a very difficult thing to deal with lots of hugs for you xx

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

So very sorry and wish you comfort x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thinking of you xxxx

hugs and kisses xxxx

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